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SugarGirl44:
Not learning about making money early enough.
Would also wish for them to get married a bit earlier, girls 23-25, boys 26-28.

Nice. Please, what's the rationale behind marrying earlier?

fasho01:
I had one line manager who had no business being a worker in an organisation let alone being a team leader. The retarded ba5tard ought to be a prehistoric algae under a rock in a secluded cave beneath the earth's crust.

The arrogant pr!ck obviously never thought in his wildest dreams he would ever find himself in that position and so, typical of an Ill mannered, incompetent moronic opportunist that he was, he abused that position so badly and fell out with everyone he managed.

He left a very sour taste in my mouth and working with him is the most unpleasant thing that has happened to me.

Now if I am Kenneth in this story and I am to meet that usele55 fellow I just described above, I'm sorry to say without mincing words but in all honesty that I will never allows such a toxic fellow near my abode. If he has changed, which is hardly the case, then good for him but as for me, I'll slam the door on him and leave him to choke on his wicked heart.

I wouldn't have said it better, so I endorse this comment 100%

"A prehistoric algae under a rock in a secluded cave beneath the earth's crust"? !

SisterFire:
...I will lither his dreams with this particular snake you tiny creatures called humans are so scared of in ur dreams, surprisedly it's a nice pet in red draconian civilizations.
The fear from this nightmares will bring the vibrations of his soul to zero and a zero light emitting soul can't stand up to a woman ,if I tell him to wash my panties he will sharperly

Send this to my dream and I'd eat pepper soup in my sleep. Rubbish and ingredients.

tomi4life:
I am 35 and my wife is 29, we have been married for 6 years now, we have 2 children a boy and a girl. We didnt court much during our courtship because of long distance.

I really have a problem with my wife and not sure what can be done to address, now I must be very honest am not sure there is anything I can do I just want to use the platform to vent my frustration.

My marriage has not been very good, lately myself and my wife leave like room mates and not lovers, despite the age difference between me and my wife she doesnt really respect me. For the 6 years we have been in marriage 3 things have caused all our fights: cooking, Sex and finance

My wife rarely cooks in the house, things around welfare are not taken seriously, actually in a week, my wife can cook for me just 1 time. She cooks for the children and baths for them daily, we also have a help who does alot of cooking. She rarely askes me what I will eat, honestly I always have to go to the kitchen to sort myself, sometimes I buy food outside from eateries and bucker. Sometimes when she cooks it usually very late 10pm. I have complained severally and what happen is she tries to change, after a week, we are back to the same state. My wife can do without cooking for me for weeks. It really really pains me cos am a foody and I knw hw my mum treats matters of food. she is this person that forms busy, either she is busy with work or some church activities, she always has an excuse. She goes to work only ones a weeks the remaining 4days are remote. To address this issue I now order soups from major restaurant outlets, An example is today easter sunday, I had to tell our maid to prepare rice for myself and the kids, cos my wife was in church, we all went to church but she decided to stay back, knowing fully well no food was prepared.

Sex: [/b]our sex life is very boring, when we got married we always fight about sex, cos anytime I ask for it she always complain she is tired, so what I now do is ask for it only sat morning, brethen this is only day I get sex. If I miss that day, it is still next week. We sleep in different rooms, she sleeps with the children in the master bedroom while I sleep alone in another room. I can tell most time she doesnt enjoy it and never ever askes for it, I always ask and initiate it. She just lays like a log, even kisses is a no no, except she is really on, which rarely happens.
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Finance: I have always earned more than my wife, when we got married, I was earning 3 times what she was earning, but she changed jobs and got promoted severally and we were earning the same amount. she also does alot of side runs where she gets 200-300k monthly as side hustle, there was even a time she was earning more than I did. I dint let it bother me I continue to foot the entire house bills. 95% of the enitre house of comes from me, she only pays the maid , buys cooking gas and my sons diaper. Every other thing in the house is covered by me, house rent, school fees, project, all the bills. I give her 75k as food money monthly. I have continue to question her why I should give her food moeny if I still have to end up going out to eat. I think the only reason she sometime listens to me is cause i still provide the finances for the house. The time she was earning more I could see how she belittle some of my decisions. I just prayed to God, cos I noticed the respect was gone, when I talk to her about her role as a mum and mother to the home, she says she is working, she is busy, I mentioned to her that the money she works is for her, she doesnt share with the house, I have never asked her for it and am not against her working, she however should not neglect her responsibility as a mum. That my role as a father, God helping me is to provide, and this is why I work. I also noticed when I got a new job and my salary increased she kinda off felt jealous she didnt tell me but i noticed it, she began to aggressively look for jobs.


I really dont think we have that initmacy, we are just there, my wife cant come to tell me anything bothering her, she keeps to herself. Funny part is she is a very religious person, my wife will sleep with bible on her hand, wake up with bible pray and serve in various church unit, I however dont think she really understands what she reads. She also has a very bad temper sometimes when I raise certian issues, the ways she talks sometimes I have to hold back a response if not the whole thing will escalate. There are days I will raise certain issue up, the next things she mentions is " let just dissolve this marriage as it is not working" sometimes , I just refer her to her bible cos the utterances that come out of her mouth makes me doubt her understanding of Christianity.


I have never assaulted her, we have nt had any physically fight, what happens is most times when we have issues, I dont speak to her for days, then she come back apologizing. Sometimes when am wrong I also apologies.

Am not saying am perfect, I know there are areas I can do better, like in the buying off gift, I rarely buy her gift, not cause I cant but Cos she earns well and I believe she should buy whatever she needs with her money my wife earns approximately 800k monthy.


I expect my wife will support me but it like she is stressing me. when we go see my parent or our parent, it is all smiles, they dont knw hw stressful their daughter is, she even forms trying to serve me food and all.

Dont get me wrong she has some good side, but this thing is really getting into me. I dont drink, smoke or womanise, divorce is also not on the table for me.

I know you're upset about your wife's behaviour, but have you thought about how you might have contributed to the situation? I'm a single guy who wants to get married soon, and I want to understand how these problems happen and how to fix them. Anyone who knows about this stuff can share their thoughts, not just the OP

makydebbie:
Please this post is not for the feeble or dull minds.


Is this life worth anything?

What is life?

Because, I've come to realize that we're just living to die. And is this life worth the whole stress of living? If my question makes any sense.

I've also come to understand you don't live happily at any point. Things will happen and situations will keep stressing you at every point. When you're poor, you want to be rich so that you can solve your problems. But when you're also rich, there'll be stress. You'll start trying to make sure you don't go back to poverty and invest wisely. You can't just sit and enjoy your wealth. Situations will keep cropping up. Sometimes I'm scared to be happy because happiness doesn't last. Something bad must always happen.


What is this life?
Is it worth the stress that issues will keep coming up and you don't even get to sit back and enjoy?


Being a child is the best thing that happened to us all. Because then you had no worries, as we grow, our needs becomes endless. We're insatiable.

What is life? I'm tired of living, living this hard life knowing I'm going to die anytime and my goals and dreams that I'm working for becomes nothing at the end. I'm tired of getting almost everything wrong. Tired of not being happy all the time and the stress that keeps coming up.


What is the essence of life if we're just living and suffering only to die. Because in this life, THERE'S NOTHING LIKE HAPPILY EVER AFTER. We're just going through hell, just to die at the end.

Life can be challenging, and it's true that we all face struggles and hardships. However, it's important to remember that life can also be filled with joy, love, and meaning. It's up to us to find the things that make life worth living and focus on them.

While it's true that we will all eventually die, it doesn't mean that our lives are meaningless. The things we do and the people we love can have a lasting impact, and our actions can make a positive difference in the world.

I'm curious, do you still feel the same way about life? Have your opinions changed? Have you found any answers or insights since you wrote this post?

ozalogbo:
I am the first child of my mother, and I have two younger male siblings. I am doing well financially. My wife is the last of four children in her family. My dad died when I was still in the university, and this affected my mum.

However, as she aged, her health waned. She was a retired teacher. My brothers are not in the country. Both of them are in Europe. I wanted to have my mother stay with me in her later years because of her health and loneliness but my wife did not want it.

Whenever she was ill and I brought her home to be with us, my wife was usually hostile, especially if my mum had stayed beyond a week. She did not hid her disapproval, and this caused problems in the marriage. People advised that I should send my mum away and pay someone to live with her and take care of her. They said that marriage was between a man and his wife, not between a man, his wife, and his mother. I did and peace returned. Eventually my mum passed on after a few years.

Along the line, my father in law also died. And down the line, my mother in law's health began to deteriorate. We live in the same town. Among my wife's siblings she is the only one doing quite well. Now there are suggestions that the mother should come and live with us so that my wife can give her proper care. I believe that her living with us and seeing her grandchildren will help her. And indeed i have no problem accepting her, but when i remember the treatment my wife gave to my mum, there is a strong revulsion, in fact, anger in me. I shared with a friend, and he advised i forgive my wife, but the revulsion is so strong that i would feel cheated if i agreed.

What do you guys think. She reminded me then that marriage was between a man and his wife only. Shouldn't this also apply to my wife now?

Understandably, you feel angry about the past treatment of your mother. I imagine that I'd be just as pissed if I were in your shoes. However, holding onto anger and resentment may only harm your relationship with your wife and hinder your ability to move forward. It may be helpful to have a conversation with your wife about your feelings. Let her know about this anger you feel, and then you can start to work towards forgiveness and healing together.

In the end, the decision to have your mother-in-law stay with you is a personal one that should be made based on what is best for your family. Open communication can help navigate any potential challenges that may arise.

Juniorangel:
Creating and coming up with new ideas everyday no be beans.

Have you considered using AI tools to aid the process?

Akalia:
It's multifaceted in that I have got to multi-task because it is a process control thing with the aid of a computer program.

There is also the drudgery aspect of my job-this aspect is the part I dislike the most about my job.

Albeit I am not getting well paid enough to live a comfortable life but the job pays my bills, that's all that matter.

Have you considered automating the drudgery out?