I saw this coming. . . aint surprise at all.

Now all you bees(girls) that wanna sting on my honey comb. . . steer clear!!!!

platinumnk:

Damm Im still waiting for the day me and Ramsey will meet up in 9ja and I will steal him away from his wife!!

Been in love with Ramsey since I ever started watching 9ja movies. . Gosh he is so sexy!

I remeber when I was younger, I wrote a fan mail to one of his production companies expressing my love for him
hheehehehhe i think they replied but I forgot that was so long ago!


Ramsey- Contact me- ilove u

lol on the other note Van looks gay, he looks like a little boy, seen him in movies and he is not appealing at all.
I like men, not little boys, and he looks like a small boy, nu uh. - leave himfor the kids

You gay?!

THE-AMAKA:

learn from Tonto Dike?
i think you need to watch the movie "Emerald" and this one movie she did with Chika Ike
and then compare them to "Reloaded" and such.
OMG!!! there has been so many times that tonto has mispronounced words and said them soooo wrong.
stephanie's english is pretty good and she doesnt seem to have a "fake" accent. i like the way she speaks.
tonto on the other hand, OMG!! her english is something else.

Can't agree less. . . and it makes me wanna stop listening to her.

That's my gurl right there. . . i presume she's gonna overtake most of them nollywood actress.

People got weird specifications in choosing partners. . . but this is a bit lame.

Ouch a sista mighta hit a nerve!

GTay:

They would date bald-headed men only!

This way they can easily see their reflection

Now that's funny!

amhurting:

update: he has finally called.
he apologised but not genuinely he does not sound remorseful and see his actions as ''teaching me a lesson''



his attitude is simply putting pepper on a bruised heart

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hmmmm!!!

iice:

Once my mind is made up, it's made up. It's over and done. So no.

Exactly!

aisha2:

Dont worry dear, it will all pass. Yeh maybe i got your dad or u got mine? Daddy is gonna be facing panel when i see him.
I salute you. After some time, if you dont get married some people will start saying why did you not marry that guy after all, but dont let it get to you, you did the right thing

That aint gonna get to me sis. . . I was brought up to be strong, principled and decisive.
You know we all make mistakes sometimes. . . but they are meant to sharpen us for things ahead. Nothing is going to make me regret what i did. . . am very much relieved.

You're sweet.
muchas gracias.

Stella N:

if he is convenced that it's God the same convenction should come to u also so that things will rhyme

Thank you!

Uby40
Thanks.

Ujujoan, am glad to know that you know how it feels.
no wonder you understand me.

aisha2:

Yes so Whitelexi, I would be blessed to have a man like my Dad. Infact he called me this morning we gisted 4 about an hour and that made my day. I broke up an engagement once just some days to the trad and my Dad was the only one who asked me why and listened to my reasons. Moms and sisters kept lamenting on their wasted arrangements and like the poster they all told me to manage. Dad was the one who stood up for me and sent me somewhere till the heat cooled off. He always somehow trusts my judgment and we have a silent understanding perharps we are too much alike. He raised me to believe in my self and my decisions. Am so much of a Daddys Girl oh, and am proud to be@ Poster, I feel you, you are bold. Most girls would just want to marry but you know what you want and what you deserve. It will be well my sister

I gotta check seriously. . . perhaps you got my dad in your possession.
He understands me too much and am more than blessed to have him.

Thanks for your wishes aisha2, it feels good to know that i aint the only one who's been in that canoe before.

Well muggle, it a different case when there is even a little likeness and a total different issue when you simply can't contain the person.

I need you folks to understand that, i agreed to date this guy because he told me he's prayed about it and "God" told him am the one. And I was scared with that "God says" thingy. Our 2 months dating was my time of prayer concerning his and at least a little feeling to grow but unfortunately it didn't work.

Anyhoo, muggle you got a point as well.

I presumed this forum as a market place of ideas.
What's done is done and i aint going back . . . i just wantted to view different opinions.

Thanks ev'body!

I did not waste his time for 3yrs. I have known him for three yrs before we started dating i didn't say i dated him/stayed with him for three yrs.  we're  engaged just 2 months after we started dating. and plsssssss note: from the word go i told him that we should just give it a try and made it known to him that i feel nothing for him but he was convinced that he may be able to make me love him.

If it were the other way round, i would have felt the same way he's feeling now. I'm not selfish, i always consider how someone feels before i take decisions that involves them but for how long would i continue to please someone's feeling and suppress mine?

He understands me perfectly even though it's hurting.

Negro_Ntns, God bless!
I just needed to know if God can put us thru such situations. Thanks for your understanding.
muchas gracias.

To all those who are in support of my decision, thanks.

To those who think i may regret, well. . . i dunno for now but i pray not to. . . Amen!

Someone wanted to know why i don't and can't like him. . .
Honestly, i dunno. I never missed this guy when we were dating, i never liked his presence, sometimes i hate to pick his calls. he easily makes me angry perhaps it because i don't like him.

anytime he try to visit me i ask him not to, and in case he comes. . . i wished he leaves early.

And the truth is, he isn't ugly, he works and got 6figure salary. . . he's comfortable but money isn't what am looking for cos am a working class lady too and comfortable as well. He's 7yrs older than and that isn't a problem for me BUT THE CLICK WAS SIMPLY NOT THERE. I couldn't stand him.

I tried folks and God knows i did.

Can't you name a lie when you see one?

That can't be my Arnold.

I used to date a guy and never and still feel nothing for.
My mom and big sis convinced me that love may grow with time. I have known this guy for over 3yrs, still felt nothing for him and they think love may grow? Well i gave it a thought and we got engaged and was going to get married soon (early next year) with zero feelings for him.

Somehow some way, I was scared cos the guy told me he's prayed a lot about this for many years and he's convinced in his heart that am the one. So thought well, if he's truly the one then a little likeness may crop up with time. . .  yet nothing was coming.

I prayed about this issue and was very confused. One day i called him that we need to have a serious chat, he agreed. I went to his house and told him that i cannot go on with the marriage cos i don't even have an iota of likeness for him and to talk of love, so he should take the ring back.

He took it but was angry and disappointed but i told him that it's the best for both of us. How can you cope with a wife who feels nothing for you? We may never be happy in that marriage.

I took time to explain the demerits of such marriage to him and left peacefully. My mom and sis are very disappointed in me but my Dad is in full support of this cos he cares about my happiness.
YET still this guy has been calling me and think I am the ONE for him.

I left him since August, i still feel no likeness, love or even regret for what i did.

My question/problem is?
Can God give you a partner you feel nothing for?

Kunbee:

Try guys

I see. .

Looking forward to it, but aint in a rush.

And I thought you guys are talking about the movie.

They are all pretty.
I can't choose cos each of 'em is endowed in different ways.

Personally i like Oge.

okayce:

what they seem to be saying is that they are not ready to accommodate any other person who would occupy even a small portion of their hubby's attention or anyone who their husband do listen to.

What a cruelty! Are they ready to dish out their own moms b4 they marry?
And pls poster, stop using the senseless opinions of those evil minded ladies to generalise.
As a matter of fact, this is my first time of hearing this.

ammamat:

nope i wont, i will rather be cleaner,
But I have a question here too, how about prostitute to further ur education?

As some men said they can't get in with a woman who is not educated, so how about that.

The same way.
You can do the cleaning to pay for your education. . . part time jobs.

Poster
Have you taken time to ask yourself what you really want in a relationship?
You go into a relationship and work towards what you hope to achieve. Set of principles, rules (likes and dislikes or dos and don'ts). You don't do anything anyhow because you're in it.

Relationship is not all about sex, don't do what you don't wanna do just to please someoone.

stillwater:

Hmmm, no.

Beg. The whole world will hear I have hungry kids.

Exactly!

Or betterstill, work as a househelp or any job that will earn me clean money with no regrets.

Seriously Mrbrown (I didn't get the ID correct), are you for real?
What's food? to pay for food for your lady friend seem so big to you? jeez!

Poster,
The guy is damn stingy,  such guys would rather die of hunger than to pay for food for two.

Always go out prepared girlfriend. . allow no dickhead speak trash to u cus of few $$.

ferdiii:

But ladies are too demanding,

Stop generalising!
Not all ladies are demanding. Some of us work and pay our bills and sometimes foot the bills of some brokeass guys!

Yes, she used you.
Go for HIV test ASAP!

This topic is quite educative.
Good job poster.

@Poster
In here, you will get no proper solution apart form sympathy.

I suggest you both go for counselling like someone suggested.
You can also threaten divorce, or put her through some apprenticeship trade to boost/kindle her up.

idupaul:

dont worry they are just jealous that no one is raping them, kip on being raped

hahaha