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DMainMan: I REMEMBER THE DAYS WHEN LADIES
WERE MOVED BY WORDS.

EVERY GUY WAS VIRTUALLY A GOOD
WRITER.

OH I COULD REMEMBER WHEN MY ELDER BROTHER WOULD
HAVE TO GO UNDER THE TREE TO
COMPOSE PAGES OF MESSAGES.

ITS AMAZING HOW THE INSPIRATION
RUSHES INTO THE HEAD.

IT WAS FUN.......I SO WISH ONE COULD GO
BACK TO THOSE DAYS WHEN EVEN ME AM
AMAZED BY WAT EVER I COMPOSED FOR HIM.

HE EVENTUALLY GOT HIS HAJIA WITH THIS METHOD AND THEY ARE MARRIED WITH CHILDREN NOW.

MISS THOSE DAYS A LOT.

Fulaman198: A man should still know how to practise self-control.

Sissie: LOL.

But seriously what's wrong with the mushy stuff.

Having long phone calls is an indication of the way you communicate. Your communication level

onegig: Hmmm...mushy stuff?

They are sincere and know their partners got their back.
That in itself is called love.

Loving more ain't really about the long hours of calls. It can be those little things you would normally overlook.

Like doing things out of the ordinary...... buttoning up his shirt before he leaves for work, helping him set the files he needs for the next day's job, going the extra mile just to make him/he comfortable.

tbaba1234: True, I am talking of the healthy unions.

tbaba1234: They do but nearly as much as young couples. The manifestation of love is in more in the mercy they show. There are more mature in that expression and sometimes it is in the little mundane things, that you will see it.

It takes a critical eye to take of it.

tbaba1234: I prefer old couples. They hardly do the mushy mushy stuff or call each other for long hours. They have expired nicknames . Our definition of 'love' is meaningless. Yet you know that they can't do without each other.

coogar: there's nothing to learn from this - it's just a rant from another ghetto lunatic. misogyny my foot! he was abused by his mother, why won't he turn out to become a woman-eater?

majority of black women suffer from an identity crisis. they dunno whether to embrace western civilisation wholeheartedly or stick to their innate abilities in their black roots.

coogar: there's nothing to learn from this - it's just a rant from another ghetto lunatic. misogyny my foot!

onegig: Deols...........you make it sound so easy. Lol.

What of if you guys were married. It is not like they dont love but you are the one doing more. Although there is nothing wrong to do more but what happens when he starts taking you for granted just cause he knows you love more.

That is why i advocated the carrot and stick approach. Not good but this is reality and sometimes you can't help it. but watch word. Don't overdo it and pray about things.

fellis: What is the meaning of this nonsense? It's never a woman's fault that she got raped please.
Rapists are nothing but depraved animals that have no self control.
What a sensible man does when he sees a sexually attractive stranger is to avert his gaze instead of pouncing on her to raype her because she is beautiful.

onegig: What happens if you voice concerns and the person doesnt really get you or doesnt really understand it?
You can't force him/her to up their games.


I would never wish to play games but what happens when you find yourself in such situation?

Some people react and learn to put up their best performances when they are put through some situations. You know they say experience is the best teacher.

Someone who has never lacked love and feel unloved cannot really appreciate what it means to be loved.

tbaba1234: Even with that, it remains the least known organ. The inner workings are still largely unknown.

This link seems to be speculative at best. No link to an actual study. I was hoping to get that. What is the degree of certainty? How did they arrive at such conclusions?

It seems to be a case of

a. Brain records subconcious information.
b. Faces of dreams must come from this reserve.

Sounds simple enough but it sounds unfalsifiable. Can this be tested??

When I read a book, I generate images based solely on the descriptions of the author. If I dream about this character generated, is this a person I have seen? Highly unlikely.

My contention is this, can the brain use a hybrid mix of some faces in its reserve? Or is it just what it has seen?

onegig: That is why you need to learn to play the stick and carrot game.

Although i would never want to intentionally hold back but some people have a way of making you feel like a fool for loving them more. If i notice such a behaviour then I would autochange.

Its an equal amount in return for any loving done. I guess such people tend to start noticing a change in their partners when you start treating them same way and they may kick start deliberations on changing things.

DMainMan: I dont usually remember my dream. Is this a cause of concern.

DMainMan: I dont usually remember my dream. Is this a cause of concern.

olawalebabs: This thread should be the most diverse and educating thread on NL.

tbaba1234: People who never met the messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) have dreamt of him with very accurate descriptions.

In fact, ibn abbas used to confirm to the later generations whether they actually saw him or not. They would describe who they saw and he would confirm.

Al-Haafiz Ibn Hajar said:

We have narrated it with a complete isnaad from Ismaa’eel ibn Ishaaq al-Qaadi from Sulaymaan ibn Harb – who was one of the shaykhs of al-Bukhaari –from Hammaad ibn Zayd from Ayyoob who said: If a man told Muhammad (meaning Ibn Sireen) that he had seen the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) [in a dream], he would say, “Describe to me the one whom you saw.” If he gave a description that he did not recognize, he would say, “You did not see him.” Its isnaad is saheeh, and I have found another report which corroborates it. Al-Haakim narrated via ‘Aasim ibn Kulayb (who said), my father told me: I said to Ibn ‘Abbaas, “I saw the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) in a dream.” He said, “Describe him to me.” He said, “I mentioned al-Hasan ibn ‘Ali and said that he looked like him.” He said, “You did indeed see him.” Its isnaad is jayyid.

Fath al-Baari, 12/383, 384.

People still dream of the messenger (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) today.

PHEMIEY: salam alaykum to all ma Muslim brothers and sisters.

I kinda stumbled onto ds pg last Friday saw like 185 pages and decided to go through dem before posting anything.

Jazakallahu khaeran to vryone that had posted since d inception of ds thread ESPECIALLY bros Mac, tbaba, esji, and d now offthread olawalebabs and sisters deols, Sissie, harmeenart, Umm Nusaybah and offthread as well Umm sulaym.
really gained alot from u guys (sis included)

once again Jazakallahu khaeran.