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A captain isn't a soldier but an officer. Mehn Those villagers go suffer

Beremx:
If only ghosts of the dead people carelessly killed by wicked doctors haunt the doctors, the health care system of our hospitals would be better.

One would expect better from you, madam. You don't know how medical practice works. Please stick to hyping APC and Buhari

Cold go don wan kill am Why take it from motherland?

angels09:
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You lack home training. Alainiran

angels09:
Op this woman is over 40 years of age. Find young ladies to post about.... Refiner optional1 or trapqueen... Ok?

That's a very foolish statement. Let's watch you stay young forever

This article makes so much sense. https://www.nairaland.com/3805032/when-beg-love

Nobody to give him a CPR?

The rich and the poor suffer the consequences of our poor health sector.


Ambode for example is busy building bridges because that's what people will see and say he is working whereas PHCs don't have Doctors.


kwantinue. na una go suffer am pass. who get all the pot bellies?

EmmanuelCena:
Youmay be surprised this. Same person you're quoting might be capable of employing you.
Anyways, lemme assume your comment wwas just for the jokes.

Peace of the Lord be with you.

fernandobush:
how I accepted in camp and carried their money and ran away...

pissfull peaceful religion

and you have not finished spending the money? Maybe that is what is stalling your progress in life. Better repent

HarkymTheOracle:
And if we dont die as muslims nko?
We will AUTOMATICALLY go to hell abi?

Yes you will

Alikote:
they are targeting atiku loot smart guys

and You are sure of that?



Hellfire will be there jejely and some people will do all they can to walk into it. Keep saying nonsense for likes.

Hmmmn. ma sha Allah

clueless dolts don't know beyond keke napep and sewing machine.


It's unfortunate that these are our leaders. Allah please help us outta this mess. Entrench intelligence in our leaders.

tollyboy5:
No o! they are different just the way I can't marry Ibadan but I would marry yoruba

what's your problem with Ibadan

kayword:
It's usually a mixed feeling. I kind of envy the couple and at the same time wish them well.

Sometimes you can't help being envious. But wishing them well and wishing yourself good as well.

Make it halal

In your quest for finding the right partner, do make it halal.

It won't work out a number of times. What will make leaving a toxic relationship easy for you is because you have nothing to lose. But if you have shared nudes(highly unexpected here but a good example), it might be difficult to leave the relationship for fears of the other person leaking it.

and that's just an example. Keep it halal for Allah's sake. So much benefits from this that I can't all elucidate

Lilaex:
What do u think ?

go and get busy and stop wasting your time trolling

Lilaex:
4 ur mind

what do you mean

It shows self approval. That you are confident of yourself and wants to be seen as what you present.

It is not for confidence but a show of confidence.

Tefs:
excited for them and wish them well.

This is the right attitude because your time will come and you will get all the goodwill that you deserve.

Empiree:
I get jealous actually

It's time to stop being jealous. Be happy, wish them well and pray for yourself

tintingz:
It is the single ladies that get jealous seeing their mate getting married. To some guys marriage is like a burden, they are just satisfying the society.

Do you feel like marriage is a burden?

May Allah save us from these.

How do you feel when others around you get married?

Are you excited for them, jealous?

Think about it. It tells a lot about you.

Let the gods give us light in this country if they truly exist.

abi na only tragedy dem fit cause?


The ancestors be watching some people eat our yam clean mouth but can't take a little snub on the Ooni.


If y'all are joking, better stop it. Not funny at all.

Awon lexyboy

Too many beggars these days. A sheeple is of course planning on buying him one as we type

Marriage can become obligatory

Al-Qurtubi said: if a person is able to marry and fears that he may be harmed or his religious commitment may be adversely affected if he remains single, the only way to prevent this harm is through marriage, and there is no difference of opinion among the scholars – they agree that marriage is obligatory on such a person.

Al-Mardaawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in his book Al-Insaaf: Part Three: the one who fears “hardship”. In the case of such a person, marriage is obligatory, and this is the unanimous opinion of the scholars… “Hardship” here means zinaa (fornication), according to the correct opinion. Or it was said that it means being doomed by committing zinaa… What is meant by “Unless he fears that he may fall into committing forbidden actions” means, if he knows or thinks that he will do that. In Al-Furoo’ it says: (marriage) becomes obligatory only when he is sure that he will do that. (Al-Insaaf, part 8; Kitaab al-Nikaah, Ahkaam al-Nikaah).

If he wants to get married but is unable to spend on a wife, then he should adhere to the words of Allaah (interpretation of the meaning):

"And let those who find not the financial means for marriage keep themselves chaste, until Allâh enriches them of His Bounty” [al-Noor 24:33]

Read whole article
https://islamqa.info/en/5511

tintingz:
Like have said covering the face was a fashion for women during pre-Islamic era and commonly used in Egypt, Persia, India, Israel and their neighboring nations. Even covering the head was also a practice before Islam came.

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These are pictures of Asian belly dancers, does belly dance started when Islam came? Belly dance is an ancient cultural art long before Islam came and this is how they cover their faces.

Can you prove it?

Are you also saying that there is no verse of the Qur'an that speaks on covering of the face?

Buttressing Article from http://en.islamtoday.net/artshow-290-3192.htm

We should think about this verse of the Qur'ân. We should consider it well. What does it tell us about married life?

The verse tells us quite clearly that the marital relationship is to be established on a basis of mutual understanding, compassion, and love. Moreover, this relationship is a reciprocal one. It is not one-way. This relationship something that both the husband and wife must maintain together with closeness, affection, softness of heart, and mutual caring. This is the way that the "tranquility" mentioned in the verse is realized.

The measure of marital success is in the harmony and openness of the marital relationship. Its failure can be measured in the degree of discord and emotional imbalance it suffers from.

Marriage is one of the noblest of human relationships. It is the very foundation of society. Allah has established a strong foundation for this relationship.

Love and affection are translated into action through kindness of expression, leniency in conduct, sincerity, mutual respect, and other behaviors. Tranquility comes about through their familiarity for one another, their natural sense of ease and comfort in being together, their need for each other. This reciprocity of feeling comes from their common origins. Allah says in the verse: "…mates from among yourselves." Adam and Eve were from a common source. She was created from him. This is why the two genders are always longing to be completed by each other.

When a marriage is just starting off, this is most obvious. The emotional bonds are strong and easy for both parties to maintain. These are the romantic times. However, this romance wanes over time. Even the love and affection that the feel for each other can grow cold. Routine sets in. Tension can easily replace affection. The mutual desire they once had for each other can be lost.

Dissonance enters into a marriage when one party ceases to carry out the positive role that the relationship demands. This makes the marriage tedious and tiresome for both husband and wife. The basic ingredients of the married life become tepid. Instead of the beautiful rhythms of a happy marriage, new rhythms begin to take hold, beating with a desire to do away with the marriage altogether. Harmony in marriage requires real and substantial effort from both parties. Otherwise, there will be discord.

They can easily become the victims of mutual neglect and negative attitudes. It could start with one of them, but soon enough this coldness and negativity will become something that they share.

But does this mean their love for each other dead?

Not at all – as long as their love for each other had been true form the start. If they had felt deeply for each other and had taken comfort and satisfaction in each other's company, then their love will still be very much alive, just buried under layers of neglect and muffled by a deafening silence. It will have receded into the background, lost in all the distractions of their busy lives.

We will find that their love resurfaces at times of crisis or hardship, like when one of them falls seriously ill. Then we see the other spouse's concern and love, sitting worriedly at the bedside, all arguments and disagreements forgotten.

Their love is alive, but their emotional connection had cooled down far too much. Sometimes this has to do with emotional problems that one spouse is suffering from. In this case, the other party must try to help that person get out of their emotional rut.

However, often the problem is simply that of taking each other for granted. Life becomes too much of a routine. This can happen after years of marriage. Behaviors and words that had once been invested with affection and significance become mere gestures and habitual acts.

This situation can be cured. It behooves us to point out that it is certainly not cured by laying the blame on either the husband or the wife. Accusations do not help. Listening to one another does. Each part needs to hear what the other is feeling and suffering from without blame or censure. There solution is not in pronouncing judgment on this one or that, but in seeking a way to cultivate that love and restore it to the level it once was.

Sometimes what is needed is forgiveness. This is a cure that Allah calls us towards. Forgiveness and clemency are among the best qualities a person can have.

Allah says: "Be quick in the race for forgiveness from your Lord, and for a Garden whose width is that of the heavens and of the earth, prepared for the righteous – who spend in ease and in adversity, who control their wrath and are forgiving toward others. Allah loves those who do good." [Sûrah Al `Imrân: 133-134]

Finally, sometimes the problem is boredom. The couple should to put some spice back into the marriage and dispel the tedium. If they cannot work out their problems on their own, they should not feel shy to seek advice or counseling from someone they trust, especially someone specialized in marital problems. They should never seek the advice of mere acquaintances, since it is never good to talk about one's problems except in total confidence.

What marriage offers us

"And among His Signs is that He created for you mates from among yourselves, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He put love and mercy between your hearts. Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect." [Sûrah Rûm: 21]

People forget these parts of the Qur'an about love and mercy.


The main point of marriage is so that you may dwell in tranquility with each other. For me, that's the point. But how many people get married for these reasons?

[quote author=Tefs post=56106671][/quote]I agree with you. As I said earlier you can't expect perfection from another human being. You will have the earlier times when you are trying to get used to each other's differences. Many challenges will come up. Your ability to deal with them will go a long way.