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LoL @ 4play.

They do exist, you just haven't met any.

True alot of females are emotional basketcases (needy, maipulative, controlling, jealous) and couldn't fit into the description above but trust me, there are "GROWN WOMEN" out there and it takes a GROWN man to attract a GROWN woman

So if you haven'rt met any 'grown women', hmmm, maybe it's something about you?

Topic: Can You Blame Her For Dating A Married Man?
Answer: Yes, that's repugnant!!

hehehehehe

Pele O!
I like the "State Quota" Response - Out of curiousity, which state would they use? Your state of origin or the state which your current address is?

Besides, First Bank didnt call anybody (No emails or texts either)!! My 2 friends that founf out they had been invited, found out after i told them what I read on Nairaland

You were to use your applicant number to check on their results site.
It would be a shame if all these people were waiting for phonecalls/ texts/emails

BtW- this just in: there were like 3 halls used, like 4000 people tested. WoW, that's crazy!

Topic: Can You Blame Her For Dating A Married Man?
Answer: Yes, that's repugnant.

However, she claims that she's not interested in dating him, just to scratch an itch.
I was born at night but not last night!
There is NO WAY she couldn't find a SINGLE man that wants a casual, no-strings attached fling!

Watch, in a few months, there will be a Nairaland post saying "Help i'm in love with my married boyfriend, he won't leave his wife- what should i do"
Just advise your friend to leave him alone- she may just need an itch but what about the poor wife at home. If she saw the man wa son her case, she should have counseled him and tried to help him see his wrongdoing, and work through it- rather than aiding and abetting and commiting adultery for physical satisfaction twice a month!!

Re- PUG- NANT!


but it's never too late to change one's ways,

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@mylife:

Relax, if you wanted to find postings on jobs, try the Careers, Jobs, or the gazillion postings on Vacancies in Nairaland?!
Why would you being a reasonable person _{(let's assume),} click on a title that refers to a personal dilemma and then lament about it not being about jobs??

I tire O!

Well, check you can keep checking for your results here: [url]http://www.skyebankng.com/entryresultsregionshow.php?location=MATORI&%20categori=Entry[/url]
When it's posted, use your score to gauge whether you should be called in for an interview or not. Assume they'll call the top 15-20 scores for interviews. Good Luck!

Transcorp offer oversubscribed.
_{See full article: http://www.stockmarketnigeria.com/?p=286}

This makes me wonder:
a) How many Nairalanders bought into Transcorp anyway?
b) Why aren’t there any mechanisms in place to avoid oversubscription in the first place? Why extend the offer period of the IPO then? Cuz it’s really not fair to be told the shares were oversubscribe and have to go through a whole long process to get a refund.
c) Did the whole Transcorp IPO seem shady?


What does Nairaland think? Is this just another example of Nigerian incompetence or is something more going on here… (According to some conspiracy theorists I know )

I have a friend who was kind enough to go to the dealerships and find out for me.

Onosen,  you sound like me  2years ago. I hope my experience can help you. I finished in New York with 2 masters degree also (International Studies & Economic Policy) and wanted to do the UN thing in Naija- Seriously who wouldn't want to get paid in $$ to live in Naija?! So what happened?

Well I applied to work UN in Nigeria, got the job (yay!)  
(I think it was deinately easier here because everybody in with a Intl Relations or Developmental degree wants to work for the UN !!I had an advantage there but not too much so I applied through vacancies posted in Nigeria. And voila was shortlisted and since i was home on vacay- interviewed and was offered a contract (2 yr) position.
So why am I at PwC now u ask?

Well in the process of trying to get a work permit 4 me, my dual citizenship was dicovered and i was asked 4 my NYSC discharge certificate!!

Due to past abuses, the UN will not request/ post corpers to a contract project, blah blah blah
So now i'm at a decent firm completing my NYSC and the next contract job that comes up- i'll go for it post service.

Why go for contract jobs? well that's usually what the UN offers. Even here- u can't just land and get the best job at the UN, you gotta work your way up!

So i suggest that unless you can get the job there to work here, sort out that NYSC thing first then drop your CV in nigerian 4 nigerian jobs, 

there isn't a shortcut to say because u finished, you'd be automatically granted a job, The job market is quite competitive with alot of foreign trained nationals whove published, have funstional NGOs and all that.

Good Luck and think it all through before you leap.

She saw the money as her entitlement and she took it, If your marriage was truly based on what is mine is yours, you wouldn't consider it stealing either.

I hope you didnt accuse her of theft?
Why not sit down and talk about the financial aspect of the marriage?

What worked for my inlaws was seperate salary/personal accounts but one joint home account that both put money into monthly so if any expenses come up for the home, they just take it and it must be justifiable. If its for personal purchases and she isnt working, question her why she doesnt feel comfortable enough with her husband to ask for a little extra pocket money? Sorry to say but this issue might be deeper than just money- serious communication breakdown.

Just my opinion

So for those who care-

Kia Rio- 1.95m
Hyundai Accent- 2.09m
Scoda Fabian- 2.1m
Honda City- 2.1m
Toyota Yaris- 2.4m

As with most things in Nigeria, those prices are negociable!

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kdships: Pele o! ma binu! no vex!

I wasn't trying to insult you, just to raise some questions about our belief system as a people! (seems less scientific than supersticious)

Rather than 'just believing' in things as 'magun' consider the following:

The woman who was 'preganant' for a year and when she died still with a big belly, the town said some jealous woman (probably lovers of her husband) put some stuff on her and took the baby & her, her autopsy showed she had a giant ovarian cyst/tumor and that was the cause of her death and was never preganat!!

Or whatever went wrong with your friends brain function that he'd have sex with his sister- errr maybe it was some sort of brain tumor that warped his behavior/sense and then killed him a week later!??! (Do some resaerch on brain tumors/ cancers and how they affect behavior (especially in the late stages) and cause death)

Seriously kdships- consider those scanarios and tell me agian why i should just believe that such things as 'magun' really do exist.

Okay, so she’s been there for a few months but only has a 6month visa, does it seem weird to you then that she wants so much…is she planning to disappear into the masses? hmmm,

A business development manager for an oil company contractor = Small (Oil Company) Marketer (Probably!) which means she can hustle! And a manager at that- she’s good at it! Trust me “Corporate Environment” in Nigeria, in oil- unless she was at one of the bigger companies or the global companies is complete crap!! Getting a job in the first place is the biggest hustle and to even have had a job, especially one that sounds so (what word can I use here) Behind?, means she can hustle & sell herself!

You learn to sink- or swim very early in Nigeria and I’m sure she’s just choosing to sink and wait hopefully that someone like you will come along and rescue her (chances are though that she’d just pull you down with her)

Her family’s disappointment in her marital status obviously isn’t affecting her as much as it’s affecting you. If it were so, she’d be glad she found a good man and would settle down instead of jumping from one sponsor to another.

Yea I understand that it can be difficult to adjust a new place alone but she’s not the first and wont be the last to do it, and LUCKILY New York is one of the best places to be as a African (Nigerian) immigrant- she has so many places/ people that would gladly help another face from home! For real!

I know it’s hard to hear the feedback especially because you seem to want to believe the best in her but seriously- you should just encourage her to move to Italy and she can set up business proper! (Naija people would know what this means!!)

People in general (not just of African descent) think too much on how they are viewed by others and some luckily learn that as long as it feels good to your soul and pleases God, you’ll be okay… Some unfortunately don’t.

Before I get too judgmental, Do you know her background? Do you know if she’s been praying for that visa for ages and is the first from her family to go abroad and they are expecting a lot from her? If the pressure is that high, the more reason she should do what she can to make money. How many aunties do I know that are successful business owners here but in NY do what they can as cleaning women, home attendants, day care attendants, hair stylists? They are doing what they gotta do to swim!

Since your primary interest is in the apartment, stick to your guns and ask for the month to month- pre-paid agreement and get it in writing (seeing that she’s from the corporate world??) she’d understand contracts. Plus when you come at her on a business level, the sense of entitlement she obviously feels due to your romantic affiliation may lessen- let’s hope!

As 4 Me? B&B- Brooklyn, Midwood to be exact and finding one like me would be difficult cuz as my momma always said, I’m special & unique!

Overall, I sympathize (or is that empathize)? with you. LoL
You got a rough break but, you are a better man than most cuz she would be out on her ass in the cold by now!! Contrary to what tresjolie believes, I saw you wrote and I hope you are not as cruel as to kick out with no safety net for her even if she wasn’t a “sister from the Motherland”, remember that saying: "do unto others, "

Just take it easy, and I pray that the consideration you are showing to her even after she obviously tried to play you 4 a fool will be granted to you also.

Btw, if she’s still giving you a hard time after her 6mth ‘legal’ stay (visit) is up, just threaten her with INS- she’d understand that!

Okay, sorry to say but you're starting to sound a bit co-dependant. You seem to even enjoy this drama- a little? (admit it!)
Seriously, knowing the Us system, you have more bargaining power than she does. True, you rented the apartment in your name, you can let the management know you will be breaking your lease and moving out- it's up to them to call the cops on her if she doesnt want to move. You could also sublet it to someone else and she's have to deal with that person (and they'll probably get thepolice involved in having her vacate). Those are the hard ways- she seems hardheaded anyway and might need those options.

The easy way would be to let her know that if she wants to keep the apartment, she can't get money for furniture (the $1,500)and she cannot back out any time she wants. She has to pay you one month in advance you you have atleast one month to gauge her movements and to prepare to take over her responsibilities.

Don't be so naive to think she just got to the States and doesnt know what to do or how to earn money, some of the biggest hustlas i've met are nigerian women! Trust me she can work- she just has good ol' relaible you, so why should she?!

We don't think you are stupid but it would help in giving our input, if we knew the reasons for your actions and contigencies you had in place incase the thing didnt work out.

@ lola baloo: you're right- i only meant to say that a true Christian will do what is right by God and will have no reason to worry about such things like 'magun'.   

@kdships: Dang! so your friend saw/heard of the magun, and ANOTHER friend I presume, slept with his sister and died??!?!    I guess you think the personal knowledge of such things/people gives you legitimacy, but seriously- you need to change who you hang out with because some crazy things have been happening in your circle. Makes me wonder about u sef. . . hmmm. . .

Na wah o! her subject suggests she isn't.If u don't know why not just say so.
No hard feelings sweetie

None at all didisky, but read the subject again, it does not suggest she is or isn't a consultant, it suggests she doesnt know how to start up a consulting company. Reading is Fundamental! No hard feelings dear.

Back to the question at hand, there is not minimun requirement to start a Consultancy businesses. Depending on your area of specialization and your contacts, you can build your company one job at a time. I would suggest you start by sourcing out companies on ground that you are interested in doing similar jobs and can talk to someone within them. Good luck with that because in Nigeria, information seems to be viewed as  someting that cannot be shared,

Yea, I hate that you'd think her (deplorable) behavior   can be attributed to her nationality, kinda like thinking all black men are lazy.  

Born n bred in NY, currenlty living in Nigeria, I have met women like that on both sides,

The situation sucks and I feel bad for you but dude, you just ran into a gold digger. Shake it off and move on, but don't assume women will be a certain way because of nationality!

First question, are you a consultant currently? and what is your area of specialization?

Since "only fools doubt proofs", and I'm not one to be thought a fool, I'd lik eto see the proof of this 'magun'. A tape with the somersaults, crowing- anything!   

While it's true that only fools doubt proof, remember that a bigger fool believes without proof (With the exception of religious stuff) PLease O!! Don't make this a debate on faith and religion.

@kdships: Even if a wife is "saved and free from sin", isnt the magun at the whim of the husband? couldn't he just gets crazy and decides his wife could be unfaithful, or just not like the way other men admire her and put "magun" on her?
How come women can't put magun on their husbands?

Has anyone who is speaking of this 'magun' ever seen first hand the 'magun' in action? Not what your close friends told you he heard!! Please, as a people, we must strive to be upwardly mobile even in our beliefs!


Just note that it's impossible to claim to be a true christian and believe in the powers of 'magun' etc. If you are true at heart, you'll know that such things have no effect on you!

@ Uchetobi: If you get the CD days off from your job and they understand that it will affect your output, then you have a fabulous deal! But you must "sort" yourself out in Ogun because wherever they post you to will expect you to work there and get the monthly clearance letter. "Sorting" yourself out means you give up your State/Federal allowance. Or you could try to get redeployed 2 lagos and actually serve with your current company. But Ogun state isn'r far and whatever you decide i'm sure it'll work out because you seem to have a plan and its future oriented! Good Luck dear!

@ urmy:

is there a way i can serve my country online?

LoL        Seriously i laughed so hard until i realized you were half hopeful especially when you asked for a website to check your posting location!! Ha! Expectations are high arent they. abeg go to your school and look at the hardcopy of the list posted up at the registrars office. Or go to NYSC headquarters in ABJ and see what u can find out
   

So why not start our own view of Grown Men vs. Boys?


For starters, I think a grown man is one who plays his role and not always put me in control.

I know a grown woman is supposed to "make their own plans and nicely tell the guy to get in where he fits" but seriously, someone who doesn't mind taking control of the situation is appealing also, it's well apprteciated!

No seriously- ppl believe in magun?

as stated b4 "what u beleive in that would kill you!!!"

Yes yes yes!

Everything to be said about this topic has been covered in one post or another but seriously, do you NOT believe in your own ability to be a top model enough to even consider that compromise?

If an agent really believes you can be the next Naomi, trust me, he'll be thinking of packaging you so he can earn $$$ rather than bedding you.

Ask yourself that let's say he does become your agent and your headshots are outdated and you need new ones, what would you have to give up for your career to progress?

That sounds straight up like the guys wants to take advantage of your naivety.

Please, think long and hard because you can NEVER get it back.

Congrats!!