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[center]What do you mean he's running around?Like he's seeing other women?
If so- then why is your next step marriage? Obviously not to him- abi?

You don't feel anything in bed because you're not emotionally satisfied with your situation
If you were in love, it would be different!


Women tie sex to emotional needs,
Men tie sex to physical needs

How much do you love yourself?- seriously?
Why waste more years with someone who isn't serious and is still running around?
And still has you on the side to give him sex? ^{Are you worries about your health?(STIs, HIV?)}

Abeg, take some time to figure out what you want from a relationship/ marriage and if he's the best person
to have in your life for that.^{I'm sure you know he's not}

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[center]WoW @ Topic
Why is the dude picking you her phone?
that's madd disrespectful!
He's marking his territory!
Her phone should be ringing with "Oruka" and "My Husband" should be the name coming up!

Talk to her, let her know that a woman serious about a relationship DOES NOT allow it to deteriorate to this level

It's one thing she must squat with the guy for financial purposes, and therefore be around him a lot
but to have him picking up your calls, she has to take a stand and make a decision!
The onus is on her to make you feel like #1
Sorry dude
but i know if i were her my man would not have a doubt in the world
Cuz me squatting with another man would mean i have to work over time to keep him secure in our relationship
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[center]oh whatever!
deal with it
People are hungry in the world
this one is worried about having too many guys trying to get at her
What about those women who wish a man would look their way and not point & laugh
Unless they're trying assault you in anyway
just enjoy it- you only get like 5-10 more years of this.

If it really does bother you that much, quit being friends with men.

Though it seems to me that u relish that attention!
your with someone you don't even like- For why!?
So why won't the wrong impression be made of you?!?
you obviously can stay around someone and not let them know your true feelings
so can we blame friend A for making moves?

Anyway- about your co-worker, tell him to stop or you'll report his behavior to a supervisor
And if he doesn't FOLLOW THROUGH!
Don't make empty threats!
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[center]Marry out of pity? No!
But you said "you have stayed too long together" and "don't wanna break her heart"
How long were you together?
If you've been together since the age of 17 and you're now 35-

Yeap. You gotta marry her!

I'm curious why you would stay together so long if there was no love?
And why would you want to do the same with your marriage?till death do you part?


Nah, It'd be a mistake to marry without love.
(Unless maybe if she's pregnant or already had babies for you- ^{you know our culture} )
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[center]Congrats mamto!
Before you jump to banking,
you have to be able to answer the question you posed to us
"can I get my job satisfaction with banking"
Only you can answer that!
What position were you offered?
If you were offered a job in marketing with your background-
you don't need us to tell you that you might not be happy.

Forget the salary, think of what you'd want to do.
It could be a stepping stone if your career goals are in banking
It's your life, decision but always look before you leap
So you don't find yourself looking for a new job in 3 months!

P.S. I have a friend who works for that particular institution and he works
on average 7am - 7pm, And on saturdays too!
If you're currently unemployed, take the job just to have income coming in
but if you are somewhere you like outside of banking, think long and hard before you take the job
A new job comes with new challenges that may be unique to you, your bank, your unit.
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[center]And if I can't get a job there,
then do they have any of those
collect 25 bar codes of Tura products,
send them in with my name and get a day pass to tour the company grounds?
And climb d rock wall!?!?
Say yes!!!
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[center]you may have found a convert,
Sign me up for Tura Intl.
I'll spread the propaganda 4 sure!
4 access to a rock climbing wall!


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@ debosky
Abeg, where in Onitsha do they have a rock climbing wall set up?
Seriously.

That Palms/Silverbird look : to wear 3 or 4 different trends together so that WE know that not only does she know what's in vogue, she has a version of ALL the items in vogue!
i.e (from toe to head)- Peep Toe pumps or Flats, Skinny Jeans, Fitted Tunic Top, Waist cincher belt, Rope Chain with matching /coordinating earrings and bangles, headband [b]AND [/b]sunglasses. Don't get caught looking clowinsh!

[center]WHatever!! @ Topic
Like [b]ANY [/b]spoof/ comedy skit - CNNNN??
you'll have a clip sliced together with the worst of the worst
Refernece to all Jay Leno's "Jay Walking"
Jon Stewart does it, so does Colbert!

I take offense to the topic "Americans are stupid"
I agree however, that there are stupid people everywhere
AND that was a nice collection of them!
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[center]Soccer/ Football- same difference , right?

Grrr @ Chelsea fans.

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[center]Dang IBB
That's harsh-
I just hope the sacarsm isn't lost on her.


p.s. the introduction as his cousin was like errr 3/4 years ago[/center]

[center]@ topic,
Aww, Hell NAW!
How far would I go?
NOT FAR AT ALL!

You can't keep what doesn't want to be kept.
(without losing your dignity)

I know it's hard to hear that someone you're "hopeless devoted to, suddenly stopped loving you"
As Mariah said though, and as women should do- just breakdown and cry

& Let it go
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Yoba, This will just echo what all above have said or alluded to.
The guy introduced you as his cousin and your position never increased?
You never even became the 'friend'
I would suggest really looking at the 'relationship'
Be honest within yourself about what it was and what it wasn't

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[center]My momma always told me
You can't change a man, the only thing you can change is yourself!
So if you can somehow remove all doubts from your mind and get with him
Do you girl!
If not- the you know what u gotta do
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See 'women empowerment in Nigeria'[/center]

[center]LoL
I'm sure you know more ISI people than I do!
OllyRuffy sold the car already!
I hope
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[center]LMAO
Seriously!?
A stock picture of a car you're trying to sell!?
It's be helpful to put [b]ACTUAL [/b]pictures if the brown car you're selling!
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[center]Whether short or long run,
you have to be able to define your goals and aspirations
if your goal is to be the country leader of your company-
then read up on the educational/techinical competencies required of that position
and start working at it!
If you don't know what you want to do, you wont know what to do to get there!
so take some time to think of what it is you want to do
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Yes, Yes! Yes!!
Anytime you have sex without a condom, you expose yourself to the virus!
You can never be sure of anything in this world!
I'm sure you'll adjust to using a condom! Just ask yourself what is more important to you-
putting up with using a condom or living HIV-free?

[center]No, I won't stop!
So since Tura is better,
I'm guessing you missed the whole point in that!!
Clear Essence makes products for BABIES!!!
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[center]Errrmmm,
Liars
Cheaters
Deceivers
Heart breakers
oh and selfish (in any aspect) guys

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And I'm supposed to feel sorry for the girl because
Akon "fake-raped" her?
The girl is the daughter of a preacher man and he spoke out
Pastor Dave Alleyne of the Flaming Word Ministry of Chaguanas said,
"She likes dancing and won a competition."
Her own father- a preacher is not making a big deal of it- its just dancing-
WHY ARE WE?!

Check out the pictures!
Notice the first one, he's just laying there and she's doing all the 'work'

The girl is 14!?
Has a tattoo
Belly button pierced,
can wear clothing like that,
wanted to wine on stage with Akon!
And the media went mad and called it sexual assault!?

WHATEVER!!! I'M SO OVER THIS WHOLE THING


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[center]At what point is it too much!?
Clear Essence- the popular line of creams, lotions and soaps
to help black women brighten and lighten their skin
has a line of products for
BABIES!!
Like baby soaps, lotions etc!
For baby's smooth, soft, bright skin!
What next!?

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[center]@ spoilt - since you came where? Cali? when was that?
Well, I beg to differ,
They do it- they just use betta products that dont make their face look like leather goods
If u can't find American girls that do it,
go around west indians
They are even worse!!
Dem ah bleach, dem ah bleach out dem skin!!![/center]

[center]Oh Gosh- When did I disclose that I.S.I bit!?
Well if it helps, I only went there for form 1!!
Blawwww how u like me now!?

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WoW @ Topic in 24hrs!

[center]Whatever!!
I saw the clip
and seriously, Elephant man does worse!!
I've been to enough concerts that I was half expecting something horrendous
then i see THAT!
B-E-Z ya'll
it was a show!
If its her age that bothers people,
@ 14- she shouldn't have volunteered to go on stage when he asked for volunteers!
Puhleeze- she knew she would have to do something for that trip to Africa!

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I know Corpers that make N60,000- After Taxes!