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Can someone please tell me special Assistant on what?? Jokes?

This is why Kemi Adeosun said Nigeria can't sustain N167 Billion Federal civil servants' monthly salaries.

We need to stop all these or we remain the same

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]Hi all, why would a guy start treating you like a queen suddenly?[/color]

He wants to taste you

Hi Tomi,

what's your relationship status, saw your twitter handle

You can as well call a guy prostitute! Trust me its better than player. He'll enjoy it

I like reading your posts, they make me laff, you must be a really fun person. You dont look jamaican at all unless you speak like one.

mamagee3:
[color=deeppink]My Neighbor saw me drive in to my house and then came out but then slowly and quietly walked back in.

Btw, this is the same neighbor that would usually try to find out things about me from my brother.

What is he up to?

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He is avoiding you, I wish I could too

chukxy44:
Tell me it is not true, honestly if this letter is as real as it seems then there is hope that not all Nigerians are coward.

I do not agree with a serving Governor writing this but then it is obvious no one else will if not Fayose.

Only time would tell who was right and who got it wrong.

My paddy, e be lyk say you don sign long term contract with under development.

You aligned yourself with the negatives, didnt you see that this is just a clear case of political opposition?

Lets take a deep look at our facts before following people blindly

This is a clear case of mental problem. Coming from the smallest economy in Nigeria. His downfall is closer than his shadow.

arcis:
Okay Mr know all....can you then show us evidence that's wasn't in the budget? Until you are able to prove to us that the project was actually not in the budget then we can believe you...

No need asking him/her to show us. I dont blame their leaders at all. They are birds of the same feather.

Buhari fought for them when their leaders didnt and they are here shouting propaganda.

Their leaders must have known they are bunch of ingrates

Blurdy illiterates

Demainman1:
Let me honour you with an answer by asking you a question.

Did each region always fight for their allocation in the budget?

The original issue is, Lagos-calabar rail was not in the padded budget so the question of it been removed is an APC propangada

I see comments like this and I wonder the level of damage poverty and suffering had done to a rational human being like this nigerian here.

To summarize the OP's point in another way, Buhari mentioned that the SE was not well catered for in the budget and that he won't sign it. And the st00pid niger deltans and pdp party pawns with no vision for their future only think and say "the budget initially never i cluded us in the first budget stop acting like you care Mr. buhari" even when their senators, especially the tweeter one didnt say anything about it.

Anuoluwapo23:
I was reading the Bible in my phones this afternoon when it came to me that I should we should warn our youth about indecent dressing... So I decided to bring it as a topic here..


What's your view about it?


Z it advisable to dress like this to church?

please help, I need to be in this church, where is it. My joystick is restless right now?!

firstEVA:
Op you want to be the one to teach him how to do?


To me studs are are just studs, they should be allowed to serve their purpose then move onto the next.

They are just date or boyfriend material, definitely not husband material, marry him at your own peril.

You date the stud, then marry the good guy, simple.

please tell me, how will she know the number of women the guy has had? I lost my own count and I still respect women feelings..

anyway sha, she's just 20, dem just start to toast her

[size=18pt] To me alpha male na person wey fit drink 5 bottles of big stout and him wife no detect[/size]

nonsense

oswardic:
I had this experience in my last relationship, abeg, the lady in question isn't joking, it's an embedded mentality that is concluded already.

To be sure it's part of her already, try to ask her for aid and see how she turns up. Secondly, take proper review into your relationship with her so far to see her financial input into the relationship (buying of gifts, buying things while she's visiting you etc)

I know it will be very hard for the OP to quit the relationship, especially where there are positive things about her as well. Unfortunately, the journey is far, the good qualities you listed are not for the marriage course, since she's lagging behind on the main marriage course, bro, please I beg you, forgo the relationship for a future happiness.

Thanks so much

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Dear Nairalanders,

Please help, I purchased just 2000 units of FBNH through my broker Cashcraft, at a total 7000 Naira, I got charged 266 Naira for fees/commission.

I also bought 500 units of UBA stocks at a total of 1450 Naira, I got charged another 206 Naira as commission and fees; I have never experienced such outrageous charges before.

Please folks, I want to know, is it the CSCS that is charging me or it's cashcraft that is siphoning my money. I applied for 1000 units of UBA stocks but after the charges I noticed they only bought 500 units for me.

please help explain what is going on.

Regards[/size]

MzOnajin1:
Its a must ooooo, sometimes we just want to be pampered like a baby

hahahhaha, I recognize you

Cavenchy:
You replied quite earlier than I expected, as I had modified the quoted post a little bit, notwithstanding, the main points remained same.
Now to your reply, I appreciate the fact you come across as a genuine man looking to settle, you may need to do some investigations to protect yourself as well, because you barely know her either. I'm glad you are asking important questions. This Is another one you may need to find out, Why is her mum rich and not her family (dad inclusive?). What is her impression of men? How was her dad as a father growing up? Was he lazy? Was he a wife beater? Or a drunk? What about her mum? Was she disrespectful to her husband? Did she rub the fact that her dad wasn't too well to do in his face? If this is the case, does your fiancée support her mother's views?
You can find these out without being direct. Subtle conversations would bring out the truth about where she got her fears from. Best wishes.

Her mum got inheritance from her grandmum,

missyadorable:
I can support my husband in terms of providing food,kid's fees and upkeep,etc

But NEVER to add my money to buy / build a house,or other properties(in case 2moro,he decides to kick me out n bring in another woman,men are very funny)...Or give my husband cash in any form.

My family can't be hungry when I have money

Your fiancee is rather too rash

But anyway,thats her opinion

Dump her,if you like

Another guy will marry her.

Seems you are interested in her because she is from a rich family and you thought she will be using her money to run the home and now that she has made her stand clear,you no longer see where and how you will benefit from her.

What makes you think that I am interested in her because she's from a rich home? No man ever wishes to be a dependent on his wife for assistance unless he is not a man. But then, life is not a bed of roses, there will be trial times and all you can wish for in life is a wife that won't put your dirty clothes outside for everyone to see.

I have always taking care of myself up to this moment, why is it that it's in marriage that I will now be dependent on a wife?

Cavenchy:
OP I have read your post and saw your concern but after reading some comments thrown at you and your replies, I think this might be a case of a scared fiancée but I sure hope I'm wrong. Let's analyse.

The lady has seen gold digging tendencies in you and is trying to protect herself.

The lady thinks you are lazy and are the type to always seek help not wanting to take up responsibility.

You said it yourself that her mum Is rich, that shows you probably have an eye on her family's wealth, you never mentioned in your post that you also have a rich family or that you are well to do yet. She would read all these signs in the way you behave around her. For example: you treat her like an egg and are overtly careful about things you say not yo hurt her and apologetic at the slightest sense of anger. You probably always have a habit of asking after her mum (cos she is the rich one) and probably hardly ever ask after her dad.

Your resilience to take advice here to leave her, shows that you see a lot of benefit in your future relationship besides her character which is most likely a monetary one.

She knows a lot of men are gold diggers these days and she barely knows you enough to not judge you as one of them.

She has not yet fallen in love with you, when she does all these above will fly out the window. Worse, it's hard for you to earn her love when she hasn't seen how she's earned yours. Gold digger men are always easy to spot. They love before she even opens her mouth or has proven any quality character. If it acts and quacks like a duck it probably is.

Finally, she is protecting herself from a lazy man. If you aren't a lazy man, work hard to prove your worth, no woman can say those words to a man she is madly in love with and knows is hardworking and successful.

Bottom line: you aren't compatible at the moment, try again later.

Thanks so much for taking your time to add this contribution, I really appreciate it.

I have a good job and I have a roof over my head and I pay all my bills by myself and even some few others that are not mine. We were matched because we both needed something we didn't have, a partner.

We are just getting to know each other and for all reasons, I am sure this is not the best way to go about avoiding gold diggers. I have never asked her for anything matter of fact, I find it difficult to ask people for favors because I feel dejected when I get a "No" for a request.

I'm just trying to meet a wife to go on a journey with for life, I never asked her about her family wealth background until she told me.

If I were a gold digger like you alluded to, I won't share this post.

Just being honest!

obowunmi:
That people here, mostly men, want your potential suitor to pay your bills.

Man up and pay your own bills. Don't let any one deceive you.

Are you a man or a lady?

obowunmi:
OP should find someone in his class, no need for epistles.

I know a woman who married a jobless man at age 38. She did it for the Nigerian society, just to say she's married.

She's the most bitter woman I know. The man can't even buy boxers and singlet for himself.

The role of a woman is not to be a man's nanny or parent. He must be able to take care of himself, with or without a woman. That's a real man.

This jobless man sees his wife as a meal ticket and not a wife. He stays home from morning to night watching football. Then he goes to church when he's bored. When the woman comes back from work, no to cook and clean. She's so frustrated. It's like she's taking care of a baby and calling him husband.

Lazy MEN.

I'm resisting the urge to call you a slowpoke . I'm reading all comments on this post so as to make informed decision and you are just seeing colour white as red...

keep commenting though, you might learn at some point

AbarisFather:
A Guy who was jobless got married 2 a banker,despite his fears and several advices that it's not good to marry without a job. Every month the girl would give the guy her full salary of N135k after removing her tithe. The guy would give the wife N20k 4 personal upkeep
and the guy determined what happened to the remaining money. This happened for 3 Good years. There was happiness in d family and d wife never refused to do her primary home duties for that 3 years,
despite wrong advice from friends that 'you can't be paying the bills and still be doing all the wok'.There was a particular month d guy used about N70,000 2travel frm state to state for different interviews. He finally got a job with a good firm in
Port-Harcourt. His salary was N800,000
monthly 4 a start. He bought his first car (a brand new) for N4.5m, he gave d wife the car key,& continued to take public transport to work for about 2yrs.
Then he bought the 2nd car for N6million, took d key of d first car & gave his wife the keys of the 2nd car. They eventually moved into their own house after few yrs.
One day, d wife was looking 4some documents. She stumbled on a file neatly hidden, when she opened it, she saw her wedding picture when she was very slim in d first page of the file. She then saw dat d document 2 the purchase of the land and every other thing in the
house were all written in her name! At d last page was the husband's wedding picture and a note written by him:
''MY WIFE IS ALL I HAVE GOT. NOT EVEN THIS HOUSE WORTH N24M AT THE TIME I BUILT IS MINE''. Tears started to roll down her eyes. This couple got married in
2008.
True LOVE still exists till this day. Are you sure the Love you have for ur partner can be compared to this one you just read?
No matter what, remember u chose each other. It doesn't matter who puts food on d table or who pays d bills. Always know that, NO CONDITION IS PERMANENT.

WHAT A LOVELY THING TO HAPPEN TO ANYONE!!!

Koinzino:
it would be irrational for u to dump her tho.. but if u cannot change her mind set, this is wat u Will do... invite her to yr place, make her feel loved, bang the hell out of her, dump her sorry ass and go ahead with her friend... that girl no get sense

I don't think I want to do this at this

grandlexuz:
Wow tough one. However don't judge her by her words but by her action. I am not saying you should proceed to marry her tonight.Lol All I am saying is give her more time. You already mentioned there are several things about her that merit a thumb up. Truth is very few women will truly love a man and not see the need to lend a hand in times of difficulties. Even the most stingy woman on earth has got a man somewhere that she can empty her bank account for. In due time do put her to the test. You could pretend to be very sick and need her help to buy medications etc etc.

Thanks, she's actually a medical doctor

obowunmi:
Ee remain pant and bra we you suppose dey wash.

Get a life!!

obowunmi:
You sound like those men, after having 4 kids, you RETIRE. No to just dey phuck and born. No financial plan, you can't even take care of yourself.

Leaving your kids to be doing ashawo to fend for themselves.

I pity you! I can tell you are single and shallow minded. You r not yet married and you are already mentally dysfunctional.

Keep nose diving bro. I work in health industry, you r a potential source of revenue.

Ewure

obowunmi:
Why marry if you're poor and broke? Waiting for your wife's salary... don't you have any shame?

I wish you a wife that won't support you financially for any reason whatsoever since you are not lazy and not a gold digger. Please say Amen

skywalker240:
no harm intended here, but i think your fiancee must be or is a potential G*ld digger.

If she aint ready to support ,that mean she aint ready to struggle with u and if she aint ready to struggle,that mean she aint ready to stay if u both get to storming sea's.

She is still immature again no harm intended.

Thanks

Well, I think gold digger is not appropriate here because, she's from a rich background just that she doesnt want to support her to be husband in anyway financially.

Probably she assumes all men are gold diggers!

Kassidy90:
From my experience lots of people say things they can't actually do, so I will suggest u put her to test, u can shower her with love, care gifts n lots of good stuff for 2-3weeks, then cook up some stories about u having little financial problems see her reactions ... I belief u ar a grown up and educated man so u should know what to do after...

You're right, this is also a good suggestion, Thanks

1trillionlikes:
Hmmm.... Test her by bringing up a story that a normal human being will wanna help you solve, financially, wen she hears..... If she doesn't help, quit..... She might not change.... I know of a woman whose children are sometimes chased out of school because of their fees, and she's rich enough to build houses... Once her hubby can't pay all bills..... All of them will suffer while she goes about buying all aso ebi and attending all functions....

You mean if she agrees to loan me some money for an expense I couldnt afford at the time she's exonerated

PushPlay:
I believe the girl in question is taking advantage of her privileged background since she would believe every potential suitor could be a leech. I noticed that from OP statement about her mom being rich. It is up to the guy to prove her wrong.

Could that be the reason? and if so, how do you prove her wrong? work yourself to death to prove you dont need her support. Sometimes a supportive wife is actually a strong motivation.

Inagine seeing a very expensive dress you would like tobsee on your wife but you know you have plenty other things to buy at home.