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Family › Re: Nigerian Man Is Searching For A Husband For His Mother (Photos) by Dfinex(f): 10:47pm On Aug 10, 2017

Evaberry:
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your mum really needs to lose weight

watch YouTube tutorials on how to make up

she should lighten her skin

get plastic surgery.

she should also start wearing wigs

maybe then she will see a man

because right now her ugliness will repulse any male that comes close to her.

also don't forget to always buy condoms for her when she starts having sex with various men.

an olosho will always remain an olosho even in old age

I just don't want to believe that a lady is behind this moniker as this is the most stupid comment i have read in a long while

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Celebrities › Re: Toke Makinwa's Opinion On Whatsapp Calls Got Her Slammed by Dfinex(f): 8:07pm On Aug 09, 2017

chigoizie7:
I put N30 extra for offering every Sunday, so that God will remove ur type from my path.

The essence of call is for communication. As a sensible human being, I should be looking for way cheaper and convenient ways to achieve maximum objectives.

Lol @ #30 extra offering. .......this guy's got zero chill

Education › Re: Why Men Must Stop Sucking Their Wives’ Breasts – Commissioner by Dfinex(f): 3:31pm On Aug 09, 2017

I just can't stop laughing at the comments of the men up there.....

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Celebrities › Re: Shakar El: Terry G Should Be Arrested For Planning To Run For Governor & Deputy by Dfinex(f): 10:02pm On Aug 06, 2017

CarlosTheJackal:
Are you a councillor? Stop dishing advice you can't do

U are not a serious person. Do u know if I have any of such aspirations. Besides most I be a mathematician before I know that 2÷2=0.....anyway I'm not in the mood for any arguments but I still maintain that the youths should stop trivializing serious issues like this....I wonder how they can make it to becoming leaders of tomorrow with this kind of mentality.

Everything shouldn't be comedy

Celebrities › Re: Shakar El: Terry G Should Be Arrested For Planning To Run For Governor & Deputy by Dfinex(f): 9:28pm On Aug 06, 2017

CarlosTheJackal:
Practise what you preach or keep quiet

Ok...so in what particular manner have not practised what I preach if I may ask?

Celebrities › Re: Shakar El: Terry G Should Be Arrested For Planning To Run For Governor & Deputy by Dfinex(f): 8:55pm On Aug 06, 2017

CarlosTheJackal:
Are you a councillor or you are not a youth but an ancestor

I'm a youth. So what's ur point?

Celebrities › Re: Shakar El: Terry G Should Be Arrested For Planning To Run For Governor & Deputy by Dfinex(f): 6:40pm On Aug 06, 2017

Well said. ....when it's expected that the youths would act serious and take advantage of this opportunity, they're busy making mockery.......issokay

Celebrities › Re: Sammy Gyang: 'Ups, Downs Of Being Jeremiah Gyang’s Brother’ by Dfinex(f): 11:29pm On Aug 05, 2017

SammyGyang:
It's more of a gossip

Really? ....this is a first.

Celebrities › Re: Sammy Gyang: 'Ups, Downs Of Being Jeremiah Gyang’s Brother’ by Dfinex(f): 5:40pm On Aug 05, 2017

This kind interview that's about Jeremiah Gyang, couldn't that daily trust reach him so he can answer those questions by himself. Why are u doing the work of 2IC.

Or is this one interview by proxy?

Career › Marriage Thread Off Single Ladies Face. by Dfinex(op): 7:00pm On Aug 03, 2017

When placed in all-female groups, 68% of single women reported that they would prefer a job that paid a higher salary and required 55–60 hours of work per week to a job that paid a lower salary and required 45–50 hours per week. But when placed with male peers, only 42% of single women did so. Similarly, in all-female groups, 79% of single women reported preferring a job with quicker promotion to partner but substantial travel to a job with slower and less certain promotion but no travel. When placed with male peers, only 37% of single women chose that option. Moreover, single women were less likely to choose the career-focused option when there were more single men in the group. Single women’s answers to a placebo choice between a job with a positive social impact and a job with collegial coworkers were not affected by the gender of the students in their group.

Lastly, we conducted a student survey and an analysis of participation grades. Our survey asked 261 of these same first-year MBA students whether, in their previous work experience, they had avoided certain actions that they thought would help their careers, because they were concerned it would make them look “too ambitious, assertive, or pushy.” Sixty-four percent of single females said they had avoided asking for a raise or a promotion for that reason, compared with 39% of women who were married or in a serious relationship and 27% of men. Over half of single women reported avoiding speaking up in meetings, compared with approximately 30% of women who weren’t single women and men.

Our analysis of participation grades indicated that unmarried female students had substantially lower class participation grades than married ones. Class participation is observable to peers and may signal students’ ambition or assertiveness. Consistent with our hypothesis, male participation grades did not differ by marital status.

Many of our additional analyses suggest these differences in behavior between single women and women in relationships are likely driven by the marriage market concerns, not inherent differences between the two groups of women. For example, it is not the case that unmarried women, in general, are worse students than married women; both groups had similar grades on their exams and problem sets (grades that classmates can’t see). Similarly, relationship status did not affect women’s reported preferences and skills when they were kept private from classmates.

Taken together, our results suggest that single women avoid actions that would help their careers because of marriage considerations, and that marriage considerations may be an additional explanation for gender differences in the labor market. Many schooling and initial career decisions, such as whether to take advanced math in high school, major in engineering, or become an entrepreneur, occur early in life, when most women are single. These decisions can have labor market consequences with long-lasting effects.

While extrapolating to other settings is beyond the scope of this paper, elite female MBA students are a select group, one that presumably places a higher value on career success than the general female population does. This suggests that the effects of marriage market signaling are perhaps even larger in other contexts. We hope that future work will assess interventions that may mitigate the negative effects that marriage market concerns have on women’s careers.

Excerpts from an article in Harvard business review :https://hbr.org/2017/05/the-ambition-marriage-trade-off-too-many-single-women-face

Phones › Re: 9mobile Name Change; A Comment May Have Just Cost This Man His Job (pictures) by Dfinex(f): 10:49pm On Jul 24, 2017

QueenOfNepal:
who asked you

Lol....Abeg if u understand wetin him dey talk, kindly epp a sister. But hope say no be your oga o, I no wan hear say them sack person. ..

Phones › Re: 9mobile Name Change; A Comment May Have Just Cost This Man His Job (pictures) by Dfinex(f): 10:09pm On Jul 23, 2017

What was that CEO even saying: so much for a CEO

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Romance › Re: Lady Slaps Man For Trying To Finger Her In A Commercial Bus by Dfinex(f): 9:34pm On Jul 22, 2017

AlexCk:
The man was jerking off in the bus??
Tor,

Unbelievable right?....it's a crazy world.

Romance › Re: Lady Slaps Man For Trying To Finger Her In A Commercial Bus by Dfinex(f): 12:35pm On Jul 22, 2017

IamLEGEND1:
You just can never tell...... I've seen women cook up worse stories for no apparent reason.

I don't think it's cooked. I had similar experience, I was so shocked and afraid that I couldn't shout. U know when u see a good looking and well dressed man in his senator attire start misbehaving. .....I just couldn't think straight as my heart raced - could he be lunatic or his own perversion was uncontrollable.

Anyway I decided to ignore him since he was masturbating and prayed the bus gets to my destination ASAP

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Romance › Re: Lady Slaps Man For Trying To Finger Her In A Commercial Bus by Dfinex(f): 12:28pm On Jul 22, 2017

Famouson:
Lies from the pit of hell.. And any sane Nigerian would believe this shit... So all along the girl in question allowed him finger her.. I'm not getting... He must've have done something different.. You don't just finger a girl in a brt ... Where everyone us looking... See stupid lie oh... Finger ko, finger ni

Oga the fact that u've never had such experience doesn't make it a lie. I can categorically tell u that such a thing can happen as I have seen it happen, the only difference this time was that the man was doing himself inside the bus.

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Family › Re: Widow Banished For Having Sex On Late Husband’s Bed In Ebonyi (Photo) by Dfinex(f): 11:28am On Jul 20, 2017

It's okkkkk

Cc: fedayeen, bujumbura, mojaheeden.

Romance › Re: Housewives Vs Career Women by Dfinex(f): 8:23pm On Jul 16, 2017

gentlegenius:
Starting a business is not only for rich men. Even if the husband is earning 40k a month, with a good financial planning/management, he can start a good business with time. There's nothing wrong in obtaining a loan to start it as far as the woman can manage it well.
While people are looking for graduates/career ladies to marry, I am looking for a lady who is good at business/financial management so that I can achieve my goal of having a hybrid wife.

IBrotherly, business is not childsplay o plus it's not everybody that can do business. I know of a woman whose husband decided to set up a business for but she ended up eating both the profit and the capital.

Romance › Re: Housewives Vs Career Women by Dfinex(f): 8:18pm On Jul 16, 2017

sunshineG:
maybe
Which do you prefer?

Like I always say u can not determine the good qualities of a person judging by his/her status - the fact that she is an executive director doesn't mean she is going to be a nice person even though it will present opportunities to help shaping her - the choices are hers to accept or reject.

On my preference, I'll go with career women but those women can be dangerously difficult many a time.

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Romance › Re: Housewives Vs Career Women by Dfinex(f): 7:57pm On Jul 16, 2017

sunshineG:
so they are still are still dependent
What is point
They have less time to take care of the kids and husband

No...they've got alot more time than the career woman, for men who desire time.

I think u are flirting with the idea of going with career women.....

Romance › Re: Housewives Vs Career Women by Dfinex(f): 7:44pm On Jul 16, 2017

sunshineG:
but they are not making any money
They are just as teribble as the housewife

The aim actually is not to make money per say. The aim is to leave them with reduced free time - like when the kids are at school

U know the saying "an idle mind is the devil's workshop " is true. So while they are busy doing nothing, they are distracted from those unnecessary thoughts instigated by idleness.

Romance › Re: Housewives Vs Career Women by Dfinex(f): 7:39pm On Jul 16, 2017

Originalsly:
True..both parents play a role in raising the child... but I think it is like 75% woman by default rather than 50/50. A woman is naturally norturing... the man to be the provider and protector... enforcer of discipline... think we are just wired that way. Is it not us men that be the ones almost all the time forgetting the baby locked in the car?.. forgetting to pick the kid from school?... when left in charge constantly have to be reminded to feed the baby?... change pampers?... be scolded on handling the baby too rough?...and warned to stop scaring the baby by trying to sing it to sleep? In fact...I now up child raising to 90%... women by default!

Lol...I understand. That is what the society wants us to think.

See I was raised by my dad singlehandedly from infancy so I can categorically tell u that ...it's just a thing of mindset.

So still i insist that child rearing is 50-50 else the upbringing the child gets becomes lopsided.

Romance › Re: Housewives Vs Career Women by Dfinex(f): 7:31pm On Jul 16, 2017

sunshineG:
so you support those women that are always sitting in one half empty shop
Selling next to nothing but that is not a career now

Lol @empty shops.....at least she won't run to hubby for salt and pepper money every now and then

Romance › Re: Housewives Vs Career Women by Dfinex(f): 7:27pm On Jul 16, 2017

sunshineG:
but our moms did just fine and are not career woman.
So are suggesting something have changed over the years

No, don't get it twisted. Majority of our mum's were house wives who had things doing by the side like selling pepper in front of the house or going to plant vegetables in the backyard space so as to assist the family . I mean they had something keeping them busy unlike the full house wives that sit in front of the tv or goes to mama baby's house to gossip about the new tenant.

So nothing actually changed save that we've got more lazy girls who wants to look extravagantly posh with other people's money without adding value.

Romance › Re: Housewives Vs Career Women by Dfinex(f): 7:16pm On Jul 16, 2017

sunshineG:
but do you think it is possible for a career woman to be better than housewife in taking care of children

Well, it's not a function of being a career woman or a housewife. It's a function of the person's character, cos as far as I am concerned u can not give what u don't have : there's no way a saucy woman can teach her daughter politeness neither can a dirty mother teach her kids grooming even if she is working class with little time or housewife with all the time.

Romance › Re: Housewives Vs Career Women by Dfinex(f): 7:07pm On Jul 16, 2017

sunshineG:
you are right sis
But I also know of a lady who works in the oil company
I mean she is rich and aal but her kids are nothing to write home about
The son smokes and the girls are free givers
True story, what do you have to say to that ?

I must say that woman is her own problem: it has nothing to do with her job or the fact that she's a career woman cos even if she were to be a full house wife her children would still be the same or worst. I think she has a character flaw which has affected the upbringing of her kids

Romance › Re: Housewives Vs Career Women by Dfinex(f): 6:59pm On Jul 16, 2017

Dfinex:
Yeah that's right "one is not better than the other" ....however I'll like to point out that the job of child rearing does not fall on the woman by default. The man and wife are both stakeholders - so therefore being a career woman should in no wise affect child upbringing or the lifestyle of the family in general.

The onus lies on both man and wife to work it out in the most convenient way.

Romance › Re: Housewives Vs Career Women by Dfinex(f): 6:58pm On Jul 16, 2017

Originalsly:
A wife is supposed to be the glue of the family. A career wife would not have that time to bond the family as a housewife since she would be too busy pursuing her career during the day... and too tired at nights to attend to the eldest child...the husband... and the much younger children. How can such a wife bend the tree when it is young when she is hardly there to do so? Not saying it is bad to have a career.... but it should not take away from the time needed to be a guide and role model to the children.
Housewife is always better to make a close knit family..... but doesn't mean that during down time when the kids are at school she should be watching TV, gossiping or ehmmm....scratching. In this 21st century she should learn some skill or educate herself so she can also make some financial contributions to the household... or step up and be the breadwinner should the husband lose his job..... lose income due to illness... or his finances redirected by one of the many many husband snatchers.
After saying all this crap..... one is not better than the other... too many other factors are involved.

Yeah that's right "one is not better than the other" ....however I'll like to point out that the job of child rearing does not fall on the woman by default. The man and wife are both stakeholders - so therefore being a career woman should in no wise affect child upbringing or the lifestyle of the family in general.

The onus lies on both man and wife to work it out in the most convenient way.

Romance › Re: Housewives Vs Career Women by Dfinex(f): 6:51pm On Jul 16, 2017

While being a house wife can never be said to be easy, I must say I will rather opt for career as more exposure is gained, mental power is built and financial independence follows.

Career women may likely not have all the time in the world for their family like the full housewives would but I personally think that there is more advantage in that than disadvantage: for example less time for gossips, less time for stalking hubby, even lesser time for nagging plus they try to make the most of the unavailable time - time to them is defined by what is achieved.

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Romance › Re: Together-Forever: This Pre-Wedding Photo's Concept Has People Talking by Dfinex(f): 8:27pm On Jul 01, 2017

Why is she not smiling?

On a second thought, this is definitely not the only snapshot they took na. Why post this one? I suspect someone is just being mischievous.

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Romance › Re: Nigerian Men Need To Understand That Some Women Have Financial Standards. by Dfinex(f): 7:37pm On Jul 01, 2017

majekdom2:
Kids that no nothing about life. The earlier many of you start to realise finances is only a status in life the better/easier relating with people will be. A rich man today can become lesser than he is. I do not mean Poor. His capabilities may reduce but that's not to say he will remain there forever. Pray life teaches you its lessons early, it well help you. The key thing is identifying a zealous/hard-working man and support him with prayers. A hardworking man knows his woman will be in need and will always struggle to provide even if it is not upto the lady's expectation. I don't blame many that put money before anything in their life tho. It's only the environment they have found themselves.

Word.

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