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JallowBah: Does it matter?

y do u sound repulsive?

JallowBah: Of course our daughter have both of our names, why not? That was actually not even my idea My surname is not very much used in my country, so we put them together. Why is that an issue?
We call her by her african names, but she can later on choose for her self. She should be euqally proud of both families, names, and history.

Why do you continue to think I force him? Why is it so hard for you to see that not all people think like you?
And if my husband won the lottery, we would move back to Africa. I would open a small shop, and not worry if I did not make enough money that day or not. We even lived there with his sister and his brothers, and the brothers still cleaned their own clothes, my husband still cooked, and he and his brother all still cleaned the compound. Imagine that..you think I forced them all? Really?

And I dont know why you talk about Sweden so much. I am not swedish.



I am sorry for you being so ignorant.

do you mind me asking what your nationality is

Pls read through first before advising,My cousin's husband tells her when he's mad to cheat if she likes but she should not contract any disease suggesting she uses condom 2. She should not let him catch her. 3. She should not rub it on his face. Pls strongly NOTE he is not gay and has no extra-marital affair, this is confirmed. I personally don't know what to tell her because I know he loves her based on what he tells me privately.

I know I'm hot.

How do u compress a pic?

chaircover: I have a question . . . .Do some of these abusers know that they are abusers and do they even know the damage that they inflict?

I was in a restaurant a couple of days ago and a man walked in sat down and said in a loud voice "woman what do you have today" I looked at him and instantly felt sorry for his wife becasue I can just imagine how he must address her at home.

how else did you expect him to address you "hello mummy, what kind of food do you have ma" naughty you.

naijababe: Yes. No gender has a monopoly over abuse if you must know, men are just as likely as women to be on the receiving end.

then it will be safe to assume Nigeria is an abusive society towards women and the U.S is an abusive society towards men. I love Nigeria then but fortunately for me I do not have any repressive attitude from my mate though I chopped the wings when she was about to fly to the feministic heavens.

ileobatojo: I'm a bit confused here. Would you please highlight and explain which part of my post demonstrates a warped feminist ideology?

And when you're done, could you please answer the OP's question about defining abuse in your own words just like I did? Thanks.

My point was culled from a rather extensive follow up of post history just as I have observed jidegirl12 to be more traditional in her approach towards marraige.

naijababe: Yes, unequivocally!


For me, I consider abuse the misuse of power, something that you do and know that the other party is unseemingly powerless to stop.

Are you in that case suggesting that men who do not have the power to stop a woman from dictating laws at home, yelling or insulting him, kicking him out at will and asking him to make sure that okro soup is steaming hot before she returns from work because they are constrained by law are equally abused? Then in that case, 65% of men in the U.S are abused deducing from your logic.

bukatyne: Ok. Can you tell me what is wrong in a man helping his wife around the house and a woman working to earn her own money?

slow cognitive reasoning, two allies conflicting each other

2buff: Give it a rest sista.
Such concepts are as far away from them as nuclear physics is to a cave man.
They can never understand.

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ileobatojo: Here are my ideas about abuse (without looking in the dictionary per Jenny's directive). It is a pattern of behavior with the main goal of controlling a partner, suppressing their individuality and destroying their self esteem. Abusers often seek to increase the reliance of their victims on them sp they can maintain this control. Abuse can be psychological (mental/emotional) or physical, the former often leads to the latter. Women are more often victims of abuse than men but both genders can be the perpetrators. Once the pattern of abuse starts, it often doesn't get better but worsens.

It doesn't show on the face if abusers, they are often 'good', functioning members of society and even get along well with others.

Abused victims spend a lot of time in denial partly because the good times are usually very very good. Abusers are charming. It is hard to put Dr Jekyll and mr Hyde together as one person. However, it's all part of the grand scheme of controlling the victim.

If you are in a relationship where you have a lot of self doubt, are losing your self belief, second guess all your own actions, wonder if you are going crazy, feel isolated from friends and family e.t.c. you may be in an abusive relationship.

Ile I am not advocating for abusive men since I am neither physically or verbally abusive, only short tempered which I vent off by getting in my car and go for a ride, but this your warped feministic ideology is emboldened because you aren't head over heels for a man. I have personally seen very gorgeous independent once feministic women become morons for men they sheepishly love. If you are insanely in love, you would loose your feministic orientation.

ocelot2006: As the head of the home, the man's responsibility is to provide for his family in every way, and protect them. His job does NOT include doing any kitchen chores or other house work. Forget what you watch on foreign movies. Sissy men don't exist in Africa (or at least they're in the minority).

But I don't see any reason why a loving husband shouldn't help out his wife sometimes. In my case, I try to help with the dishes or other chores when I notice that my wife's stressed out. Sometimes, all she asks for is just my company in the kitchen. I don't have to do anything, just sit and gist with my lovely wife while she preps a meal.

guy u are talking of naija where there are no prevailing laws supportive of women. Even for Yankee sef e no go happen. Lai lai. Naija matter is totally out of the point for me, way back as an undergrad student girls had already started cooking for me and doing my chores and laundry talk least of when she has kids for me. Na wa for all these puppies called men these days

JallowBah: Mr...hardener.

Like I said; every marriage is different, but the rude attitude you got towards your wife is kinda..disturbing, in my eyes.
It seems like "It don`t matter if she don?t act the way I want her to act, cause if she do so, I can always just kick her out and find another woman". For me, that does not show love..

I love her more than she imagines, i'v had to have a little scuffle with my mom (who I love to death) because of her but she sure knows the boundaries

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hmm, so you dont think you should help out at home. My friend . Am disappointed.

Ladies, do yourself a favor and get a domesticated loving man. Not a chauvinist or one that thinks someone's role is this and that.smh[/quote]I am a very understanding man though a chauvanist. My wife isn't a great cook at all but I eat her food with love that way regardless but where we will have a big fat problem is when you want to boss me around or question my authority. Babes the woman knows better I swear. I can tolerate any ill from a woman but to boss me or tell me what to do WALAHI NEVER EVER.

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hmm, so you dont think you should help out at home. My friend . Am disappointed.

Ladies, do yourself a favor and get a domesticated loving man. Not a chauvinist or one that thinks someone's role is this and that.smh[/quote]babes did you see where I said I help her of my own volition but an obligation is a big resounding capital NO NO

Even in the U.S with strong women laws, my wife can never give me this crap, NEVER, EVER. Despite her beauty and income she knows her boundaries, she can't even confront or question my authority and decision. The day that happens, there's no need for headache you are simply tired of marraige and prepared for single-motherhood. However I help her do some stuffs of my own volition if I am in a good mood and offcourse provisional monetarily and emotionally. I swear no woman can try shit with me, the day her friend suggested she called the cops because I yelled I actually helped her to do the calling, when they came she said she did not put a call through and she did not need their help either. I am a very loving man, but the day you begin to talk back at me or mandate chore duties, I'll just leave the house for you. Finally she knows very well there are a queue of women out there to do exactly what she might consider impossible. I dey vex sef. Dem never born that woman wey go turn me to houseboy or nanny. Even my daughter sef, I have never changed diapers, I pay for a nanny when necessary.

[quote author=chreld_b]GHANA MUST GOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!![/quote]idiot

nijanigga: .
Oloshi, u no sabi winter,cos u dey for place wey hot,that's why una no sabi how to fight corruption.Na winter season for SA. U

husband go still hard you despite telling us about you unfortunate encounter with snow. We haff heard.

Josh090: Finally, I have 2 concur bance is a dunce....anyone one of these teams will struggle against the eagles in their present form.
I just hope eagles keep their form.

WOW!!!LOL@ bance is a dunce

neena adjei: ghana this ghana that ghana win,ghana loose, ghana has no tactics ghana has no that,gayna.....yhhhh keep talking do you lot really think god is going to have mercy on nigeria when you are bashing ghana like this treat others like you would like to be treated god is not a fool...... you lot are just takin fings too far now.....

oya make una no vex. It's petty don't hold it up your heart

Braincheck: Babe don't mind d stoopid boi. It doesnt even matter who carries d cup @ d end of d day, whether Nigeria or Ghana, all dat matters is to me is that I've fallen in luv wit U.
Hit me up on mail.. U Baad!!!

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Raymondenyi: Cee d kind of username u bear! I will never expect any reasonable or sensible post 4rm u, u better repent jesus is coming soon

I know right!!!!! Shame on me

onila: ghana, pls scoreeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

I tell u. Na beg we dey beg. make una score na

[quote author=Selasie_D]Nothing God makes is "wogggly", remember that! [/quote]I'd have to agree with you on this. True that is

[quote author=info.fta]Ghanians sef, always looking for penalty.[/quote]I'd rather they win cos BF is smooth and playing with stealth making them a tougher opponent

ghboy: -------------------------------------------------------------
Liar!! stop spoiling the name of Ghanaians?? we got nothing against Burkina

Correct the spelling to GAYNIANS. The perfect name u'll agree uhnnn..

akintun: Let pull our mind together and support Ghana. Dis Burkina players bad ooooooo.

sounds logical though. Bf are a better team. It would be safe we meet the sluggard GAYnians

livethinme: 1-1!!!!

FATHER I thank u oh WELLU WELLU I thank u o WELLU WELLU

Abrantie: crooks vs hard workers

skin bleachers vs natural beauty

beauty what!!!! GAYnian skin tone equates to darkness.

[quote author=Selasie_D]No body is forcing you too . Someone out there feels same abt you [/quote]all these GAYnians ehn .African headquarters of GAYS.

I try never to hate but the truth is I just do not like Ghana. I seriously do not know why.