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ileobatojo: Now, you're talking. So it's basically problem number 3 from my previous post. (I suspected it because you kinda slyly evaded answering my question).

Anyway, there are guys like that, I know a guy who just cannot handle the closeness of his wife's family because his family is not that close and insecurity/jealousy rears it's head. Anyway, now you know he is insecure with how close and generous your family is, you just have to find a way of managing things without appearing to rub it in his face. Sorry you are being put in such a situation. I really don't think it's fair to you that you now have to tiptoe around your husband and your family. But it is what it is. Hopefully, some day, he will warm up to the situation.

Statements like what you said to him though will not help matters though. I know it was in the heat of an argument, but he looks at it as you trying to rub your family's good fortune in his face. Basically, he interpreted it as you saying, "my family is in a better position to help us than yours if we ever need help".

Anyways, good luck to you! These things are part of the trials of marriage!

fm7070: OP.
Don't even dare it, don't even try living with your own parent after getting married.
You won't like yourself at the end of the day.
living in a room with your family is better than living in a duplex with family members.

bbeckky: Wow!!! A leftover

bbeckky: I really can't understand why a guy would find it so hard to settle down with a lady dat has a kid b4 they met....but if d guy happens 2 b d one wearing d shoe he'd expect nothing less dan total commitment to him nd d kid frm d lady... Why shud dis be?

Blyss: I personally know of many well off Black-Americans and Afro-Caribbeans who have stated that they wouldn't mind moving their families and business operations to Africa and this includes me as well, but one major hang up is a strong lack of acceptance to live under African rule. Now you can call this bigoted or hateful in some other fashion, but in all reality the majority of the reasoning expressed in regard to the issue, were not so much bigoted as apposed to being simply being of a mind set of wanting to fully control the surroundings of their operations.

They basically want to gather up a congregation of middle and upper class black diaspora and buy out a large stretch land from, let say Angola or the DR. Congo, with an agreement for the said land to be fully liberated into the control of the group, to stand as their own independent nation, void of any African natives . They'll bring their money, businesses and such to this land and basically turn it into a progressive utopia of their life back in the Americas.

I mentioned this to a few Africans I associate with, and they found this highly offensive, for various reasons. But I'd like to know what you'all think of such a desire or plan.

booqee: No 11. On the bed.

fubbyy: chai mi bros, wey ur hand,MHT barunda threw me ova board, abeg ping me on this 32209826 make we reason, I wan yan you my belle, u bam yakata

scram: Nigga please. Manny4life's gay. Do you need to be told?

manny4life: Ah ok o... Let me tease Ileke and see how far she's digging it.

Ileke wants to be a freak, let's see how low she can handle...

warrior101: Not weird at all...

manny4life: Ok let me stop...

manny4life: Nothing wrong sister, just saying...

How do you like your cake? Soft, spongy, sweet and delicious, fluffy or mouth watering , or MOIST --- either way, it's mmm mmm goooood...

Now tell me what kind of icing you want... Chocolate, cream or berries?

koastar: Is finding out that the only girl you love loves no other person but you. Oh! My heart leaps!!!

Afam4eva: She didn't come back to life cos she never dies in the first place.

Jonwesley: Look at you, very myopic about life and pleasure. No wonder, and curiously too, does the "Dickhardner" sobriquet got anything to do with this and you? I went looking for your face in your profile, but saw nothing. The elders would say where a child gets his hand soiled with palm oil as a result of pleasure of eating a sweet food, it will not be long to see him come with a hand soiled with blood from the same place, but the semblance of the colours of palm oil and blood would not allow them take notice timely and death can come unknowingly. You better learn and use your time well.

mikron: i have 5
1. sex ( especially when agro don hold u for so long)
2. to shit especially when u re purging
3.to eat a delicious hot meal when u re very hungry
4. to have a drink of a chilled bottle of water or drink when u re thirsty
5. to sleep in a very soft bed when u have overworked urslf and very tired
guys nothing beats these things

miredia: Well I guess we compliment our looks. Thanks though

adamu50: Developing Love for Allah and his prophets.

manny4life: Lol... Good sex is the MOST pleasurable thing God gave to man.