baby_123:

No be quarrel. I taya, long day in the rat race. Oya read it slowly.

do you have opposing views to blazay's write-up. Seriously I'm a jerk in terms of comprehension, so abeg no blame my mumu nature

baby_123:

Huh? You don't understand what I wrote? You want it in igbo, Yoruba or Hausa? I know how to use google tranlslator . Just saying my own opinion, if you don't agree, jump over it abeg.

na quarel? say I be illiterate no be crime na? Na wa for u today o

baby_123: I don't see how I can ever be who is suggested on this thread! Ta! Not possible honestly. For those it works for, no problemo. But some people were raised under different circumstances and know it is possible for a Nigerian man to be faithful. That also, some Nigerian men choose to work hard and remain in love with their wife and family. You don't miss what you never had, I am guessing. A man is an adult, a leader in the home for God's sakes. Too many excuses for men here, no wonder why they take advantage. . I would tOo, if everyone had such low expectations of me. I have a different idea of marriage, and would honestly rather be single than be this miserable. I wouldn't raise my daughters to settle for this or expect this either. Neither would I raise my sons to fail themselves like this.Just creating a cycle of men without self respect, family respect and no accountability. But different strokes for different folks.

you did not string your words coherently. Put it succintly

debrief08: 1. Suprise him with a night out, Dinner, Movies or Just a walk in the park, Flowers, pizza and popcorn, sit and watch the stars with a bottle of wine
2. A nice shoe
3. 2 or 3 shirts
4. Some cool Jeans
5. Perfume
6. Sum it up by a hot bath, a massage and his favorite movie.

Hope this helps

bros abeg no vex o. No be oversabi dey worry me o. It is actually referred to as Cologne( men).

miredia: ETHIOPIAN.

Hawt wife I presume. Nice one

coogar:

my missus is not troublesome!

u'r lucky with that.

coogar:

my missus is from helsinki, finland

Good to know, welcome to the league. I know this 9ja dude with a Finnish madam always complaining her hussy abandons her almost everynight hanging out in clubs with friends. She bombards my fb page with images of cats.

Forgive her because the grass isn't greener on the other side. Trust me ur next effort at a woman might be a worse character. I will only advise you never to love with you heart but with your head. Be like me and forever be apprehensive of women .

romming65: to be able to catch that particular moment

specifics pls

Blazay:

Oh please.
When an African man runs off with another woman, he forgets ALL his children period.
Most African women HATE the children they have when they end up hating the men they had the children with.
Children are not 'stoopid' you know. They really would appreciate their parents being together EVEN IF THEY PARENTS ARE NOT HAPPY TOGETHER.
No child wants to be in the same house with a STEP MOTHER OR STEP FATHER.
I would prefer my parents to cheat and remain together than to have a step mother and step father. HEAVEN FORBID. . . THAT NEVER HAPPENED. THANKS TO MY GOOD GOD!!!

We were all children once (some of us on NL still are, unfortunately. ) The presence of our parents physically in our lives became paramount even if they were cheating, and passed out drunk every night in the gutters around the neighbourhood. We get to know them and can point to who they are no matter how shameless. They are ours and we learn to love them JUST LIKE THAT.  The only parents we can EVER have that our GODS gave to us. We do not want any other parents.
As for seeing the parents cheat, children will have a choice too when they get into the same shoes and chances are THEY WILL ALL CHEAT TOO.
Just human nature and a choice. Cheating is a choice, (POSITIVE OR NEGATIVE) AS A COPING MECHANISM not A LEARNED BEHAVIOR!


True story.
I had a male cousin who went crying to my paternal grandma that his father was cheating on his mother, got another woman pregnant, married the lady traditionally and his mother was miserable. My grandmother in her 80s laughed in his face and her exact words were these:

"Why you dey cry?
You grand papa do am.
Your papa do am.
You sef go do am
Your pikin sef go do am
Your pikin pikin sef to do am kpa kpa
My grandson, abeg nor kill yaself.
Sorry oh!".

Words on marble. This was a woman who had NINE children of her her own as the THIRD WIFE and CO-WIFE to some 6 other women or more.

We still tell this story to each other years after the wise woman has passed on. The good old woman never had so much as a toothache. No hypertension, no diabetes. Died peacefully in her sleep long after her husband(my dear grand pa) had died on top of one of his younger wives some 50 years younger than himself, with heart failure/stroke of course. The poor young woman was who was accused of killing him was banished from the village and her children ostracized to this day. Ignorant, bush peeps! Mu he he he he

True to this day, my male cousin is married with children and is on his second wife already. He is only 42.
Did he learn this from his grandfather or his father? Why did he not excercise his sense of autonomy as an adult male to practice monogamy?
Was a gun put to his head to cheat on his own wife? We can NEVER blame our parents for our own actions as adults.
WE ALL HAVE CHOICES.
Go figure.

Man was not created to be monogamous. The African culture is DISGUSTINGLY POLYGAMOUS even in the advent of the so-called Christianity.
Why people make it such a big deal has always baffled me.
The children need the attention as dependants not the adults.
So, who cares how they feel?
You can cheat all you want as an adult male of female. . . but your arzzzze stays in that marriage to take care of your responsibilities.
The children will be just fine. They understand and appreciate your presence even if you are not happy.
If the men and women do not make public spectacles of themselves with all that emotional neediness and in-fighting, perhaps the children will be spared all that drama.
They only want their parents, and do not care if they are happy or not. I support them totally, they come first. Not the selfish needs of some parents who think they get to return the goods that they have used for a new set of female and male anatomical parts.

No! Not an option!
Cheat and sit in that marriage.
Your happiness is irrelevant to your children's happiness.
After you have children, the world really does not care about your happiness.
Single parenting is not an option when BOTH parents are alive.
A parent's happiness can NEVER come before that of a MINOR child.
When they grow up and are out of the house, you are free to find your true love, if he or she has any tooth left, and the sight of him or her still conjures up such feelings of love you had when you felt like abandoning your children for a new flame!

Arrrrrrrrrrrrantus Nonsensicus!!!

Happiness ko, Blissfullness ni!

Cased closed!

I am typically too arrogant to acknowledge a smart, witty and almost perfect psyche, but I humbly submit this is the most impeccable piece I have ever read on NL. Goodness what a rationale you have. Kudos. Thumbs up. High five, chup knuckle ....

Hello peeps, This thread is primarily for Nigerians married to a foriegn woman or man. Abeg lets be civic and polite. Just tell what country she's or he's from. Madam is from Guinea

₱®ÌИСΞ:
Ultimate troll

you just can't help it, regardless of how pretty wifey is. I'm so GUILTY

True2myself24: You're 33 and you dont have a car

if I call you cheap golddigging slut.. They'll say I have no ethics.

okpara ugo:

Greatness is in the spirit of a man. There is no luck to it.

Educate me further on your quote

Brand_new:
Professional my azzzzz!
I would do same if I were in hIs shoes.





When I'm made, I should have a special complementary card for old school mates saying. "I'm rich, you're not. Dumb azzzz". And I'll wait for who the F is gonna tell me all what not about being professional my azZzzz.

Guy how old are you?

Elebiju: Goaaaaaaaaaal!penariity d igbo boys don work pirate goal Ooº°˚ ˚°

you sound like a village tout.

His speech was articulately relayed. What a fine leader! Posterity will hold liable the subsequent figures that impelled this once enviable state to rot. My fellow Nigerians, in light of the dissipated human and financial resources of our dear nation Nigeria, I believe in hope. I believe in rekindling hope, for life is not a continuum of great events but of setbacks and discomfiture that calls for strength, unity and hardwork

[quote author=Baby mama]Table leg,yomieluv,mr knowitall, davidylan, akatonero,tattoo boy ,Chiover,sexkillz ,it is obvious you folks had a great upbringing.
Where a man knows his manhood is still in tact when he cooks or does other chores at home.

Babysitting
Cooking
Doing dishes
Laundry
Vacuuming

Even if it's one the above,your wives will appreciate it [/quote)

First of, this has nothing to do with home training. I was not raised to cook.I am a bad cook. I was raised to work hard academically and brought up to be business saavy. All my life women have always cooked for me as a matter of fact as an undergrad, ladies took turn to cook for me with utmost delight, till date it has never being an issue. This is only logical to me if she is incapacitated or burdened, even if burdened, I'd get a help.

andyanders: I go to kitchen and prepare food anytime if my wife is not around. I come from a family of 4 boys and a girl and we were all well equipped to know how to cook and how to help our wife when she is not around or when she put to bed without waiting for an outsider to do that. It all depends from individuals though. What I dislike is when a woman now see that as a must then I will show her the other side of life.

The reality is over time, the woman begins to demand that initial gesture as an obligation by default.Did you know that most women subtly respects men with the capacity to put them under control albeit void of violence. This they will NEVER tell you. Stop being a sissy. Help when she's incapacitated, simple! any other trashy romantic servitude is garbage. I damn well love my principles.

chiover: marriage is a union bro not a slave camp. Ur wife's pant is ur pant if u don't knw

you'r such a pushover sissy. Damn

I'd never EVER be an AUNT SALLY. I'm an expert in frustrating women, so they know better. It's not even a subject for contemplation.

chemashie: If you are in for Zambia say EYE, if you are in for Naija say NOSE....

EAR

Make una no wash dis match with una full mind o. HBP warning.

In my opinion, with today's broad tech at the disposal of most nations, from nukes to sophisticated arsenals; no country can hold monopoly to total victory should there be an outbreak. Forger all this super power trash. There will be grave collateral damage. There will never be a victor or a vanquished.

No wonder there's always e-tribal warfare here primarily btwn yoruba and igbo. Na only Yoruba and Igbo dey here sef? Una many o.Wey delta, calabar, benue, Hausa, fulani, edo, ikwere, kanuri?