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Reach out now!

Just a quick word of advice here.

In my line of business, I've seen so much. I've seen how irresponsible folks can be relative to paying back loans EVEN when they can thinking "nothing" will happen...it's Nigeria afterall.

What I'm doing here is a function of a discussion I had with a colleague and my interaction with people (there are so many genuine little business going on with decent cash flow that lack fund for expansion and whatnot, real business-men who have access to LPOs they can't finance...quite a shame).

NEWSFLASH!

That 3k you refused paying that "small" app that lent you money, that 1850 you decided could be forgotten by that "big" company (afterall you paid over 98% of the loan na) will DEFINITELY come back to hunt you when you TRULY NEED money as no firm worth its salt will lend you a kobo.

Why?

Your credit score sucks!

Take loans you know you can pay back, take money ONLY when you TRULY NEED to, not because you feel you can "get" it. If you do not discipline yourself realtive to this points, you'd be caught in a vicious cycle of borrowing (taking one loan to clear another and even then, it is not guaranteed that you'd get the loan as your history shows you're owing another firm).

Strategic loans are a wonderful way to grow your business (nearly all if not all businesses you know are funded by loans including government parastatals) and solve pressing personal needs thus making life richer and more fulfilling BUT, do it wisely.

So, if you have a strategic need for cash:

Contact me now!

TobyeCole:
PM sent. Do you mind reviewing and replying?

Will do.

Make hay while the sun shines folk.

Avail yourself of this opportunity now!

Initiate that contact!

aquadude15:
Good morning.
I run a profitable fish farm with records and I intend expanding to meet up with growing demand in my area. my capacity is about 9 tonnes of catfish and I intend increasing it to 15tonnes because I have the facilities that can accommodate it.
my email address is not functional, kindly contact me on 070.334.997.75.
thanks

Very well then.

Will do.

Cheers!

Good morning folks!

A clear sky from where I'm at.

Don't let lack of funds turn your clear skies overcast.

Contact me now, and if you have good borrowing history (that's the issue I have with lots of folks), we are good to go.

Send the PM/DM now!

Finish the year with a bang-funds for that business expansion or personal pressing need.

ItzSpartacuz:
Where's the contact medium?

Hello there!

Just send me a PM here (request a mail contact) and I'll respond immediately.

Cheers!

Keep the enquiries coming.

For those who've contacted me, I hope I was able to answer your questions satisfactorily.

Contact me now! Don't let lack of funds stifle your business. I can fund your LPOs, business expansion, import and export, salary for your staff etc.

Just be a conscientious business person or employee that respects contracts and we are good to go.

Contact me now!

Hello there,

If you or someone you know is in dire need of quick cash for personal or business need, don't sweat it or get depressed over the issue.

Just contact me.

Let's talk. I just might be the solution to your genuine financial need.

So quit the worrying as a solution is staring you in the face.

Just initiate the contact.

aameyah:
All I’d say is to give him space. May God bless you all so one does not have to look at the other for sustenance. Your reasons for hating the wife though. You said her mother lost her husband and went back home with her daughter. What was she supposed to do? Stay back and get inherited by one of her in-laws like a piece of furniture? Una get am for hand

Why start with a good advise and inject some condemnation later?

Well, you're female I guess, so I understand.

Helada:
Go and make money... When you don make money na him go find you.

Dat one dey too.

Elliot2:
Seriously! Individualism is the bane of family unity

Couldn't be more correct.

Your statement says it all... a true paradox if ever there was one!

Useful1:
I really feel for the op. The op said that his family members are not interested in his (2nd son's money now) but in that natural blood bond that should exist among people of same family to be in his family.
None of us chose where we'll be born, or the individuals that'll constitute our siblings. The blood affinity that runs in a family is so strong that it cannot be wished away or be broken by anything in this life. He needs love, peace, and agape relationship among his siblings.
This type changeth not except by prayer and fasting. It's beyond ordinary. I've similar situation right now.

You perfectly understand the burden the man is carrying.

Mires:
Hmmm!!! One who hasn't gone through this won't understand.

Hear ye!

They just won't!

walexbiz:
See don't mind the ididots here saying you should bother him that it is his money. You see if anything happens to him you the immediate family would be called upon to assist yet when he has money he ignoring you all. In his case what you should do is to give him " he doesn't exist treatment " Anytime you see him just ignore him like he never existed, if he has any occasion don't attend, anytime anyone ask of him tell them to ask of someone else. When you abandon him he will get the message that he is nobody and his brain will reset.
A friend of mine whose uncle lived in their house all through his life in their house and when he traveled abroad began to exhibit something similar to this attitude and immediately my formed and his sibling gave him the ignoring attitude he changed kiakia. Infact the last time he came back he apologized and went visiting my friend and sibling in their respective home as theya re all grown ups.

A lot of time this method, though extreme works but, remember, it's dicey...he may just call their bluff and a resultant generational war is birthed.

So,

What do I think?

Let them have more heartfelt talk like others have advised. Just the brother and the parents and the elder siblings. A no-holds-barred talk but, he should be informed that some very hurtful words may be said and in these instances, it shouldn't be about defence but total acceptance of "all" accusations even when innocent for peace peace to reign which is the greater good.

Deltatoto:
una moto good we no get keke we are 9 my elder sister is one of d ppl u see on national tv when they are talking of immigration.she no send us only her husband ppl we no send her too she’s the first child I’m the last child.Today d only thg she has more than me is power I belive say I get cash pass her.guy go hustle I always told myself that if I were d only child I will still survive.

Thumbs up!

Fhemmmy:
Simple solution, use same reasons that made him estranged to draw him close.... Go to his wife, Burry the pride and apologize to her thoroughly and love her genuinely, she will surely turn around and make your brother love you and the family again.

Begging your pardon, why do y:all keep feeling wives are the reason husbands act funny towards extended family?

Yes, I agree it abounds, but, we gotta fight the stereotype, in a lot of cases it isin't so. Some men are just who they are...they won't change. The wife may have absolutely nothing to do with his attitude.

nick50:
Op I won't want to sound rude but please have ur father ever took all of u to the lab for a DNA test?..if no pls advice him to go for it now before it will be too late

Hehehehe...funny take on the issue but deep still.

pocohantas:
I can accurately guess what part of the country you are from and this is not me being tribalistic. Always fighting their brother's wife, expecting him to throw her away and bring them in. Sorry, not every man would do that. You people should make peace with the wife first. Na from her una fit get the brother...

Till then, you all will remain like the Okoye's (i.e) PSquares

By the way, I noticed this thing is very common is large families. They will have different parties in one nuclear family- PDP, APC, APGA... I can't deal mehn...

If you are a Nigerian woman and you marry the pillar of a home, be very prepared.

Expected more from you. A deeper insight to the issue at hand.

Well, you weren't put here to live up to my expectations anyway.

shogsman:
Did you even read the write up

I stopped bothering to quote and enlighten them.

Leave them be. The OP should be wise enought to pay attention to relevant posts and not these balderdash from folks who didn't read, read and couldn't comprehend or follow up on OP's comment.

A lot of times I wonder why people bring deep and troubling issues here? While I agree that there are matured and sensible folks who may throw light on these issues, the majority are just here to just "type" nonsense never knowing how they may be worsening issues depending on the psychological make-up of the individual asking for help or advice.

I tell folks to be careful what they say to others needing help as you might just be saving or killing a life. If the issue is beyond your level of wisdom, gently waka pass rather than confounding issues

Imagine folks attacking the OP inspite of repeated clarifications he's made...you can tell the OP is hurting deep inside and folks here are reducing the issue to "entitlement", "wicked wife", "lazy brother" etc.

Jeez!

peeps4u:
From your post, his withdrawal started since his marital choice. I advise the family, siblings and parents, begin to show his wife love. You can't have your brother's ears when he still feels you all hate his wife.

I'm beginning to think the wife has nothing to do with this.

The issue is with the man. You may be surprised how hard the woman is fighting for the family but Oga, nor gree, he prefers to hide behind the "Una no accept my wife" pillar thus placing suspicion on the innocent wife. A lot of women are suffering for things they are totally innocent of in today:s marriages.