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You were advised to stop being a people pleaser.
Why did you take your husband in when you rented a new place just because someone told you to forgive him and he promised to change.

You refused to take our advice.

Newborn27:
I became very furious, I felt like stabbing him...I shouted...aaahhh! My phone??!! He said do your worse! I'd beat you up! He was coming closer, I banged the door...locked it up ...ran downstairs and locked the entrance gate and dashed to the police station in the rain.

On getting there I met the officers .they told me they can't follow me cos they warned me to allow them teach him a lesson the last time I was still doing lovey dovey....that I should go home and face it... when I'm ready I should do the needful, I knelt down and begged that I'm ready tonight...I never expected him to be this callous.. he just smashed my phone...the phone I bought 3months ago with my hard earned money... I sobbed.


After few minutes, their Boss told them to follow me in the rain.


On getting home...I met our chief tenant at the gate, he restricted the policemen from entering the compound..


He said he was highly disappointed in me...how could I call the cops on my husband? The father of my kids? The policemen replied saying..."Mr Man, if you know this young lady's story, you'd be the one to hand him over to be taught a few lesson at the station"

The man insisted that they mustn't arrest him...then the policeman said he had a few words to tell him....they entered and the policemen schooled him on how cruel he had been and how appreciative he should have been for having a wife like me....he promised to be back any moment I call again that to avoid him coming again...he should put his shit together....he apologized and told me to give a call anytime, the chief tenant gave them 5k and they left.



I sobbed and wailed bitterly....I felt cheated in the men's world....the chief tenant begged me to settle it amicably.



I couldn't catch a sleep all through the night...evil thoughts kept hovering in my head....he just kept mute....since that Thursday...no single word from him...my phone is just blank with different shades of color.. cracked and bend... totally damaged.


I called one of my students in the street to lend me her phone which I used in updating this write up?


My fellow Nairalanders
What do I do? You sent me out...I moved...now you're making me miserable.


I might not be opportune to reply mentions as I have no phone... please drop your advice I'd find a way of reading on the next person I'd borrow phone from.

I'm in a dilemma and am upset.

I inserted my sim in my torch phone for calls.


08163543897
My number IF anyone care to check on us....cos I don't know what might happen in the next minute.




Thanks for reading through.


Shalom

Who sent you out??
Your stubbornness brought you were you are at the moment not nairalanders.
You were begged, advised and warned in the other thread to go back to your fathers house and plan from there.
Yet, you were adamant.
When you talked about renting a house, nobody supported you, people asked you questions, they asked how you intend to keep paying rent with your meagre salary while also taking responsibility of your two kids.
You ignored and still went ahead to do what was in your mind.
Now you are trying to blame nairalanders for your mistakes.
Did we tell you to rent a house?
Did we tell you to invite your husband to live with you in the new house?
Pls quit the blame game and face your mistakes squarely.

SALVAI:
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LadySarah:
But even if they do, what are we gonna do with them?

To show everybody who he really is.
A paedophile.
So people can be careful and watch their kids around him like a hawk.

bjprodint1:
Chinedu monikers are mnuelklitcho Embryo4040 cirusx1 or cirusxi

Are you sure because these monikers don't exist.

Pochettino:
Ask yourself that very stupid question

Well, it's obvious who you really are.
I won't bother to trade words with you so you don't transfer your negativity to me the way you have been transferring to innocent men.
Good luck.

Pochettino:
We women were created to bring down men & destroy their destinies.
I wonder why men don't know this yet.

Are you a woman or just a man disguising as a woman

udoji2021:
I just come across a thread about this topic and felt like contributing on it.


https://www.nairaland.com/6703059/struggling-hard-money-hasnt-come


Guys, I will not beat around the bush, getting married when you are not financially bouyant is the greatest mistake that can NEVER be corrected, infact, it's a sin and against natural laws to bring someone's daughter to your house when you struggling to take care of yourself and consequently starts laying foundation of poverty that will last for generations if not forever.




WHY?



Experience is the best teacher, I'm a victim of such circumstances and I know what I face in that type of marriage and is still facing. When you make such mistake, you will start sleeping abnormally which is the first sign of things to come, it will then leads to over thinking and depression. Forget about family members, no one will be there to help you when you needed their help. Begging to feed or meet your financial obligations is even worst cos first, the insults you will receive can make you commit suicide, and if you start this begging, people will always give you fake promises, the time that you would have used in doing productive something will be on moving from one place to another or staying online to reply people. Forget about all this motivational speakers cos you will only see another motivational quote from them when the sh*t hits the fan.


Secondly, the saying that someone obtain favor from Whatever God when you are marriage is also false to some extent, God don't pour manna from heaven this days as was reported in the Bible (don't know if this is even true), get married and sit at home waiting for favor from the Lord and see if you didn't die of hunger within days.


Most painful part is that, you may end up suffering for another person children ignorantly, HOW?
Let me give an example, I went to one politician for help and this man told me to back later, he later sent someone to call my wife and start telling her to sleep with him (heavy pregnant woman o) before he can help. I was lucky that my wife told me about it with proof of what the man was doing, that was the day I stopped calling him. Now, what if she agreed without telling me and continued after she birth?
Guys, hustle and settle down first marriage and thank me later.



Lastly, all this girls will keep telling you that I will manage, I will manage, but if they finally come and stay with you, they will not manage again. Infact, that is how some women have finally taken over their houses and start maltreating the husbands for been weak.



In a nutshell, I'm of the opinion that a guy should hustle and have money, hustle hard again and have more money before he can start thinking of marriage.

Cc: Lalasticlala

Thank you for this beautiful piece. The problem is the people with strong coconut head, they will read and still make the same mistake.

kennybabs1980:
How can a pastor who is been continually denied sex by his wife handle the situation? Not really that the pastor is suspecting that his wife is cheating on him, the woman don't like sex and could stay months without sex and has consistently been telling her hubby the pastor that sex is not food.
Help a home please, the pastor said he may be forced to leave his pastoral duties and seek for sex outside marriage.

Tell him to pray for God to change his wife or he should use money to seduce her. Women love money and gifts.
Adultery is a great sin.

What are you hiding?
Why did you abandon the former thread after someone volunteered to help you?
A female like you.

Sandrakens:
My name is Kenneth Sandra, a student of Federal polytechnic nekede owerri, IMO state. I lost my father on july 2020, he was suffering from partial stroke so after every trial to save his life he gave up. He is the breadwinner of the family so since then life have been so difficult for me and my mother and siblings.My mum sell food by the road side while my siblings are still tender. I can't go back to school again cuss of lack of financial capacity. I am in my HND 1 and I am among the best students we have in my department and I made excellent result in my last semester exam. I really need to finish my studies cuss that's the promise my father made to me before death snatch him away from me. Please brethren help me i want to complete my studies, I don't want to be a dropout please. Any assistant can go a long way in my life and I will be forever grateful.Thanks and God bless.

I am starting to suspect you are Scam.
So you ignored the former thread you created to open a new one.
I am sure it's because you couldn't provide all the evidences you were asked to upload.
Someone already volunteered to pay school fees in full, she only needs evidence that you are genuine, yet you ignored to open another thread begging for help again.

Layinkaaah:

Good morning.

VlamesIffect:
You must really be bored or not having a gainful thing to do to go through my post from a while back.

Don't let whatever you see or read online affect reality.
Personally nairaland is a place for some of us to engage in banters we don't do in the corporate world.

If we were to meet in person i doubt you would be able to say anything other than Good day sir.

I rest my case.

VlamesIffect:
It's you i want.

No need to argue with you anymore. This user already gave a summary about you but what I find funny is you saying his mum didn't raise him well.
What an irony coming from someone who is a bet addict, patronises prostitutes, begs for money to hook his friends with girls and has no positive impact...hmmmm.

VlamesIffect:
Na you dey advertise.

I pay well. All is to have fun.

I do stand in the middle of the road half naked with your sisters, it's unfair if you patronize me and you don't patronize them.
You too think about it.

VlamesIffect:
Na you dey advertise.

I pay well. All is to have fun.

And I am not disputing that fact.
I only told you to patronise your sisters first, then call me after.
It's as simple as ABC.
No need to argue or fight about this.
We are both matured now dear.

VlamesIffect:
This one wey you sabi every every come make i patronize you.

No problem but after you are done with your sisters.

VTJN:


Who do us this thing for this country kwan

Everybody just dey so greedy and gullible

I just tire for this country

People are too lazy to work.
They want fast money.

Mozino007:
I don't think she is a scammer,I have done little research about the lady on FB n her father actually died at d afformentiond date but what pained pass was that she's yet to respond.......Are u thinking what I'm thinking?

What are you even saying?
Are you her accomplice?
How can someone be in 300level in a polytechnic?
Is that even possible?

Sandrakens:
My name is Kenneth Sandra, a student of Federal polytechnic nekede owerri, IMO state. I lost my father on july 2020, he was suffering from partial stroke so after every trial to save his life he gave up. He is the breadwinner of the family so since then life have been so difficult for me and my mother and siblings.My mum sell food by the road side while my siblings are still tender. I can't go back to school again cuss of lack of financial capacity. I am in my 300l and I am among the best students we have in my department and I made excellent result in my last semester exam. I really need to finish my studies cuss that's the promise my father made to me before death snatch him away from me. Please brethren help me i want to complete my studies, I don't want to be a dropout please. Any assistant can go a long way in my life and I will be forever grateful. Below is the picture of my school id card.Thanks and God bless.

This scammer is still a learner.
Please upgrade your skills.

patani:
Talk to me.. I'm outside Nigeria n be assured we won't meet
Quote me if u still Wana talk

Good.