Lamanii22:
oh my daughter did this too, I gave her abara on her bum bum, she’s been going to the potty by herself now…. So a lil spank once in a while is not bad…

keepingmum:
I have read your previous posts and it appears that whilst your husband was cheating on you with multiple ladies, cheating wasnt a deal breaker for you: it was an irritant but not a deal breaker.
However when he made moves to take in a 2nd wife, you drew the line and bounced off the marriage whilst pregnant. With no finances, zero plans for your self or children.

You are still in the same town abuja with your husband, inconveniencing your parents (by living with them), inconveniencing nairalanders (by begging for money and antenatal list items) whilst your husband is gallivanting around abj spending money on others. When your 3yr old son starts school who will pay his tuition/lunch money/uniforms/bus fare etc??

My words may be harsh and i apologise in advance. If you were my friend or sister, i would advise that you go back to your husband’s home, he didnt drive you. You are pregnant and legally married. Stay there and have your children whilst he remains financially responsible. Then plan your exit properly if you decide that you still want to leave the marriage. It might take months or years but plan properly because this route you have taken, is setting your children for suffering.

Dont allow emotions cause younto make irrational decisions

Em222:
I am a graduate but lost my job so am struggling to come back to my real self so I need a working class or real time bussiness woman who will help me to come back let's build a home together I am a litle bit fair tall handsome youngman in my early 30s so am looking for a serious woman within the age range of 27 to 42 to marry lets start making kids no much time so if u r interested u can call me or chat me let's discuss I am serious about this 08164084891

Focus99:
Gurus in the house how're you all doing?

If a tier 4 dependent is able to switch visa to tdier 2 (carework to be precise) can they apply for IHS refund and will the total amount of money paid for IHS be refunded?

Secondly, what and what is classified as public funds?

nadel:
greetings everyone.......make pesin help me credit my account make i chop food...first bank 3140550545. God bless

Road2Success:
Hello nairalanders,

Please I will want you all to read this. though I am not a good writer. I rented an apartment somewhere on the Lagos island. We are just 4 in the compound. When I parked into my apartment my wife came with a pregnancy but we lost the baby when she gave birth to the boy. The following year she got pregnant again, The baby also died the day she gave birth. I am not a religious person but my wife is closer to God. She has been telling me about this compound but I just don't have any reason to think or suspect anything.

Lemme tell you in my compound if one of us is working the others will lose there job. I have no reason to be suspecting anything untill I heard that one of the tenants is owning our landlord 2 years rent and our landlord didn't raise voice. In this Lagos that I know landlord don't joke with house rent. Our landlord don't bother us for rent. Sometimes I will be the one sending the house rent to him without him even asking.

I also heard that was the same thing that happened to previous occupants. They lived there without paying for many years and the landlord didnt disturb them.

I won't say our live is better in this house. We are just struggling to survive. Currently I am the only one working while others don't have a job. I am beginning to doubt if our landlord is truly a generous man as we do called him, since he don't bother us for rent.

My wife have lost two pregnancy in this house. I have been jobless many times in this house. I honestly need people opinion on this matter.

Is this house diabolic or the landlord is just a generous man

Moderators please help me move this to front page

Em222:
I am a graduate but lost my job so am struggling to come back to my real self so I need a working class or real time bussiness woman who will help me to come back let's build a home together I am a litle bit fair tall handsome youngman in my early 30s so am looking for a serious woman within the age range of 27 to 42 to marry lets start making kids no much time so if u r interested u can call me or chat me let's discuss I am serious about this 08164084891

Oboh662:



Thank you. I didn't want to involve my family for this matter but the way things has now escalate , I have to involve them I will talk to my parents today.

Oboh662:
Adnin do not push this to the front page

I've posted some weeks ago about my wife family wanted us to take over her late sister twins children she left behind, I have refused because I am not financially buoyant and it has caused a lot of problems between my wife and I even her family thinks that I am heartless for refusing to help these orphans.
Few weeks ago my wife junior called to say that my mother in law was sick and she want my wife to visit her and I have agreed for her to visit. She left for a week and when she returned back she said that her mother is seriously sick and she want her and the twins to moved in until she recovered. I've told her she can go back to her village and comes back while her mother recover and she refused saying it will be better for her to moved in with us because the environment is better than in the village.
I immediately knew that her mother is actually not sick and they had both plan for her mother to move in so she can leave the twins with us. I refused and I've told her I have no problem for her to go and stay in the village with her mother until she recover.she said no and she reported to her mother saying I don't want her to come in my house and she called me crying saying that I refused her daughter to take care of her and if she dies the blame will be on me . I just don't understand why my wife and her people want me to carry the responsibility that doesn't belong me. The children father is alive they don't want to bother him he is roaming free while they are on my neck to take these babies knowing full well that I am not financially buoyant and she alone won't be able to handle 3 babies at the same which mean she will also needs a helper maybe one of her younger one might have to come and stay with us to help her with the babies she will also become my responsibility.
I want them to leave me alone and focus on the children father and I just don't know what to do so they can leave me alone. I am sick and tired of this situations it has started to stress me..what do I do to stop them ?

Onulum:
Please, I need candid advice.
I barred my wife from talking with one of her ex that I am uncomfortable with and have some suspicion.

Yesterday, he called her and she ignored and claimed it was a flash because I was around, at least I think so. I called him back and when he knew I was the one, he ended the call and switched of the phone.

Yesterday evening, I realized that my wife tried reaching out to him and even sent him a text.

The text is attached here.

I feel my suspicion has been confirmed.

What should I do? I'm thinking of ending the marriage.

yumyogo:
My Ex husband took a loan with my phone from fairmoney, this was days before we went our separate ways. He td me he needed to fix the car etc and so he borrowed 375k from fairmoney with my phone to pay back over a 600k.

I advised him against it but he was like, he'd be selling a house we had in Kuje around January or February and he'd clear it all.

Now, we're not together fairmoney is on my neck and I'm pregnant. I've even started working just to see if I can raise a little. He has only managed to pay 30k and fairmoney is threatening to take other measures.

I've sent them a mail twice to explain everything and they're insisting because my BVN and login details were used that I will have to pay the loan.

Are there other measures I can take? If I sell the properties I have with me I may not raise the complete money. I've pleaded with them to let me visit their office one on one with Proof. I usually borrow money from them but never have I defaulted for one day.

I can't think of any step to take legally to put an end or bring about a solution to this. I'll really appreciate suggestions as to what I can do please

space9880:
happy birthday

BlueRayDick:
Ofada rice x the sauce + fish

LittleBigDick:
I got raped by a female co-worker yesterday being Friday. We went out for drinks after work just as co-workers and all was fine. We were having an ok time, then suddenly I started feeling bleeped. Like super drunk in a way I'd never felt before. I only had 3 drinks so there's no way. There's no fucking way . I think this bitch drugged me?
I vaguely remember her pushing me into her car. I just woke up naked, in what I guess was her house with this bitch asleep next to me too. I got my clothes and quietly left. I still feel really bleeped, dizzy and nauseous. Few minutes outside her house I hop onboard an uber going to my house . I didn't want this. I didn't ask for this. Wtf do I do? I'm going to have to see her at work on Monday. Wtf do I do?

westerner147:
God Almighty has bless'd us with a bouncing baby girl
Just look at our bundle of joy!
🥰🥰
May she be a source of joy, blessings and wealth to our family.

And to those seeking this type of gift, God will do it for you. Amen

ahnie:
Very useless man,you see them alot online abusing women,but offline their problem huge pass mountain everest.

He dey online forming one stupid redpillers ,such an unfortunate oloriburuku to a wonderful wife,who he can't provide for,yet e go see money take dey carry calabar girl jump from one dingbat brothel to the other

Call the calabar girl.

Meektunz:
A neighbour of mine whom we stay in the same compound borrowed 30k from me on the 3rd of January, 2023 with the promise to pay back that same week. Before i knew it, that week passed but he didn't pay back, he even kept quiet as if nothing happened. After 3 weeks i decided to ask him about the money two days ago(Sunday), telling him i'll be making use of the money on Tuesday which is today, He then promised to rally round and raise the money yesterday. I waited on him but still didn't hear anything from him again, not even a call knowing fully well i'll be using the money today. The funny thing is that his wife came and borrowed just 1 thousand naira from me through my wife last week friday promising to pay back that same day too but till today she has also not payed, she just kept telling my wife please today, tomorrow, next tomorrow and so on, that's just the language.

Please guys what action should I take? Now i see why alot of people do not help no matter what.
Honestly, I didn't give him out of abundance of having, but for the value of friendship. There was a time he borrowed just 3k from me, he took alot of time before paying back.

Tk4all:
I think she should go with the abortion option.

6 children in our present naija no be small thing.

ananne:


Wow. I have a book on Amazon for up to a year now and I haven't made a dime from it. Is there anything I aint doing right? It's a crime novel. Can you share some tips with me?

Why not try and reactivate your account..

usj:
I shouldn't be saying this, but, happy new year!
So, I have a little math question for you. This is just for fun. So, please don't spoil the show. RULE: without using calculator solve the follow

sqlPAIN:
My wife just gave birth to my second child of recent and has been in the hospital for almost a week. Yesterday I went to the hospital to bring her and the new born to the house after a long stay at the hospital but to my greatest surprise, my father refused to allow us into the house. He had even already brought out our belongings. Me and my dad have not been in good terms since I got married to my wife in 3 years ago(even before then). He has been on my neck for years now, constantly and violently reminding me of how I should have left his house year ago and go live on my own, constantly throwing insult at me, telling me how I'm a disgrace to him and men in general, saying he regrets birthing me. I'm constantly letting him know that I'm not yet ready financially to stand on my own but he wouldn't listen. We've had countless fight turned physical because of this issue. Yesterday was the tip of the iceberg for me because I'm planning on arresting him... He brought out our belongings and my first child, saying we would not sleep in the house. We were all outside from morning till evening, I had to go beg a neighbour to helpe accommodate my wife and new born for the mean time. I'm currently typing this from a friend's place. I'm planning on arresting him because how can someone be so wicked and heartless to your own son.

Obavoh:
Happy birthday to me. I am a New Year’s baby.

Happy new year to you all. Say a prayer for me.

Nextlife1:

Honestly I don't know what is wrong with me.

Nextlife1:

She never accepted at all but I have all her records
Dates and times she visited her boyfriend.

ahnie:

Hmmmm long I do not think so.....if his gbola is long,he must have bn able to hook a lady and glolafied her.
So that one is strike out.


Curvy,curvy gbola .....let me think,I m guessing he must have done local surgery by taking enough burantashi(male ajubaise) to restructuring it from long gbola to curvey gbola and he needs a mature lady to test it on, hopefully she would be gbolafied and fall in bills hook,line and sinker

Em222:
I am a graduate but lost my job so am struggling to come back to my real self so I need a working class or real time bussiness woman who will help me to come back let's build a home together I am a litle bit fair tall handsome youngman in my early 30s so am looking for a serious woman within the age range of 27 to 42 to marry lets start making kids no much time so if u r interested u can call me or chat me let's discuss I am serious about this 08164084891