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op no matter how hard you satisfy a lady, if she wanna cheat on you, she will. some girls are just too loose and lack self control.

Op, take it as part of life and move on. He may come around someday and may be too late for him to have you back. He didn't act like a man but acted childishly.

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op, everyone above me has given you the right advise to move on and I will urge you to gladly forget about this confuse and manipulative girlfriend of yours and move on with your life without looking back.

the truth is. .. this girlfriend of yours never love you from the on set. everything she did was for you to think she loves you. if she loves you, there won't be change in her behavior but she never love you.

so, stop chasing the shadow so that you don't end up in tears. pick up your broken heart and move on.

you need to always remind yourself of this words that " before she came into your life, you were happy and that your happiness does not depend on her"

she has her life to live. she following her path that may lead her to destruction in the later future because she is a confuse girl who doesn't know what she wants. she claimed to be a virgin but she has random guys and she has friends (girls) that influence her. she is not a virgin.

so bro, move on and be happy with yourself. your main priority is to be successful and be rich. let that be your challenge and not this confuse girl of yours

Travis22:
Just confused

op, that girl is manipulating your feelings. she knows you are very weak and perhaps you love her more. she is the one who initiated the breakup. let her end it herself. she knows what she is doing. imagine the way she addressed you...."hey" she has too many baggage.

my advise is that just leave her alone. this kind of girl will cheat on you and will see nothing bad in it. just leave her alone by giving her space.. Give her space and let her live her life. you have your life to live too

op, leave that b.itch alone. she ain't worth your love. the truth is you are just her option but not her choice. she is seeing other guy (guys). just move on with your life. she is trying to manipulate you because she knows you are so weak. just end the relationship yourself so that she will feel the pain more instead of her ending it.

Caramelskin:
Are you a relationship counselor? See analysis.

I'm fucking angry with the op because she is not sincere with herself. it will always end in tears.

op, first and foremost, you are a cheater. you said you were in a toxic relationship with your ex but you were cheating with another guy (your fuckmate) at the same time. since you were in a toxic relationship, you should have ended the relationship and move on with your fuckmate but you chose not to end the relationship and decided to cheat.

Your fuckmate knows that since you can cheat with your ex, you will definitely cheat behind his back too. so, he decided not to take you serious. I think the reason why you said you love him is because he Bleep you well more than your ex. maybe he satisfy you well.

op just know that you are not in love with your fuckmate. you are lust and your fuckmate never love you from the very beginning. he just wanted to Bleep you too that is why he was doing all those caring attitude stuff. your fuckmate is also stupid by telling you to end your previous relationship because he is selfish. he sees you as someone who loves sex like him and nothing more.

like what most people above me keeping saying...it will surely end in tears.

lastly, op you are a professional cheater. you will keep cheating with random guys and you can never have a stable relationship because you will always compare any of your partners with your ex, fuckmate, etc. you are just sex freak and nothing more

Youngpo413:
Love,money,attention,excess fùck and she still cheats? Is she a teenager?

she is not teenager. I think she lacks self control

the op is so proud and arrogant. I read how she replied to people comments. it's a shame. are you the only one that graduated with a good result? there are so many people who came out with a good grade and they aren't proud like this perfidious op. I graduated with 5.00CGPA. come lemme take care of your entire generation... rubbish

op, all the dreams and aspirations you want your boyfriend to follow, have you been able to achieve all these goals? If no, then go and sit down and stop being too needy. stop putting pressure on your bf and stop sounding as if you are better off than him. if you are better than him, why are you still with him?I'm sorry to say that you are selfish and self centered. you want things to be your own ways but you don't want him to live his life. your bf is even cool with you and you are taking his simplicity for granted. also, you are this kind of woman that will never be satisfy. you will always like to compare. Go and sit down and stop disturbing us with your delusional goals that hasn't taken you anywhere .

Majority of people keep saying do not take a cheating girlfriend back. They said just breakup with her and move on with your life. They further say that there are so many fishes in the river.

Here is my thought and I want to see other people opinions too.

Now, let say I have a GF that cheated behind my back (it's true). let say I couldn't bear it and I break up with her. She became my ex. I move on with my life to give another girl a chance into my life. The new girl I met was an ex to someone else. Let say I ask her about her past and why she broke up with her former boyfriend. She will never tell me the true even if she cheated. she will twist her story so as to paint her ex boyfriend bad.

Also, my ex girlfriend will meet another guy and she will never tell the guy why she became an ex. she will not even tell the guy how she cheated with some random guys. Anything she tells the guy, the guy will take it that way because he wasn't in her past.


However, there are so many fishes in the river. This is what everyone keeps saying. majority of the fishes in the rivers are ex to someone else and the cycle continue that way. majority of these fishes in the river have cheated one way or the other and some may realise their mistake and adjust

Guys and Girls in NL, if this is the case, why is it hard to give a cheating GF another chance in order to see if she will amend? What if the next Girl you meet whom happened to be someone ex is far worst than your your cheating GF?

Don't you think life is unfair most time? Its really hard to find someone who is loyal and someone who has no cheating tendency. I'm always happy for those who meet their rightful partner. It takes the grace of God to find a loyal and submissive woman.

Emmanuelcann:
Hey arrogantbro I encountered something similar in life. I chose to forgive (he who has no sin should cast the first stone). I have never regretted that decision. I married her and she's been a godsend. It's your life, your decision!

you are lucky she change. my fiancée to be cheated behind my back and it was so hard for me to end the relationship because I have nurture the relationship for 3yr and beside I love her so much. i provide for all her needs, gave her 100% attention, love, care, etc. i also f.uck her well that she always tell me how tired she is and she felt like squirting. she even fan her p.ssy most time. she knows that i am not a thousandnaire and money is not the problem but she cheated behind my back.I forgave her and gave her a second chance but I'm having this mix feelings that she may not change her ways. it's hard to trust her again.

dairykidd:
Its just the way it is.. You know u women can be messy when u start fvcking someone. You get all emotional and start catching feelings n sh1t. But men view sex for what it is, sex. I can fvck an enemy to advance my course, we can easily fvck without any emotions. Btw its a man's world.

exactly. some who cheat are always very emotional with person they cheat with. even if the person is not good at sex, they will still feel emotional for that person. but men who cheat are not emotional no matter how good the f.uck is. the man will always treasure his girl well but the reverse is the case for women that cheat. they start having double feeling for their rightful partner and the one they cheat with. I always tell people that when men cheat, its for pleasure and nothing more but in terms of women that cheat, it goes beyond pleasure rather it has deeper emotions. women who cheat become pitiful when caught but once they are not caught, they feel they are smart and are doing the right cheat. they will always tell theirself this words that ", after all he hasn't married me and I have right to cheat". I fear women that cheat.

dairykidd:
Its just the way it is.. You know u women can be messy when u start fvcking someone. You get all emotional and start catching feelings n sh1t. But men view sex for what it is, sex. I can fvck an enemy to advance my course, we can easily fvck without any emotions. Btw its a man's world.

exactly. some who cheat are always very emotional with person they cheat with. even if the person is not good at sex, they will still feel emotional for that person. but men who cheat are not emotional no matter how good the f.uck is. the man will always treasure his girl well but the reverse is the case for women that cheat. they start having double feeling for their rightful partner and the one they cheat with. I always tell people that when cheat, its for pleasure and nothing more but in terms of women that cheat, it goes beyond pleasure rather it has deeper emotions. women who cheat become pitiful when caught but once they are not caught, they feel they are smart and are doing the right cheat. they will always tell theirself this words that ", after all he hasn't married me and I have right to cheat". I fear women that cheat.

I have watch the movie. its a nollywood movie. I have forgotten the title

Sirvingeo:
So heartbreaking. Ladies will not understand how we men feel when our partners seek sexual pleasure outside. Our ego is bruised. The thought of your wife having sex with another person oh m God !!! I wonder why God put such mind in us?

you will now think you are not hitting her well when goes outside to f.uck. it will make you think you are not doing the right thing. the truth is... it is not your fault but her choice to cheat behind your back. no matter how you provide for your girlfriend/fiancée/wife, if she wants to cheat she will. no matter how you gave her 100% care, attention, love etc. she will still cheat on you if she wants to. no matter how you f.uck the hell out of her, she will still cheat. my wife to be cheated behind my back despite all the loves , attention, care etc that I show to her. I f.uck the hell out of her to the point that she always to beg me to stop because she is so tired and she felt like squirting. imagine she fan her p.ssy most time when i f.uck her yet she cheated on me. she knows money isn't the problem and she knows that I'm not a thousandnaire but she still cheated. it makes me get more confuse about women and what they really want. its hard to find loyal girl. even the girl you nurture for 3-5yrs will surely cheat because she just want to do what other girls are doing. I just don't know.

Nonsoboy4life:
No one knows what they want oo...money is not my problem too, I paid for most her expenses like house rent , some additional cash and the rest

that is the reason why I get more confuse. when you asked them why they cheat, they can't give definite reasons why they cheat.

Dande55:
Naso una deh always talk when a girl seeks for better option.
Besides, your sex game might be poor, learn to satisfy your woman.

no matter how hard you Bleep and satisfy your gf, if she wants to cheat, she will still cheat. my gf is an example. I Bleep her to the point she tells me how tired she is and sometimes feel like squirting. she even fan her p.ssy but she still cheated behind my back. please note that I provided for all her need, love her 100%, gave her 100% attention, etc. she knows I'm not a thousandnaire but she still cheat. this makes me even get more confuse about what women want. its hard to find a loyal girl. I have not been so luck with relationship.

Kyom20:
Firstly, adultery being a grounds for divorce goes to both parties. The idea of women being able to stand cheating is not "natural", its what has been thought to them by generation after generation of down-trodden women who didnt have a choice but to stay with such men for various reasons such as lack of economic power, lack of oppurtunity, having too many children and a host of others.

Secondly, women do cheat, a lot actually. The difference with them is that while a man would often times be clumsy or careless, women are much more careful and secretive and when a woman embarks on a "revenge" mission she might not do it necessarily so you would find out but so she can also have some fun which she deprived herself of in the hopes that both parties would be faithful and also so she could feel wanted and desired.

Thirdly, inasmuch as men love to form hard guys in public and all that, there are a good number of men who dont leave a woman who has cheated on them. So dont be deceived by the fake rantings of men online, when a woman has gotten the key to his heart theres a whole lot of shit he would put up with. I just really wish more women knew this.

"Thirdly, inasmuch as men love to form hard guys in public and all that, there are a good number of men who dont leave a woman who has cheated on them."

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Kyom20:
Firstly, adultery being a grounds for divorce goes to both parties. The idea of women being able to stand cheating is not "natural", its what has been thought to them by generation after generation of down-trodden women who didnt have a choice but to stay with such men for various reasons such as lack of economic power, lack of oppurtunity, having too many children and a host of others.

Secondly, women do cheat, a lot actually. The difference with them is that while a man would often times be clumsy or careless, women are much more careful and secretive and when a woman embarks on a "revenge" mission she might not do it necessarily so you would find out but so she can also have some fun which she deprived herself of in the hopes that both parties would be faithful and also so she could feel wanted and desired.

Thirdly, inasmuch as men love to form hard guys in public and all that, there are a good number of men who dont leave a woman who has cheated on them. So dont be deceived by the fake rantings of men online, when a woman has gotten the key to his heart theres a whole lot of shit he would put up with. I just really wish more women knew this.

"Thirdly, inasmuch as men love to form hard guys in public and all that, there are a good number of men who dont leave a woman who has cheated on them."

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Kyom20:
Firstly, adultery being a grounds for divorce goes to both parties. The idea of women being able to stand cheating is not "natural", its what has been thought to them by generation after generation of down-trodden women who didnt have a choice but to stay with such men for various reasons such as lack of economic power, lack of oppurtunity, having too many children and a host of others.

Secondly, women do cheat, a lot actually. The difference with them is that while a man would often times be clumsy or careless, women are much more careful and secretive and when a woman embarks on a "revenge" mission she might not do it necessarily so you would find out but so she can also have some fun which she deprived herself of in the hopes that both parties would be faithful and also so she could feel wanted and desired.

Thirdly, inasmuch as men love to form hard guys in public and all that, there are a good number of men who dont leave a woman who has cheated on them. So dont be deceived by the fake rantings of men online, when a woman has gotten the key to his heart theres a whole lot of shit he would put up with. I just really wish more women knew this.

"Thirdly, inasmuch as men love to form hard guys in public and all that, there are a good number of men who dont leave a woman who has cheated on them."

can you give reasons why some guys don't leave a cheating woman?

this is very emotional. I wish I could narrate my emotional story too with my fiancée that screwed up big time but I don't have that energy to type big time.

op just move on and be a better person. you will still get marry. don't look at your age or compare yourself with your friends.

justine94:
thanks alot..I have spoken to her about this. ..but I want her to decide this on her own, ..I don't want to be the one who does so

Yes.. she needs to decide. you don't have to force her. I believe whatever you may be doing now will look as if you are forcing her because you want to know if she is into you the way you are into her. if you ask her if she wants to be with you, she will definitely tell you yes because she doesn't want you to feel bad but the truth is she got something else ringing in her mind. try to have one on one conversation in a cool place. ask her if she is tired of the relationship and if she is no longer interested or if she knows she has someone else in her life, she should just open up and you guys can end the relationship. Tell her you won't feel bad and you will take it as your faith.

anigbajumo:
My dear,it is not about throwing tantrums at women it is just the bitter truth,but not perculiar to all ladies rather than 98% of Nigerian women.Anytime I see a post like this on NL I always think it doesn't exist until my ex cheated on me just three months after I used my hard earned money to open shop for her,it was like a dream but reality,since then I bliv most topics about women on NL.Untill am ready to marry,that is when i can spend for any lady,for the past one year na to spend token then fuc like 2_3x and jump to next available chic,no time to keep on with one lady and keep billing me in one fictitious relationship.I can't do that shiit again,it is nothing but a scam.

bro, I couldn't believe it too when my gf cheated behind my back. if someone told me then that my gf will cheat behind my back, i wont beliv that person. this is someone I care for and I provide for all her need. she doesn't lack anything in the relationship. I Bleep her well that she always beg me to stop and she most time fan her p.ssy. she knows I'm not a thousandnaire but she still went ahead to cheat with someone who she met two months ago. I became so confuse about women. its really hard to find a loyal girl.

op, I understand you are doing everything possible to secure your gf because you love her and you are so much emotionally attach to her. so, it will be very bad if someone else steal your gf from you.

your gf should know that the fb guy is just trying to act like a cool guy just to get her. Your gf not being wise and mature enough will think the guy is a cool guy and perhaps start having feeling for him (not natural feeling). I want you to know that your gf will cheat behind your back with that guy if you don't act fast.

if truly your gf loves you, she will cut all contact with the guy or any other guys that will cause her problem in her relationship. if she loves you, she will endure with your character and perhaps tell you where you go wrong when you accuse her wrongly or when you do things and you may be thinking you are doing the right thing.

there is always issues in every relationship but with open communication you guys can be able to see where your faults lies and how you can solve those issues. it seems there is no open communication in your relationship and I want to believe you are the only one that is communicating while your gf is not open with you.

Thuglife2020:
Forgive her and always use your brain but trust is gone. Although she shouldn’t have done that from the start since you’re always there for her. Although it’s hard to forget but you can still give her second chance. I had a baby that cheated on me too and I forgave everything. And we good. Although she always feel insecure and never trust me because she know she messed up big time

You are right bro. She shouldn't have done that from the start because I provide for all her need and she never lack anything in life. I gave her 100% attention. I told her that the trust has been broken by her and if she is serious about keeping the relationship me, she will need to proove to him that i can trust her back. That means she will need to be willing to cut off all contact with any guys disturbing her including the guy she cheated with, even if that includes quitting your work.

Though, I have forgiven her but its hard to forget. I didn't change for her. I still do all the things I use to do for her including the caring stuff and all that. I'm watching her to see if she has change and if she has, i will continue with the wedding preparation because I already have the traditional lists her dad gave me. I'm not rushing myself up for her. I'm taking my time.

TheAfricaQueen:
Hypocrite of the highest order. So you cheated ist and you have made yourself a saint by giving her rules and regulations? Its karma working its beautiful magic on you.

This union is heading for a disaster as both of you have cheated and dont value each other.

I know I cheated on her but I never had extra affairs with those ladies. They are just fling and I pay them off.

I'm not a saint but I'm a man. It is preferable for a man to cheat even though it is bad than for woman (girlfriend/fiancée/wife) to cheat.

jonahhh:
Women will seek validation from other men once theyre sure you wont leave them... Women will love you and still have that one stubborn guy in their contact they play with which in most times ends up with random sex. If you leave your babe, trust me the next one might be worst...

You are right. She hasn't done that before and because her colleagues in her place of work have random guys that they play game with and she wants to join that click but she didn't know the field is not always green at the other side. She got the experience she needed and she got it in the hard way.

She has so many weakness which I have seen (level of thinking, somehow loose, lack self control, easily deceive, parental upbringing, level of exposure, I don't care attitude, etc) in her and may bring more problems if I marry her. I know her too well but she doesn't know herself and I'm trying to help her out so she wouldn't destroy her life. I have tried my best to let know her weakness but she doesn't see it as big deal. So, if she doesn't change her attitude after seeing a therapist, I will have to quit the relationship.

MajesticKris:
She didn't enjoy it and she went twice?? that guy told her something you haven't told her yet.. to make her go twice..

I think she is loose and lack self control.

CokeBar:
Great response! Kudos...

I hope she'd be the person you want her to be.

Meanwhile check for HIV and hepatitis.

I have taken hepatitis vaccine 4yr ago before I asked her out. The vaccine will last 10yr in my body. I intend to conduct HIV test for her but I'm planning to book an appointment with a therapist because I know she has so many weakness which I have seen (level of thinking, easily deceive, parental upbringing, level of exposure, I don't care attitude, etc) in her and may bring more problems if I marry her. I know her too well but she doesn't know herself and I'm trying to help her out so she wouldn't destroy her life. I have tried my best to let know her weakness but she doesn't see it as big deal. So, if she doesn't change her attitude after seeing a therapist, I will have to quit the relationship.

Homeboiy:
Even if I give her another chance

I must pay her back on the judgement day.

But na only a fo0l will give her a second chance when pregnancy was involved.

I understand you bro. As it being she wasn't pregnant, it would have been a separate thing. Though, she has terminated the pregnancy three weeks ago