Issue no. 1 already manifest itself : Sexually incompatible and none want to compromise.
Issue no. 2 :.

Hope you don't drag yourself into " for better and for worst "

Wishing them a happy married life full of understanding.

I wonder how someone who has not been taken to the alter to vow for the better and for worst is being accused of cheating.
Trait of insecure and over-possessive people..

Elder001:
The number of kids on this section eh.. I'm just tired of nairaland.

SMH

The kids learn through interaction with [b]Elder[/b]s. Their fellow kids do not have the requisite experience to impart to them.
So please don't get tired!
We need you Elders around.

tinubuUGLYwella:

I dont know why people that bear the name Chioma reason like this, the reason i dislike them. They are too loose and wayward for my liking and your comments here prove that fact. You see your life??

Of all the numerous Chiomas in Nigeria, in particular, and in the whole world, in general, are u using quite a few that you've interacted with to validated your assumption?

To me, the OP was behaving maturely until he fu'cked up by exposing their private chat online. Who is he trying to impress by doing that?
No matter what, one doesn't has to kiss and tell.

As for the lady, her behaviour is typical immaturity.
Some people suddenly become hostile, impulsively aggressive and bullyish when they desire and demand something from another person who turns them down, even if it's done in a polite manner.
Guys do it to ladies too.

blujoi:
I think you are wrong here. There a quite a number of Nigerians into S&M but its kept top secret. Its a culture thing, most Nigerians don't discuss their sexuality openly, they only do that within a tight circle of friends. And I bet you a lot of Nigerians have a colorful and vibrant sex life and escapades.

True!
I think the Op is presently struggling to come into terms with his inner urge.

pafo:
Abeg, I don't know what S & M means o.

I only know sadomasochism, and if that is what the op is implying, I think he doesn't know the meaning of it.

The OP is referring to slave & Mistress by s & M.

mhd5757:

Trust me I am a man. This is just a role that I like to play with a woman behind closed doors and is not like I want the woman to control me my whole life. I just want her to play the role of a dominaterix during sex.

You like to play with a woman behind closed doors. Yet you're wondering why you're not seeing most nigerians openly practising it. Or how many Nigerians' private lives have you accessed for you to have arrived at your conclusion?

In BDSM circles, guys, like your type, who do it only when they're on heat are termed as sexual slaves, in contrast with lifestyle slaves

Dominatrix:
P. S.... I really think certain words should never be censored on the sexuality section

Seconded!

mhd5757:


But if your partner submits him self to you wanting you to do these things to him, will you do it?

Knowing that she belongs to the "missionary sex" bandwagon, her husband will hardly open up to her. He would settle on a mistress, as his side chic, and be patronising her.

The wife would be left wondering why her husband is no longer interested in having sex with her. That is when we''ld see her thread in this forum, complaining and seeking advice on the matter.

mhd5757:

She gives me chills, gets my blood flowing and makes my heart beat so fast. Both her and the other one called dominaterix.

Each of them is open-minded and matured. You'll feel comfortable and expressive in the company of each.

Good luck!

Broke guys will agree with her in Toto.



So person cannot express appreciation for good gesture shown to him in peace.
Hmmm!

mhd5757:
If I submit myself to you, will you do all these things to me?

She'll do it for you. However, are you prepared to reward her efforts? She'ld be expending her energy and time as you're well aware.

Biglittlelois:
i feel people who do this bdsm, paingasm whatever have gone through some form of sexual assault at a tender age, they got soo used to it, it becomes normal, then they surf the net for painful experiences which turns to fantasies, then they eventually act on it hence bdsm, paingasm cos i cant imagine a normal human being who experience normal sex for the very first time would want to be tied up, flogged or pierced during sex the second time.

My opinion though

If you attribute paingasm, to those who relish it, to childhood sexual assaults, how do you account for their counterparts who derive sexual gratification from inflicting pain to their subjects ( tying them up and whipping them )?

Myzteriouz:
*Paingasm:
A paingasm is an orgasm that is achieved exclusively through pain stimuli. This phenomenon is closely associated with masochism. It is common to BDSM practices.

*How can paingasm be achieved:
A paingasm can be achieved through a variety of painful activities. This can include spanking, flogging, whipping, painful bondage, pain massage, biting, slapping, punching, or any other action that causes physical pain. Accessories like nipple clamps can be used to achieve paingasms or serve as added pain stimuli.

*Painslut:
Pain slut is a termed coined by the BSDM community to describe a person, usually a submissive, who enjoys extreme pain. This pain could be either physical or mental. In the BDSM community, pain is seen as a way to increase sensitivity to pleasure and create a sort of endorphin rush that participants find pleasurable..

Extreme pain can lead to serious injuries if the right precautions are not taken beforehand. To avoid injury, it's important for participants to stay within their limits and build up over time. Some pain sluts have talked about getting lost within the pain, which means they lose awareness of how much they are being hurt. This is why rules and safewords are so important in any sex play that involves pain. It is also important that participants only engage in this sort of play with someone they trust and who has their best interest at heart.

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This can best be achieved with Mistress/sub who are practising the lifestyle.
Most of those who advertise as dominatrix, their target is a finpig, for them to have the best interest of the sub at heart.

pocohantas:


I don't understand. Force it down for what?

That's a pervert. Some girls go about with this mentality that guys are always hórny. So, they think you should appreciate every unwanted advance from them. When the guy refuses, they start calling him mugu, impotent guy, jew man and all sorts.

Imagine if you were the one trying to pull her short.
I am sure you would have been sent out of camp ASAP.
How would a normal lady, try to grab a guy's díck? Jeez!

Some guys actually display the mentality of being desperate and always in dire need of sex - we see it often on this forum. They label others who refuse a girl's advances as impotent, mumu and so on. So the girls seeing that think it's the normal thing for men

In this case, the phrase " for better and for worst " would be replaced by " convenience ". People who cannot fit in for the former lifestyle would then have option with the latter.

pocohantas:


Bros, when some ladies make statements like "I can't put all my eggs in one basket"...what do you think it means?

It means they need shock absorbers to fall on to, in case they're suddenly left alone to fall.