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vani86:
APC - PDP - KOWA- CNN

party dont matter a lot to voters, the individuals integrity, honesty and public perception is what make many people vote for a particular person.

He won cuz the people see him as a better option not because he is in APC.

So please those shouting wailers stop, no need to rub your victory in their face. Enjoy your win

franchizy:
I condemn this results, i condemn it, i condemn it.
We will never accept this results, we wont accept it.
This is a big rape to democracy. An election PDP won massively.
Now overnight manipulation have turned the results to mockery.
We call on INEC to as a matter of urgency cancel this election or face our wrath.
The tears im sheding here will never go in vain.
Quote me and chukwu okike abiama will punish you.

Oh my God, what a fools paradise. Which way Nigetians ??

kestolove95:
Ipods ar more dan dat number...bt d problem is dat dey ar Not wel educated Nd don't knw abt facebook...but sir if u want drug pushers,ritualist, armrobber and 419...dey ipod Can provide millions of dem for u

jedaii:
jus imagin

Mrfixitxtech:
Nigeria Men are found being Loyal.. Watch this cheater video.

valkaka:
#1 Being Controlling

Showing signs of being overbearing, jealous, or in need of control will make any woman hate you very quickly

#2 Being Picky About Food

It's a shrimp, bro. Just eat it, or she'll know you are a complete and utter puss

#3 Straying Eyes

Don't take her for granted by acting like you are on the prowl, or you won't have her at

#4 Arrogance

To quote Borat: "Is it not true that woman have brain the size of squirrel?". Yeah, that kind of stuff.

#5 Not "Listening"

Whatever that old trope means

#6 Doing "Your Own Thing"

Whether it's with the boys or with the Xbox, doing things without her is a no-no.

you can freely add yours..........

Dandsome:
Mature couples don't “fall in love,” they step into it. Love isn't something you fall for; it's something you rise for.

Falling denotes lowering oneself, dropping down and being stuck somewhere lower than where you started. You have to get up from falling.

Love isn't like that — at least not with people who are doing it right. Immature couples fall; mature couples coast. Because love is either a passing game, or it's forever. Love is either wrong, or it's right. A couple is either mature or immature.

How do you know? How can you tell if your relationship is in it for the long haul or the two-month plummet everyone predicted behind your love-obsessed back?

First, it should be easy, from the beginning to end. There are no passionate fights with passionate make-up sex. There's no obsessive calling, texting or worrying.

There's no real drama. Because drama is for kids. Drama is for people who don't know how to have a relationship — who live by idealistic, preconceived notions that love must be wild and obsessive.

Love is easy. It's the easiest thing you've ever done. It's the calmest place in your life, the safest blanket you've ever worn. It's something that happens naturally; it doesn't need to be fought for day in and day out.

When you love someone, and he or she loves you, and there's no doubt to his or her feelings and no doubt to yours, that's peace of mind. A peace of mind you've never had before.. the kind that humbles and revives you.

A mature relationship lives by this peace of mind; immature ones drown in it.

Immature relationships ask questions; mature relationships answer them

Immature relationships are all about doubts. Does he love me? Is she cheating on me? Will we be together in two months?

Mature couples don't need to ask questions. They already know the answers, and they don't need reassurance from their partners.

They are comfortable and secure and free of doubt because mature love isn't about all those small questions, but a comfort in knowing the big one is answered.

Immature relationships leave you wanting something; mature relationships give you what you need

There's a void in immature relationships, an apparent absence and incessant worry that something's missing.

It eats away at you when you go to sleep or leave each other for just a few hours. It burns dimly when you're together, but you wave it off with sex and constant chatter.

Mature relationships have no void. There are no empty spaces or tiny cracks. There is never a feeling that something has been taken away or is leaving with the other person.

The love between the two mature people fills every crack in the fiber of their being they didn't know they had.

Immature relationships are striving to be one complete person; mature relationships are okay being two

Immature relationships are formed by two incomplete people. They are two halves trying to make one whole.

They are two people looking for something that can't be found in another person. They dominate each other, force themselves together and make one flawed mesh of a human.

Mature couples never strive to be one. They are two individual people looking to make two better people. The love between the two of them isn't about making both of them whole again, but more individual.

It's about pushing each other to pursue their passions, interests and become the best person possible.

Immature relationships lose their drive; mature relationships make you more motivated

We all get wrapped up in love. It's easy to spend days in bed and weekends in the hazy world of blankets and kisses.

But eventually, that smothering love is replaced with motivated love — a type of love that comes when you want to make a life with someone and work hard to get that life. Immature couples never get to this.

They never feel that motivation to leave each other only to come back more successful and more determined to make a life for the two of them.

Immature relationships fight over text messages; mature relationships are always face-to-face

Fighting is natural; texting is not. Mature couples do not spend their days bickering over a screen.

When they have something to work out, they do it face to face — where the meanings can't be misconstrued by emojis and auto correct. Immature couples fuel their relationship with incessant bickering and lengthy messages.

Immature couples see long texts as evidence of their “relationship” and find comfort in spending hours hiding behind their phones. They argue just to argue; mature couples fight for their future.

Immature relationships are about trying to find yourself; mature relationships already know themselves

Relationships are only for two complete people looking for companionship, yet many incomplete people look for it to complete them. This is when mature relationships and immature ones split.

You can't have a healthy relationship with two unhealthy people. When you're trying to use someone to complete you, you're creating an incomplete relationship.

Immature relationships are threatened by everyone else; mature relationships enjoy meeting other people

There are always going to be people in your life, pasts to each person and surprises behind closed doors.

Mature couples, however, do not feel threatened by strangers and past lovers. They are confident in their love and their partner's love.

Immature couples find threats in everyone. They're delusional and paranoid because their love is superficial. They do not have a strong enough foundation to effortlessly glide past all the distractions and threats.

Immature relationships live by preconceived timelines; mature relationships let everything happen naturally

There's no right or wrong time to move in together. There's no specific year to get married and definitely not a timeline for your life together.

When you're in love, things happen at their own pace. You feel things, and you follow your heart.

Immature couples, however, don't have those feelings, those instincts and those effortless moments. They make up rules and guidelines and assume time is the only thing that makes or breaks their relationship.

Immature relationships judge you on your past; mature relationships help you carry it

We all have a past, and in many cases, one we're not proud of. We can't help what happened to people before we knew them. All that matters is how they are now. Immature couples, however, refuse to see beyond the past.

Mature couples don't just accept one another’s pasts but want to help heal the wounds. They look beyond the mistakes and the flaws toward the beauty in the future together.

Credit to Lauren Martin

Toks2008:
I have seen many marriages break up and it seems there is a common ground for disintegration.Today I will be as real as usual and it will be in the best interest of any married lady or intending wife to take this piece seriously.

If you are a married lady reading this I want you to understand that these 3 facts are essential for you to experience a happy union.

1. Expect your hubby to cheat on you: I have heard many times that not all men cheat and I sincerely believe but nevertheless, to be on the safer side, expect that man to cheat on you.

By having this expectation, you will not be caught unaware and you would have developed a psychological shock absorber in the advent that he does but if he remains faithful to you then good for you. It is totally foolish for a lady to hinge her marital happiness on her husband's fidelity.

And the moment you start seeing those cheating signs in him,rather that start threatening fire and brimstone which may worsen the situation, i will advice that you simply warn him to do it as far can from you because what you don't know can't hurt you and warn him to use a protection to avoid bringing home STDs.

Once you tell him this, just switch to indifferent mode as regards his sexual faithfulness to you and choose to be happy regardless. Hard I know but this is just how the cookie crumbles and this is one secret to having marital bliss even with a hopeless philanderer.

[b]This is one big secret i want every married lady reading this to know; Yes cheating must be discouraged and guys involved must understand that it is a sure way to hell but no matter how long you preach against it,men who want to cheat will still cheat on their wives but here is the secret...98% of men who cheat on their wives still love their wives so dearly but only want to take advantage of ladies who have willingly offered their-selves as side dishes...NEVER EVER GIVE UP YOUR MARRIAGE FOR A SIDE DISH TO TAKE OVER because that is what she wants you to do and even if you leave your marriage, there is no guaranty that your next man won't do worse. Believe it or not, most men always come back to their wives no matter how many side dishes they take advantage of and many men suffer from mid-life delusion crises where they believe it is their right to be with as any ladies as possible but relax, that euphoria and delusion will soon wear off and you will have your man 100% to yourself...This is one big secret i just revealed to you.[/b]

2. Make your own money: Do you know that if you are really busy with your life and very financially independent, you will care less about who your husband sees, where he goes and what he does outside the home or even what he has in his will? Do you know that men respect financially independent ladies?

What I want many married ladies to know is that once they are married and start having children, the most important thing in their life at that point is self development and that of the child(ren). When you spend time developing yourself, even your hubby will give you great respect. Please don't ever settle to be a full housewife..at worst get a shop around where you stay and do something.

3.Perform your marital duties: Men do not joke with bedroom and kitchen matters. Do you know how to cook your husband's favourite meals? do you know how to make him go crazy in the room?

Most men who cheat are lured by either good food or bed-magics of another lady. While you refuse to go down on him and give him those crazy moves, one lady out there is ready to do stuffs that will make him have an attention at work just by thinking about her.

Many married ladies keep nagging about their husband's infidelity while neglecting those virtues that will endear their husbands more to them..most times when a man is drawn away by another lady, there is usually something that lady is doing that you are lacking so focus first on becoming a great wife before you complain of your husband's infidelity.

And for the man, be communicative and let your wife knows what you want so that she can do her best to make the union a better one.
And if you are so hell bent on cheating on your wife please do it as far away as you can because one of the biggest ridicule and disrespect you can bring on your marriage is to cheat on her to her face.

I believe that if married ladies understand these three points, they will always remain happy in their marriages and infact grow old with their partners till death do them apart. You just understand that no one holds the key to your marital happiness except you.


I hope this makes sense

Talk2Bella:
I can’t put up with her lies anymore, if it isn’t uncle this taking her to Eko Hotels, its uncle that telling her to come to Abuja, what does she even take me for?


And she lies with a straight face, she wouldn’t even introduce me to those her uncles, says they wouldn’t feel comfortable with me because I am not family.


She travels for days, receives their calls in my presence, tell them she loves them and blow them kisses, and I’d be there looking like a slowpoke, she says its family love, I don’t have a job yet neither does she but she foots the bills and every other thing.


How I wish I can just strangle her one night, she’s turned me into a laughing stock amongst my friends, they say she’s sleeping with those her “uncles” but I don’t know if it’s entirely true, do you think I am a fool?



Talk2Bella.



Do I have to tell you what’s going on here? She doesn’t work yet she foots the bills, you don’t have a job yet she takes care of you; do you even love this woman? A man who loves someone wholeheartedly would not allow her sleep with other men to foot their bills; he takes whatever job he can and takes care of his woman, same goes for the lady.


If you’re still wearing the “PANTS” in your relationship you need to step up and tell her it’s either you or her “UNCLES” and please get a job, she insults you this way because she feels you aren’t man enough to tell her what to do or take responsibility as a man, you stay home all day while she travels around with her “UNCLES” and then she brings back gifts and you both share them, you might as well be her love-vendor.

http://www.talk2bella.com/2016/09/my-girlfriend-seems-to-think-im-fool.html

HateU2:
Well, that 'shiit' is 'shiit'.

McBrooklyn:
Mtcheeeew!!! Doing all these for what you'll later regret and probably make you sad

vickyO:
No hard and fast rule applies in human relationships. Being a good cook hasn't helped all marriages neither has loving s/e/x or being independent.
The truth of the mater is that relationships only thrive when both parties understand each other well enough to co-habit and have children under the institution of marriage.

Marry a person you understand and who understands you.

RadicallyBlunt:
4. Reduce trouble and be a peacelover: This brings me to my senses a lot.

Oshikoyafrank:
Now you know.

If you've ever had your heart broken, I'm going to give it to you straight. While every breakup happens differently, a lot of guys tend to come up with the same reasons. If we really think about it, it can't ALWAYS be something that the guys did ... can it? Of course, this doesn't fit every instance of a breakup, and this doesn't apply to every woman but it does leave us wondering. Check out these ten reasons why he may have broken up with you.

1. Women don't listen. When a man says something, give him a chance to speak. Listen to what he says. The problem is that sometimes, guys will end up with someone who makes him feel as though he doesn't know what he's talking about. We're not always right, but we do
have opinions, and it gets under our skin when we're made to feel like our opinion doesn't matter. Who wants to stay with someone like that?

2. Women listen to their friends too much. We understand the need for female friendship. We can go with the girls' night out deal. But when you start letting your single girlfriends (who constantly run guys off or haven't dated since antenna TV) get into the business of your relationship, that's asking for trouble. You want to think that your man has a mind of his own when he's out with the guys, right? We're no different. We expect you to talk to your girlfriends, even if it's about us. Just be careful what you decide to bring back from those conversations.

They are always right.


3. The relationship is NOT a family affair. We're not trying to take you away from your family. This is a relationship, not a kidnapping. However, if we're mature enough to leave home and keep what goes on between us just between us, then is it too much to ask of you to do the same? If you tell your mom and your sisters about every....Continue Reading @

http://www.gisttrace.com/2016/09/the-10-real-reasons-men-dump-you-listen.html

Neolah:
Maybe women should endeavour to be submissive LION and at the same time make it known to her partner at the beginning of the relationship that violence (physical) violence is out of it. Theyy should also not engage in 'vocal violence' too. Please how do I upload my pics on Nland??

Oshikoyafrank:
If you want your husband to do something for you, try these four suggestions.

#1. Show appreciation with food and intimacy: The next time your husband actually does something you really wanted him to do, show appreciation by making him his favorite food or by initiating int.imacy.

Telling your husband how much you appreciate him while being intimate or as he’s eating his favorite pie will create a link in his brain that says, “Helping my wife makes me happy. I should help her more.” And he will start to do more.

However, be careful about taking this too far. s*x is a sacred tool to bond with your husband and not to control him.

Nothing is more motivating for a man than for his wife to show him appreciation in the ways he loves most. After time, you’ll be surprised how he’ll notice you need something and do it for you without even being asked.

Showing appreciation is the secret.

#2. Ask direct question: Many women get upset because their husbands don’t do what they ask. But dropping subtle hints isn’t actually asking. Men don’t hear them anyway, so stop getting upset by stopping the subtle hints. Men can’t read your minds or decipher the subtle-hint code.

Just be direct.

Instead of saying to him, “I’m so tired. I wish the dishes would just clean themselves tonight,” or “The trash is piling up. I think it’s trash day today,” simply ask, “Will you please do the dishes tonight? I’m exhausted from watching the kids all day. I would really appreciate your help.”
The more direct your request, the more your husband will respond....Continue Reading @

http://www.gisttrace.com/2016/09/4-ways-to-get-your-husband-to-do.html

Tundeiab:
The officials should be penalized if found guilty. The present government has reall failed those people in IDP camps...

Oluwatubold98:
If anyone should tell you he or she can help you out, you have to be careful about the person because he or she is trying to scam you..the best way you can go about it is to go down to passport headquarter in Abuja because I did my own yesterday..the cost depend on who attend to you,but for me I spent 95k....60k to government account 30k for the officer coleleting your documents and 5k for officer taking your passport

presidentpikin:
Yes one tracking number given to you by your friend is enough for your package to be deliver to you in abuja whenever your package arrive abuja...Just go to UPS Abuja office with valid I'd card and the tracking number.... Best of luck

TijaniAbu:
Any EFCC that cannot arrest and investigate Aisha Buhari and her children, and Dolapo Osinbajo for abuse of office, public funds diversion, and gifts and gratification should leave everybody alone. Buhari and Osinbajo are running the most criminally corrupt executive in the history of Nigeria as millions of Nigerians suffer and starve to death. They will not end well. Evil scroungers

ourkobo:
I blame buhari