₦airaland Forum

dottozil:
I think the question should be, ladies will you date a guy and won't ask for a dime from him until marriage?

yazga:
*Ladies be sincere, Would you date a guy that won't ask for Sex until Marriage??...*

illitrate:
Right Now Nigerian visa is 2 month and 3 months and recently the government started additional extension of up to 6 months in 2 months each.

Best is that you come with a 3 months visa, do your job hunting, if you get a job the company will convert the visa to a 2 year residence work or 3 years for freezone companies.


Some people sell this residence visas for an equivalent of from 800k naira to 1.2m naira. This is good if you want to be a freelancer as some other small jobs request you to have your own visa.

illitrate:
The UAE is one of the best in terms of security and easy money. However, crimes committed by Nigerians has drastically
reduced our chances of employment. Bigger firms don't discriminate as long as you have the skills but smaller ones prefer
Indians, Philipinos, etc.

Employ a Nigerian and watch them give many excuses for not being at work and also, a slight opportunity to commit a crime
and they are part of it.

Anyways, I am not even a graduate but my first salary was AED 5,800 (580k naira) with accommodation and medical insurance, Transportation was also free as I worked at the Dubai Airport terminal 3. No previous experience but I received on job training. This I can only classify as grace and persistence as I kept applying and attending open days.

I currently work in a classified Government department where It happens an African had never worked. just for your info, I earn AED 18k (1.8m Naira) monthly, without accommodation and without transport as took a car of my choice on loan and pay just 1000AED (100k naira) monthly. Although very demanding as I am sometimes called at 3am and I must respond by going to the office.

You have roots in IT, Dubai is the best place for IT and trust me, big firms respect Nigerians in this field. Indians are perceived to be the best but
due to cyber frauds emanating from Nigeria, Many IT related jobs are given to Nigerians.

I know a few Nigerians who work in IT at big firms like emirates airline and etihad with a salary of more than 2m naira per month.

My advice: Do not take any advice, and do not expect help from anyone, just be ready to fight a battle until you acquire what you desire.
Forget the degree, have a working brain and some skills, concocted with the ability to learn, be honest and you are good to go.

Lastly, Avoid any so called direct employment. No legitimate entity would employ someone they haven't seen except some shitty job.
Avoid any job that demand for bribe whether an agent or direct.
Any company that ask you for visa fee is illegitimate and will end up impregnating you.

Every decent employer is mandated to pay for your residence visa, accommodation and transport however, some firms give you the choice to choose
whether you want a full package or prefer your accommodation. Visa is a must by company.

Good luck.

placeofallure:
Don't mind many sadists on this thread o. In fact I have a male colleague, he doesn't just say good morning or Hi! He hugs and plants a peck on the cheek. That's our good morning everyday. The thought of sex or anything like it is so far away from us both. I'm not the only one he does that to. That's his normal playful self.

PrimadonnaO:
She doesn't want to be seen with you, clearly. Especially when you said she won't even see you off when you visit her in her own house, nor would she drop by at the shop when she passes.

Please leave her alone o.

Pettyprincess:
She's not into you!!! Can't you see the signs?
If you love someone you show them off.
Or she's probably hiding something from you.

MrBrownJay1:
Seems she is ashamed to be seen in public with you....

Sandra8:
Well you are getting to know me here as we speak. But you should at least be bothered about what I preach dear and I have got the cake already, the rest I get are toppings,just to spoil me silly

Sandra8:
Heads up, I started playing a long time ago but you still need a field to get your GAME on dear

Sandra8:
You're still lacking in essential confidence dear
An alpha would know, I can play ball with you all day and you still won't know

Sandra8:
A lady is always single my dear until taken

Sandra8:
Men believe it is in the African culture to cheat, even a cultural norm in the world for men to cheat.
They have referenced this fact, time and time again, like a broken old record.

Men also want to remain boys all their lives, they want to keep acting on only impulses. Instead of weighing the reward and consequences of their actions before acting.
As such most men ( deep down even though males ego won't allow most to admit it) are ADDICTS to their desires. They start off cheating, enjoying it for a while, later on want to quit but cannot. They are already ADDICTS to sex, this is because they failed to develop the frontal lobe of their brains, which is responsible for weighing the benefit versus consequence of every action especially in adulthood. But over stimulated and depend on the VTA portions of their brains that acts base on impulses and releases dopamine that allows them feel momentary high from cheating....classic cerebral addiction pathway ( even for drugs, alcohol and other substance abuse)

So let's address these two factors
Culture is the beliefs, values, behaviour and material objects that constitute a people's way of life.
Notice culture is a PEOPLE'S way of life and not MEN'S way of life. It takes MEN and WOMEN to form the fabric of society and culture in itself.
So any negative culture that may have existed in the past against women because women allowed it, is slowly becoming null and void because the modern woman wants new healthy culture that will favour and benefit her. Men should stop referencing past old cultures, time and season have changed, the modern woman is also forever changed too.

In developed countries, men voluntary check into sex rehab centers to treat their addiction to sex or are mandated too (for certain relationships to continue by court or any other authority), other lesser but effective options are to go for therapy sessions with sex therapist, or join sex addiction support groups etc.
All these provisions are to help men stop cheating, cause sex addiction is a disease and a legitimate mental disorder, categorised with other mental illness like depression, anxiety etc. Sex addiction is also called sexual dependency, hypersexuality, hypersexual disorder, compulsive sexual behavior, satyriasis and sexual compulsivity .
Psychologist and psychiatrist globally are working to bring out drugs to understimulate the VTA and help the frontal lobe gain control once again. Research psychologist and assistant professor of psychiatry at the Semel Institute of Neuroscience and Human Behavior at UCLA, Rory Reid,
says "The criteria for hypersexual disorder that have been proposed, and now tested, will allow researchers and clinicians to study, treat and develop prevention strategies for individuals at risk for developing hypersexual behavior."
So men do not pride yourself on cheating, it's actually a mental illness and an addiction. Learn to control and master your emotions instead.

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Hotzone:
I profoundly find your words so penetrating because it suits my state of mind. I that u and everyone for their opinions

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Mic96:
Pls permit my grammatical errors.

I have a girl I'm living with presently she has two children for me, 6years and the second one year and six months of which I haven't paid her bride price, not because I can't afford it but I'm not convinced yet.

She wakes up without even greeting me and she is very abusive. She doesn't cook for me even if she is to cook I must go the market to buy the soup items before she will cook for the family. I have to go the market early to buy the soup items before leaving for work.

Our relationship has been up and down but I've been enduring because of the kids, I can't take it anylonger. I'm just confused and I don't know what to do because she is frustrating me. We are not into each other I can't tell her things like secret because when we have issues she will use it against me.

I love my kids so much and I don't know what I will become without my kids. The constant fighting isn't good for the kids and I'm thinking of leaving the apartment for them without taking anytime from the house expect my cloths.

I have reported her to my pastor and my pastor have serverally counsel her but she won't change always willing to fight me at no cause. I told my pastor my plan of paying her bride price maybe she will change because she is always talking of poisoning when we get heated argument. my pastor say I shouldn't that she won't change because our relationship wasn't built on solid (right) foundation.

I notice she feels she is doing me a favour for wanting to stay with me. A woman that is 3 years older then me and has two children for me and I am the person paying the bills (the whole expenses). Her own money is for her clothes, bags and shoes not minding if the house suffer but I don't care.

Pls advise me on what to do and if I'm actually making the right decision.

Thank you.

Hotzone:
I always respond to my fiancée financial demands even when most of them seems like extortion. She prefer I pay her bills both rent and utility though I try to wriggle my self out in rare occasions. Condition of marriage: No sex before marriage, I abide completely because I want her. She attends her friends weekend activity than finding time for us to stay close even when she constantly reports about how her female friends accuse her of lesbianism but I pray she’s not.
She works and her wages and daily earnings is a little bit above mine. I have told her my marriage intention and she openly accepted without the usual marriage proposals but I am thinking to make it official. I am still considering if she is suitable and can make a useful wife because I am about to make an official statement which is going to change my entire course in life.
Please, my fellow Nairalanders, I need constructive and supportive words. Blissful week to you!