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Lauryn41:
But ebubu has quite established himself as a great actor , has great diction , infact he has done more of selling himself than his partner ashes

I agree. Our convo was about his constant mood swing on this show.

safarigirl:
Yes, it is psychological, but it did not happen in one day.

Some of these things begin from childhood. Somebody that has been teased from when they were little, internalizes a lot of these things.


It happens slowly, so, you don't even realise it is happening at first. Then one day, you find yourself skipping something because you don't want someone to make a comment, another day you're changing something you're wearing because the first time you tried that outfit someone made a derisive comment, you refuse to speak, because the last few times you wanted to talk, you were dismissed.


Our minds are different, as our experiences are different and our interpretations of events are different. The same way it took years to be a certain way, it could also take years to snap out of it. Everyday you have to wake up and be intentional about changing your story. Some days you're successful, some other days, are worse.


When he's in his theatre element is probably the only time he gets to snap out of whatever state of mind he's constantly in.


I wish he would be more visible, because he's so talented and so impressive, but I understand he's a work in progress.

I am talking specifically about his mood on BB. Its a massive opportunity he needs to take advantage of.

Eeghe:

Not you being so casually dismissive of a handicap…no last words are needed in this talk bro tbh…Sha psychotherapists should give you a mass beating lol

I'm not dismissive. I am talking about taking advantage of the once in a lifetime BB opportunity.

Lauryn41:
Nah

No one should ever tell anyone to “snap” out of their feelings

Or man up

Or whatever

We react to things differently , let’s appreciate and tolerate each other like that

The reference "snap out of it quickly" is related to taking advantage of the platform the big brother experience offers. Not doing that will ultimately defeat the purpose of auditioning for the show and participating.

safarigirl:
"He needs to snap out of it quickly" is a rather convenient position to take.

Yes, it is better to confront, but we do not all have the same minds and some minds do not snap out of things quickly.

Someone like me, if I tell you the things I struggle with offline, you will not believe it. And every year, I tell myself I'll snap out of it, but I don't. People are different, and while some things sound good when you say them, the doing tends to be far more difficult than the saying makes it seem.

We're watching a human struggle with something human in real time, and like many of us that have something we struggle with, we're told to snap out of it, but the internal struggle can only be understood by the person experiencing it.

I understand where you're coming from. You need to understand the reality that it's psychological. Nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent. (Eleanor Roosevelt) Think about it.

safarigirl:
He should, but he doesn't.

We don't know his life experience and why he is the way he is. Even when you're not different, you can be under a lot of pressure, how much more when you clearly standout.


He's a very talented guy that has some things to work on, but even his time on the show can be impactful in how he sees himself moving forward.

So he needs to snap out of it quickly. I have a lady friend with K legs. Rather than wear protective long gowns, she prefers to display it publicly wearing jeans pants. Sometimes it is better to confront your complex head-on than having low self esteem. I like Ebubu"s diction. That should be a confidence booster.

Eeghe:
It is not easy to be “different”
Some people deserve and or require more grace/empathy/understanding/slack, than others. By just being. You should know this

He should see himself as special instead of different or his constant mood swing will defeat the opportunity this platform presents.

Geezeem:
Trust me, you won't see anything

Amya:
Cracks in the coven.

Inevitable!

Geezeem:
Thank you DD. I just tire jare

it's like that particular gal is bent on getting a certain kinda reaction out of me

And I was avoiding her when the season started oooo

You're welcome.
It's always better to correct a wrong impression with civility than ignore unless the person is downright obnoxious. Afterall it's a public platform. Just do you dear.

Geezeem:
Never used the word Sexy and Yaya in one sentence.... beautiful yes!

But she is if you like your meatloaf big

Geezeem:
If you want to have an argument or a clean convo with me, pls come decent

Since yesterday you have been running around and saying stuff.... I ignored you. Now you come at me directly....

This I appreciate

But what I would appreciate even more is you confining your talks to the show and contestants

Don't bring it to my person please

You sound smart for the most part, so why then did you fail to understand on what basis I had used Sheggz and Yemi in one sentence?

You could have asked or read me again and again. It wasn't even about those guys and their personalities. It was more about their fans

Please keep it moving

Before you accuse me of being tribalistic... that's the next thing after all you threw at me last year

You don't need the stress. Some peeps take dissenting views way too personal out here. Not worth the hassle.

Geezeem:
Really?

wow!!!... my take is that she is too obvious in her game!

I am not grudging her for playing her game, after all na wetin them come do... just that a little bit of subtlety will do her good

Was shocked she nominated Thabana tho

My reason for inferring vendetta as a trait.
But you are right about a little moderation at the end of the day.
Seems our peeps are overly loud in all facets.

Eeghe:
Hehehehehehehe
DoubleeDee take that

Hmm...........
I'm all eyes and ears henceforth

thatigboman:
Yvonne say she will not her friend because of man on the show. Hope she keeps to it, but if she fights jenni physically about it, she will have my full support.

So you are suggesting Jenny O is the interloper here?
I'm curious though why Juicy had to tell Yvonne they kissed

Eeghe:
Yaya is vindictive yhooo
And xenophobic somehow though she masks it

Really? She comes across as friendly with everyone irrespective of creed. But it is also quite easy to misinterpret attitudes exhibited toward a stranger as prejudiced from a narrow trajectory, so I view reactions from an open and personal perspective rather than extremes.
I haven't noticed anything abnormal with her so far but maybe I need to watch more closely.

thatigboman:
Yvonne say she will not her friend because of man on the show. Hope she keeps to it, but if she fights jenni physically about it, she will have my full support.

Will keep an eye on them two.

thatigboman:
the confusion is confusing all of us. Jenni is just playing dirty

Rare for a Naija babe to be so unassuming and free spirited about sharing a guy.

thatigboman:
Juicy jay told Yvonne this morning that he kissed jenni last Saturday but bulelani didn't show us

I'm not getting it. So what exactly is going on between Juicy and Yvonne? I'm conflicted!

JUDGEJUDITH:
Olivia is a lovely lady just misunderstood!!

I haven't observed her enough, but she comes across briefly as vindictive.

JasonScoolari:
Lol, Yemi is just another hypocrite...

Go to Facebook and see how South Africans are ridiculing him. I dey shame for our Alfa Mail.

This your "Alfa Mail" get as e be o😊

Reussite:
Even if 2 pairs will be evicted, I think they will survive via lotta sympathy votes.

I pray so. Don't want Yaya out yet.👼

Reussite:
MaYa is the code for me this week. I actually like Marvin & Yaya.

👍

fitzmayowa:
His fans have been screaming they want the boy noticed, now he is getting the recognition......

That's risky to say the least. HoH role has become bitter sweet.

MasterSteps:
Kanaga to Marvin: You won't go, trust me.

Tonight, we rain votes on Maya

All the way with you!💪

Reussite:
Hearing Marvin speak now just reiterates it. Dude is so hurt & may not survive eviction on sunday if 2 pairs are to be evicted.

Two pairs will be too much. It's a long show.

Maya says they don't hold any grudge against Jr and Blue. Such a contrast to Olivia's mannerism last week. But it's hard finding yourself on the chopping block after perfecting a near safe strategy to stay off radar. Painful indeed.

Seems HoH role leads to automatic dislike with the way Blaqleng were nominated. Jr and Blue are not safe next week.😨

MamBi:
Sorry ohhhh. But she is one of the ones that coasts which is surprising considering her intro. I thought she would be a firecracker…

She's a cool warmhearted lady.

Beorn:
I know it's her right but I'm just pointing out that she dislikes Yemi with passion.

I didn't really notice. Will watch her more closely henceforth.

MamBi:
Lol thank you Kanaiva.

Not my Yaya jor😥

Beorn:
I knew this annoying Nana will nominate Yelissa. She hates Yemi wella.

Really? But she has to nominate someone and she"s up too.