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Nice guys are dishonest they are willing to do anything to attract and maintain the interest of a woman, even
if it means allowing themselves to be used, manipulated, or disrespected.

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Yes
Every human has a frame.
When a weak frame encounters a dominant frame it submits.
If your frame is more dominant she submits and vice versa.

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TheUndercover:
This is the best thing to do. If you don't define the relationship you wanna have or having with a woman, she will define it for you. Whether you're contented with it or not, that's your problem. She doesn't care.

NO WOMAN’S ATTENTION or COMPANIONSHIP IS WORTH SACRIFICING YOUR SENSE OF DIGNITY, PERSONAL
HONOR, or SELF-RESPECT FOR.

I wrote the above in capitals for a reason.

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If as a man you can not seduce a woman, you are by dictionary definition sterile.

The gods have spoken.

If you indefinitely PRETEND as though you're happy "just being a friend," with a woman but in reality, you are
dying to date or have sex with her, you are a weak man.

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purpinkx:
Thanks for the mention Sir,
I've been reading at a slower pace. Just doing catch up right now.
Keep up the good work!

It is because of encouragements like this that makes me to go on.

purpinkx:
I have a friend whose gf was the best thing that ever happened to him.

I've tried introducing him to the redpill.

Even though I hope he learns to play the game women play, my main concern about him bettering himself in a society that couldn't care less about him.

There's a quote “the teacher opens the door, but it's up to the student to enter!”

I hope enters!

That quote is a great quote.

Similar to :
You can drag a horse to a river but you can't force it to drink water.

No one should be forced to the red pill. He may reject the red pill.

@ bolded When you use was, do you mean he is no longer with his her anymore?

Know what you want as a man and never settle for less. This is called standards.

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Never settle for less. If you want a relationship and she offers friendship drop her. If you want FWB and she offers r/ship drop her off.

I am strongly against men PRETENDING to be content
with just a "platonic" friendship, when they know deep down that they want more than that.

I have nothing against a man expressing an occasional compliment, or maintaining a platonic relationship with a woman, only if it’s mutual and reciprocated.

I do not believe in ‘non-reciprocal’ flattery.

Anytime you’re constantly playing up to a woman’s ego, but that same woman very rarely, if ever, flatters your ego, you are on a long thing.

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Blue pill Men are fund of putting women on pedestal and will to compromise to get women.

How many times have you heard one or more of
your male friends say something along the lines of, “I would do anything to date her!” or “I would give anything to have sex with her just one time!”

Once you allow yourself to adopt attitudes such as these, you’re setting yourself up to become a loser with women.

@ purpinkx long time

Desperation tend to make you become more afraid
of being rejected and/or ignored by that female. Consequently, the more afraid you are of being rejected or ignored, the more likely you are to be rejected.

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When you’re willing to compromise your personal principles and values, or worse, sacrifice your sense of dignity and self-respect, for the sake of attracting or keeping a woman’s interest, this would be representative of wanting a woman’s attention desperately.

To want a woman’s attention and companionship desperately means you’re willing to do practically ANYTHING to gain and maintain a woman’s interest. In the long-run, that is not a good thing.

emmaodet:
Waooooooo

Yes. That was the major reason they are called nice guys that the original meaning.

okrikaboi:
They will call you small boy, fellow men will broke shame you.

Life is the best teacher. It teaches them lessons.

ABUPHARM:
Thanks man! I do every of her biddings and the one she didn't even ask. Whenever i observed she is not on whatsapp and using free fb, sharparly i don roll her subscription back. When she is sick, i send her money to go get drugs in nearest pharmacy. She go thank me like no tomorrow, she even swears with Allah that she cant leave me for another guy not until that faithful day her ex called me not to disturb
her again claiming he got my number from my gf sister, meanwhile is my gf that gave him my number. What pains me most is that I have not met her physically since we started dating, but I'm very sure I will meet her dz year when we both returned home from school. Then I will reap the fruit I previously laboured for , for now ur advise will be my priority.
Much thanks to u one again.

Lol and then you believed she won't ever leave you. Until she did.

Women Don't say what they mean and don't mean what they say.

Your next lesson is to never do everything for a woman. Use that money to improve yourself and shine the more instead of making only her shine.


Is not every time you do or give a woman what she wants, sometime pretend you don't have.

In a relationship, stop making a woman the centre of your attention. Its called a relationship where 2 pple contribute not isolationship where only one person does the work.

Start by loving yourself more. Improve on your looks, your clothing. Sometimes carry only yourself to a Restaurant and eat alone.

I have 2 questions for you.

@ first bolded, you mean you dated and have never met her physically?

@ second bolded, What do you mean? . Hope is not what i am thinking. Don't try to do anything by force cos she may use it against you?

TheUndercover:
So true. Sometimes you'll be reluctant to talk to them so they won't view you as "enemy of progress".

Most times you have to allow them learn by experience.

This is just the situation many men find themselves in when they attempt to talk one of their friends down from the ledge, their friend is simply to attached to their fantasy of “the one” to have any incentive to break away from it.

For those of you who have spoken to a person who is suffering from a delusion break from reality, you are aware of how difficult it is to break through the delusion in order to orient the person towards reality.

Stage 3 : Rude awakening

Not all sufferers of oneitis progress to stage 3, stage 3 is reserved for those who are brutally awoken from their delusions and react in destructive ways towards themselves or others.

Men who progress to this stage have their idealizations and fantasies of perfection destroyed, often swiftly and in a brutal manner. They react to this depending on their underlying personality and mental state at the time.

A man in stage 3 tends to react either by lashing in or lashing out, a man who lashes in will seek to punish himself for failing to make his fantasy manifest.

Whereas a man who lashes out will seek to punish others for causing his fantasy to not manifest.

Mystery in “The Game” pining over his oneitis for instance is a classic example of someone “lashing in”, becoming depressed and even suicidal because he failed at realizing his perfect dream world with his perfect dream girl.

THE SYMPTOMS

Building a Grandiose Future
The man suffering from oneitis will begin the construction of a grand future for himself and his dream girl, this dream is not anchored in reality but he will put all his effort into creating this future.

This can even take place before the man has even spoken to the girl in question, in fact it often does among some groups of men.

Black and White Thinking
The man is incapable of seeing his dream girl as merely being human, he views her through a lens of perfection wherein she is all good, and everything that could be imagined to come between them is evil.

At this point the man is deeply engulfed by his delusions and has invested significant resources in the imagined future he has for himself and the girl.

Disconnection from Reality

At this point the man has idealized the woman to the point of divine being (goddess) and his fantasy into deterministic reality.

At this point he reacts strongly to any attempt at critical evaluations of his situation. The relationship between the actual woman, and situation may be greatly different from what is real.

At this stage he can fight you when you criticize his woman.

Stage 2 : Paranoia
The second stage of oneitis builds on the first stage. At this point of the disorder the woman is the sun around which his life revolves.

He often begins neglecting many other aspects of his life in order to spend more time with her, or in situations where he might meet her.

THE SYMPTOMS

Euphoria and depression

If he perceives that his relationship or potential relationship with his dream girl is going well, he will be happy. Conversely, if his perceptions indicate that the relationship is not going as he had hoped, he is prone to depression.

Inability to Make Critical Evaluations
A major factor in men suffering from oneitis is that they are incapable of making critical evaluations of their dream girl.

At this point, the disorder has progressed to be a point whereby acknowledging the woman’s flaws or less desirable behaviors would inhibit him from placing her on a pedestal.

Pedestalizing
The man suffering from oneitis will view his dream girl as the solution to all of the problems he has been facing in his life.

If he feels the relationship (or anticipation of a relationship) slipping, and his grandiose future slipping out of reach, he will take immediate and rapid action to restore balance.

Covert Contracts
The use of convert contracts by the man is a cardinal symptom of this disorder. A covert contract in the most simple terms is based on “if I do X, she should/will do Y”.

Covert contracts exist in many forms within the oneitis disorder, from the husband who engages in “choreplay” to the beta male who does nice things for the target of his affections anticipating that his “niceness” will result in her sleeping with him.

STAGES OF ONEITIS

Stage 1 : Delusion
The first stage of oneitis often takes the familiar form of “falling in love”, the man becomes fixated on his designated target, and his life begins to revolve around the situations where he is able to interact with her.

During this phase, the man’s ability to make critical evaluations of the situation are decreased and he starts constructing an elaborate fantasy about the woman.

He will always interpret her actions as more meaningful than they are, for instance if the target of his desire is a receptionist he will interpret her smiling and being pleasant as a sign that she is in love with him as well, rather than it being part of her job.

VALENTINE SPECIAL


A DIAGNOSIS OF ONEITIS
In medicine, a syndrome is a set of signs and symptoms that are correlated with each other, and the word itself stems from the Greek word meaning “concurrence”.

Oneitis as a syndrome is the combination of signs and symptoms that are correlated with blue pill thinking.

Perhaps the most interesting factor in the the oneitis disorder is that actually being in a relationship with the woman is not a pre-requsite to trigger the disorder.

In fact, many of the cases that I’ve observed are by men who exist outside the woman’s sphere of awareness, the “secret admirer” type, who builds an elaborate fantasy about a woman who has no idea that he exists.

ABUPHARM:
Better late than never.
First, I don't know ur intention of this free gift, but i really appreciate you for a job well done.
When I was young boy, people used to call me fine boy and admire my black handsomeness which I know they were right. But immediately I started hustling for my self, like doing so menial job to be dependent my handsomeness and coolness waned, to the extent i dont like looking at myself in the mirror or taking photos. This killed my confidence, looking at ladies becomes difficult for me, but i know inside me that I can still loom good with time.
Fast forward to my first year in uni, my looks become so good, I know this coz when I'm at the barbing shop, my fellow guys and female passerby do look twice at me b4 they depart. I get so many attention from random girl in lecture theatre, had fun and took photos with them coz of my friendly nature.
So during the covid break, i came back hustling and my look deteriorates even worse than b4 i left to uni.
Last year june, I came across this beautiful girl i so much admire on Facebook. I knew her physically when she was 16, but i felt she is too young to approach, we only play and joke together then.
Last year when i met her on face book, she is already 20 and more beautiful than i knew her b4. This time i approached her and she agreed to date me and promised never to leave. I asked her if she has a lover b4, she said yes that she has broke up with him coz he doesn't pray and he alway cheat on her.
We dated till this february b4 she call it end with me. I do give her at least 5k monthly for upkeep. I asked her what the reason is for breaking up, she said she did a prayer that God revealed to that we didn't match, that it is her ex she promised to go back to God choose. Bruh i was down and depressed for a week that i was unable to read for my medical examinations but thankfully I'm getting better.

The help i need now is that, If I chat her she do reply but i just choose not to chat with her again. I know what probably turned her off is that she do ask me to do video chat with her, which most times i give excuses. Coz i know I'm not looking good coz she admires m old pic, which i think she really fell for.


What i need now is, how do I restrategize to get dz girl back?

Bro tnx for sharing your story.

The lady has lost interest in you.

As for that Prayer she is did thats crap. She is no longer feeling you anymore.

From what i can deduce you were too soft on her and do every of her biddings . You were not the person she expects you to be. So she went back to her ex.

Start by for getting about her for now. Hang out with other women.

TheUndercover:
LOL! What type of virgin are we talking about here? Do you mean MouthAction virgins, anal sex virgins, romance virgins? which one?

Today's world, there are so many categories of virgins. The virgins regarded to in the olden days is not the virgins in this generation. This is the need for Men to vet the women they are committing to from A-Z. There are so many things to look into aside a woman being a virgin.

I noticed the issue of being a virgin gives women insomnia. LOL! Who cares? Men, never settle for less. If she wants a high value man, she should be high value woman also. Don't commit to h*es. Don't buy the cow when the milk is free.

This made my day

Especially that insomnia

Research on men and domestic violence focuses on men as both perpetrators and victims of violence, as well as on how to involve men and boys in anti-violence work.

However, women are not throught to be antiviolent.

It is uncalled for, for a man to Beat up a woman but nothing goes for a woman hitting and beating a man.

It is appropriate that both men and women not hit each other. Not that one gender will hit the other and go scot free.

Woe to you man for you cannot be a victim in this harsh world.