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To be the best man you can be, you must constantly work on improving yourself, “just be yourself” tantamounts to nothing.

The red pill is hard work because it requires rewriting the various scripts that over time have become highly internalized and deeply ingrained in your personal software.

He will be the man who goes to the gym instead of playing ps4, who sips at a glass of water instead of beer, who does exercise instead of sitting in front of the TV. In short, he must sacrifice for his rewards.

Rollo Tomassi refers to this process as “ Killing the Beta “, which is a process a man goes through where he must abandon his former psychological scripts for a new one.

The red pill not only requires that he rewrite large parts of his belief system, it also means that he must expend energy in order to obtain his desired rewards.

The red pill is difficult not only because it contradicts many of the premises that serve as a foundation for his internalized scripts, but also because it firmly places a burden of work upon him. Where his previous script promised desired rewards in exchange for “just be yourself”, the red pill makes it clear that those rewards are reserved for his best self.

I remember a decade ago when i will be in awe when i hear news of bomb blasts in Afghanistan, Pakistan etc or see it in movies and i will say, " Thank God, no bomblasts has occurred in Nigeria" .

However, in 2010 thats when i first heard a bomb blast by Boko Haram. In 2011, a bomb blast occurred 2km away from me. I thought i was going to die by the sound of the bomb blast.

Back to her argument.

Don't think that all those laws will never be implemented in Nigeria, whatever laws by the western world isgradually going everywhere in the world.
We are enlightening men so that they become aware of the truth. So that even if they are in political positions they won't further subject men to further servitude and injustice.

A female Nairaland was once arguing with NL guys that they are Drinking paracetamol on USA's headache about a man who was asked to pay 50,000 dollars monthly for spousal support to his Ex-girlfriend.


Her stance is that we are worrying about what is happening in US while we are in Nigeria.


Her argument is baseless(i will talk about the rational in women arguments later). Not only is it baseless but myopic.

In our society, a structure is created in which men always bear the responsibility, but women decide the course of action.

Some of feminist arguments about consent, also posits that regret = rape, and that a woman can withdraw consent even after a sexual encounter has taken place, this removes agency from women, and make them into objects that are acted upon. Which, funnily enough is the exact opposite of what original feminists wanted(this current 3rd wave feminism is getting out of hand).

Women are gradually expanding concept of “sexual assault” to a point that it will one day mean that even saying “Hi” to a woman who is not interested can get you expelled from a University(in western world) for sexual assault.

If we look at the more heavily publicized campaigns such as “He for she” or “Give your money to women” they are campaigns to reinforce the traditional protector and provider dynamic, that was the cornerstone of gender relationships for millennia, without the prerequisite actions by the female.

Inorder words, men should keep being providers but the traditional role of women(cooking, serving the Husband etc) are being averted. How unfair.

For instance, society creates an incentive structure where men are built into beta males. This is done by eradicating traditional male spaces, vilifying masculinity through terms such as “toxic masculinity” or the meme that all men are rapists.

What western society(and gradually the rest of the world) is doing at the present moment, is to encourage a perception of the feminine as inherently good, and the masculine as inherently bad. Causing women to feel entitled, and men to feel guilty.

This creates a structure wherein, women feel the permission to do whatever they want, whenever they want, and where men feel obligated to accept the consequences of the female’s actions(remember hypoagency).

I don't support jungle justice but sometimes when i see the extent of damage, havoc and heartbreak thieves cause, i don't pity them anymore. They deserve what they got.

Once a boy in his adolescence develops an interest in the opposite sex, he will seek out information to figure out what to do.

He will be inclined to observe countless romantic movies, or he may ask his sister(s), or other female relatives, or his peers who are also clueless.

If he is lucky enough to have a father or other male role-model he may ask them and they may diverge him from simphood.

However, If he is not lucky, he is in for many years of misery until he finds the truth.

However, the moment a boy is undergoing puberty, the father doesn’t tell him anything, he is neglected to face adolescence himself and left to be taught by the World. This results in the continual simping of men, he has no true father figure to guide him because actually the father does not know what to tell him, the father is also clueless.

The moment a girl is undergoing puberty, her mum starts lecturing her about being a woman, life of a woman, telling her never to be cheap, she is the prize, Marriage etc.

Dalil8:
Saw this on Twitter

Take note of the words; Son and not Daughter,

Mother but not Father. Girlfriend, not Boyfriend.

And you'll see the agenda of most females.

She subtly passed a message, only few would understand.


That's why i laugh so hard at guys worshipping their mothers, neglecting their fathers.

You buy cars, houses for your mom but you neglect your dad's.

Time will tell.

Women are always transfering their knowledge from one generation of women to another however men have been clueless for ages

Dalil8:
When a woman tells you "You don't act like a Man" or You behave like a Woman". Congratulations!! You just thwarted one of her manipulative scheme.

Yea
Thats a tactic to shame guys into doing their biddings

Ever wonder why when a woman ask you for 200naira and you refuse to give her, she calls you "stingy".
She is shaming you(a form of emotional blackmail) so you will feel gulity of being called stingy and give out money.

pich4real:
This one really shock me, especially the last paragraph.

Yea I am not surprised

When a woman does not believe she needs to please a man in order to keep him, she cannot respect him, and thus in turn, cannot love him in the way a romantic partner should.

Anti-dread ensures high levels of comfort, which in turn cultivate a hubris so firm she believes her man to be incapable of leaving her.

Effectively for a woman to appreciate a man, she has to believe she can lose him.

A woman’s hypergamous sexual strategy is opportunistic. A man’s is idealistic.

Women are not attracted to men who give them an easy life, they’re attracted to the jealousy of uncertainty and competition.

Where dread harnesses a woman’s paranoia and discomfort to create attraction, anti-dread looks only to assuage it, making the man in question appear boring, and thus in turn, unchallenging and unattractive.

Anti-dread is the constant assuagement of a women’s ever-changing insecurity, addressing every little concern she has with servile like efficiency; it is the constant need to “make sure everything is ok” and is in general, a passive, pandering, supplicate behaviour which prioritises comfort and paranoia placation over attraction.

Naturally, anti-dread is the opposite of dread. Anti-dread is the constant validation of a woman’s concerns, be they pettily baseless or accurately rooted in reality.

Dread plays on a woman’s jealous disposition and status anxiety to keep her ego in check and attraction high, dread communicates to a woman’s hypergamy “this man is hot”. Likewise, whether a woman is aware or unaware of the dynamic at hand has no bearing on the efficacy of this social mechanism, for it is immutable.

Both alpha and dark triad men use dread as a tool to keep their woman’s narcissism in check.

Dread is the heightening and elicitation of attraction in a woman via a combination of emotional withdrawal, and an implicit or explicit demonstration of social power.

For example, being seen with another high status person (particularly an attractive woman) whilst simultaneously dialling down the degree and frequency of emotional validation a man gives his woman constitutes dread.