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RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 4:26pm On Sep 19, 2020
¶ Controlling your emotions
One should also learn to act, to behave as if you are happy when unhappy or calm when angry. An acting class where improvisation is practised and method taught can assist in this.

Acting consists much of being able to summon an emotion and mental image in your mind’s eye that isn’t reflective of how you feel, yet depicts with a certain unspoken truthfulness that what is portrayed is a reflection of what is felt.

Always learn to conceal your true Intentions consistently Dpsychologist

¶ Read books
Any aspiring Machiavellian should read books on military strategy, leadership, power, statecraft, rhetoric, propaganda and on rare occasion, philosophy. I will list a brief yet non-exhaustive compendium here:

— How to Win and Influence People
– The 48 Laws of Power
– The Prince
– The Art of War
– The Art of Worldly Wisdom
– The 33 Strategies of War
– The Craft of Power

What you will find with texts on power is they outline strategies, distil certain aspects of power and give historic examples of implementation.

These books require intelligence and imagination. The books thereby require somebody with a refined sense of logic to take a principle from a historic context and make it fit their personal situation.

If you are unable to do that, you will be unable to utilise power despite developing an understanding of it, application demands imagination.

Don't forget, action is important
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 4:20pm On Sep 19, 2020
How Do You Become Machiavellian?:

To become machiavellian requires analysis of behaviour and body language, it will aid you not only in the dating arena but everywhere in life —Dpsychologist


¶ The Act of people watching

People watching is the primary activity for building on this ability. Sit somewhere, say a public bench or an outdoor area and predict people’s relationships, emotional states and inclinations from observance.

The more you do this, the better you’ll get and the more accurate your predictions will become. but cultivating intuition from repeated observance will take practice.
It also provides us with the opportunity to improve and refine our social skills and intelligence.

Just like any other skill, consistent practice leads to improvement. From my experience I have found that that it has helped me with observation and reading non-verbal body language.

Furthermore, People watching provides us with an opportunity to learn about social interactions.

Researchers from MIT have found that we can learn better from observing other people’s experiences.

In the research, mice were exposed to a mouse getting shocked. This shock was paired with a cue such as a light or tone. The mice were then exposed to the same cue a day after.

The researchers discovered that the mice reacted in fear even though they did not get shocked. Two parts of our brain, the anterior cingulate cortex (involved in evaluating social information) and the basolateral amygdala (involved in processing emotions) become active when we learn by others.

¶ Interpreting subtext

Likewise one must become proficient at interpreting subtext. Subtext is unspoken communication, the underlying theme of an interaction. The subtext is what lies between the lines of communication, being able to interpret it demands an ability to pluck out what is meant from what is said even when intent is ambiguous.

Subtext often uses reference to metaphor, entendre or innuendo to communicate opinion or intent without explicitly stating it.

By doing this, opinions can be expressed without being weaponised against the holder. Should the response to an opinion communicated in this manner be deemed undesirable, the plausible deniability of its ambiguity can be invoked as a shield.
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 4:14pm On Sep 19, 2020
We are moving back to back
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 4:13pm On Sep 19, 2020
How dark triad men use machiavellianism :
Machiavellians are very good in attracting ladies. They pretend to be busy when they’re not, to convey a false image/sense of importance, making their target feel disposable when they in fact, value them.

Sometimes they say a white lie to achieve ends. They indulge in making a person jealous via the deliberate inclusion and flaunting of another – creating competition anxiety.

They ignore you because they want to attract you.

Then there is dread game: making someone who values the dark triad individual doubt the stability of their relationship with them, causing the target to supplicate and be more malleable.
The dark triad individual does not limit this scarcity mentality/competition anxiety to romantic endeavours.

Dark triad men who have women going gaga for them, wanting to fulfil their every whim, do so by emotionally addicting the women.

Their very presence causes said women to have rushes of dopamine/serotonin/cortisol/oxytocin as well as other neurochemicals I don’t know about. It is this emotional rollercoaster (drama) which causes women to form an addiction to said man.

Women are addicted to dramatics; it is the basis of every modern soap opera(philippines and korean movies) , chick flick and romantic comedy.

By associating the systematic release of these neurotransmitters and hormones with the company of a specific man who acts as the stimulus for these releases, they become biochemically addicted and thus mentally dependent upon him.

The removal of such a powerful man from a woman’s life can thus elicit withdrawal symptoms similar to that of a drug comedown.

The stimulus is the dark triad man because if he’s absent for long enough the chemical processes stop and she has withdrawals from the cycle which leads her to start proclaiming shit like “needing him to go on” despite the small little fact he’s an abusive asshole.

Controversial conclusion: mental abuse can be chemically addictive to women, as painful as it is, they get off on the theatrics. Women to this degree demonstrate a predisposition for masochistic tendencies, especially in relation to love and sex.

Women love pain as much as they love pleasure. You can see why BDSM is now popular.
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 1:15pm On Sep 19, 2020
IghravweIG:
Op Can a Sigmal male be redpilled? Or he is on his own lane? Or Being a Sigmal male makes one predestinely redpill aware?
Like i said before the red pill classifies men into either an alpha or beta. It was VOX that try to expand the classification ( a socio-sexual hierarchy). Both of the classifications are right but its not what is important.

A Sigma male is also an alpha male only that he is introverted and is on his own lane. Its all a label.

I prefer simplicity, to me Alpha and Beta dichotomy is better.
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op):
[color=maroon]Women's advantage

Machiavellianism can be present in either gender, however as a baseline women tend to have a much more pronounced proficiency in the skill set and utilise it far more auspiciously.

Man’s physical advantage is outlawed by the legal system, woman’s mental advantage is not. Combine this with their innate sexual appeal to men and it is fair to say that womankind has the edge in modern developed western societies.

The sheer amount of weak effeminate behaviour characteristic of men at large in our modern society is indicative that majority of men lack Machiavellian traits and capabilities to any beneficial self-serving extent.

Machiavellianism is inherently in and of itself the most logical part of the dark triad persona which runs hand-in-hand to the nature of the triad’s narcissistic component.[/color]
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 7:12am On Sep 19, 2020
IAmSkinny:
Doesn't this fact cancels out the other hypergamy based theories?
No

If you really what i wrote under hypergamy. You will understand that hypergamy does not mean going after guys with only money.
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 7:17pm On Sep 18, 2020
Examples of machiavellianism

Machiavellianism is the crème de la crème of the Dark Triad traits Dpsychologist


¶ Gold-diggers

“Gold diggers” as a stereotype are essentially people with the ability to “use others for what they’re good for” rather than value them for “who they are as personalities.”

This is Briffault’s Law at its pinnacle: they prioritise what a person can do for them over forming emotional bonds.

They don’t identify who a person is and what they can do for the manipulator in question as separate components, to a Machiavellian these things are both one and the same.

¶ Women in general
The presiding theory in red pill philosophy is that men evolved to have a genetic advantage physically, making them more violent and physically dominant, whereas women evolved to be non-violent due to inferior musculature and small stature. Thus, they use machiavellianism to have men fight for them on their behalf, giving them a far more intricate and diverse psychological skill set primed for manipulation(e.g cleopatra)

If she’s a beautiful Machiavellian she can use her beauty to captivate a man and exploit him by controlling his desires, further facilitating her desires and devices. It is evident that simps are being manipulated in this regard.

¶ Parenting
Machiavellianism can be used benevolently by parents ; to protect, to preserve, to foster and to nourish. They make up scary stories to protect us or prevent us from doing bad.

¶×Adverts
The media also uses machiavellianism to make us buy a particular product. They will promise you perfect skin if you buy a particular cream or promise you comfort and sophistication if you buy a particular phone.

¶ Government
Governments want men to “man up” which means to be productive little economic slaves for the benefit of the state.

It is important not to characterise Machiavellianism as purely a source of evil, as that is an inaccurate generalisation. How Machiavellianism is deployed is contingent on the agenda of the person deploying it and their relationship with the person they wish to influence.
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 5:25pm On Sep 18, 2020
MACHIAVELLIANISM :

The word comes from the renowned 16th century Italian politician and diplomat Niccolo Machiavelli. He earned notoriety when his 1513 book, "The Prince," was interpreted as an endorsement of the dark arts of cunning and deceit in diplomacy.

Machiavellianism is the tendency to see all social scenarios as game and thus require sophistry, manipulation or manoeuvring. Machiavellians have a tendency to view things in terms of “what does this person bring to the table?”.

Machiavellians are very tactical individuals who execute the vast majority of their social interactions like an allegorical game of chess.
They think 10 moves ahead of those around them. They leave bait for you and then switch the outcome from the expected outcome (misdirection.)
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 5:05pm On Sep 18, 2020
When a dark triad man exhibits his narcissism in his game with a girl, he essentially negs her, makes her feel inferior to him , makes her qualify herself then rewards her for being complicit.
This is a form of operant conditioning (hot and cold) which is as a result of machiavellianism (each part of the triad is linked with the others).

However there are 2 tupes of narcissism. Borderline and clinical narcissism.

With training and self-improvement borderline narcissism (far healthier than clinical narcissism) can be acquired and utilised to improve one’s self-confidence, which as previously briefly touched upon is essentially all about forming and sustaining positive feedback loops.

Narcissism eventually leads to the use of machiavellianism
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 4:53pm On Sep 18, 2020
You may dress poorly, introverted asocial, very shy to talk to ladies and a virgin. The moment you start exercising, dressing well, start talking to people more and getting noticed(practicing what you learn here).

People will start complimenting you, want to associate with you and before you know it you have successfully got laid. The aftermath is that Your confidence will automatically skyrocket.

You will now confidently approach women and as you keep getting success, the confidence increaes. The increasing Narcissistic supply increases your confidence.

The more you care about yourself and work hard to make yourself great whether in looks, money, status, charisma(charm), bedmatics, etc the more women go gaga for you.

This positive feedback loop will increase your confidence there by making you love yourself more. Thus, you become more manly, you won’t be afraid of expressing your sexuality.

This will make you stop chasing girls, for you will see yourself as the price . Ladies will sense it naturally and chase you more.

A woman despite being narcissistic when she sees a man who is more narcissistic than her will have no choice than to fall for him.

The lesser a woman is narcissistic (average looking) the easier you get her. If you are not ad narcissistic as a woman you won’t get her.

In essence, your narcissism has to beat hers inorder to attract her
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 4:50pm On Sep 18, 2020
How Do You Become Narcissistic?:

Whatever you do, always put yourself first before a woman. The more you care about yourself, the more you become confident. The more you become confident, the more you love yourself. The more you love yourself, the more a woman loves you. —Dpsychologist


If you lack confidence you must set up infrastructure to provide yourself with regular ego boosts; there are many ways to do this.

A self-sustaining one would be the gym/exercise, you see gains, dopamine is released and you feel good, then you work harder. This is a positive feedback loop, it’s why men who get into the habit of working out become more narcissistic.

With men who were really insecure about their weight, working out in particular kills two birds with one stone, a negative feedback loop is being destroyed while a positive one is erected in its place.
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 4:37pm On Sep 18, 2020
Common examples of narcissism.

People are not just born narcissist, there are factors that make them so — Dpsychologist

¶ Example 1

People who are successful (rich, famous, attractive, exceptional) receive a constant stream of compliments receive a high dose of narcissistic supply which overwhelms the ego and the individual becomes as such becomes narcissistic.

If you are good at a sport, a video game, or anything where others perceive you as superior, you have a line of narcissistic supply.

This is the reason why rich people are seen as arrogant and condescending, however people are still attracted to them

¶ Example 2

The more beautiful a woman is the more narcissistic she becomes

Attractive women are an example of narcissism brought about by desire rather than ability. Many beautiful women are narcissists because they are universally desired, being drunk on the power of beauty is an effortless and intoxicating form of narcissism.

In this way, one could see cosmetic surgery and makeup as a way of maintaining not only social influence, but narcissistic supply.

¶ Example 3

Women use social networks as a funnel for narcissistic supply. People who manage a social media account actively maintain a line of narcissistic supply, as such becoming popular on social media is another way to increase narcissism.
RomanceRe: Post cancelled by Dpsychologist: 4:31pm On Sep 18, 2020
Is this your condition?

RomanceRe: please guys, How Much Is Needed To Start Up A Mini Fast Food Restaurant? by Dpsychologist: 3:38pm On Sep 18, 2020
100k will start something
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op):
NARCISSISM
The term "Narcissism" comes from the Greek myth of Narcissus, a hunter who fell in love with his own reflection in a pool of water, and drowned.

Narcissism is ego, a projection of confidence, self-importance and grandiosity. Narcissists demand the very best that life has to offer, they are quality rather than quantity focused and embody the compulsion of a perfectionist.

Narcissism simply refers to putting one's own needs before others' wants. It is Projecting a high self-image. Vanity. Entitlement. Excessive self-love.

Narcissism is based on a consistent supply of affirmation, success, and one’s acceptance and belief of their success. People who are elite in some manner become narcissistic due to success, this creates self-belief, feeding into success, fuelling further confidence in a self-perpetuating cycle.

Positive feedback loops from success as well as other’s respect and desire for you triggers narcissism.

Narcissism is in effect, a natural by-product of high value. The value can be nature (highly attractive, great genetics) or nuture (worked hard, became the champion) narcissism doesn’t care how you became successful, simply that you are.
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 10:58am On Sep 18, 2020
Breakdown of the Three Core Traits:

Psychologists have identified three traits that make up the sinister sounding "Dark Triad": narcissism, Machiavellianism and psychopathy. Which are responsible for making the bad boy very attractive.

We will explore the three elements of the Dark Triad, identify the behaviors associated with each of them, and look at how you can use it to your advantage. The following behavioral traits will help an alpha male stand out from his beta brethren:
RomanceRe: Imagine Seeing The Name Of The Person Owing U Contributing For Erica GOFUND ME by Dpsychologist: 9:00am On Sep 18, 2020
grin Bombastic
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 8:52am On Sep 18, 2020
Good morning Redpillers.

For the wages of simp is self-destruction, but the gift of Redpill is emancipation Dpsychologist
RomanceRe: How Many Ajegunle(s) Are There In Lagos? by Dpsychologist: 8:42am On Sep 18, 2020
TATALoAlaMu:
Don't ask for directions from Lagosians/ or people you see on the road in lagos. 98% of them don't even know where they are going tankless of directions. Like one said, bros make I enter car so i fit describe well well. .
Lol ah tell.

@op welcome to lagos
RomanceRe: My Girlfriend That Got Arrested Has Been Released Thanks To Nairaland by Dpsychologist: 6:14pm On Sep 17, 2020
You are lucky bro
RomanceRe: First Man In The World Who Divorced His Wife To Marry His 77 Yrs Mother-in-law by Dpsychologist: 5:40pm On Sep 17, 2020
illicit:
Who come be 500 years among them huh
Lol
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op):
cappucino925:
Very nice
But i'd like to ask about the sigma male,
What do you think about this personality?
Is he some kind of loser too like the beta male?
@Pstarogood0100 that was a very good response.

However, lemme explain something to you.

In game, men are divided into successful alphas and unsuccessful betas. However, VOX sees it as too simplistic and limiting, and as such expanded the Alpha-Beta dichotomy into a hierarchy that covers the broad spectrum of socio-sexuality.

The socio-sexual hierarchy classifies men into the following categories:

– Alpha: The Alpha is the tall, good-looking guy who is the center of both male and female attention. He is usually the loud, charismatic guy telling self-flattering stories to a group of attractive women who are listening with keen interest.

– Beta: The good-looking guy who isn't as uniformly attractive or socially dominant as the Alpha, but is nevertheless confident, attractive to women, and does well with them.

– Delta: Deltas are the average guys. They can't attract the most attractive women, so they usually aim for average women with minimal success, and stubbornly resist paying attention to all of the women who are comfortably in their league.

– Gamma: Gammas usually the unattractive, and all too often bitter.

– Omega: Omegas are very unfortunate and are the social losers.

– Lambda: Men who have quite literally no interest in conventional male-female sexual relations.

However, A Sigma male is best defined as the outsider who does not play the social game but manages to win it anyhow. He is a confident, independent, and charismatic man who plays by his own rules. This makes him equal to the Alpha. A Sigma male can also be said to be an introverted alpha.

Cheers
CrimeRe: Man Flogged By Soldiers For Expressing His Right To 'Freedom Of Speech' by Dpsychologist: 3:44pm On Sep 17, 2020
In Nigeria there is no freedom of speech. Forget what you see in the constitution.
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 3:40pm On Sep 17, 2020
43.) THE DARK TRIAD :

If you have been observing this thread you will notice i have been mentioning the word Machiavellian. Machiavellianism is part of what i am about to discuss in the dark triad.

Dark Triad is a combination of three personality traits: narcissism (heightened sense of self-importance), Machiavellianism (manipulativeness), and psychopathy (low empathy).

Many mainstream studies have shown that women generally prefer men with dark triad traits.

A female preference for such men can possibly be explained by their preference for high status men (see hypergamy), which is partly derived from them seeking protection from a dominant man .

Alternative explanations for women's greater attraction to Dark Triad men and these men's generally higher level of sexual success include: Dark Triads men's greater willingness to engage in sexual coercion, their more effective self-presentation, and their general tendency towards manipulating women, plus their greater ability to do so compared to other men.


The dark triad is often incorrectly perceived to be one specific personality type, this is wrong. The dark triad is the culmination of three distinct intersecting personality traits present in one individual typically associated with empathy and attachment disorders, not a trait in and of itself.

I expect this to sound somewhat obscure to the uninitiated, but nevertheless, to dispel any ignorant confusion surrounding “what the dark triad is,” . HOWEVER i will explain them one after the other.
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 3:31pm On Sep 17, 2020
softguy1:
I think the solutions are already here, the only solution is by doing the opposite of all those things they have being mentioning(those things we thought was right at first).
Mean while if you still have any other solutions as regards to this, you can drop it here or better open a new thread to inculcate and emancipate the simps from all this Virgina people shocked
Thanks in advance. We are waiting to learn from you also.
One thing i observe about you is that you are very smart. Kudos to you bro.
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 3:29pm On Sep 17, 2020
[quote author=Pstarogood0100 post=93983222][/quote]Thanks for that bro
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 3:28pm On Sep 17, 2020
softguy1:
Let's go straight to the point. Give us the redpill we are very sick and don't keep us waiting �� smiley
The Redpill you shall get cheesy
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 3:27pm On Sep 17, 2020
[quote author=cicodeblazzer post=93936420][/quote]Thanks bro. God bless you too
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 3:22pm On Sep 17, 2020
¶ Bad boys are decisive.
Most of them already planned on what they’re going to do, and ultimately they share a common goal which is to get laid. Most of the nice guys are indecisive because they over think too much stuff.

Being decisive means you’re being determined of what you wanted to happen, displaying no or little hesitation. The thing here is always make up your mind. Now that’s a bad boy trait!

¶ Bad boys are enigmatic
Bad boys are unpredictable, the man is mystery himself. Girls likes it if the boy keeps them guessing on what he’s gonna do next. This is quite appealing and interesting compared for some normal guys.

A bad boy will leave on the middle of their conversation, mostly won’t reply on her text messages, and if she wanna hangout, he’s probably busy and not available.

Bad boy don’t put girls on top of his priorities, which makes her like him even more, which makes her chase him, instead of him chasing her. You need to be more mysterious and not always available.

Unreactive is attractive
In conclusion bad boys are self-centered . Bad boys are coldhearted more like an ice. They do not display emotions.

Do nice guys really finish last?

While there are many different reasons why women like bad boys, it's important to understand where nice guys fit into this romantic equation.

A study in Evolutionary Psychology revealed that women place higher importance on altruism over good looks when it comes to choosing a partner for a long-term relationship/marriage.

This is to tell you that bad guys get the ladies are their most fertile years but when they reach the wall, they will settle for nice guys.

To the question above. Yes, nice guys finish last
RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 3:14pm On Sep 17, 2020
¶Very attractive with great fashion
Bad boys really are good looking. Unsurprisingly, they are better at making themselves look physically appealing.

Bad boys always makes a statement in their clothes, making him more attractive compared to other guys. Bad boys also have a strong body language to compliment it with it. I suggest investing on one's dressing, shoes etc

¶ They’re more fun.
Bad boys know how to have a good time. A 2016 study conducted at the Hospital Clinic of Barcelona showed that a number of women were attracted to bad boy types because they were considered captivating.

“Despite being selfish, rule-breaking, imprudent, and rebellious, they are also brave, independent, and self-reliant—and they live frantic, galvanizing lives,” said lead researcher Fernando Gutiérrez.

He added that this behavior could function as “a signal that the subject has such good genetic quality and condition as to live dangerously without suffering harm.”

¶ Bad boys do whatever the Bleep they want.
They are confident, very straight forward and most importantly they are not afraid to flirt or tease a girl. Basically bad boys aren’t shy to tell girls what they want. Being a bad boy is a difficult work to do, they automatically assume that every girl likes them even without significant proof.

Without any hesitation they’ll go for it, if they got rejected they aren’t gonna be upset by it either.

What I wanted to say here is that girls more often to like YOU if you are in control of the situation. DON’T ask a girl on what you’re going to do, just do.

RomanceRe: The Red Truth by Dpsychologist(op): 3:06pm On Sep 17, 2020
¶ Dating pattern
Many women who started a relationship with a boy or was deflowered by him will find herself end up over and over again.

On the flip side, many women find themselves liking a bad boy as a way to break free from their monotonous relationship history. For instance, she is used to being with safe, predictable, and seemingly boring guys in the past, a bad boy can provide a thrilling new deviation from this dull and dry norm.

¶ Opposites do attract
One reason why women like bad boys is that many women are often attracted to men who are very different from themselves. Research has shown that there's actually truth behind the saying "opposites attract."


¶ Addicted to the drama
Women may also find themselves highly attracted to a bad boy because they're addicted to the drama that being in a relationship with an unpredictable, arrogant, and egotistical person can provide.

After all, dating a bad boy can put her on an emotional rollercoaster filled with highs and lows that can be both exciting (good) and disheartening(bad) all at once. And in many instances, experiencing the thrill, drama, and anxiety that come from dating a bad boy can actually stem from her innate desire to get attention from others.

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