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I left my immediate elder sister’s place in confusion. She had told me in my dialect after meeting Faith, that what an elder sees sitting, a youth can’t see standing. Her message was clear, Faith was a bad choice. I struggled with these words over the next few weeks. I called her severally to know why she was not disposed to Faith; her response was less than satisfactory. I tried debunking her words as that of a woman who has suddenly become over religious due to family pressures. However, I was wrong. My sister was right.

It was past 10pm on a Friday night, Faith and I had just returned from seeing a movie at Silverbird cinemas, she had gone to buy indomie at a nearby store while I was in the car waiting for her when Angela’s call came in. Angela had demanded to see Faith and I the next day. She sounded terrified on phone. I was shocked. How did she know Faith? It was then she spilled the beans- Faith, was a friend of her lover, Chris! At that instant I heard a masculine voice at the background ordering her to cut the call immediately. Bam! She was gone. I stood transfixed; adrenalin induced goose pimples ripping through my entire being.

As Faith approached me with smiles, I felt a mix of anger and fear swelling within. I suddenly became over conscious of the environment. I became suspicious of everyone and everything at that point; she noticed my mood and asked what was wrong. I was speechless, my gaze focused on her. She looked too innocent to be a ‘spy’ as Angela had claimed. When I finally found my voice, I blurted out, ‘do you know someone that knows me….?'

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ssoftapple:
lol dnt worry bro, i will manage, woya lemme continue the show

OK oo.. I make I continue...

ssoftapple:
@OP nice one, spread mat on the floor and pitch my tent here.

Hope you don't end up with body pains ooo...got no ibuprofen for you .

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Few weeks later I secured an internship slot at the State owned Hospital, BMH with a befitting accommodation at Old GRA. I practically asked her to move in with me. Faith was a homely lady; she cooked great meals, cleaned my apartment and did my laundry. What more could I ask for? The lovemaking was good, although she was not as ‘crazy’ as I was under the sheets. She was working as a secretary in a private company at Rumuomasi with a dismal pay at the time. I cared less what she earned, my paycheck was fat. I started dropping her off and picking her up at her place of work every other day when she moved in. On a couple of occasions I found myself sleeping on steering while in traffic due to fatigue, I once brushed a lady’s car along Rumuola because of this and got tongue lashed. It never mattered. I was love stricken.


In the process of time she missed her period, a pregnancy test and ultrasound scan confirmed she was pregnant. We weren’t ready to be parents yet an abortion was the only option. I recall touching her stomach once and telling the baby why we can’t keep him/her. She did the abortion at a private clinic, nil complications. I dutifully nursed her back to full health. We were now five months into the relationship, I wanted something more. Although she has met my dad, stepmom and younger brother, she was yet to meet my sisters. I have three elder sisters. My sisters’ approval in my opinion will determine the future of our relationship. Hence, I took her to my immediate elder sister first.

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Our communication remained poor till I graduated from medical school in 2009, and returned to ph city to start internship. It's while I was waiting to commence internship I got somewhat close to her to my own hurt. I spent most of my holidays with my immediate elder sister and her husband. They loved me deeply and saw me through medical school. My brother-in-law runs his own firm, a construction company. I was his unofficial PA, running errands both in Lagos and Ph city for him. This ‘office’ came with its joys and sorrows. It was on one of these numerous errands, I me Faith.

My brother in-law had instructed one of his staff and me to proceed to Abuja on an assignment. It was on my way to Omagwa airport I got a call. It was a feminine voice at the other end. The caller had tried playing a fast one by claiming ‘wrong number’ when I queried who she was. Wrong number or whatever there was something about her voice that made me call back. Curiosity they say killed the cat. This call was to trigger subsequent ones throughout my week long stay at Abuja. Faith was a high spirited lady, a conversationalist to a fault. I was so hooked that when she ‘lied’ of been broke I paid 10,000 naira into her account even before I saw her! I was not in any relationship at the moment. My last relationship had ended on a bitter note in med school.

I returned to ph with mixed feelings. I had successfully carried out the assignment, but I had doubts about Faith. When it comes to women I have a very high taste, looks matter to me, and so do intelligence and other intangible qualities. To quell my doubts I quickly fixed a date. We met at Kilimanjaro, GRA junction. True to type Faith was as physically beautiful as she was inwards. She was in her early twenties, of average height ebony skinned with well endowed mammary glands. She wore a tight fitting white long sleeve shirt, and a blue faded jeans skirt. I felt impressed with what I saw. We even took some photo sections before we parted that day. The bond between us gradually grew strong.


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PLEASE NOTE THE FOLLOWING:
(1) This a true life story. it has nothing to do with Nollywood, nor fiction.
(2) Names where deliberately changed for personal reasons.
(3) I am a Doctor, not a writer, so do not except me to write flawlessly


THE SHADOW OF DECEIT: A PERSONAL STORY.

‘Frank,I want to see you and your new girlfriend tomorrow……’,I was taken aback by Angela’s rather surprising order on the phone more so from an unregistered number and it’s her first time of calling in over five months. I protested, ‘who told you I have a girlfriend…?’ Angela’s response almost triggered a heart attack. My flight and fight response mechanism peeked beyond human imagination. Suddenly, events began unfolding.

You see Angela and I have a little history. Although I was a medic in UNILAG, I grew up in ph city. It was on one of my visits to ph city I met her, in a taxi. I was in Part 4 (500level) back then in 2007. Angela, was a 23 year old average height chocolate skinned lady with an alluring dimple. She has this cute baby face, and sweet voice. As regards education she had completed secondary school in the last three years, and has been ‘struggling’ to secure admission into a tertiary institution. Over the course of time I got to know we share same birthday. This revelation secured her a soft spot on my heart.

Due to distance and the demands of medical school, I did not take our friendship serious. She did call a couple of times to check on me, and to complain about my lukewarm attitude towards her. However, I never took it to heart; I had to secure a future before romance. Then one day in December she called to inform me she will be travelling to Ghana via Lagos, she needed a place to pass the night. Luckily, my roomies had all gone home for the Christmas holidays. I was preparing to travel to ph city but had delayed it by a few days. Hence I gladly obliged her request to stay with me.

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zaragal:
Am more of ab introvert....i will rather spend time to enter E-fights on nairaland , dan going out, I don't like public or crowd...or going out @ all...besides am more of this religious churchy person no only nairaland I get mouth...so opposite to me Sumtyms makes me very uncomfortable.

Yesterday I went to a ladies place apparently her brother or sumthing came and we caught glances @ eachoda...the guy was very cute and his accent..mehn I tripped for him. I became very uncomfortable at his presence so I left for the backyard..not quite long he came there and was talking to his niece (I guess) immediately he came to the backyard I went inside before I realise my actions I was already inside...the way I was evading his parents was like he was so pest funny enough he is so cute and I cnt breathe wen he is around...lol ....joking#.

Point is I don't knw how to stay around opp sex am not more of dat free funky gal...have got ex tho but dey were my best friends before boyfriend so u cn imagine...it wasnt all dis "hi baby" kind of relatnship.

Btw! Am taking my tym for a relatnship am not going to rush it...am not looking for one more heart break.......am patient

Zaragirl, your personality is becoming clearer now. Am equally introverted. However, my profession brings me into contact with people. I had no choice but to adapt. One of the most potent laws of nature is the law of adaptation.

Keeping away from the real world will only do you more harm. Social media is great, but most people ain't who they claim to be. Meeting people in real life remains the best. Good to know your the religious type. You could start from your local church. At first it may not be easy but with time you'll find it more pleasing meeting people.

The only rules that keep us from enjoying life are those we make for ourselves. In your school, church, neighborhood etc there great people with beautiful minds waiting to mingle. You will only meet them when you leave your comfort zone. Ain't saying you should go friend hunting, just be a little bit more relaxed. Let go of your self consciousness. Smile a lot. It's incredibly attractive. A life without a true friend is most miserable of all lives. Live. Laugh. Mingle. Love.

zaragal:
So right...thnx. Evrybody shouting go get urs get urs....where I want get mine ooo...no real men dis days Nina....jst porn/sex addicts dat wants to strafe a guy and go in the name of love. Haven't seen my taste tho

Zaragirl, lol!! Its funny how we generalize issues. There are still real men. Maybe your yet to meet them. An average guy will equally say there are no more wives these days. We seem to be in a conundrum. Moral decadence is at an all time high. Men and women alike are carried away by fleshly desires. Am no saint. No, never. Am only trying to make common sense.

I believe you need to spend more time with the opposite sex. Definitely you will meet one or two that share same values as you do. Locking ourselves away from the world because we are yet to find our so-called 'taste' is suicidal. To attract the right people start by being the right person. The law of attraction is real and active.

OP, to say the least your in a tight situation. Neither you nor anyone knows what the future holds. If you yield to your mum's antics if could cause you untold pains. On the flip side maybe happiness. Like someone pointed out your bf has a 'long' way to go. The economic situation in Nigeria doesn't guarantee automatic jobs. However, that shouldn't be a criteria to break up.

This is one of those times you need to ask God for direction. He speaks to us in different ways. Sometimes unconventional ways. You equally need to have a heart to heart talk with your bf. Remember you addressed him as a bf not even fiance. What are his plans? Are you in his plans? I understand most women can instinctively spot a man that will excel in life. Do you see such traits in him?

You may need to equally speak with your mum, let her know your happiness matters. You can't go into marriage to please her or anyone. It's a lifetime commitment. Marriage will either build or destroy your destiny. That's why caution is advised. Ultimately, the ball is in court. Do you wait for your bf to secure a job and do the needful, or do you create an Avenue to meet one of these suitors and get to know them better. This for you to decide. It's life.

OP, obviously your in a fix. You have invested much in this relationship, letting go seem difficult more so due to her refusal to end the affair. Times like this call for sober reflection.

You need to ask yourself what you truly want in life. Keep emotions aside and her insistence on continuing the relationship. This is your life. It's about your happiness. Talk to yourself. You did mention how incompatible it was at the beginning what went wrong? Did any of you cheat? Did the other party genuinely forgave if it happened? Is there some distance or some one in the picture? Can you both despite several attempts salvage the relationship? These and many more you should ask yourself.

You should realize that familiarity has a way of robbing relationships off its thrills and joys. Time test all relationships, this could be one of those times. It's pretty difficult these days finding a compatible partner. However, that doesn't mean you should endure a relationship. It should be enjoyed. You might consider having a heart to heart talk with her. Sometimes you need to be apart from those you love to truly value them. Wish ever decision you take know that you have the right to be happy!

Bonethugss:
No offence intended, but from your post you seem to have fallen for him. Or maybe you are just fond of him. The truth is that the more time you spend with someone of the opposite sex, the more the laws of attraction take place.
I would recommend you keep your distance, find another tutor.
It is never ideal to get too close to a married man, the brain works funny, soon you will get emotionally attached (if you aren't already).

In other news @DrFinn pls are you married, if no... Hmmm that would be interesting...

LOL!! In another news am single... Now it's getting enthusiastically interesting *winks*

Zaragirl, I may not fully understand your disappointment at the turn of events with this married man. However, know that whatever happened is for a reason. Am thrilled you cherish education and knowledge. That explains the attraction between you and this man. Like I said initially it's no fault of yours neither his.

I understand your frustration as regards maintaining platonic relationships with single guys. No matter how civil you both might try to be, emotions will set in. Opposites attract you. More so when it involves shared values and beliefs. There are still sensible young men out there. Hopefully, you will meet one soonest.

You need some time to clear your head. You may think your prayer went unanswered. But be rest assured God is bringing someone that will be a friend, counselor, mentor, motivator etc your way. He never takes his eyes off those who look to him for help. He allowed this for a reason. Pick the lesson and move on.

The movie isn't Nigerian. It's Tyler Perry's Temptation Confessions of a marriage counselor. It was quite educative. On a lighter note, you should be resting your head now . lol! Goodmorning. HAPI Sunday.

Zaragirl, am glad you found my contribution helpful. Should you need further advice on this issue kindly contact me.

I saw a touching movie earlier today. A decent lady with a promising future, married to an old fashioned but loving young man got lured by some rich dude.

She ended up not only destroying her marriage and career. She contracted HIV. The Apple always looks irresistible but once eaten it goes sour.

I believe you have a bright future ahead of you. Don't mortgage it. Keep faith. The right guy will locate you not some confused married man.

OP, I have to be straight with you. A man is attracted by sight. Every man has a so-called 'fantasy woman'. A certain lady that has not only the inner beauty but physical features he craves. Of no fault of yours this man finds that woman in you. You talked about how you guys discuss on varied issues. Obviously, your intelligent and that's attractive.

At it stands now your friendship has crossed boundary. Emotions are strongly involved. Though you claim you don't have feelings from him. Your posts may indicate otherwise. Though you may not have now, I see it developing in the nearest future. These things take time. The more time it takes the deeper the feelings it inspires. This is the time for sober reflection on your part. What do you really want?

Yes, both of have a deep connection but it has gone beyond the platonic phase. I must commend yourself restraint. Few ladies would have acted decently as you have done so far. However, you must do more! You have to end this relationship! Yes, that's what you must do. Cut all ties from him. Don't make the mistake of trying to seat him down and talk him out of his feelings. It's futile.

Take some time off. Ignore his calls. Avoid at all cost contacts with him. And if you both bump into each other make it brief and simple. Maintain your civility as you have always done. Hopefully, once your out of the picture his fantasy will gradually fade away. Keep your head up.

Am in pH. How can I get a pair, Navy blue with white stripes, size 44 delivered?

Thesource, I read your lamentation with a heavy heart. Not out of despair, for no case is utterly hopeless. But out of the fraud been perpetrated in God's name by these religious champs. The greatest teacher of love- Jesus Christ, healed, delivered, and preached without asking for a dime. It's heartless for these so-called pastors and imams to have defrauded you in God's name.

However, like I stated earlier no case is utterly hopeless. The world we live in is governed by laws. Spiritual and physical. That you're ignorant of these laws doesn't mean your free from it. It affects, controls and dictates your life. Am glad you sort of understand these laws. It's the first step towards freedom. Don't ever give up in this life!

Irrespective of your religious inclination always know there's a God that loves you so much. Medical science tells that at conception several millions of sperm compete to fertilize a single ovum! Only one ever succeeds.. You were victorious several years ago. You can still walk in victory if you catch my drift. All you need is to change your thoughts.

Thoughts they say are real. Look around you. Everything you see or use is a product of thought. It existed on someone's mind. That someone was bold enough to transmit same into reality. So, my beloved brother change your thoughts. The thought of giving up is the virus that destroys wonderful ideas of greatness, I once read of a computer screen. It's never too late to cultivate a positive mental attitude. You can start right away. You're still breathing is a testament that better days await you. Please don't give up!

I recommend you take sometime and reflect on life. From childhood to date are there little victories you had that are worth celebrating? How about the wonderful people that have been there for you from cradle to date, if you give up so early what will become of them? Always remember the destiny of many are tied to yours. If you fail, they fail. You can't afford to fail. The world never celebrate failures. There's is light at the end of the tunnel. Please don't give up.

When those you thought could help took advantage of you it's time you turn to your creator. No one can achieve anything in life without God. I believe in the God factor in human success. I suppose you believe too from your post. My personal experience makes me believe not some religion. I strongly advice you never to pay any money in the name of deliverance. You may not know God intimately but if you could only ask him for help and direction now. He will hear you. He never takes his eyes from his creatures. He knows your ending. He knows what you're passing through right now. He's waiting for you my dear brother. Ask him for help.

Finally, i recommend you lay your hands on 'the secret' by Rhonda Bryne. 'the master key' by Charles Haanel. And most especially THE BIBLE. I have found these books particularly help in my personal life. There are many others but starting with these books in my opinion will change the way you think. Kindly contact me should you need further help. Go talk to your Maker, he's waiting for you. Thanks.

OP, obviously the misoprostol your gf took didn't lead to termination of pregnancy. Probably wrong dosage. Did you consult a doctor before she took the drug?

Abortion is illegal in Nigeria. However, it can be undertaken in certain circumstances for the good of the Mother. This is what you should do.

Get an ultrasound scan. If your in Port harcourt pm me. If your in some other state kindly see a doctor. And please stop dat crap dat there are no professionals to do a good job without complications.

NB: if the scan shows a healthy fetus, I strongly advice you and your gf keep it. If however, it indicates an incomplete abortion or whatever, see a gynecologist/GP.

PLEASE PLAY SAFE NEXT TIME!! BETTER STILL, ABSTINENCE IS GOLDEN.

To those wonderful people who are of the opinion that I should have played along. Got married on her father's terms, and then revert to status quo. My fiancee's in law and a few people advised same.

However, it was a pill of deceit I detest. Her father had narrated a story of how some guy deceived a Catholic lady in same act. Besides, this old man in all honesty have been plain with me. He even called me his son on several occasions . To betray such trust will make a Brutus out of me.

I may not have applied sound judgment on some aspects of my failed engagement. But to sign a document before the Catholic Church and renege later will subtly rob me of my wife's respect, and make me less of a man. In addition, how do I teach my children the importance of trustworthiness when am far from same?

It's better to take a stand even if the world is against you. It may not the best of decisions, but it's far better than following a fickle crowd. Thanks once again for your timely comments.

wagzyl:
Dear OP, don't know if you will get to read this. If the woman in question is the woman of your dreams as you claim, please go back to her, shift grounds and make it work. 99% of guys out there and in this forum may not agree with this and say it is a stupid thing to do, you're not man enough, you're being controlled, blah blah blah........ My brother, you will be surprised how much authority wives, sisters, brothers, parents, etc wield in the lives of those advising you to be "man" enough. it's easy to advise others and play God. In all honesty, I have had fixed dates for introduction and marriage dashed! Was supposed to be married on my birthday, October 2 this year!!!! My Dad changed his faith and joined my mum in the Catholic Church. Don't make a big deal out of this I beg you in God's name. Shift your ground, make things work with the love of your life, shun all those discouragement. No one can ever Control your home on account of your change of faith. They'll rather respect you more and your wife n children will ever cherish you for the length you went to bring them to life. I'm a living testimony.

Dear Wagzy,
Thanks for your advice. However, it will amount to an act of betray should I accept the old man's terms. furthermore, I me relay an incident.

During one of her visits she had complained of how 'boring' my church service was. She longed to fellowship in the Catholic Church. I obliged on a Sunday. The emptiness I felt that day can't be expressed. Not surprisingly she felt same. That incident got me thinking deeply.

You must understand that religion defies logic. You can't be logical and religious on the same plane. I have always seen myself as a liberal Christian. Perhaps, I need search a little deeper. Thanks.

darknez:
You are hurting and for that I empathize with you. My story is strikingly similar to yours. I am based in Lagos, she in PH; I am Catholic, she is technically not a Catholic. Our Introduction was fixed for the 27th of August, 2015 but this was never to be, as today we aren't togethert, and like you, I was crushed by this realisation.

However, a notable difference between you and I is that I have since gone past my hurt and I do not particularly hold anyone or group, be it individuals, Church or family, responsible for our not being together today. I simply took it as God's will. If indeed God had willed that she be my wife, we would still be together today.

The truth is, if you are looking to get married and bring up your children as Protestants, I would advise that you do not waste your time with Catholic ladies who cherish their faith, for it is something that they are prepared to give their life for, let alone give it up so cheaply for the sake of marriage.

I am a Catholic and I do not see myself given up my faith for anyone. It is too precious a gift. Your story is quite sad and from the standpoint of one who has that experience, though in reverse, I understand your hurt perfectly. When I was hurting, I felt physical pains in my heart, for which the scars are still there even though I have gone past it.

Thence, I urge you, in the strongest terms possible, to move on. Moving on is never easy but it brings in its wake, a healing we cannot fathom. Crying over spilt milk is never worth it. Pick yourself up and find love again. This time, get someone you are compatible with in totality, to include a compatibility of faith.

Thanks bro. Its good knowing someone had been in my shoes before. I had my reservations when she told she was catholic. I specifically sought counsel from my Pastor. He gave me the go ahead. In his reasoning, marriage should be based not on religious affiliation but on compatibility, and the ability of both parties to compromise. You can imagine the nightmares when things started unfolding. I had 'abstained' from committed relationships for a year plus with the hope anyone I go into will end in marriage.

I have moved on. But the scars?? Time heal all wounds.

I have read with rapt attention all the replies. No reply is absolutely foolish. Thanks everyone for your comments. Sometimes its good you share a personal experience. Someone out there will learn a thing or two from it. Surprisingly, this personal experience graced the front page!!!lol!

Thanks Fammo, you seem to understand my reasoning. In the Old man's thought, he wants to continue giving his children spiritual nourishment. And that is irrespective of conjugal ties. He has been and still is a marriage counselor in the Catholic church. You can imagine the burden of doing the opposite of what you preach. As regards my ex she got me the more confused. She had once told me that should I accept the terms of mixed marriage, it will be impossible of her to renege.

fammo:
My brother, if the man is not ready to accept to your own terms please move on, love and marriage is not a do or die affair. It will be a failure on your part for your family to be ran based on the dictates of another man, what is d guarantee that principle imposition will only be limited to the church your wife and children will attend? Your fiancee too is not helping matters, when she is truely ready to marry you she will take her stand and face her parent......gals plenty out dia, marry the one dat does not come with terms and conditions.....wish you the best in life

Precisely, on 31st March, 2013 I asked my now ex to marry me. Not in some fancy restaurant, shopping mall or some heaven on earth theatrical setting. It was via a phone call. Surprisingly, we had never met in person! What madness!! Did she accept??

Love they say is like a butterfly, it perches wherever it wants. It's like a lion, it devours whoever that comes his way. How we fall in love at times is mysterious. We seldom have control in matters of the heart. This is how I felt the day I saw her picture carrying a child. Her little nephew. I love kids to a fault. In that split moment I told her how I wished it was our son she was carrying. That remark set aglow our hearts.

Initially, she doubted my sincerity. She had been hurt not once, twice but severally. Worse still she has a medical condition. A condition she erroneously thought will forever rob her of love. Hence her skepticism. Furthermore, my reputation with 'the ladies' on some social network we had met some years earlier was daunting. I had to prove my sincerity. I had to win her love.

As am typing this, my alarm just beeped! Its October 24th- the day I had slated for our introduction. Alas! It was never to be. Our love could not survive the divide. The 'hypocrisy' of the church has prevailed. I cannot believe am still hurting this bad. Maybe I was in a hurry to have ended it all. This is my story. Our story.

After the initial 'gragra' women exhibit we settled into a beautiful but distant relationship. She was based in Lagos, I in Port Harcourt. Days became weeks, and weeks months before our first physical encounter. I did first visit as a gent. We had wild fun!! Then came the moment of truth; a visit to her kit and kin to intimate them of my intention. Her brother-in law gave me his word. The only snag which was to destroy all we labored to build -the church! she is catholic, am protestant. She is Igbo am Ijaw.

True to his word, her brother-in law accompanied me to see her parents in her hometown- some community in Imo State. I was well received. Such a loving home. I made my intentions known with all seriousness. It's no child's play explaining while you consider a man's daughter worth more than other women to him. Thankfully, the son in-law gave me all the necessary support. However, convincing a retired teacher, a respected and unrepentant staunch catholic requires more than fancy words. I left that home with mixed feelings. Her father had plainly told me what mixed marriage entails. My wife and children will become 'properties of the catholic church'. It was non-negotiable.

I sought the advice of family members, and my pastor. All were of the opinion that her father's stance undermines my role as the head of our future family. Personally, I saw it as an 'indirect rule'. I enlisted one or two of her siblings, her mum inclusive to get her father to shift grounds. The old man wouldn't bulge. At my fiancee's suggestion I paid her uncle a scheduled visit. A Priest in some parish at Owerri. His stance was same as his elder brother's; convert to Catholicism or accept the terms of mixed marriage.

I was devastated. More so by my fiancee's shifting positions. Today she's all by my side, tomorrow she wants me to please her father. I saw it more as a character weakness than a woman drawn between love and the hands that fed her. Perhaps, it was a miscalculation on my part. She had her flaws. Mine was so glaring. But i found in her the woman of my dreams.

In the midst of this storm I had boldly gone ahead to fix today, October 24th my introduction day. I had called my Pastor to inform him, and a couple of family members. This decision was informed after my now ex had told me her siblings and other family members had prevailed on her father to soft pedal on his stance. He unbelievably agreed. So i thought. Until I made one more call!

The old man true to his principled nature remained unchanged. It was a blow too devastating to bear. I saw a relationship of over two years with countless sacrifices on both sides evaporate on the grounds of dogma. It hurts so bad to have met that special one only to realize you can not be with them for eternity. Should I have converted for love? That would have betrayed love itself. Love is without condition(s). Should I have settled for mixed marriage? Its unbearable! It's my responsible to provide both spiritual and physical nourishment for my future family.

So, it was only appropriate I let love go. If she finds her way back to me. I had be most fortunate not lucky. Fortune befriends the bold. A life of service to all humanity now beckons . It's a call I must answer. Who knows love maybe around the corner. Love knows no religious boundaries. Let's spread the glad tidings of ecumenism.

@OP,from 200l Sandra has been there fore you.Why do you want to hurt her? what you had with the second girl was lust occasioned by proximity.
for her to reconnect with her ex simply you both had a disagreement shows your replaceable.She has options. Read in between the lines bro.
You didnt tell us what has become of Sandra education wise. Is she in some school now?
Please, take some time and sought yourself out. Get a sheet of paper, write the qualities you desire in an ideal partner.Then take an objective look at Sandra,does she possess most of these qualities? Remember you can never have the perfect mate.There is always room for improvement.
You said your a corper now. Imagine the high hopes of Sandra. All in all a broken relationship is better than a failed marriage. You wear the shoe. Do not let your emotions override your sense of judgement. Always ask God for direction.

@Digitite, boss am yet to get mine oo.. D address: Ponoba81@gmail.com. Thanks in anticipation.

Boss, I need too oo Ponoba81@gmail.com. Thanks.

I have read with mixed feelings several comments as regards this topic. The informed and uninformed have put forward 'wonderful' postulations.
I will give my contributions to this issue in the simplest of terms. No medical jargons!
There are about 26 known blood groups. The one which we are most familiar been the ABO system. Understandably, a man who is AA and wife AS should give birth to a child who is either AA or AS. This is a general principle. But not in all cases!
As I stated before we have 26 known blood group. The ABO blood group system is closely linked to two other systems namely Hh and Lewis blood group respectively. These blood group systems especially the Hh, otherwise called Bombay blood group system determine the phenotypic expression of the ABO system. This is irrespective of genotype! Surprised?
Those of us that did chemistry most have heard of first order Reactions! The outcome is usually dependent upon the rate determining substrate. In this regard the Hh blood group determine the ultimate expression of the ABO system. I promised to be simple. Now let's drop too much talk.
For those who haven't heard of enzymes, they are chemical substances who speed up a chemical reaction but remain unchanged at the end. There is an enzyme called fucosyl transferase that is linked with the Hh system. This enzyme leads to the formation of an antigen. This antigen is acted upon by another enzyme linked to the ABO system. The results is the production of antigen A, B. The A and B alleles as we no are dominant. It has equally been found that certain bacteria can equally affect the expression of the A and B antigen. Aaah!! Too much yarns abi... Lol!
Now let's look at the case in review, we all know the S antigen is recessive and can manifest only in the homozygous state. However, from my little explanation above its possible there is a failure in enzymatic process leading to the formation of the A antigen. This alteration may have lead instead to the formation of only S antigen. Hence the phenotype of this child been SS.
in summary that once parents are of a particular blood group doesn't ultimately mean the children will be same. There are exceptions! The father needs to be carefully on the part he is threading. That little child needs love and care not frequent pricking!! Thanks.

NB : I have avoided detailed explanations using medical terms to make comprehension easy. One can Google these key words to read further:Bombay Blood group. Lewis blood group, rare blood group systems.

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OP, I read your story with a heavy heart, not cos of d consequences dat will happen to you if you tell ur friend, but cos of d 'wasted destinies' of ur former colleagues. Plz I would want you to contact me. My Pastor is a deliverance minister. I have witnessed God's mighty power through his ministry personally n in oda people's lives. He will pray with and equally counsel you how to go about telling your former colleagues. Christ came to set d captives free. I guess ur in Lagos. Am in ph.

GOODLUCK NIGERIA: A LESSON LEARNT.
Nigeria has come of age. Democracy has come to stay. The masses with who absolute power reside have spoken. And when they did the very heavens roared and the earth quaked in agreement. Gen. Mohammed Buhari (rtd) is the people’s choice. What sweet victory for the septuagenarian who have remained optimistic of leading this country since her return to democracy in 1999.
Many will argue that a man who truncated democracy in Nigeria should never be a beneficiary of same. However, he has defied all odds to ascend the highest position of authority in the land, not through the barrel of the gun again but through the ballot box.
However, the ‘real winner’ in this contest is His Excellency President Goodluck Ebele Jonathan (GCFR), a man of little beginnings. A man catapulted from the creeks of Otuoke to the seat of power- Aso Rock by destiny. Today this man has further solidified the foundation of our nascent democracy by conceding defeat to reflect the will of Nigerians.
As I ponder on the life of President Jonathan, and the 2015 Elections in general I have learnt the following lessons:
(1) Never allow your background to keep you in the background of life. Dream big; aim high.
(2) Humility will open to you uncommon doors of favour. However, it takes more than your humility to keep those doors open. Be wise!
(3) Politics is a game of numbers. Check, cross-check and check all over again to be sure you have the numbers on your side at all times.
(4) Never undermine the power of the masses. Never take their fickleness for granted.
(5) Never allow your ‘enemies’ form an alliance that will challenge your hold on power.
(6) Never alienate yourself from the masses. Learn how/when to dance to their tune.
(7) Never trust your praise singers. Let your praises come from the masses.
( Never romance ‘enemies of the State’ (militants, terrorists, etc) openly. Denounce and distance yourself from them publicly. However, keep them for your dirty jobs. There’s always an irritating head to knock!
(9) Never underestimate a man that commands the respect of the masses. If you cannot get him on your side, look for subtle ways to nail him.
10. Never mix family affairs with governance.
11. Sacrifice your perceived ‘untouchables/sacred cows’ to remain popular among the masses should the need arise.
12. Maximise the power at your disposal to its fullest.
13. Embrace defeat in the spirit of sportsmanship.
14. In all things give God the glory.
In the history books President Jonathan’s name has been written in gold.
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