ipobarecriminals:
FAKE news.

It's true!
I can confirm this cos am there.

jaxxy:


Where are her parents at? why aren't they worried about her?

Your GF needs to see a psychiatrist. It's very urgent. Addiction to sleeping pills is a serious issue. A psychiatrist will be able to work with her to restore her normal sleep rhythm.

Mrsage, thanks so much for this information.
This is really an eye opener into the world of real estate investment.
Hopefully, I will continue to follow your insightful post, and do further research as you encouraged before venturing into it.
I understand that charges are based on location. Could give some information on pricing? Thanks.

Tedpgrass, my respects!
Your analysis of this case is topnotch. From your first post to this one, I have learnt a lot.

Tedpgrass
post=101525044:


Hmmm difficult to break it down but will give it a try.

The lady went for the surgery due to heavy bleeding and pain.. That suggests a good sized fibroid or several fibroids which in itself is a risk factor for heavy bleeding..

The initial BP suggest a lady who was yet to recover from the heavy bleeding encountered in theatre. I'd presume she might have been given some pressors- to counteract low BP due to hypoperfusion. Pressors paradoxically affect kidney function unfortunately.

This would suggest a lot of bleeding occurred in theatre. A few centres at the time might consider taking the uterus out - which means no more children , at this point......... but concerns that the lady and her family would be irate at this turn of events- might have affected surgical consensus at the time.

Early onset jaundice--yellow eyes-- is uncommon with DIC that early - - DIC which is basically the loss of an inherent ability to form clots and stop bleeding as a result.
This brings the opinion of a possible blood transfusion reaction - - QA has to be on point here. Or a drug/ gas which affects the liver..

It'd appear that there were quite a number of unfortunate events. The lack of clotting factors may have accelerated the deterioration.. Despite the whole blood transfusion.

To some of the comments made earlier..
As much as overseas advice is useful, people should be careful about utilising advice from people who have restricted real-time contextual analysis.

It's not uncommon here to close a patient and do a hematological work up before a return back to theatre as there's so much surgery can do. Waiting for those few hours alongside abdominal packing with clotting factor replacement, hoping her body catches up and fights whilst in ICU has proven very useful.

Imho, imaging was needed at Premier as she was rather unstable to move elsewhere... In the early hours post surgery.

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OP, rest your mind. It's only a phase of you life. Many had similar experiences.

Your mind is at work here. Been anxious will only worsen the situation. Enjoy the moments while it last. Someday, wen your much older, you will wish for this experience.
Obviously, your are a teenager or in early adulthood. Soonest, the vicissitudes of life will alter this cycle of 'delayed ejaculation'. Enjoy it while it last o!
As for been able to father a child. You definitely will! So relax.
Many of were once there. We are longing for those days. Alas! It's once in awhile we experience it.

Mainlymanof:
Please come to my rescue, I am dying with depression. How can I be happy ? I'm not enjoying my sexual life. People say it is an advantage that I have delayed ejaculation condition. That so many older ladies love long lasting men on bed. Yes it's true but at my age I am not up to the level to mate with older ladies that do really love delayed ajaculation. At my age some of my age mate opposite sex can't be able to take pe.n.is not to talk more of long lasting sex . No matter the time we trust I will not cum, until I will get tired. And can't even thrust again. How can I father a child when I can't pur sperm inside my wife. How will she be able to get pregnant na. It is so painful . Help me out please. I need your advice now pls

Updated

Hahaha!! So on point!!

[ quote author=Antoeni post=99451115]ON TOP ONE MAN HEAD:

1. NEPA don bring bill
2. Buy bread when u are coming
3. Buy Egg when u are coming
4. Gas don finish
5. Kerosine don finish
6a. Generator no gree start
6b. Buy fuel for generator when u are coming
7. Car don get flat tyre, e no gree start
8. School fees don show
9. DStv/GOtv etc don stop to dey show
10. Dem come ask for vigilante money
11. Month don end for Lesson teacher
12. Biscuit and Happy Hour nko?
13. Dem go begin report the children to u as u dey enter
14. If u never build, Landlord matter na madding
15. Dem go still shook hand for ur pocket pack d small change join..
16. Tell u d pikin dey run temperature like say u be doctor...
17a. Buy them credit
17b. Buy them data
18. Not excluding Suya, Cat fish etc on some nights
19. Fridge, pressing iron, fan etc. go stop, another headache..
20. Dem still wan go amusement park on public holidays
21. How much be the salary sef..

I come go hospital for fever, doctor say I get High BP.

How man no go get High BP..

And

On top all, you must not disappoint in the inner room.. dem go still give you orders,

*"HONEY HARDER"*

Please, let's take it easy......our lives matters.
With or without us, life will continue.

E no dey easy sha,
GOD Blessings be with all us[/quote]

Insightful!!

This post is timely. Failure is one thing an entrepreneur most become accustomed with. Failure is a better teacher than success.
I have failed severally and may continue to fail. However, I am determined to make the most of myself. I have come too far in life to give up!
Nigeria seem to be one of the worst countries to become an entrepreneur. The whole system is orchestrated to frustrate you. Gosh!

This write up explicitly captures the travails of an entrepreneur.

horllamy:
too costly if you’re in Lagos I can do that for you for just small money

Am in Ph. Thanks.

Hello guys,
My HP Mini laptop won't come on. The operating system is Windows 7. I took it to an HP service centre.
The technician said I need a new hard drive, and upgrade to Windows 10. Total cost of both is #28,300. Plz is this amount too exorbitant? Should I try somewhere else? Thanks.

1. Gratitude is life. Always be grateful.

sammysage:
I can say I have suffered from depression most of my life. And speaking of life, I have never really had one.

I grew up in a strict family background, though from a broken home. I can't really say me being the way I am was the fault of my dad due to the fact that my other siblings turned out well.

I'm very quiet to a fault, don't talk much. Always prefer my own company. I always get jealous and feel bad when I see people around me flowing well with each other. I have tried to make friends to no avail.

I have never had a close friend. Although I have had series of romantic entanglements that never seemed to last more than months. My girlfriends always ends up leaving because they feel i don't love them or want them around. Which is most times not the case, I just have trouble expressing my love to them. I stopped dating for more than 8 years now, I have been single since then. I am 30 years old currently, yet I am still single. I have so far lost the courage to even walk up to a girl or maintain a conversation with a girl online.

I'm really depressed. I am all alone. I have no friends, no love. And no close family ties as I'm not close to my siblings. Nobody calls me or chat with me. I'm all alone.

I have no job, never had a job in fact. Graduated since 2014, yet no job. I always flop at the interview stage not for being incompetent but for the inability to express myself coherently. Speaking with people I don't know tends to make me uncomfortable, tense and twitchy. I really don't know what to do. I have mainly survived on freelance jobs online which really doesn't pay much, but enough for my low key lifestyle.

I am highly depressed and lately thoughts of just ending it all has been entering my mind. I have tried various self helps, but nothing seems to be working.

I really need a life, but I just don't know how to go about getting it. First I need advices. I need a job. I need friends, close friends I can mingle with. Friends willing to call and check up on me. Friends to motivate me when I'm down and depressed. Friends to drag me out of my shell and never give up on me.

I need people around me or else I might just get mowed down by depression and end it all. I know most of you here would say suicide is not the solution, yeah I know that...but sometimes it just feels so easy to just let it all go.

Please come to my rescue, I would really hate to follow that path.

P.S I need a job, where I won't be placed on the hot seat at the interview stage. I don't mind the pay. I just want something doing, something that takes me out of the house everyday. A job that keeps me so busy that I don't have the time to entertain suicidal thoughts. A job that gives me the opportunity to meet and mingle with people and with time help me pull out of my shell.

Please if you can help in any way, directly or through recommendations. It would go a long way. I'm Lagos based.

Sammysage, you are great guy! The power to turn around your life lies within you. You overcame several millions of spermatozoa to come into this world.

You got something in you the world is yearning for. You are a child of destiny. When all seems to turn against you-hold on! There's light at the end of the tunnel.

I have had 3 near death experiences. I have been diagnosed with depression and anxiety disorders. I have had sleepless nights for about 6 months. I have suffered terrible losses.

I gave up on life many times. I contemplated suicide. Life was meaningless at a point. I felt left behind among my peers.

I blamed everyone and everything for my woes. The more I did, the deeper I sank in despair. Negativity breeds negativity.

Alas! I looked inward. I took responsibility for my life. I became the captain of life.

I couldn't have done it without God. Turn to Him. Look up onto Jesus Christ. Have a personal relationship with the Holy Spirit. Am speaking from a personal perspective.

Let me leave you with this scripture. Isaiah 41:10. Be strong!

NairalandSARS:


20mg is the starting dose.
Only a fool would overdose on paroxetine.

It's against the ethics of medicine to prescribe a medication without proper diagnosis.
Dont ruin the guy's life.
Paroxetine is highly addictive. Speaking from experience.

I did my NYSC in Machina. I heard the story but never got to see any snakes.
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Market is on Sundays.

Only one church (COCIN) was permitted to run services. Don't know if things have changed.

The Emir is highly educated and friendly, can't forget in a hurry how He hosted us to a sumptuous dinner wen we were about rounding up service. We ate in trays with bare hands.

Niger is some 30minutes away. Some parts of the community such as the hills, and lush grasslands instill awe. Well, the weather is same as in other parts of the north, and so are the people.

Hello FosterMed,
I guess your practising in the UK now? I am presently practising in Nigeria. I learnt Ireland have shortage of medical doctors. I will appreciate if you could furnish me with some information as regards relocating. In addition I'd appreciate recommendations to other countries your knowledgeable about.
I sent you a PM. Thanks.

fostermd:
Well,i guess there are challenge everywhere!i work in Dublin but moving to Uk soon cos i completed my training here.Due to recession,salaries have been reduced in Ireland .however due to shortage of doctors in Uk,the pay is good.If u can study for USMLE,the states is very good after the residency.I know its very tough in naija,moreso if u can relocate the exposure is better.

This cracked me real good! Your mum has sadly realized MBBS in Nigeria doesn't guarantee financial freedom. Am a Doc too.
qquote author=Martinez39 post=83679889] I wanted to be a soccer star but mumsy was having none of that. Later, I wanted to be a mathematician or a physicist but mumsy no gree. I remember my mum saying in anger "if it's not a medical course, count me out. What will you use Maths and Physics to do after school?" I yielded to this pressure and chose MBBS. Luckily for me, I got MBBS and I don't regret it. Just yesterday, mumsy was telling me "Don't force your children to do any course" and I nearly said "look who is talking." Thank goodness I didn't say it. [/quote]

funshint:
At this moment stop all calls and messages. Also stop sending people to her; don't continue "bombing" her. You've done your best. She's still hurting for now....okay. Just give her time. A few days or even weeks. When her head finally settles down; she'll definitely contact you. Believe me it works! Thereafter take things slow, one step at a time. Takecare...winks!

Guy, take this OP's advice. No further story.

Dear Nikkyharry,the foundation of every relationship is communication.The presence or absence of it determines the fate of every relationship. From your initial post and subsequent responses it's obvious there's some degree of communication. What needs to be done is to strengthen the bond of communication.

You stated your man is the 'busy' type. And I believe you are engaged in one activity or the other. Factor his schedule and yours. Understanding is what you need the most at this stage.

Hasty decisions will leave you miserable. In every relationship one partner will be more involved. That you are more committed today doesn't mean it's gonna be so forever.
Please remember upbringing, past experiences and environment play a lot in relationships. Its best getting to know your man than trying to change him. Learn to accept him the way he is. Concentrate on making him a better man.

At the initial stage of my relationship I had same communication issue with my fiancee. She hardly calls. Severally I thought of dumping her but there was this still voice telling me to patient. When we finally had a heart to heart conversation I was glad I didn't act on impulse.
Today, we both make conscious effort to communicate. I equally realized that communication is reciprocal. You reap what you sow. The more I reached out to her the more she reciprocates.

This post maybe long but please if you can keep the communication alive. Above all pray about it. In my case prayer helped a lot. That still voice urging me to be patient was God's voice. Hopefully, your man will come to appreciate you for who you are.

Finally, don't get lost in the relationship. Know that you are special as well. Make a conscious effort to develop yourself. A person of value is irresistible. Cheers.

Dear Duchess500,the desire for sexual intimacy you have been experiencing in the past 2weeks is normal like others have said. It's your hormones at play. Of course the materials(books,movies, peers etc) you feed your mind of late could equally account for the surge.
As an adolescent your in a phase of self discovery. You are transiting from childhood into adulthood. This is a critical phase in your development. Unfortunately, your mum like most Nigerian mothers is oblivious of this fact. Hence, her spiritualization of a normal process. You don't need deliverance. You need to speak with someone with the requisite knowledge on adolescent sexual health.

The sexual urge is the strongest of all urges.it has made slaves out of kings. It's has elevated common men into seats of honor. It's a matter of mastery. You may have to review your associations if there has been a significant change. You may equally screen what you feed your mind.

Finally, as a young adult your future should be paramount. Impress on your mind that you will not engage in anything that can mortgage your bright future. Always remember feelings come and go. Feelings are deceptive. You have at your disposal the WILLPOWER to say No! Exercise it. Merry Xmas.

DEAR DOCTOR: THE PATIENT IS HUMAN

I care about my patients. They pay my bills. They keep me in business. They are my employers! Most importantly, the diversity of their disease conditions is vital to the survival of my knowledge base as a practitioner. The more patients I see the better off I am as a practitioner in all ramifications.

However, over the years I have grown somewhat desensitized to my patients. I have unconsciously developed this numbness to my patients’ feelings. How this came about I cannot tell. Perhaps a combination of internal factors (uncertainties in health care, increased workload and limited time etc) and external factors (socioeconomic, environmental, psychosocial etc) are to blame. This conditioning has robbed me of compassion, an essential ingredient in patient care. Those most affected by this ‘unconscious conditioning’ unashamedly are the poor.

The doctor-patient relationship has always been one wroth with friction the years over. While most countries of the world especially developed ones have made giant strides to improve this, the situation is different in underdeveloped countries like Nigeria. Naturally, an average patient has absolute faith in his/her doctor. He or she sees the doctor as a ‘god’. The doctor has the power to take, sustain or ‘give’ life. . As a result of this a deteriorating doctor-patient relationship is a recipe for increased morbidity and mortality.

In a country in-which the doctor-patient ratio stands well over 1:8,000, a far cry from the WHO recommended 1:100; loosing touch of my patient’s humanity is too grave an offense to commit. The consequences can never be overemphasized. I must therefore strive to uphold the terms of the oath I took at induction into the medical profession. Compassionate care is at the heart of this oath. The patient is as human as I.
We are all emotional beings. Taking away my humanity overtly or subtly is a violation of my fundamental human rights. The act of reducing a patient to a ‘disease entity’ is bad practice and must be frowned at. The patient, irrespective of his/her prognosis must be seen and managed as a human being.

It is only by reaching out firstly to the emotional part of a patient can a doctor completely manage same of whatever illness. It has been scientifically proven that almost all diseases have an emotional perspective or origin. Changing the emotional conditions/states may completely lead to or greatly improve recovery. #ThePatientisHumanCampaign.

Powered by: Ponoba Medical Consult,(www.facebook.com/ponobamedicalconsult).

Dear Yettybaby, I empathise with you for this unnecessary emotional and physical trauma caused by this doctor. It's completely unacceptable.

That your Hepatitis B positive doesn't mean you need treatment immediately. The test carried out by this doctor only shows your positive. To decide whether you need treatment requires further Testing to ascertain the Hepatitis B viral load. The doctor should have counselled you properly rather demanding for 35,000 naira for treatment.

I have a patient who had a similar case. The doctor prescribed an antiviral drug for him. In his doubt he contacted me for clarification. I took time to explain everything about Hepatitis B to him. He never took the drug and he's still very much alive and healthy. Presently only Hepatitis C has a cure. There's no cure for Hepatitis B.

Please like someone said a repeat test from a reputable Laboratory like PathCare will suffice. Better if the test could be done in a government hospital that will override the test done by this doctor. It's rather unfortunate that some doctors in their greed and limited knowledge on certain illnesses are dragging the medical profession to the mud.

Please and please don't accept any drug for Hepatitis B. All you need is to abstain from alcohol, drugs and other substances that can negatively affect your liver. You can live to a ripe old age with Hepatitis B. Should you be in doubt kindly visit a specialist. A consultant Gastroenterologist will put you through. Thanks.

Dear YoungExec, like many others on Nairaland who have been fortunate to draw from this well of financial wisdom you unleashed. I remain eternally grateful. You have rewired my thinking.

I have in the last one year run a business entrusted into my hands. I grew it from scratch. Today, it's self sustaining. This feat motivated me to start my own company. Am opening in a few weeks.

Thus, stumbling on this post is timely. You have given me an invaluable tool that will serve as a guide in my business. I will read, reread and keep reading this words of yours till they stick. I do hope to share my success story like others soonest.
I will equally request if you could be kind enough to serve as my financial advisor. I believe minds like yours are essential to young Nigerian entrepreneurs. Minds like yours are worth more than silver and gold.

Once again thanks for this insightful subject. As you gave freely what could have fetched you enormous financial returns. May God continuously bless you in all your endeavors. I remain grateful, today and always. Thanks.

Blaqsmith:

Thanks. But I just wanted to be free. I've been a prisoner of my own conscience deceiving her all along. She deserves to know the truth.

But why can't you date an atheist?
Why do you think dating theist is a better choice?
Where is your God when I lost my brother after fervent prayers?
What is your God doing to help the homeless and hungry children on the streets?

My dear friend, matters of religion are personal choices. Choices can make or mar. The reasons for choices could be objective or subjective. Why questioning the rationale for our choices may amount to irrational encroachment of personal space, it is pertinent we at times evaluate our choices in the light of truth.

From your original post and replies to comments, one can infer that circumstances made of you an atheist. "Where was God when your brother died?", you asked. Perhaps, this is but one of many questions you have had to ask to question the existence of God. I live the answers to your many questions to God himself. He has been answering your questions, he will keep answering them even if you fail to acknowledge. He cares so much for his creation.
The existence of God has been debatable over the years. The very fact that man questions the existence of a divine being is a testament to the power of choice God have endowed man with. Man as a free moral agent is the most intelligent of all creation. If indeed there be a God who created man in his image and likeness. It is not irrational to say that man is a god. And as such possesses though to a lesser degree same power/qualities of God, his creator.
Look within and around you. You see orderliness in nature. Think of the intricate functioning of your body systems. Observe the sun. Gaze at the distant horizon. Appreciate the beauty in faces, colors and shapes of humanity. Be awed by the distant stars. Let the vastness of the ever expanding universe instill but humility and gratitude.

Good and evil befalls all of God's creation. Should the prey curse God cause he made him vulnerable to a predator? Nay! For in his vulnerability lies his strength. Herein lies the infallible law of adaptation. The laws of nature are set. They are impartial. He who understands them benefits by them. The ignorant is inexcusable and thus suffers for breaking them.

A case for the existence of God is too 'delicate' for me to thread. But be reassured that when your beloved brother died. When toddlers die. When natural and man made disasters strike. Nature always acts to correct such ills. The law of compensation,which many commonly know as karma, cause and effect etc entails that an equilibrium is always achieved in nature. This precision in nature could in all sanity be attributed to a greater power.

A life of denial is too tortuous to life. The emotional pain is unbearable. Life in my opinion is brief and such should be lived to the fullest. If your convinced that been an atheist is best for you. Own up! Stand for what you believe. The friends you loose, nature shall replace. Better ones, tolerant of your views she shall bring your part. This includes in all sincerity your girlfriend.

But should you reconsider your beliefs in the light of truth. Should you in your quiet moments reflect on the beauty of nature. Should you in your thoughts ask God to prove his existence to you. Be reassured that God has all the answers to your limited questions. He created you. He knows more than you know yourself. He loves you. For his very nature is Love. Thanks.

Dear OP, your guilty of the sin of generalisation. Like a typical uninformed lady in this part of the world your one questionable encounter with a doctor becomes a yardstick to judge all doctors. Kindly upgrade your thinking faculty.

Doctors are flirts. Doctors womanise to a fault . Bla bla. We hear this all the time. For crying out loud doctors are humans. Flesh and blood!

A doctor is bound by the ethics of his profession. He's highly professional. His interactions with his patients are always for the latter's good. He's a demi-god. A doctor's decision can spell life or death!!

Am not trying to paint a perfect picture of my profession. Doctors have their shortcomings like any other humans. To take their humanity from them is to make gods ( infallible beings) out of them. A thing not possible in this life.

An average Nigerian has this wrong perception displayed by this myopic minded OP about doctors. Most especially the female folks. I always shake my head in disappointment when a lady tries to put d 'flirt' tag on me simply cos am a doctor.

Truth be told most ladies secretly desire the respect that comes with associating with a doctor. Power is highly seductive. My personal encounters and those of other colleagues has always shown these shallow minded ladies are the 'aggressors'. They device every means to get your attention. Many a lady have feigned illness simply to get my attention.

Doctors are not perfect. Like all other professions, there are the good, bad and ugly doctors. That you encountered a certain doctor who couldn't respect his wife or the tenets of his profession doesn't mean all doctors are same. I admonish you to desist from this perception about doctors and other persons in general as it will only cause you pain. Thanks.

I was one of several medical students privileged to have been taught by you back in Medilag. I still remember vividly your masterly craft on 'human bones' in theatre. An orthopedic surgeon extraordinary.

My teacher, Dr Adekoya-Cole may you find rest in God's bosom. May he alone reward you for the countless lives you touched. And may he grant your family the grace and fortitude to bear this irreparable loss. Medilag has lost one of her best. Adieu.

Dear OP, words can't express how hurt you feel. Your hurt is made worse knowing your man is cheating on you with a lady you have known all your life. It's debasing. It's really saddening.

From your post both of you were friends for 5-6 months, and became lovers in the 7th (August). How has your sexual relationship been since you started dating? Is it a no-sex-till-marriage or sexual relationship? If it's the former, your man's cheating may not be unconnected with a desire for sexual gratification. If it's the latter i.e sex is involved it's either he's hyper sexual, you don't satisfy him sexually or the other woman fulfils he's sexual fantasies.

Relationships are built on trust. Once trust is broken the relationship is as good as been dead. Can you live with reality of a broken trust? It's never advisable to make rash decisions in a fit of rage. Your emotionally down, confronting him in this state will do more harm dan. He's definitely gonna be on d defensive. Another apology and promise never to see this other lady. Guess what? He's gonna go back to her!! Not immediately but certainly he will. There's something about dat lady he finds irresistible.

Am not saying you shouldn't confront him. You have to as a matter of necessity. But you need to review your relationship first before doing same. How has your relationship been since August. Take every aspect into consideration. Especially your sexual lives. Do you both discuss sex freely. What did he tell you about his sexual history and fantasies. How knowledgeable are you in meeting a man's sexual needs. Since, your problem has a sexual undertone you have to look into your own sexual life first before addressing his.

If you heed my advice and take sometime to review your relationship in the last 9months then you can lovingly confront him. You must do same without criticism. Let him know how you feel about his inability to keep his promise. Ask him about your shortcomings especially in terms of sex if you both into it. Promise you won't be upset but determined to meet his sexual needs. Always know everyone however moral they may seem have certain fantasies. Lovingly get to know his, and he yours.

Am optimistic that after having this heart to heart talk with your man both of you will come out stronger and better appreciate yourselves. Kindly ignore the other lady. If you make any move against her directly or indirectly you stand to get hurt the more. As hard as it may seem assume she doesn't exist. Stick to your man. Shower him with respect. Yes respect!! Men crave respect a lot. Show him love, care and be more understanding. Besides don't be too hard on yourself and him. I see a bright future ahead of you two. Don't let some obstacle ruin it. Thanks.

Gee respect the guys' code. If your hommie is with her as you have reliably confirmed back out. Women come and go. Buddies always stick together.

It's a feeling. Feelings come and go. Let it slide. She isn't the most beautiful of women you've seen in life. Lick your wounds and look out for someone prettier.

Olivebranches:
Pls o help your fellow brother oooo. My girl is still communicating via phone with her ex- the guy that disvirgined her. The guy still beg her to come back according to her. I told her to stop communicating with him. I told her to call and tell him not to call her again. She did in my front (using loud speaker). But two days later the guy called her and she picked. They talked for 9 minutes. I talked to her condemned her action. Though she later appologised. I made her promise me never to communicate with him again. For hours now she's been unhappy and moody.

Pls someone should tell me o, what's really going on?.

My friend you don't have to be an option in someone's life. Obviously, your supposed gf still have affection towards her ex. She's cheating on you!! Emotional infidelity is same as sexual infidelity.

Stop wasting your life over a confused woman. Walk away with the little dignity you still have left. You deserve to be loved, and respected by your woman. And please don't tell me moving on is gonna be hard. Take this bold step, and see how strong you really are inside.

It's quite interesting reading different views on this topic. Basically, three groups of thought have emerged. Those who see dating/marrying an older lady a 'taboo', those who given the right conditions will marry, and the supposed indifferent who seemed to be swayed by the arguments of the two aforementioned.

One commentator did talk about genes as a deciding factor in age. While this is true to some extent it's not absolute. Science has proven without reasonable doubt that nature(genes) and nurture(environment) determine what becomes of an individual in the long run. Previously, nature seemed to have the upper hand, but advancement in science has reversed this trend. Environment/nurture is now a more potent determinant!

Thus, a woman who probably due to genetics may age early can through nurture significantly delay this process. As an example medical science tells us if you have a family history of diabetes, hypertension or some other inheritable diseases your chances of developing same is high in comparison to someone without such family history. If this person with a family history of an inheritable diseases consciously imbibe healthy lifestyle his/her chances of manifesting the said disease is greatly reduced. The validity of this argument can be verified from any health practitioner.

If the above argument is valid, then it's possible that an older lady may delay the natural tendency to aging by adopting healthy lifestyles. You don't have to have much money to look younger. The most important is to be health conscious. Watch what you eat. Exercise regularly. Take fruits and lots of vegetables. Get adequate sleep especially at night. Simply put reduce stress as much as possible.

Like I said in one of my posts on this subject matter, dating/marrying an older lady are for real men. Men who understand the dynamics of relationships, and not swayed by societal perceptions. Most of the arguments against been with an older lady I have read so far are based on 'what will people say'. If you keep listening to the World you will never fulfill your destiny.

Life is a choice though. Those who cannot date/marry an older lady are right in there own way. Marriage is a life journey. Thus, it's expedient one go into it with eyes wide open. Only the shoe wearer knows where it hurts the most. My one cent though.

Poseidon000:
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Lol..you funny sha!

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Baba, this holy water get confirm spiritual healing, Even TB joshua no see em back
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Choi!! Baba ni dis must be the holy water the samaritan woman was begging Bros J for ooo..
C how oyinbo demself no send anybody, dem just dey high on top holy water.

Abeg, u fit dey give me dis holy water, today, tomorrow and forever?? I no b Oliver Twist ooo...

Poseidon000:

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Your head dey there my guy.

Oya take holy water chill for dis better yarn.
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Boss, this holy water get as e b ooo.... E b like say na holy water turned to shekpe. For my villa dem no dey reject gift sha... Thanks.

Acebar:
copy and paste copy and paste

@Acebar, copy and paste?? I pray do tell where I copied. What I wrote was entirely a product of my mental ability. Thanks.

Protagonists of love always say, "age is but a number". This truism has served different purposes in people's lives. Love is an inexplicable feeling. Don't sweat it. Whether young or old, we are creatures of love.

Who we fall in love with in most cases is beyond our control. To love an older woman takes a great deal of self confidence, maturity and tact. Dating older women isn't for 'boys'. It takes a real man to date an older woman.

Personally, I have had encounters with older women. Till date I occasionally fantasise ending up with one. My reasons may not scale the test of logic. But give me a break. Matters of the heart defy logic. *winks *.

It's generally believed that older women are physically, mentally and emotionally more matured in relationships than their younger counterparts. They have seen it all. They have had their fair share of youthful exuberance. They have tasted all that's to be tested. The good, bad and very ugly of men have crossed their parts.

Their experiences have conditioned their minds, and moulded them into better partners. They know how to get and keep a man. They know that the most important thing a man desire is respect! And they ditch it in abundance. They know that men are visually stimulated beings, and thus make efforts to remain irresistible to their men. They know an average man loves sex, and doesn't joke with his food. Simply put, older women tend to know the most basic needs of a man, and they strive to 'provide' them.

Older women rock!! A black brother who is with one, or have been with one will attest to this. That doesn't mean they don't have their negatives. No human is perfect. Put side by side I will choose an older lady over a younger one. My two cents though.