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Solofresh2:
You're right. Mr Eazi and Temi Otedola's story was public. Their engagement, their multi country wedding, the pregnancy,it was all over the news.

But here's the thing.We saw the wedding. We didn't see the marriage. Nobody knows what happens behind closed doors.We saw the pregnancy announcement.We didn't see the arguments, the compromises, the quiet sacrifices.We saw the public narrative. We didn't see the private truth.

The fact that you know their story doesn't mean you know why he married her. Was it love? Was it connection? Was it access? Was it a mix of everything?

The point of the thread isn't to pretend Mr Eazi is a mystery. The point is, nobody knows the real reasons behind any marriage famous or not.And even if he married for money, that doesn't mean it failed. It means he made a choice and it worked for him.Stop using Mr Eazi's public life to shut down a thread about private confessions. They're not the same thing

Remember, there was noise and then they married and there was silence... And then boom! Mr Easi shows us his food. And then silence again.

Guy, we can fill in the gap exactly as people did for uncle Tuface and Nat girl. And you can see, same thing is playing out

Solofresh2:
You're painting with too broad a brush.Some men married for money and it worked. They're comfortable. They're quiet. They don't post on Nairaland. They don't confess. They just live. You won't hear from them because they have nothing to prove.Some men married for money and suffered.They stay silent because of shame. You won't hear from them either.The ones who murdered their wives? That's not "marrying for money." That's psychopathy. That's a different conversation entirely.

The point is,you can't say 'none worked' when you only see the failures.
The successes are invisible. The failures are loud. That's the selection bias

You think rich women EVER want to marry a man they are richer than?

NEVER.
Aladdin dey deceive una if not you would have known that no rich woman would ever marry a man she is richer UNLESS

1) she is the hated and rejected one of the family.

2) she is the uglyest girl and the one who the family is ashamed of having

3) the baddest girl of the family who none one in her class of rich people would ever ever marry because everyone knows her story for she has done it all, drugs, abortion, 2somes, lesby, clubs, sex tapes etc)

4) Then today's fulfilment of the prophecy that women would not be able to able to marry, is what is causing this.

So, rich girls are always aware that poor men want to use them to come up and her friends and family would laugh at her for marrying downwards, so, if she's not in those above listed conditions, nothing for any poor man and this is just your wish talking.

And ehen, i think you are thinking that because she gbenshed you, you can hope to marry her. That is a joke. A rich girl can like you enough to date and gbensh BUT, SHE WILL NEVER EVER MARRY YOU.

It is a law, so lose hope, none worked and no one will ever work.

A gold digger will never allow the poor to come and dig her own gold. Shebbi phyna or so just said so last week?

Guy, there is no middle ground here or any success. If there was, you no know say man must boast?

If, he can't boast it's because he has not yet won

Solofresh2:
Exactly. The guy is assuming. He doesn't know Mr Easy's story. He's just projecting.Nobody knows why anyone married. Love, money, pressure, pregnancy, desperation.You can't tell from the outside.People who marry for love also suffer. Terrible food, cheating, disrespect, financial ruin. Love doesn't protect you from pain.People who marry for money sometimes win. Comfort, security, peace.Llove can grow later, or it doesn't matter.

The point of the thread is to let men speak for themselves. If you have a story, share it. If you don't, read and learn. Don't mock what you don't know

You clearly have carried up your denials again as you forget that mr Easi's life and gist with Teni used to be on the news regularly before they eventually married. So every reasonable person can see where he is coming from and where he was heading to

brain54:
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Wetin dey wrong with the food Mr easy dey chop and how you take know say he marry for money?


People wey marry for love no dey chop terrible food from their wives?


This life talk your own... and I think that's what the op is asking. You can never know those that married for whatever reasons except they open up and tell you.


If you no marry for money just leave the story and no dey call people out.


Abi easy tell you say he marry for money?


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Guy, this na food adult Nigerian man won chop? Even you call am tablet.
https://www.nairaland.com/8519286/speculations-mr-eazi-shares-size#136803839

And guy, how your guy man won wait for 10yrs to marry rich babe, wey we see say she no won marry am, if no be because of say the babe na bank?

If she be akara woman daughter e for wait reach 6months?
Never

Solofresh2:
You're right. The ones who married for money and are suffering won't talk.

Why? A man who married for money and regrets it can't admit it. He'll be mocked. He'll be called a fool. He'll be called a "woman."He chose this. He can't turn back. He has to pretend it's working.If he speaks, his wife might find out. His family might find out. His friends might find out. He's trapped.Silence is survival. In Nigeria, a man who admits he married for money and regrets it is a dead man walking.
The suffering stays silent.But the ones who married for money and it worked? They won't talk either. They don't want to expose the game.

Either way, you won't hear from them. That's the point.

There is none that worked as you might imagine and the ones that worked are the ones who murdered their wives and they still ended in prison with the wife's family still getting the booty back. So, they still lost

Those who know me know, know that I call on men to watch women and their ways very attentively that they would see and understand every thing they do and know how to deal with them or why you do not want to deal with them.

So, today I have finally concluded of this rubbish we see, especially as this ones were even bold to make it public

The video footage of the crying mother kissing her daughter on the lips is currently trending online due to obvious reason…

https://www.nairaland.com/3685192/tongues-wagging-mother-daughter-lip-kiss#54631868

Ah! I cannot forget i was shocked paralyzed for days as i could not comprehend this rubbish when the news broke out. And I perceived that there was much underneath this rubbish since Truth has a way of always leaking out and trying to exposing things.

And so today I declare to you men that some mothers (i believe many but we go catch them one by one) also have s3s with their daughters...


...... and sons too!

Lots of sh*** going on

The video footage of the crying mother kissing her daughter on the lips is currently trending online due to obvious reason…

https://www.nairaland.com/3685192/tongues-wagging-mother-daughter-lip-kiss#54631868

Now I know that some mothers gbensh their daughters. Chai things dey happen for our front but we, men, no know say na true true e dey happen

Goodhardick, you don see dis one?

Nefort:
It's not just a microphone. AI referenced a research carried out where men in general reported more sexual desire than women reported.

It is still microphoning what someone somewhere purportedly researched. Still a microphone

Lojical1:
I saw this woman's post and I couldn't help laughing.

A married mother of four entered a keke, saw a beautiful woman and spent 12 minutes completely distracted.

She wanted the lady's contact for her brother. Infact she started admiring her skin, wondering how soft it would feel, asking about whitening lotion and eventually admitted:

“I wish I was a man for today.”

Another woman joined the conversation and said beautiful women have made her wish she was a man too.

Then came the conclusion:

“Sometimes I understand why men cheat.”

Exactly.

This is the part people conveniently forget when discussing men and infidelity.

Marriage does not suddenly make every other woman on earth ugly. A married man can still see a beautiful woman, feel attracted to her and experience sexual temptation. His wedding ring does not remove testosterone, attraction or curiosity.

The fact that he is attracted to someone else does not mean his wife is unattractive. It means he is still human.

What matters is whether he controls himself.

However, if we are going to have honest conversations about why men cheat, we should at least acknowledge that temptation is real. Men are constantly exposed to attractive women, and some women actively encourage that attention. Some men are also surrounded by opportunities that make cheating extremely easy.

You cannot spend years telling men that they are naturally visual, sexually driven and constantly pursuing women, then act shocked when some of them struggle with fidelity after marriage.

This does not excuse cheating.

It explains the temptation...

It does excuse for it is a valid explanation.

However, the excuse is .... by the fact that this explanation/temptation also applies to the woman too, therefore, she too should be excused on this reason.

So, let no complain about cheating and give understanding to each other

bobestman:
Later

Anytime

Nefort:
AI proves you wrong and and also proves that men need sex more than women.

Do you not see that ai is just a microphone repeating what someone somewhere has said?

Meanwhile, all these things are things caused by women and initiated by women to make men and women desire sex

Ah! You no know say na cry and suffer dem dey?

You no see the food wey mr easy dey chop?

They can't even come here to answer you.

bobestman:
You will keep confusing yourself cos you want to teach something far beyond your knowledge and far above what they even wrote for you. Many of such things are codes. Never happened the way you read

I have already finished presenting what I have so, you either counter it or provide your own view let us all see and examine if it is true

Who is to come yet the world is winding up exactly as Revelations Said. Continue

bobestman:
Be careful how you twist things
How does to fulfill and bring a justify end correlate?
To fulfill means to accomplish things written about him in the law and he did many of such. To abolish means to completely abandoned. That will mean that many things written about him both those fulfilled and still to be fulfilled are no longer necessary ..

He knows, he just cannot accept it for this is his bias.

ReluctantAdult:
Well, they might be but the point is the leverage. Who can hold it out?

It's like a game. I'm hungry, you're hungry, but I pretend as if I'm okay because I need you to buy the food that we both would eat. So it's a win-win for me because you can't control your hunger

So I'll always use my ability to control my hunger to exploit your inability to bear yours and make you always pay for what I'll also enjoy

Precisely

bigpicture001:
Ask people for where they call J5. That is where it happened all our drivers saids it's in lagos

Ok.

Sorry for this terrible thing

Mccallistas:
If I tell you I understand wetin you write

Maybe you go need to read am sentence by sentence

Solofresh2:
You're saying marry first, then come back in 2 years. That's exactly the point of this thread.The men sharing their stories already married. They already had the kids. They already lived it.They're not theorizing. They're testifying.You think you know? Marry. Do your due diligence. Plan everything. Then come back and tell us how it went.
Maybe you'll be one of the lucky ones. Maybe you won't. Either way, you'll understand why this thread exists because you'll have lived it.
Until then, you're just another person talking from the outside.

You think I'm not married? Ok. It has always been said that experience is the best teacher.

GuestInfinity:
Not all women are like that. If you use money to woo women, you'll naturally attract those kinds of women

This is your wish talking

Every time second hand value. Una never even buy the car una go dey tink second hand value, na so una dey spoil car wen e enter una hand?

Cool down enjoy your moto first then wen you tire, pass am to the next person wey go thank God for you.

bigpicture001:
I am an insider working at GUO...

Leme give u people break down of how this accident went down

1. The headline is deceitful..the accident happened in lagos not Benin lagos highway...the OP posted this to.mk it look like it's the bad road

2. GUO company is not at fault but will be responsible for the lives and properties of his persongers...this because the company usually engage more than one driver on her route to lagos using the luxury buses...it's is usually, one senior driver, one new driver and a conductor..

3. It is a night bus travel accident

4. The driver should be blamed or even arrested cuz he narrated while on J5 road incoming inside lagos before berger..@ about 5am, he thought the vehicle ahead of him was moving not knowing the said truck is stationary untill u got dangerously close

It was supposed to b a head on but he ND his crew will all die if they collided, so he swerved his hands ND the stationary vehicle got the body of the luxury bus

5. More than 10 persons lost their lives including a new mom whose less than 6 months old twin children survived

6. The lady I help board the bus in Abakiliki is still in the hospital with a fractured neck

Sorry, this is not near Lagos. No thick forest on Ibadan express way from Sagamu to Lagos.

Worryingly:
I always thought fatal accidents involving buses this size were pretty rare, given how big and sturdy they are except, of course, when the bus ends up plunging into a body of water.

Looking at the bus, there doesn’t even seem to be any major structural damage from the impact, apart from the shattered windows. So how did so many people end up dying?

I can see it caught fire and the front looks clean cept for the windscreen damage

Did it brush a petrol tanker or something? The picture is not showing us the whole road.

ReluctantAdult:
Bro we are not talking about who is hornier here. We are discussing 'sexual leverage'

As long as women wouldn't give men money and other resources just to get laid, like men do, then they win. It shows they are not so h0rny to the point of making unnecessary sacrifices to quench those urges.

Honeyness is contributory to the determinants of sexual advantage and leverage

Goo0dHardDick:
women are by far more horneir than men. We're not ready for this conversation.

Is a woman's soapy a joke to you? Those girls you see pretending and acting like they hate sex, dude soapy is their food back to back

They are actually not hornier, they are simply the same as us.

The part where you think that they look hornier is because women also turn women on in their bid to turn men on.

And that is why ALL women are bisexual and gbensh both men and women

And this is another thing that makes men uncomfortable about women's sexuality as the op is picking up and calling leverage

ReluctantAdult:
Stay on the point of discussion bro.

Now, in this context of 'sexual leverage' whose urge is so strong to the point of giving up their houses, money, and resources to get laid? Men. No question about that.
Are women hornier than men? I don't have the numbers. But I do know men go all out to sacrifice everything because of their strong urges which even intimacy gadgets can't quench

Yes they are!

Why do you think that they are always always trying to make men think of having sex with them?

They are only playing it to their benefit since they know that once a man is reminded of sex, he is going to come for them. So they are playing the patient game

Mccallistas:
Na person wey get money go dey stingy, poor man no go dey stingy cause he no kuku get. Oyibo no dey worship money like blacks, that's why you go see Russians moving money. Social media dem no dey, their names you no go know.
Even you self, tell me a billionaire in dollars that is now a beggar, even courtesy of a woman.

Ah see error! No be dem teach Blackman to worship money?

Na even because dem worship money na why billionaire no turn begger, exactly wetin blackman don learn. And na why Tinubu, Dangote and co dey always dey collect people money till dey peme

Solofresh2:
This is the most balanced and intelligent response I've seen on this thread.You're right on almost everything.Due diligence before marriage matters. Most people marry on vibes and attraction, then blame the institution when it collapses.Marriage isn't inherently bad. It's what people bring into it that makes it heaven or hell.Threads like this can amplify the negative. That's a fair point...

You think people do not know these things?

Marry fes. Carry your plan out and 2 yrs after she don born finish come and read this post.

williamssamuel1:
Not everyone is regretting, they are many happy marry couples. Any marriage that is not according to the will of God is bond to suffer. when you want to marry consult the author which is God because he is the only one that can see the future.
when searching for the one, don't forget to live a holy life.

Wait 5 years after she don born finish, you go understand

triplechoice:
No, I'm not. I grew up exposed to agnosticism, ATR, Christianity, and later Eckankar. Multiple sources, not one, shaped my human personality. That's the normal human condition, and it's exactly what I've argued here: morality can come from many sources.

And that's why I reject your description of my morality as "Christianised". It isn't made of one thing.

All these sources you mentioned are still religious based, so, you are still standing with Sirtee and proving him right

QuinQQ:
Genius, you obviously missed this below. Why don't you read it and tell us how they are exactly the same (I hope I'm not assuming too much in thinking you can understand it)

This is the 3rd time i am pointing it.

According to your earlier screeshot, is "respect and proper public behaviour a bad and wrong thing?

No, they are right and good things

And even your post admits that morality is still about doing of the RIGHT things like respect and proper public/private behaviour and more.

So, changing it from decency to indecency still does not change the substance of what decency and morality is which shows that they are the same thing.

And these 3 times you could not reasonably and validly refute it.

eepeepook:
Your role as a man is to share your resources. In this modern day, a man’s resources are his time (aka attention) and money. Her job as a woman is to look pretty, surrender the box and perform housekeeping duties. If you don’t have money, you are worthless. Time can be gotten from any male on earth.

May trailer mat you dia. No be the same 1 head, 2 hands and 2 legs we get? Mtcheeew