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ireneidiva: this usually happens wen he has been treating her badly! My opinion.

chymystique: U r right sha buh if d kids are adults and the hubby supports her et won't b a prob.

Efemena_xy: @ Poster source pls.

That aside, I agree with the content of this article. Many women, especially Nigerian women are prone to thinking that way. It's actually engrained in them to such a point where they see being submissive = being subordinate, which I daresay, is at odds with their education.

I mean, why bother educating your daughters if she'll end up being nothing better than a glorified househelp in her own home, both physically and emotionally? Yes, I know many ladies who went through tertiary education have put their education to good use - but how many of these same women have done things for themselves? I mean personal goals they've always wanted to achieve pre-marriage? Or achieving their dreams?

There's a rankling thread in this section about a man who:

~ Earned eight times more than his wife
~ Owned various property and assets, etc.

It was all about him, him, him and no mention of what his wife probably went through those 10 years of marriage without a dime to her name. Eventually the tables turned and she landed herself a well-paying job and built just one house for herself and guess what? The miffed husband sprinted off to nland soliciting 'advice' on how much he felt betrayed by his wife! Of course the teenagers and other mumpties here encouraged him to ditch her (never mind her silent suffering for 10years), she must have been having an affair with her priest (she never saw fit to do that before o! Only when she got working now, abi?)

https://www.nairaland.com/1496529/priest-aids-wife-build-without

What am I getting at here? In a society where marriage is seen as the greatest milestone and achievement in one's life (moreso if you're a female), you aren't expected to do anything for yourself, think independently for yourself or dare have dreams and aspirations, all in the name of two-becoming-one, which incidentally, always works out well for the menfolk.

If anyone dares rebutt what I've written up there, then:

For the men folk - how many of your properties are in both your names and your wife's name? Is her name on the title deed of your houses??

For the married women folk - how many of you, despite your education and careers have built a house - just one single house - in your own right? And even if you have, in whose name is it in? Yours or your husband's?

And for the married women who despite their careers and education haven't yet done that, may I ask how come? And pls don't come at me with the same old story of having to look after the kids (who afterall, don't bear your maiden names! but your husbands' names!)

sexkillz: [color=#000030]True. It really depens. [/color]

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ireneidiva: what do you want me to say? Before she started earning high, do you know how badly the guy has been treating her? Now she dosent need to take poo from him anymore, hence the new attitude. If you want your wife to pay the bills, just tell her,simple. Women have changed, men will get up from their slumber one day.

youngprof2n: Thank u guys for d advice.I really appreciate dt bt does it mean dt she is nw interested in me.Am confused at her behaviour.

DJDOLA: Some fool will soon come here and say d boy is illuminatin

xynerise: ^^

ogugua88: Yes. Personal responsibility, I believe, is required for any relationship to blossom. In any relationship, we have responsibilities to ourselves as well as our partners, and these responsibilities are what makes someone/couples happy, unhappy, etc. It's like a plant. What you put in (water and sunshine), is what you get out of it (flowers or fruit). If you don't like how the relationship is, or if you don't feel happy, then think of what you, yourself, can do to have a different result.

Vivly: More like truth or dare OR we share our best or worst, embarrassing moments. Take your pick

yemi2plus: I returned back home from work today only to be informed by my mom that she brought the phone for me to help her do somethings. She later called saying she have nothing to do with me again, I charged the phone and put it on but I couldn't find anything thing inside, no bbm messages, no files, no contact just empty. Should I return the phone?

sylvar02: What more can I do?

Prai Prai Praise tha Lord!!!

FOLYKAZE: You have a brain configuration so hardly wired wrongly against natural law. :

- why give a birth to child you cant cater for?

- do you take consideration about population growth rate and food production?

- the world is over populated with dumbass like you.

- so why cant you adopt little children that need care at your own expenses?.....why giving birth and causing more prob on human race?

Yet a dumb person like you still crave for unnatural child bearing like a pig......end up eating them when there is no more food.

Gay are in the best way of doing things..... adopting Save your dick when you cant pick a meal for your child......gays dont want heir, they want human race/specie to continue ever.

#Save the world

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