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Grammy-winning Nigerian singer, Temilade Openiyi, popularly known as Tems, has revealed her major red flags in a potential partner.

In a recent interview with American outfit Complex, the Love Me Jeje crooner said she can’t date unfriendly or uncurious men.

According to her, the essence of relationship is lost if a partner isn’t friendly and curious about their spouse.

“My dating terms are someone who is not trying to be your friend is a red flag. Anybody that isn’t curious about you is also a red flag. Because what are we doing? Why are we here if you don’t want to know me?

“If he or she doesn’t want to know more about you, end the relationship,” she said.

Tems said she is a “lover girl” but trying to be careful due to past experiences.

She added that she is more focused on self-love currently.

The lady, identified as @joyblessed114 on TikTok, revealed that she caught her fiancé in a romantic act with one of her bridesmaids during his bachelor party, leaving her devastated.

The betrayal had a severe impact on her well-being, and she disclosed that she required medical attention following the incident.

The emotional shock was so intense that it physically affected her, highlighting the profound pain she experienced.

Due to the heartbreak, the lady chose to cancel the wedding, saying that her decision was driven by the need to protect her mental and emotional health.

“Life so private that no one knows I caught my fiancé with one of my bridesmaids on his bachelor’s night, just a day before our wedding. I’m healing and ready to move on. So help me God. Yesss I cancelled so I can stay alive for my loved ones and live my life in peace and happiness. If it gets your turn continue, marriage isn’t a do or die thing. Since I left him I don move on with my life but the mugu no move on he no fit get my type anywhere I am rare. I landed in the hospital. It’s not funny thou.”

“Life so private that no one knows I caught my fiancé with one of my bridesmaids on his bachelor’s night, just a day before our wedding. I’m healing and ready to move on. So help me God. Yesss I cancelled so I can stay alive for my loved ones and live my life in peace and happiness. If it gets your turn continue, marriage isn’t a do or die thing. Since I left him I don move on with my life but the mugu no move on he no fit get my type anywhere I am rare. I landed in the hospital. It’s not funny thou.”

“Life so private that no one knows I caught my fiancé with one of my bridesmaids on his bachelor’s night, just a day before our wedding. I’m healing and ready to move on. So help me God. Yesss I cancelled so I can stay alive for my loved ones and live my life in peace and happiness. If it gets your turn continue, marriage isn’t a do or die thing. Since I left him I don move on with my life but the mugu no move on he no fit get my type anywhere I am rare. I landed in the hospital. It’s not funny thou.”

In a world where noise travels faster than truth, I want to take a moment to speak about the woman I know, the woman I love, and the woman I cherish. My wife, Laila. She is a woman whose quiet strength continues to amaze me every single day.

Laila is not someone who lives on social media. She has never been the type to chase attention or respond to every passing opinion. She prefers a peaceful and private life where her energy goes to the things that truly matter, not the distractions that come with the online world.

Anyone who truly knows her understands her gentle nature, her maturity, and her sincere kindness. She is thoughtful, patient, respectful, and incredibly caring. She gives without expecting anything in return and chooses understanding even when she is misunderstood.

It can be hard to watch unkind words or false assumptions being thrown around online, especially when they do not reflect her character. But I know who she is. I know her heart. I know the honesty she carries and the way she handles even difficult moments with calm dignity.

She does not believe in defending herself on the internet because she knows her life and her worth are not determined by online opinions. Laila has always chosen to live authentically and quietly, focusing on what is real instead of what is loud.

As her husband, I will always stand by her. I will speak for her when needed, and I will protect her name with pride. She has been a constant source of stability and peace in my life, and I am grateful for the comfort and wisdom she brings into our home every day.

Laila has a depth of character that many may never see because she does not display her life publicly. She moves quietly, loves quietly, and carries herself with grace. Her strength does not shout. Her goodness does not need an audience. She simply remains true to who she is.

Over the years, I have seen her handle challenges with patience and grace that inspire me. She does not rush to prove herself to anyone. She allows time, truth, and character to speak for her. That is one of the many reasons I respect her deeply.

To everyone who has shown understanding, compassion, and kindness during moments

Nigerian rapper Jude MI Abaga has revealed a humbling experience from the early days of his career, recalling how he was sent off the red carpet at the 2008 Headies Awards to make space for Nollywood star Omotola Jalade-Ekeinde.

At the time, MI Abaga had been nominated for ‘Best Rap Single,’ but event staff did not recognize him upon arrival.

He explained that he and his manager were shuffled from one corner to another while photographers focused on the actress.

“I have been grinding and no one cares about who I am. In February 2008, I remember I was walking into the crowd with my manager, Omotola also came in with her security,” MI said during a recent appearance on Vbyz TV Cartel. “The people on the red carpet didn’t even know I was nominated, so they were just like ‘Common get out of here’. So we went to stand at one other corner and because Omotola was moving from side to side to take her picture, they kept chasing us from place to place. I was just looking at stardom.”

Despite the red carpet setback, MI Alaga’s perseverance paid off. He eventually won the ‘Best Rap Single’ award, receiving a gold plaque from Ayo Animashaun.

“Two hours later, I was announced as the winner for ‘Best Rap Single,’ I had an award in my hand, a gold plague from Ayo Animashaun,” he recalled.

Afrobeats singer Sarah “Ayra Starr” Aderibigbe has revealed why she decided to relocate to New York, the most populous city in the United States.

In a viral clip from her interview on “Hot 93.7, Hartfold”, posted on the platform’s YouTube page on Friday, the 23-year-old explained that she had always wanted to move to the city.

The “Hot Body” crooner added that she felt a strong sense of comfort whenever she performed in New York.

Explaining what draws her to the city, the “Rush” hitmaker said: “Yes, I live in New York. I moved in not less than two months ago, officially, but I’m always in New York regardless. I’ve always been in New York. I’m a New Yorker in my spirit; I feel it. Like, New York reminds me so much of Lagos. So, you know, and there are lots of Nigerians here.

“There’s a huge, like, you know, African, like, diaspora here. So, it feels like home. It just felt amazing. I was kind of sceptical about moving to New York, even around that time. So, when I remember just being on stage and just feeling like, hmm…’ I really like it here. I might actually move here, you know? I was like, this is… It was like a moment of, like, sonder, if I may say. And I was just like, hmm… I really like it here. I love it.”

Furthermore, Ayra Starr stressed that she would not abandon her culture simply because she relocated, noting that she remained clear about her priorities.

An 18-year-old girl was accused of sleeping around with men and contracting HIV in the process. Her family, the community, and everyone around her disowned her.

In addition to her illness, she was forced to grapple with the stigmatization.

When she presented to a PHC on account of her worsening symptoms—progressive weight loss, lack of appetite, and stomach swelling—routine investigations were conducted.

The preliminary investigations revealed shocking findings:

1. Retroviral screening came out non-reactive, meaning she does not have HIV.

2. Serum Pregnancy Test came out negative, meaning she is not pregnant.

3. Random Blood Sugar came out high, meaning she is likely to have diabetes.

Follow-up Fasting Blood Tests (FBS) showed her sugar level to be 30 mmol.

From the clinical findings and the results of available investigations, the girl is most likely suffering from Type 1 Diabetes—a type of diabetes that primarily affects adolescents and young children.

When the parents were invited to come to the PHC facility to be informed about the condition of their daughter, the father sent someone else. He said he was done with her since she had brought shame and disgrace to his family. The mother was said to have been crying ever since the father sent the girl away.

We eventually found a way to reach the father and explain everything to him. We showed him all the evidence that his daughter was not the wayward child he had been made to believe. Lo and behold, the person who started the rumor of the girl sleeping with men and getting pregnant as a result was a close family member.

They believed what the person said simply because they saw her stomach getting swollen, her weight decreasing, and episodes of vomiting here and there. No one thought of taking her to a health facility for a checkup. They gave her a diagnosis and judged her harshly.

Now, the girl needs a specialist review. She will benefit from insulin, which is an expensive medication. The family cannot afford it.

We reached out to some local NGOs, but they only deal with young children—she did not meet their criteria. We reached out to the councilor of the ward she hails from; he promised to escalate her predicament to the right channels. But she does not have the luxury of time.

The girl needs help—a lot of it. She also needs support. Though the family has now embraced her once again, she will live with the unfortunate pain of that accusation, in addition to battling her physical health.

Once again, I am reminded that it is not healthcare when the people are so poor they cannot afford it.

Thank you.

Music executive Don Jazzy has addressed a police case from his early career in the UK, denying claims he evaded law enforcement after a car accident.

His former associate Bankulli had alleged Don Jazzy removed the vehicle’s plate and fled the scene, citing the incident as a reason for not including the story in an Afrobeats documentary.

According to Bankulli, Don Jazzy was involved in an accident, abandoned the car and removed the number plate to avoid consequences.

“I refused to put a particular story about Don Jazzy in the Afrobeats documentary. Because Don Jazzy was trying to survive in London, he had an accident and the car got destroyed. Don Jazzy abandoned the car. He was coming from a show and he fell asleep while driving and crashed his car.

“He left the car, removed the plate number and ran away. Why? Because you would pay more to carry the car away from there than to repair it. But look at Jazzy now, he has fleets of cars,” Bankulli said.

Reacting to Bankulli’s revelation, an X user berated him, expressing fear that the case could be reopened if Don Jazzy were to visit the UK now that his former associate had made the incident public.

“With this reckless talk from Bankulli, I really hope Don Jazzy isn’t planning a trip to London. They can reopen a 20-year-old case,” the X user wrote.

However, Don Jazzy refuted this claim, stating he waited for police, passed a breathalyser test and had the car impounded.

In a response on X, Don Jazzy explained, “Lol no panic. It’s been so long, so he doesn’t remember the story exactly. I actually waited for the police. They came and gave me a breathalyser to determine if I was drunk. I wasn’t but the car was impounded. The fine to collect the car back was more than the cheap car, so I left it with them lol”.

Reality TV star and media personality, Mercy Eke, has opened up about her plans for motherhood, making it clear that she is ready to have children even outside of marriage.

The star shared her candid thoughts during a recent interview, emphasizing her independence and goal-oriented mindset.

In her words, she said:

“I’m ready to have a child outside marriage, this year I wanted to have a baby, something happened and I had to choose between that and the baby. At this point, I think if I get pregnant now, I’m just going to have my baby. I have worked so hard, and I think I can take care of myself and three kids. I’m a goal-oriented person that always sets things ahead for myself.”

Mercy revealed that she hopes to have three children, two girls and one boy and stated that even if she doesn’t get married, she will still have kids.

“For me, what people don’t know is all this stigma of having kids without a father is only applied to people who don’t have things going on well for them,” she added.

On her relationship life, Mercy explained that while marriage is an option, she hasn’t yet met the man she truly wants. She stated that if she wanted to marry tomorrow, she could, but she hasn’t met the right man yet.

The ex-BBNaija winner noted that while some men want to marry her for enjoyment, she still believes that even if she has a baby, she will still find the right partner.

Mercy Eke’s statements have sparked conversations online about independence, societal expectations, and modern approaches to family planning.