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Hathor5:
I am good darling.
How are you?

Hathor5:
You are always right until you disagree with me then you are wrong.

Bluehill1051:
I'm assuming you use face mask in the toilet too

BEANSndPLANTAIN:
You won't be the first woman to be a single mum and you won't be the last. My point is tone down the hate.

BEANSndPLANTAIN:
There is nothing bad being a lady, picking a poor man and helping to to become better person.

crackkhaus:
PS: The sentence was humour, you and the OP are just too sensitive and missed it.

BEANSndPLANTAIN:
The thing the person that opened this thread is actually a single mother, so you all should know the angle she is coming from

Gaggi:
You are so concerned about my wife. One would assume you were secretly wishing you were a wife to a real man.
I can understand why you feel unfulfilled in marriage, you should have married a man like me who can bring fun into a marriage.

UjuJoan2:
Diseases you mean?

I think I will pass!

andrewtosin:
Hehehe...
Sometimes you don't have what you wish for.
It's good for us to allow those other small teams win it too in order not to term the league as "monopoly" while still maintaining the status "most successful team in England"

I learnt you support Livarpool?

Abeg carry this talk comot here before the kitchen owners come for our head

Takotsubo:
@dyt

Married 10+

It is crucial before tying the knot to sit down and actually think of what you want and be very very clinical about it. List the ones that are deal breakers for you and DO NOT compromise on them.

Talk about money,is it 50/50 or is it joint account? How about chores? What does he or she think about raising children? Dirty or clean? Church or no church? Flexible or rigid roles at home? Sex everyday or once in 2 weeks?

Marrying the wrong person can ruin and derail a person forever and it's important to remember that the definition of a good marriage differs from person to person depending on their needs.

I strongly believe that once you miss laying the kind of foundation & communication style that suits you in the first 3 years,it will be very difficult to redress them later on

I am in what people/outsiders would term an easy marriage, My family think my husband is a saint and it makes me smh BUT I will say what makes it "easy" is that we are mostly cohesive personality wise and because we ironed out our main differences between year 1&2.
We were also fortunate to be free from family intrusion so we chose our own pattern free from mama and papa method .

Even at that,life has still found ways to throw curve balls.

Easy does not mean that you won't misbehave and or inflict pain on each other.

It does not mean you won't struggle with faithfulness , bad thoughts including I hate you ones ,thunder fire you ones etc but the difference is that you have a lot in the emotional tank that acts as a buffer so when you have the devilish thoughts or when that ass is shaking in your face, or some hot dude is hitting on you, you draw from that bank and remind yourself that someone actually loves you and you don't want to destroy what you have.

When this tank is full, apologies flow easily, you agree to disagree. No money? You chill and plan together. Every challenge will just feel surmountable because you know you will face it TOGETHER.

No human being is perfect,no human being can fulfill your every desire.

You will make so many sacrifices and accept your spouse and their inadequacies because when you balance their goodness against it,you'll still feel like you hit a jackpot.

I cannot describe how incredibly satisfying it is to have a spouse that always wants to be home with you ,to have a home that exudes warmth & children that are happy.

Despite my personal struggles ,once I open the door and see their faces,every sacrifice is worth it.

That said,if anything happens to my marriage, I will NEVER remarry. Got kids,nice career,small cash,the rest can be on a hello & bye basis.

andrewtosin:
Wee yu keep kwayet...
It's Manchester United okay?

See the person I want to propose to oh

andrewtosin:
Babe how far? So you are a football fan too? Fantastic...

First of all...

Liposure:
u two sounding loveydovey

Hathor5:
Where is you on the list?

ibkayee:
Lol at least I'm self aware

ibkayee:
You can listen for yourself

http://clyp.it/m124fjqo

UjuJoan2:
People never understand that if they only did the right thing there won't be any reason to nag.

BlueRayDick:
Oya carry go

UjuJoan2:
Lol, I guess when we are old and frail we will need someone to pass the time with.



I probably won't. I feel like we've been together forever. Whew!

Amen . . . one golden Jubilee coming right to you, as ordered

iamoyindamola:
Ire o

Ishilove:
O ya mi lonu

iamoyindamola:
Yes, I like trouble too

iamoyindamola:

You like wahala

ibkayee:
Ma'm, I'm not single please

Mariangeles:
rara o

cutechioma1:
it has not been easy with me developing high bp this year but I looking at being separated for a while and see whether i want to still go ahead and if he's ready to fight for us. I'm tired of being the one always doing the fighting.

Ishilove:
Mo ma daran lowo Dyt ke

BlueRayDick:
U suddenly forgot Ur moniker

Mariangeles:
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
erin ti fee pa mi

thinkmoney:
let me leave my opinion here:
1) I think we see too much in today's world compare to the time of our parent. This has caused more pressure on the marriage. we read about others seemingly magical marriage, we hear about how others are enjoying their marriage etc. this leads to comparison.
2) Many people, especially ladies marry just anybody that is eligible and fit into their physical expectations in marriage. This is why you see ladies marry someone from abroad just within a month of courtship.
ladies don't want to manage and suffer with anyone, they constantly look for the better life and decide to take the risk.
but in reality, long courtship and allowance for time to get to know each other is hugely important.
This are some of the reason for marriage failures in marriages. pressure due to the fact we see a lot of things online, insufficient time to get to know each other, and I must add a third (3) social media, pornography (images of perfect body) and the internet in general, as made seeking out and keeping relationship outside marriages more easy. you don't have to write letter to organise a meeting, you can actually be chatting to a concubine while you are on the same bed with your wife.

Liposure:
innate carnal desires