If you don’t know what an Agbero is, let me eplain, Agbero
are hoodlums/ Area boys who collect Money From Danfo
Drivers. They collect those money on behalf the NURTW.
They are always fighting/ Arguing with bus conductors. If
you go to places like Mushin, Oshodi, Shomolu,Yaba
Bus/stop, you will see them there.
Sometimes when we come in contact with these set of people, We argue with them sometimes we are tempted to fight with them. Don’t try it. Here are 5 reasons why I think you should never fight with a Lagos Agbero.

Watch video below:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tn0wivxHVuE

1. He trashes his exes or calls them “crazy”:

Okay, we all have those exes that you look back and question w



here your brain was while dating them because they put the CRAY in CRAZY, but for him to not have ONE nice thing to say about ONE ex…? Who is the real problem?

2. He loves to send you text messages at midnight and you can’t help but wonder if he’s either drunk or really Hot.


3. He’s not interested about how’s your day, or how stress you are in life, or how you want to take a break somewhere. He usually just replies with, “I’m tired.” Or “Okay.”

4. You have NO idea how many other girls are in his life:

He insists the girls that keep Snapchatting him, or the girls that keep blowing up his phone, or the girls that leave comments with flirty emoji’s on his Instagram pictures are “just friends”. Just remember he doesn’t believe in labels…so you are “just a friend” too.


5. He makes rude comments on your appearance.

“What are thooooseee” of “You are wearing a lot of makeup” are the fuckboy lines of the century. Do not let a guy makes you feel any less about yourself or make you wanna change anything you are perfect the way you are and the comments you should be hearing are “Wow, you look beautiful” or “How did I get so lucky?!”

6. He doesn’t want to be seen in public with you.

Yes, maybe you guys hangout and go to each other’s houses, but NEVER does he ask to go out on a formal date, and always has an excuse why he can’t when you ask him. There’s also the he only wants to hangout after 7pm scenario that is in the same boat. You deserve someone that is going to show you off not hide you away.

7. He cares about his bro a lot than you. He can’t watch a movie with you tonight because he’s playing video games with Evan. He can’t fetch you up after work because he’s going to help Martin with his computer problem. And a lot more stupid reasons why he can’t agree with all your plans.

8. It takes him half a day to reply to your message although he casually mentions to you before that he brings his smartphone with him whenever he goes to the toilet.

9. He doesn’t want to introduce you to his parents even if you’re dating each other for a significant period of time. I mean, isn’t it weird that if he sees you as his ‘forever bae’, he would have made a move to set up a meeting with his parents? Or at least be proud of how amazing of a person you are?

10. He gets upset when you ask him about his previous relationships, and gets defensive when you push the subject further. He lamely tells you that he doesn’t want to dwell on the past because blablabla…

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“Nigerian youths are lazy & uneducated. Always wanting free oil money” ~ PMB
ME: Sir, you are absolutely correct. One of the lazy Nigerian youths who is enjoying free oil money had an accident with the power bike he bought with free oil money not too long ago, and he was flown abroad for treatment with free oil money, then he hired a jet with free oil money from London to Abuja after his treatment.
Sir, I completely agree with you that the Nigerian youths are lazy and uneducated and always wanting free oil money. Their role models are in Aso Rock enjoying free oil money without even solving any problem for the country.
Why would anyone disagree with you that the Nigerian youths are uneducated? It’s very obvious. That’s why they don’t even know their rights. They keep defending your ineptitude.
You enjoyed free education as a young man, but today the youths are deprived of basic education. You were a governor, a petroleum commissioner and ahead of states as a youth, but today, youths are on social media defending your failures.
Honestly, I agree with you that the Nigerian youths are lazy, that’s why you ruled Nigeria as a youth and have also grabbed the job as an old man. The youths are too ignorant to even know the implication of your comments. They don’t even know you and your fellow old men are doing jobs they should ordinarily be doing.

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Sexy breasts and nipPLES are more valuable than brains and principLES, these days.
And that’s why more Nigerians on DSTV watched Big Brother Africa than CNN. And that’s how we got here.
That’s why you pay for V.VIP next to D’banj at Quilox and think that a class or book is too expensive.
She wants a sound and responsible guy, she’s fine, she has a wardrobe of designer clothes, but no library, plan or a book of her own. Should you take her serious?
And then, we stumbled upon CNN while searching for MTV and Telemundo, and I asked her if she knows what’s happening in Syria, and she asked me, “do you mean cereal”?
I’m coming…
I asked my cousin the last time he read a book, and he said “but I’m not writing any exams”.
At 4 Points by Sheraton few weekends ago, someone offered to buy me an over priced bottle of Moet’s Rose Champagne, he said he’s been a follower, and in turn, asked for a discount for the Hexavian Masterclass. I laughed and asked him, so when you popped this third champagne, did you ask for a discount?
And that explains what’s happening…
No matter what you have, you are what you value more. Poor People going NOWHERE value entertainment, people growing RICH value education.
America is the entertainment capital of the world, with trillions of dollars in debt. China is the industrial capital of the world with the fastest growing economy. America or China, which is the model?
We can get it right:
Nigeria is changing, but will favour only those positioned and prepared. Invest time and money in the knowledge and business of your passion. Remember, “Empty bags don’t stand straight”.. Stand out. The secret is “Build the mind, the business and the brand”.

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If you don’t know what an Agbero is, let me eplain, Agbero
are hoodlums/ Area boys who collect Money From Danfo
Drivers. They collect those money on behalf the NURTW.
They are always fighting/ Arguing with bus conductors. If
you go to places like Mushin, Oshodi, Shomolu,Yaba
Bus/stop, you will see them there.
Sometimes when we come in contact with these set of people, We argue with them sometimes we are tempted to fight with them. Don’t try it. Here are 5 reasons why I think you should never fight with a Lagos Agbero.



Embarrassment: Have you ever seen a shy agbero before? They are well known for there shamelessness. If you try to fight them, they will bullsh*t you, say Abusive words on you, Curse you and not you alone, they will curse your generation too. They are that abusive. If you try to retaliate by doing the same, you will never win, because that is what they do for a living. Cursing people!!.

They are not afraid to get scared: When you look at the body of an agbero, injury marks and stitches everywhere. That’s their trademark and they boast about it. So when you fight with them and you break bottle on their head, to them it just another scar to boast about but you, nah your fine boy you dey use play be that.


Police is their friend: You don’t have to look surprised. Most of the many they make in the bus/stop are been shared with police men. So if you try to fight them and you both end up in police custody, don’t surprise to see him be the first to leave you in the police station.

They are always in pack: They have friends around, most of them are cultist. If you think you can just bully an agbero with your big muscles and walk away, you must be kidding yourself. Because when his pack arrives, you should know your funeral is near

Most agbero are richer than you: An agbero make on a daily close to 40k gain and you?, how much you dey collect as salary per month!!! 35k 40k, 50k. per month oooo. So if you think you can bully an agbero with your money, please re-think unless your papa hold bar wella. Or you are one of Otedola’s child or in-law


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Hoodlums storm the Senate house in Abuja. Cause havoc and ran away with the national maze….

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sU1zdx5pkcc

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1. 2015–2017: Career beginnings and debut mixtape
In November 2015, Cardi B made her musical debut on Jamaican reggae fusion singer
Shaggy ‘s remix to his single “Boom Boom”, alongside fellow Jamaican dancehall singer
Popcaan .
2. Who is Cardi B’s boyfriend?
With Cardi B being very hot right now, you probably wanna know who she’s dating. The charismatic rapper is currently engaged to rapper Offset. So who is Offset? Well he’s a member of the oh so cool rap trio, Migos alongside Quavo and Takeoff. The pair have been dating for over a year. Before Offset, Cardi B dated a rapper not as well known called Tommy Geez. The pair split while Tommy was in prison serving a four year sentence.
3. What is Cardi B’s Instagram?
Well guys, she doesn’t have a Snapchat account that we know of we’re afraid. Or at least we’ve never got wind of a Cardi B Snapchat name or username. However, a Cardi B Twitter, Cardi B Instagram and a Cardi B Facebook pages do exist under the name (@iamcardib).
4. How much was Cardi B paid for her Coachella performance?
Cardi B revealed to SiriusXM’s Hip Hop Nation that she was paid $170,000 across both performances at Coachella music festival in California. However Cardi clarified that the fee was agreed six to nine months before the release of her debut album ‘Invasion Of Privacy’. She also claimed that she spent $300,000 of her own money on her set for Coachella.
5. Is Cardi B having a baby girl?
After Cardi revealed her pregnancy to the world in April 2018, her sister Hennessy Carolina appeared to accidentally reveal the sex of her sister’s baby with Offset on Instagram. In her congratulatory post, Hennessy referred to the baby as Cardi’s “daughter” and used phrases such as “baby Cardi” and “give her all the kisses and hugs.” After fans noticed, the Instagram personality altered the caption to remove all references to the baby’s gender.
6. When did Cardi B reveal her baby bump for the first time?
Cardi B officially revealed that she was pregnant during her post-album performance on Saturday Night Live in April 2018. Despite denying it in the past, the rapper showed her baby bump to the world. Congratulations to Cardi B and Offset!
7. When is Cardi B’s due date?
In March 2018, it was reported that Cardi B will welcome her first child with Migos rapper Offset in the first week of July 2018. Despite being set to perform at Coachella in April just three months before, it is said that the pregnancy will not interfere with her performance.
8. Who are Cardi B’s parents?
Cardi B is of mixed nationality. Cardi B’s dad is of Dominican descent, while Cardi B’s mum is of Trinidadian descent. Growing up, Cardi was raised in Highbridge, a Latino-majority neighbourhood in the South Bronx part of New York City, and her grandmother’s apartment in Washington Heights. Cardi previously said that she had “real good parents” who had “regular, poor jobs”.
9. Was Cardi B a stripper?
Before rising to fame via Love & Hip Hop New York and ‘Bodak Yellow’, Cardi B pursued a career as an exotic dancer at the age of 18. According to reports, she planned to retire from stripping at 25 but quit at 23 when she became a social media personality. Picture.
10. What is Cardi B’s net worth?
According to website Celebrity Net Worth, Cardi B was worth $600,000 at the start of September 2017. However following the success of ‘Bodak Yellow’, that figure has reportedly risen to $4m as of September 2017. With the successful release of her debut album, Invasion Of Privacy in April 2018 we predict that Cardi B’s going to be laughing straight to the bank. Interestingly, Cardi B’s fiancé Offset’s net worth is also $4m.
11. What is Cardi B’s real name?
Cardi’s real name is actually Belcalis Almanzar. She comes from the Bronx, although her family is of Trinidadian/Dominican descent. Her parents nicknamed her Bacardi, as a testament to her Caribbean heritage.
12. What is Cardi B’s Snapchat username?
Fans looking for Cardi B’s official Snapchat username will be disappointed, as she confirmed in 2016 that she doesn’t use the mobile app. Instead, she tends to use Instagram, Twitter and Facebook.
13. How old is Cardi B?
If you’ve ever wondered how old Cardi B is, look no further. The ‘Bodak Yellow’ rapper is 25 years old and Cardi B’s birth date is 11th October 1992 which makes her a Libra.
14. What does Cardi B mean?
Cardi B’s name actually comes from alcohol! “My sister’s name is Hennessy, so everybody used to be like ‘Bacardi’ to me,” she told Wendy Williams. “Then I shortened it to Cardi B. The ‘B’ stands for whatever, depending on the day…beautiful or bully,” she added. “No one calls me Belcalis except for my family, my mother and my daddy.”
15. Does Nicki Minaj have beef with Cardi B?
After ‘Bodak Yellow’ catapulted Cardi to Hip-Hop fame, some fans think that Nicki Minaj dissed her on a song called ‘No Flag’. However both Nicki and Cardi have taken to social media to squash rumours of a feud. Although not everyone is convinced.
16. Cardi B has a sister called Hennessy Carolina.
Yes, her real name is Hennessy! According to Cardi, her dad came to the delivery room straight from a party where he was drinking his favourite alcohol Hennessy. Her mother loved his suggestion for the name and went with it!


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She was the matriarchal figure of a political dynasty that included two presidents - her husband George HW Bush and son George W Bush.

Mrs Bush, who was first lady from 1989 to 1993, had been in failing health for some time and had declined further medical treatment.

Tributes to her poured in from across the US political establishment.

Her husband, at 93, is the longest-lived US president. Their son, George, was elected in 2000 and served two terms as the nation's 43rd president.

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They say what a man can do, a woman can do better. In accord of that, a woman was seen juggling multiple sharp swords.

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gHKKqMQ1nbY

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The president of Uganda Yoweri Kaguta Museveni publicly condemns MouthAction, he advice his citizen to abstain from MouthAction saying ” the mouth is for eating and not for sex”

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m47ICKef2I0

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CDQ was caught in Lagos as he hangout with the convict boss (Akon).
Watch here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XnCwpwiC664
or
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Video “Presidential Aspirant Atiku Abubakar and wife caught dancing to small doctor’s penalty”

Former vice president Atiku Abubakar and wife Titilayo Abubakar were dancing to small doctor’s penalty at an event.
The couple seems happy.

Watch video below:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JD6fXa94TeY

The beautiful blogger took to instagram and shared pictures revealing her cleavage. Linda Ikeji is known for being confident about her body and she looks cute.

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The vice president Prof. Yemi Osinbajo was spotted in a group photograph with Anambra state beneficiaries of Aso rock’s Npower_ng programme, in Onitsha.
These are the reactions of twitter user:


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Everyone is interested in human behavior that is why most school offer psychology courses no matter the department. We are fascinated by what makes people think, feel, tick, respond, explode and act the way they do.
Nothing answers those questions better than the theory of the Four Temperament . It explains differences in people – their taste, their creative capabilities, their strength and weaknesses. It explains why some people conflict with others and why others are attracted to each other.
Temperament is the combination of traits we inherited from our parents. No one know where it resides, but I personally think it is somewhere in the mind or emotional center. It is a person’s temperament that makes him outgoing and extrovert or shy and introvert.
MEET THE FOUR TEMPERAMENTS
The man Hippocrates propounded the theory twenty four-hundred years ago, he divided people into four basic categories, which he named Sanguine, Choleric, Melancholy and Phlegmatic.
SANGUINE
Sanguine is a warm, buoyant, lively and enjoying person. Receptive by nature, external impression easily find their way to his heart, where they cause an outburst of response feeling rather than reflective thought predominate to form his decision. Sanguine is outgoing, he is usually considered a superextrovert. The moment a sanguine enters a room he tends to lift the spirit of every one present by his exuberant conversation. He is a fascinating storyteller. His noisy, blustering and friendly ways make him appear more confident than he really is, but his energy and lovable disposition get him rough spots in life.
CHOLERIC
Choleric is hot, quick, active, practical, strong willed, self-sufficient and very independent. He tends to be decisive and opinionated, finding it easy to make decisions both for himself and other people. Like sanguine, Choleric is an extrovert, but is not nearly so intense. Choleric does not sympathize easily with others, nor does he naturally show or express compassion. He is often embarrassed or disgusted by the tears of others and is usually insensitive to their need. Choleric reflects little appreciation for music and the fine arts. I had a boss then, the man shows no empathy for his staff, emotionless, very tough and barely crack a smile. He is definitely a choleric.
MELANCHOLY
Melancholy is the richest of all the temperament. He is analytical, self-sacrificing, gifted, perfectionist type with a very sensitive emotional nature. No one gets more enjoyment from the fine arts than the melancholy. By nature, he is prone to be an introvert, but since his feeling predominate, he is given to variety of moods.
Sometimes they will lift him to height of ecstacy that cause him to act more extrovert. However, at other times he will be gloomy and depressed. Melancholy usually finds his greatest meaning in life through personal sacrifice.
PHLEGMATIC
Phlegmatic is the calm easygoing never get upset individual with such a high boiling point that he almost never becomes angry. He is the easiest type of person to get along with and is by nature the most likeable of all temperament. A phlegmatic does not lack friends, because he enjoys people and has a natural, witty sense of humor. He is the type of individual who can have a crowd of people “in stitches” and would not even crack a smile. He has a good retentive mind and is capable of being a fine imitator. He will not volunteer to leadership on his own, but when it is forced upon him, he proves to be a very capable leader. But they procrastinate too much.

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Having big boobs is a nice thing, To some it is a blessing while to others it a curse. Whatever it is you feel is for you. You all have the same struggle. I know some busty ladies and as a matter of fact, my second girlfriend was a busty one, and I perfectly understand what they go through daily.
BACK PAIN
I remember perfectly that my ex then was always complaining of back ache most of the time, and that makes it difficult for her to stand up straight.
WORKING OUT IS STRESSFUL
Whether they are wearing sport bras or not. They are constantly conscious of there goodies. Running, Jumping, Dancing is always difficult.
STRUGGLE OF BUYING BRAS AND CLOTH THAT’S FIT.
It’s difficult getting a size that fits because of the extra baggage. I went shopping with my ex this one time and we saw this beautiful dress, she wanted it so bad and she decided to ty it on. When she tried it on. It was too tight. It was so jumpy, almost like a cheerleader.
ACCIDENTALLY LOOKING SLUTTY
You can just wear a normal V-neck and before you know it, People will start staring at your chest, giving you that awkward look.
YOU GET CRAZY COMMENT
Trust Nigerian guys nah, you probably hear thing like
Yeh! Oluwa OOO!!!!
“Oh My God!!! Your boobs are so big”
Omo you get chest ooo!!! Chai!!!
YOU GET THE STARES
You constantly catch guys staring at your chest. Sometimes the feeling is nice while sometimes it is just embarrassing.
YOU ARE NOT ALLOWED TO PLAY ROUGH WITH BOYS
This is simple, Whenever you try to play rough with guys, your goodies will be there target. Either intentionally or not. They will definitely gets in the way.
WHEN YOU LAY DOWN YOU INSTANTLY START TO SUFFOCATE
Lying on your back is hard because they move up into your neck and press on your airway and you will not be able to breathe well.
Having big boobs is more difficult than people realize. Getting comfortable when you have big boobs can be a difficult task.

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So you are away from home! You’re off to college and living away from home? You are excited; of course, let’s hope that that excitement doesn’t wear off once you arrive at hostel. The people you live with may come from far far away. It is just me, or does far far away sound dangerous?
Not to worry, today I will be tell you how to cope in a college hostel:
Try making friends with people around you. Don’t feel obliged to bare your soul, but basic courtesy will do, bearing in mind that familiarity breeds contempt.
Observe the common law, rules of hygiene and etiquette: using of phones, laptop computers and other device are not allowed in the hostel, you are not allowed to hold cash; contrabands must not be seen with you in the hostel, your bed must be properly laid and your room must be swept before leaving the hostel in the morning. And immediately after meal, wash your utensils and plates and the dinning hall must be tidied as you don’t leave leftovers on the floor to breed maggots. Wear slippers, especially in common areas like the washroom, corridor. There bound to be germs and lot creepy crawling pest and parasite disease.
Have your own set of things, sharing may be a show of love but it is also a show of poor upbringing and bad manners. People from far far away are bound to be strange, are you sure you want them to use their stuff, or allow them to use yours? At least have your own basics like soap, provisions and clothes. If someone attempts to borrow these, be frank in your disapproval if you made the effort to have your own, why shouldn’t they?
Be orderly and organized. Be studious, observe your prep as at when due, as this is the main reason your parent have sent you to the hostel.
Speak your mind. If you don’t like something, say it out. If someone encroaches on your privacy, tell them to back off. If the management fails to give you good value for your money, bring it to their attention and realize that hostels cannot be expected to be at par with the standard in you home though.
Respect the people around you if there is common television don’t make everyone watch Zee world. Employ the little tenets of democracy. A little courtesy goes a long way. Also respect your seniors and don’t bully your juniors.
Take care of your belongings; remember you are not at home, keep your provisions and your books in your lockers in the same spirit, respect other’s belongings.

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First of all, let us pick a Good boy?
A good boy in this context is a kind of guy that respect women (Over-respect sef). They are people pleaser. Always conscious and mannered.
On the other hand, who is a Bad Boy?
A bad guy is a person with a cool, confident and brave personality. When a bad guy walks into the room, he is noticed because of his charm and personality.
Note: Bad guy in this context does not necessarily mean a guy with tattoos or leather jacket or a guy that smoke/drink.
Today I will be sharing with you, some differences between a good guy and a bad guy.
A bad guy is carefree about his image. He does not care of what people think about him. He is a man of his own world. While a good guy on the other hand, is concerned and conscious of his image. What people think of him matters a lot to him.
A bad guy is a natural leader. A bad guy does not like to take orders from anyone. Hence, he is a kind of guy, other guys want to be like. Meanwhile, a good guy is a born follower. They don’t like to take the lead. Due to fear of failure and mockery.
A bad guy is a pack builder. He is an alpha of a wolf pack. He leads, provides for and protect his pack ( be it his significant other, friends, teammates, etc.) when a good guy sees change as a crisis, a bad guy is in his natural element. He continually observes cause and effect, and turns every opportunity to the advantage of his pack. He loves to win, and his very good at it.
A good guy does not have a sense of humor, out of politeness he tries not to crack joke or out of trying not so offend others with his joke, he shuns jokes (over serious dey always worry them). Meanwhile a bad guy can entertain; he is not scared to talk dirty. He has a witty sense of humor. He has the ability to leave a group of people in stitches with his humor.
A bad guy is a very good story teller. They have a lot of stories to tell. He’s live the life, he’s su een it all. He’s made mistakes, he’s had adventures that a good guy has never experienced.
A bad guy is a man’s man. He’s a hard guy not to like or want to have an orijin (beer) with. He’s tough, often quiet, composed (Indians called this kind of person VEER ). While a good guy is inexperienced, boring, self righteous (wanna be), nerdy, geeky. “ who wants to be besties with a boring person?” except you are also boring.
Bad guys are law breakers, remember they don’t like to follow the rules. So therefore they bend the rules to there taste. While a good guy is a law abiding citizen, who would never get in trouble for breaking the rules.

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placeofallure:
Point of correction, A side chick is the girl a person dates along with one's girlfriend OR wife.

What do you call a married woman having a sexual relationship with a married man?

fornication gay man

Sex is a sensitive issue that was never discussed most Nigerian home. Growing up in a Nigerian home, we were never allowed to talk about sex. Our parent will build a barricade around them whenever we ask them about issues like genitals, sex, conceptions, childbirth. They avoid such discussion. It is either they scold us or shout at us for uttering anything concerning sex. It was like a sacred word no one is allowed to say.
In other for us not to make the same mistake as our parents. These are ways on how to teach your children about sex and everything that it entails.
Firstly, talking about sex, sexuality and relationship in an open and honest way plays a big role in the life of a young child. It is important as a parents to be prepared to answer any question asked by your child about sex.
SEX TALK
It is never too early to talk about sex with your child. Talking about sex and sexuality with your child makes them to feel comfortable to talk to you about anything and it makes conversation easier.
DON’T COMPLICATE THE EXPLANATION
Keep your language simple and honest. Explain things at a level that you child will understand. Using the correct words for body parts helps your child learn about his/her body. So use these words from the start – penis – breast – testes – vagina – vulva. Not words like kokoro, totoyo, your thing.
GET BOTH PARENT INVOLVED
When both parents talk about sex and sexuality, it makes the children to feel more comfortable. When both parents are involved, they show the children that it’s ok to talk about sex and sexuality. They trust their parents more about sex matters. They trust their parents more and they communicate more with both parents
IT NOT A BAD THING NOT TO ALWAYS HAVE AN ANSWER
You don’t need to be an expert on sex talk, you just have to be the kind of parent that your child can ask about anything. Don’t shy away from the questions it’s ok to say “ I don’t know”. If you don’t know what to say, you can reply by saying. “Sweetheart, am glad you asked but I don’t really know how to answer you but I will get back to you.” And you make sure you get back to him/her.
EQUIP YOURSELF
Prepare yourself, you might feel embarrassed talking about sexuality with your child. Using words like penis or Vagina might make you feel uncomfortable. It’s alright, try using words you are comfortable with.
Note: it’s important for children to know the difference between touching that is ok and touching that’snot ok. Make sure your female child knows that she can say “NO” to any touching that she doesn’t want and to tell a trusted adult about confusing touch.
If we do not teach our children about sex and sexuality, the society will find a way to teach them in a bad way. Children are constantly exposed to media messages about sexuality which are mostly negatives. After all we all have internet, satellite TV, mobile phone, television.
Precautions:
Take some practical internet safety precautions like moderation on your google account, youtube, satellite tv etc.
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Everybody has a relationhip status. Either we are with somebody or not. Today I will explaining every status that there is.



CRUSH
Your crush is a person you like romantically but you are not involved in a relationship with the person yet. One thing that is funny about crushing on someone, he/she will never know that you like them because you may have been keeping it a secret.

SIDE CHICK
A side chick is a lady one dates in addition to one’s girlfriend, either secretlyor not. A side chick is second choice. Some girls do not know they are a side chick. They are never the priority in the relationship.



IN A RELATIONSHIP (Duh!)
The normal dating. A boy and a girl dating each other.



ENGAGED
This is a situation where boy has pledge to get married to a girl by proposing to her.



IT’S COMPLICATED
It’s a situation where you don’t even know if your dating the person.



DIVORCED
It is dissolution of marriage, the termination of marital union.

F*** BUDDY
A person with whom another person has a relationship based on causaul sex.

HOMOSEXUAL
(This one dey always weak me). A person who is sexually attracted to people of their own sex. Man to man. Woman to woman.

DENIAL
This person likes somebody, but he/she is not willing to admit they have feelings for the person.



FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS
This is a situation where two close friends who think it would be fun to have sex with each other again and again.

HOMEWRECKER
(Daleru Daleru) A person blamed for the break-up of a marriage because of the affairs he/she is having with one of the partners.

SINGLE
Someone that is not in a relationship either unmarried or not involved in stable sexual relationship.

MARRIED TO THE “HAND”
These set of people do not need anybody’s help to be satisfied sexually, self-service.

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HausaOverlord:
Well I can't blame u for writing this peace of shyte, u are certainly the more better looking one from ur pictur with this ur platoon of ugly ass motherfuckers God damn

what is this one saying... Oga just read the Content and leave... Instead of the nuisance...

It’s a wonderful gift to be good looking. In this context we are talking about people who are born good looking. As a proud member of the “attractive people association”. I can tell you that there are more demerits than merits to being good looking.
Today I will share with you, the disadvantages of being a fine boy.
ENVY
Jealousy from friends. I have experienced this lot of times. In a group of five friends and just one is handsome, the possibility of the other four to be envious of him is very high. He gets all the beautiful girls. There girlfriends have a crush on him. He will constantly gets accuse of trying to snatch a friend’s girlfriend.
INTIMIDATION
When an attractive guy is talking to a less attractive girl, she might get intimidated and would feel he only wants her for sex and he is not really into her.
THEY ARE TAGGED “PLAYER”
There is this popular believe that fine boys do not have one girlfriend but multiple girlfriends. That is not always true. I believe double dating is not a looks thing but depends on the individual personality.
PEOPLE MISTAKE THEIR CONFEDENCE FOR COCKY-NESS
Good looking guys who are confident and not shy of showing off what they have are considered to be arrogant and proud. Handsome guy are victims of misconceptions.
THEY DON’T GET EMPLOYED EASILY
Handsome guys find it difficult to find a job, may be because employers who are of the same sex let their jealousy get the better of them or they see good looking guys as a threat. Me and my friend went to look for a job. When we got there the man who was the interviewer was telling his colleagues discreetly. “ha! Shey dis ones way dey do fine boys fit do the work, abegi call the next person joor”. We never got the job because of our looks.
LONELINESS
Most good looking guys are lonely, most people conclude that handsome Guys have so many people clustered around them, but no, even sometimes when a girl sees a handsome guy, she will choose to ignore him with the thought that he already has a lots of girls at his side. You discover most handsome guys are with little friends while some are even single.
PRETTY GIRLS PLAY HARD TO GET
Most beautiful girls believe that whenever they accept to date a good looking guy, it is a massive conceit of power. So they put up a higher wall of defense when handsome guys approach them.
THEY ARE PERCIEVED TO BE LESS MANLY
There is this notion in our society that for you to be perceived more masculine, you have to be not so good looking. Most fine boys are believed to be weaklings.
Read more:

https://9jalife.com.ng/8-disadvantages-handsome/

Bolowolowo:
Na wa o. The federal government must look into these sort of cases. This is becoming far too common in Naija now.

Through policy that prevent and protect the girl child

I see him everyday as I walk home from work. I see him at the front of his Barber’s shop, always grinning, staring at me. Perhaps wondering if I still remember what he did to me, perhaps wanting to do more. His face is like a bad memory that isn’t quite straight forward. Like an assortment of all the terror I had experienced. So when I see him, I gag. I try to place where exactly it hurts. It hurts, it hurts everywhere.
I was not quite five. My family was trying to move to a better house so they shipped my siblings and I to our uncle’s house. The air in that house was not enough for us. Like the times we were allowed to watch TV and play with our toys, it was too little. We were kept in a room like prisoners and never allowed to the sitting room. It was an unfamiliar feeling for children used to playing around the house, we played around the house, but we adjusted. We were good children.
Our uncle was an unmarried man who lived by himself with another family relation, Funsho. Funsho was like a fixture in the house, unlike my uncle who was always out on business. The first time I saw him all I knew was that I didn’t like this uncle who took so much time curling his hair and didn’t know how to tighten his trousers well enough so it won’t fall to his butt. Then when he warned us never to leave our room. I disliked him for much more.
Five days after, while I was in a heated argument with my elder sister on something I can’t quite remember, he called me out. He allowed me three hours of uninterrupted movie watching. I felt like a traitor because my siblings were locked up In their rooms while I was watching “karishika”. The guilt disappeared mid way into the scary movie. When he threw me back into the prison , I did my penance by telling my inmates, in the most exaggerated way I could, the movie’s storyline.
The next day I waited, he didn’t come for me. The day after he did. This time around the water pump was bad so I followed him to fetch water. I was excited. When we had finished filling all the cans with water, it was time for me to be cast away again, but this time he took me to his room. I liked the feel of his blue rug under my feet. He asked me to sit beside him, I did. Then he lay down on the bed and put my hands on his p*nis. He said “play with it”. I didn’t know what a p*nis was. I knew it was awkward. I was a child that who was used to awkward. I was a child that was dumped and imprisoned in her uncle’s house with no explanation as to why my mother hardly visited us.
So I rubbed it. I pressed it down and massaged it like one would massage a back. Then he assisted my hands in raising it and stoking it up and down. “Are you enjoying it”, he asked. I laughed. My laughter was what struck me the most. “Kiss it” he said… years after I wonder about the laughter. I would say if I could laugh then, why do I still think of it now and feel like I was tortured. As though with every stroke something that was loose inside me tighten.
The next day my mum came for us. I hated to think that he did same thing to my sisters. I want to ask them but I couldn’t. How do I ask it? It’s been almost Twenty years. It’s not been my worst experience with the opposite sex. But it was the one that spiralled the rest. It turned abnormal to normal . After that experience, I learnt to allow. To allow them do to my body what they pleased. I learnt to allow the hands and tongues and words that cut sharper than the touches.

Read more: https://9jalife.com.ng/molested-five-years-old-girl-hurts-everywhere/

#CC Seun

Some call it jacking off, self pleasure. Masturbation is the sexual stimulation of one’s private part (genital) for sexual arousal or other sexual pleasure, but usually to the point of orgasm. This act may involve hands, fingers, intimacy gadgets such as dildos, vibrators and our everyday object, some even use fruits. e.g cucumber, banana etc.

Masturbation has been mentioned and discussed in writings, in the 18th  and 19th  centuries. Back then it was describe as a hideous act or heinous. It is practically a taboo to masturbate back then. But this stigmatization generally reduces in the 20th century.



Let come back home, as Nigerians what do we really think about masturbation?

There is so much hypocrisy behind masturbation. Nobody wants to admit they masturbate. A friend once told me a Christian brother caught him masturbating and he advised him not to ever try it again. Few weeks later, that my friend caught the same brother in the act. Basically everybody is trying to form holy. Hiding under the canopy of religion.



WHAT DOES OUR RELIGION SAYS ABOUT MASTUBATION?

Christianity says absolute nothing about masturbation, so those Islam. There is not one verse of the bible or Quran that condemn self-stimulation. There is not one that insinuates such a condemnation. Most of our religious leaders shy away from preaching about it and those that actually preach about it condemn it. You hear things like “masturbation is a sin”. Islamically, there are arguments on the issue of masturbation. This argument is between the olden day and the modern day cleric. The olden day scholars believe masturbation is bad while modern day scholars have no problem with masturbation. So far it those not affect your relationship with God.

I once read in an article when a famous Nigerian pastor supported masturbation and I quote “Masturbation is not a sin against God, it’s just like playing football” _ Pastor Chris Oyakhilome.



DO MOST PEOPLE MASTURBATE?

Most people Masturbate! Even if they don’t admit they do. Masturbation have no restriction, both gender, irrespective of the age.

People masturbate for different reasons some they just want to release sexual tension, for relaxation, while some because they are missing their partner. But most people masturbate because it feels good.



DURATION OF MASTURBATION

Some people masturbate often, either daily or several times a day. Others weekly and some Once in a while and some people don’t masturbate at all. We have different people and different ways of how they masturbate. It does not have a format.



IS MASTURBATION HEALTHY?

We must have heard some crazy thing about the effect of masturbation, some say it causes blindness, I was once told masturbation cause impotency. During the Victorian Era, Doctor believed masturbation is a disease. None of that is true. Masturbation isn’t unhealthy or bad for you at all. Masturbation is actually good for your health, both mentally and physically. And it is safe. There’s no risk of STD  or unwanted pregnancy.



Plenty of research as shown the health benefits of masturbation. They are as follows:

Reduce stress
Help you sleep better
Release sexual tension
Improve your self esteem and body image.
Help treat sexual problems
Strengthen muscle tone in your pelvic and anal areas
Relieve menstrual cramps and muscle tension (for ladies)
IS MASTURBATION ADDICTIVE?

Yes it is addictive. You have to exercise moderation. Masturbation only becomes too much if it gets in the way of your social life, relationship, responsibility or religion.

Read more: https://9jalife.com.ng/chronicle-masturbation-far/

/cc. Seun

First of all, what do we understand by the term “friend zone”. Friend is a situation in which one party of a friendship wishes to enter into a romantic or sexual relationship, while the other party does not. It is a zone you find yourself when you fail to impress a woman you’re attracted to. Whenever you hear of a woman say these words to you, you should know you have being friend zoned
You are such a wonderful friend
I am crushing on that guy…. And I think he is into me
He finally asked me out!!!!
My brother you have being friend zoned. I once had a friend back in my college days, we call him Iyadunni, He is a great specimen of a brother that was friend zone. In fact I think he was blood-brother zoned.
Most friend zoning situation start like this: You meet this girl, you think she is hot, and you strike a conversation with her. She fell for your charm, she laughed at your jokes and you assume she already likes you, but you were too scared to make a move, time goes by and you are still just friends. And one day you decided to make your move and reveal your feeling to her. And she replied you with the famous epic lines. “I think you are cute, funny, intelligent, handsome……. But I will like us to be just friends”. And that is how your journey of becoming a (Iyadunni) begins.
You might be hoping that may be one day she might change her mind. My brother,
SHE WILL NEVER CHANGE HER MIND. The more you stay as friends the more you go deep in the pit of friend zone. But not to worry, here are the escape routes out of friend zone.
UNCLINGED YOURSELF FROM HER
Be less interested in her, I know it is hard. My friend (Iyadunni) was never able to do that. Even when we pester him to, but he was too needy and could not take the risk. Try to occupy yourself with other thing that will consume your time then you will have lesser time for her. From that instance that you start using this method you will see that things will begin to change between you two.
BE A REAR COMMODITY
Try to avoid her, “If nah to form busy, form am”. For example if she calls you and she was like “ uhm.. David can you help me out with my project/assignment/ school work. Let her know you are busy, even if you are not. The principle of scarcity states that “people tends to value something more when it is rear or taken away from them.
HANGOUT WITH OTHER GIRLS
The mentality of the girl that friend zoned you is that she as you and she might be the only girl in your life. So flirt with other girls, hang out with them, let her see you have a long conversation with a hot girl. She will see how charming you are, and you will become more valuable in her eyes. A twinge of jealousy that comes from knowing that other girls find you attractive is priceless.
By now, she sees you differently. You can start flirting with her in different ways. A little dirty talk will not break your friendship. Something like “you are looking super hot in that dress”. (For those that are shy) but for the rest of us, especially my Yoruba brothers, try saying things like “ omo odun gan oo”…… “yeh, omo o taa gan ooo”…. Just try to talk dity. Also sensual tricks like touching her also works. Am not saying you should grab her in an improper way, casual arm touching arm or elbow brushing each other. Moderation is key. Pay attention to how she responds. Personally the main reason I get laid regularly is because my nature of being touchy. Being touchy bring sensation and sexual attraction
If you are in a perfect position to pull this trick off and escape the friend zone, follow these steps constructively.
Personally I don’t always get friend zoned but when I eventually do, I get be benefits.

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Whenever you ask an average Nigerian man what he desires in a woman, he is likely to reply you with comments like : a beautiful, intelligent, smart and God fearing woman. But deep down, does he have what he takes to manage an intelligent girl.
Firstly what is our idea of an intelligent girl. In this context we are not talking about a feminist. An intelligent girl knows that there is more to life than love. An intelligent girl knows what she wants and she is ready to do anything to get it. An intelligent girl will never rush into getting married. An intelligent girl do not really care about being the life of the party, they value authenticity over social skills. These characteristics will practically bore out an average Nigerian guy.
Here are some of the reasons why some Nigerian guys avoid intelligent girls.


• An average Nigerian guy is naturally bossy. He always wants to be the head. Especially if he is the first born of his family or the only male child of his mother (Igbo). Guys like this cannot handle an intelligent girl, because she is the woman of her own world. She does things in he own way. She cannot be bossed around. Relationship like this will never last.



• Intelligent girls are seen boring. They don’t care if they are the life of the party. For an average 9ja boy. ( She is killing the vibe) = (Ko shaprapra). He will expect her to ginger him, party hard with him, follow him to owambes every weekend but that is not in the genes of an intelligent girl. She would rather have a quite dinner with her boyfriend. So therefore they will definitely have issues.


• Intelligent girls are too polite and respectful. They treat everyone with so much courtesy. A friend of mine ones dated a girl with such quality. She was so respectful to the extend that my friend started taking her for granted , and he later lost her to another guy.


• There is definitely going to be a war of knowledge. Intelligent girls are smart enough and they always believe that their perception about everything is always right and other people’s opinion doesn’t matter. This will cause regular quarrel in a relationship, and in no time thing will fall apart


• They tend to intimidate their spouse with there intelligence. They seem like a threat to an average guy. Remember he like to be that boss, so therefore he will not be able handle the situation and he will absolutely lose her.

Personally, I am attracted to intelligent girl. But the real question we should be asking ourselves (Guy).
“Do we have what is takes to handle smart women?”.


Source: 9jalife.com.ng