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Same reason you put on a nice fitted suit.

It boosts confidence, increases your acceptability in the eyes of others (regardless of gender) and positively affects all areas of life.

But if she is dressed with all her bits hanging out, then yes definitely for the guys. Toto dey scratch am.

It depends on the purpose of the relationship.
If the person is extra-ordinary, in a tactical way, then why not?

What do I mean by tactical?
Let's face it, simply being fond of someone (What most call 'love' today) should not be the 100% consideration when determining who to partner with in life. More like 80%. There are other tactical factors that must come into play. Advantages to be considered. If you meet someone with some....unique....advantages that you haven't really been able to find around you, then a long distance thing is possible.

If the person has no discernably unique advantages, then long distance relationship makes utterly no sense.

This is so yeye-ly subliminal.

pic 1: Focus is on a Bunch of massive cucumbers
pic 2: Focus is on a girl wearing a smiley face
pic 3+: More cucumbers

Whoever did this knew what they were going for. Nansense

Pchidexy:
Why don't you leave Igbo Matter and focus on Edo state. How would you feel if I say that all Edo women are prostitutes and that all Edo men are armed robbers( judging from all the robberies that happens at Benin bye pass along Benin -- Lagos road)

Useless Mugu feeding on sterotypes and generalization.

FYI: Mbaise people are very educated and get mouth in all spheres of life. So, I don't think they need you.

Mechonu
As if all this talk will still stop you people from selling your daughters when time for serious talk comes.
Abi thief dey agree say him be thief? Never. He go get rationalization to him thiefery. To una, that rationalization na "culture" and "Haba, this "small" request is not expensive for a good wife (As if na Virgin Mary the girl be)", followed by kindergaten-grade attempts at psyching the other party like "If you can't handle it, you're a small boy, etc etc".

These tactics aren't new. Marry yourselves please.
We'll continue to make sure we avoid your daughters for you, so please stop flooding the area with your swarm of unmarried (for obvious reasons) females so we can see road to daughters of more sensible tribes!

Not if you eat them first!
Start from the pussy

Akanbibabatunde:

I don't find her attractive.
And she doesn't even come close to the physical level of those 2 black babes

Thing with black women is that, all things being equal, black skin is tighter. #BlackDontCrack
Wait till that white woman turns 35. She go look like your mama.

Her (clean) bootyhole

Akanbibabatunde:
Foreign/white babes are the real deal..as a billionaire who have traveled around the globe, have come across series of girls from different races and background and I can say proudly say that White babes are perfectly created by God ... Unlike their black sisters that looked like burnt offering with toothpick legs ;Dand will Still be forming hard to get...smh

Well no matter how burnt the corn is, we still manage it...
Are you team foreign babe or you love burnt corns??

Discuss! No fights and abuse pls.. Am too rich to separate fight...
Lalasticlala front page..

What is this one talking about?
I'll take any complexion of a BLACK woman over white any day....long as she thick.

Yomieluv:
I went to one of my friends place.. If you see the way the wife treated the maid,I was shocked..

Using broom to beat the poor maid for "over staying" in the bathroom.. The hubby is tired of the whole thing,they can't just help it not having a maid..she has changed maid like 5times this year,all the maids usually run away..

She's heartless,I can't take a maid in my house,one of the reason is woman's hostility to one another.. I don't trust my wife's attitude towards maid.

Yeah a lot of women have zero chill.
Emotional inbalance and what not.

For some, a healthy home is to have someone always beating someone. If it is not her husband resorting to beating her (cuz she just kept pushing those buttons), or her beating her husband (cuz he's weak), it will be her beating her maid.

The female brain....

LecciGucci:
Op better delete ur thread becoz folks here are going to hurt u with words tgat are not true.
Thereby spreading more fallacies abt ur ppl.

If u hav sense better delet ur thread with another topic.

And forget wat ignorant people say abt ur village or pple.
It is not abt where u come from but abt ur individual character as a person

Who gives a damn about "individual character" matter?
That's like trying to sell a bird and going "As you can see this bird has wings. No other bird has wings ... just this particular bird you should buy from me".
Ofcourse if he doesn't like her character he wouldn't have even wanted to be her friend.

It is the money we don't want to be looted from us by her family come wedding time that is the issue.

CecyAdrian:
So much garbage been poured out is all what I read, now to answer your question I am a proud Mbaise girl, and I have seen that list several times. I have aunties, that are married and the list that was always given to the grooms is not anything close to the overly exaggerated list that circulate online. That you and your so called Mbaise friend come from a family that believes in robbing people in the name of bride price does not mean any other Mbaise family is like that.

And dnt tell me the family members can not do anything. The bride's family members are the influences of the list that always goes out.

Let me teach you something.
The issue with Mbaise (And likely Igbo culture as a whole) is that the list does not simply depend on the girl's immediate family....but her "village" i.e. her extended family. So it is not simply about finding an Mbaise girl from a good immediate family, it is about finding one from a good EXTENDED family as well, because if the majority of the Extendeds are Looters....the whole soup is spoilt for the in-laws.

Like I said, all that matters is that the majority (~70+%) of families in that area are in-law looters. These looters are some ladies' extended families...even if these ladies come from good immediate families.

As long as that is the case, and as long as Igbo culture continues to give extended family members too much say on what should change hands when a daughter (Who they probably haven't seen since she was a baby) gets married.... Then no matter how the few good 25% act, and no matter how much it makes you emotional/cry/etc....It will always be a BAD GAMBLE for a guy to engage an Mbaise girl (Double the odds of a bad experience if dude is from another tribe and then now based abroad on top).

Very few people like to waste their time with "Let me try and see how her family is". They simply go off the metrics, because time is valuable.
If there are better metrics elsewhere, then that is where they will go.

Whether the girl is a good girl or not has nothing to do with anything. "Good girl" is everywhere.

Yes I know these reports ensure bad market for Mbaise babes, but Your emotions on the subject are irrelevant and only matter to you.... not the cold hard realities of dudes' wallets based on THE METRICS.

If you want to change the metrics, y'all sort out your people and banish hungry-minded by-force traditions from your land and THEN we can talk.
But no, Igbo folks will always say "It is tradition It must be followed". But never will y'all ask "Made by who? And in what time period?"
All these things are man-made traditions that are no longer relevant and serve no purpose other than to frustrate the current generation....at least those who are weak enough to let it.

And you think it's not the same case on the other side of the fence?

You find one online, she doesn't show her face
You find one that is okay, she swears like a pirate using words you don't want to have your children using.

CecyAdrian:
I do not think you got what I said or maybe you did but decided to shove it aside and push down ur absurd opinion on others. No one talked about bride price here, and bride price was never the issue. shebi you go ask for girl hand in marriage before them provide u with bride price list.

Just so you know, the bride price of Mbaise is overly flogged due to fake lists that are circulating. Just so you know, there are people who get married to Mbaise Ladies without even spending out of the ordinary, it all depends on family of the girl and the clan you getting your wife from.

So next time, do not generalize the Mbaise people due to what Mr A got from the family of the bride he intends to marry and exaggerates it, ans am very sure you have never been to Mbaise or opportune to witness any of the marriage rites, you are just speaking on hearsay, which is pathetic.

Fake lists...LOL.
So before I answer you: Have you yourself gone to marry a woman from Mbaise before?
Have you yourself seen a list from that area? Or are you just responding emotionally like most women do?

To be honest when It comes to serious marriage matters, it is your type of female I avoid.
I respect IMO babes who KNOW that their traditions are excessive (like my friend I talked about in my last post) and who don't bother denying it.
It shows that she's a woman who can see reason (This is rarer than pearls) because she ADMITS what is in front of everyone's face. Not one who is constantly on that emotional-response tip trying to convince someone that 1+1 = 3 regardless of copious logical facts.

The pure facts is that no matter how many "cool" families they are, the MAJORITY (read: ~70%) of Mbaise families will loot their in-laws. And at the end of the day, these are the metrics that matter. It then becomes a bad gamble with unnecessarily terrible odds for the guy (given his other options) to start something with an Mbaise girl...unless she is not the dull type and is ready to cooperate with whatever needs to be done to move forward with life...but most girls aren't that bold/independent I find.

Every tribe in Naija has some backward tradition they are known for. There is no smoke without fire.
E.g. I'm Edo, and My people are known for excessive witchcraft. And you know what? Given the things I have seen, I agree!!!!
That is why I don't go to my village for anything!

I don't go around trying to deny what I obviously know is true about the majority of Edo village people.
I don't go about trying to be an unpaid Public Relations Manager for what I know makes no sense to defend.
I call bullshit (i.e. bad tradition) for what it is and disassociate myself from it.
And in so doing, I set myself apart! I see this no other way because to cover them, is to accept the traditions I hate. And I ain't doing that.

Until y'all own the issues of your people and admit to them instead of blindly denying them, only then can solutions begin and only then will people change their opinions. No be by constant denial.

CecyAdrian:
It's just so annoying and unbelievable that people will have such mindset in this age and time.

I have this friend also from Mbaise and just last week, the guy she 'thought' she was going out with (thought because, the guy had it all planned) suddenly told her that they can't go on any further and when she insisted on knowing why, the guy (from Anambra) who is a graduate with a master's and good exposure from his sojourn abroad told her that it's because she is from Mbaise!

That he loves her, but his family will never allow him marry an mbaise lady.

When I heard it, I was shocked, in this age and time?

It is EXACTLY because he is well-traveled that he quit it too.
After experiencing worthwhile alternatives (where archaic bride price/list tinz are no longer practiced or at least not as abused), why will he come and bankrupt himself on top wedding to one girl? Especially now when money dey hard people.

I personally don't see why these things are hard for women to understand.
Why should he marry you when there are several equivalents of you from other tribes and cultures that don't require an arm and a leg to marry?

And more importantly, Why should he marry you if you don't get this?

I have a sexy female friend from Imo who I respect finish because she GETS this simple fact about her people and it's culture. She says when she wants to marry, she will be the first to let the guy know that "Babe, my culture is rather excessive when it comes to marital things. I want you to know that a court wedding is also an option". Because she too no like wahala!

I mean, it's pure deductive reasoning. Or is it only color of dress and flower most women look at when it comes to wedding matter?
Apply some logic too. I swiar it's not hard.

Look, character has nothing to do with it. It's all about the wallet.
Getting married to an Mbaise girl, will bankrupt any young man (especially if he is considered an outsider).
Ain't nobody got time for that in this day and age, but traditionalists will never learn.

Your village people no dey carry last when it comes to CHOPPING pesin and using his money to open several shops all because he wants to marry a young woman from their area.

The sad thing also is that, there is very little the girl's immediate family can do....no matter how 'toosh' they are.
SOMEBODY must sort your greedy village people, and they don't care who.

If you haven't seen greed before, wait until you see your uncles and aunties dragging about how much they want to sell you for when that time comes.

Esdb3:
Go read about the sin of homosexuality and other sins and compare the context they were both described in

That it shouldn't be done, doesn't mean it's "unpardonable".
Jesus heals and forgives homosexuals all the time.

You are the only one trying to add "levels" to what God can do and not do.
Because you are there thinking that by feeling like you are judging someone and excluding them from God's forgiveness that it somehow means YOU are free of judgement yourself.

God's Message to all: When you are ready (Which is hopefully soon for your sake) "Come as you are".

Let God be God and every man be a liar.