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wapadunk:
At 29, why should she be interested in a divorcee or a widower. She will definitely see a single and responsible person for her. Don't settle for less on her behalf because you think time is gone and she ends up in a troubled nest

Nigerians are stupid sha and talk any how.
So what does being a widower or divorcee have to with being irresponsible?

Ladies expected to comment.

Must he be able to do 0, 1, or 2 items on that list?

Ladies only: Can you date a guy who refuses to do either of the following?

- Eat your kitty
- Eat your groceries

DouglasH92:
I have read comments from a lot of Nigerian men on this forum and other platforms on social media that basically assert that all women want from a man is money. These men believe that the only concern the average Nigerian girl has when dating or looking for a man to hook up with, is the size of his pocket. But is this really true? Of course not.

In my opinion, anyone who thinks this way has so stripped himself of any modicum of self worth or self-value and has heaved all this worth and value unto money, something external from himself. Such a person believes himself and his qualities not adequate enough to interest, intrigue, gratify or satisfy a woman, so he finds a savior in money to answer to all these needs.

Like let's be realistic here. Women are humans just like men are, and as humans women have needs other than monetary needs. They have qualities that they find attractive in the opposite sex that can interest them and satisfy a need, and cause them to invest themselves in such person. Money isn't everything. And I am not saying money isn't a criterion women look out for, but money isn't the only criterion like most men think, and most times it isn't even among the most important criteria. To be honest some women don't even place money high on their priority list when evaluating a man. There are other qualities that matter more and these qualities are subjective. There are women who would invest themselves in men that are intelligent, or men that are confident and hardworking, or men that are good looking and well groomed, or men that are highly skilled in a field that interests them, or men that are funny, witty or good with words, or men that are adventurous and well exposed, or men that know how to please a woman sexually. There are lot of qualities.

A relationship is a journey of different courses and there are women that love to explore these variety of courses based on their interests and likes. But when a man nests a flawed notion of women as just wanting a man that has money, then his reality begins to manifest just as he believes, and invariably these are the kind of women that he'll meet.

In my opinion, any man that thinks this way is either extremely ignorant or has low self esteem because he doesn't perceive himself as having qualities that can attract and keep women besides money. I mean for fucksake there are men who are being taken care of by their girlfriends. There are men their girlfriends would be willing to do anything for, whether monetarily or otherwise. In such cases it is definitely not money that's keeping her, then what is? Obviously it's other qualities the man possesses that she values higher than money.

Rarity is what separates the most sort out for from those who aren't sort out for. When you possess something that is valuable to someone, and that thing is rare to find, you will become extremely valuable to such person. Many people have money. Finding a man who has money these days is the easiest thing to do. Having money doesn't separate you from the crowd. What separates you from the crowd is the qualities you possess and to the degree you possess them. Instead of coming online to whine about how women only care about money, why not try developing your best qualities and use them to attract women. No one can love you if you don't love yourself first. No one can value you if you don't value yourself.

This is true mostly in parts of the world NOT striken by poverty.
The women I run into personally in yankee could care less about your money.
What they look out for is if you are physically fit, can hold a convo and just being generally cool (in a not-trying-too-much kind of way).

Humility017:
pure nonsense.....
my mom has warned me severally about it....
i will rather not marry then engage in such...
it is left to you...and good for you.
but for me...I can't moreover it does not go with my personal Christian beliefs...

What did your mum say is wrong about pleasuring your wife in bed?
And What does christianity have to do with it?

Unless you can show where it is even implied in the bible where it says MouthAction with your spouse is a sin, please be quiet and don't add things/burdens to the bible that God did not add just because you are trying to feel self-righteous about a topic. Last I read, curses follow such.
Not even God Himself likes self-righteous grand-standing.

Leave it at your opinion and don't start formulating "God said..." into things just because you're trying to win an insignificant argument.

Humility017:
pity who?
my parents never did that...but they lived happily
with all the sex styles and flicks
divorce is still on the increase

LOL
1- How do you know your parents never did? Did you ask them?
2- Even if yes, You better align yourself with your current generation's realities. People of this generation are more open-eye than previous and demand more experiences from their lovers. If your woman one day has to ask you to suck dat ting (as if she should even ask) and you are forming "my father and his father before him only did one thing one way like this", na your own fault what transpires years down the line of that relationship.

Before you know what's going on, she could end up being some other guy's throat-slut due to her compounded, repressed sexuality that he happened to 'unleash'.
I'm only telling you what happens everyday my guy.

Humility017:
you're right ..
me too can't...imagine myself do it...
I can have sex wit my life....wit different styles we both initiate but definitely not MouthAction....never.
over my dead body.....

I pity her...

Am I the only one who wants to eat her pucci?
I can't be the only freaky modafucka on this thread

generalmike1759:
Bros... when it is metallic, it is a good one! you are lucky it's not a fish-like smell.. Those are the bad ones!

any way... this thread is aimed at wasting people's time and revealing people's stupidity... Have u not done your research to see that 3 out of every 5 men suffer ED..and ED comes in different ways and doesn't necessarily mean 'man can't get his joystick up'.. even if that is the case, there are sure ways to manage that, drugs like viagra and cialis were made for such persons.. there are other natural ways too.. BTW all men at some stage (40 and above) will suffer erectile dysfunction.
I'm out!

Don't mind them.
That's how some of them if their husband is going through a challenge they will be insulting him and his manhood instead of supporting.
After it gets dealt with, why won't he fawk every other woman but you?

hollah123:
my guy, e better make them kukuma kill me than do that shot.... though most times I hear people talk about it but I just shake my head n wonder if they know what comes out of that hole or what it breeds or how hygienic it is.
no time now when dey get diseases they start screaming village people n for the op wey dey form lesby. hard craze dey hook u, Na all these ones dey gbensh pass n Na Dem dey form Wetin Dem no b, we get many of them for here

When you keep looking for broke girls, how will their toto not stink and be infected?
Girl that cannot afford to eat talkless of regular visits to gyneacologist.
Gyno/pap smears/etc is of extremely low priority to poverty-stricken individuals such as your women.

As I've said before on this forum, I only fawk with girls who are doing well for themselves.
They are capable of taking care of their issues.
Its fun to either make them my throat-slut or become their tongue-slave depending on how I feel that week.

Don't get it twisted, eating a black woman's clean "water-pucci" and feasting on her clean bootyhole (esp. after spraying coconut oil inside yum) is one of the sexiest, most intimate things you can do to her. She is yours, mind body and soul.

HannahHitler:
lol. this dude sef bad. this is the acceptable way to go about it. I do this all the time. before I go and suck herpes. lool. lucky me thou, lesbians are really clean never met a girl I couldn't give head.

Stay away from the butches... Except you are a Butch.

I like giving head, and sometimes I like to tie her up and use her throat. Gives me a trip.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QfkEem5A9UE

Viking007:
Sex is overrated trust me. Only a___ will get married for the sole purpose of having sex.

It's not the ONLY purpose, but it IS important.
Stop all that binary thinking Nigerians are known for.

MrBrownJay1:
MBJ says wearing condoms should be the only thing to be aware, in order to stop the spread of HIV.
Ebonflexy then comes on board and says that there are 1001 ways to catch the disease
so MBJ reminds him that it certainly doesnt change the fact that WEARING A CONDOM is the safest way to stop the spread of HIV

if you read carefully what the OP wrote about stopping the SPREAD OF HIV, then you would have understood why i gave my answer about wearing condoms... duh!

dont quote me, if you dont understand why i gave my initial reply.

OP:
...Gives 10 symptoms of HIV people should be aware of... <===(A good article on symptoms of the virus)

MrBrownJay1:

"some people out there have really lost the plot....shouldnt WEARING A CONDOM be the only thing to be aware of?!"

<==== (The beginning of your ignorance. Basically undercutting the OP and implying that the article is pointless, because people don't need to be aware of symptoms to the virus. An unneccessary action that shows you to be a pointlessly adversarial individual)

Ebonflexy

"Dick-in-hole isn't the only way to catch an infection.
There are 1001 other ways to Bleep a woman"

<=== (Me fixing your ignorance. Because as most people your age SHOULD know by now, "penile sex" with an infected person is not the ONLY way to contract the virus. Therefore a knowledge of the symptoms is necessary knowledge, viz-a-viz the OP's post)

MBJ:
"...Whatever the heck was quoted up there..."

Clearly you enjoy fighting and arguing with no reason or direction.
You have been noticed. Don't bother quoting me on this thread as I won't respond.

MrBrownJay1:
...and thats the reason we shouldnt advise people to wear condoms?!

people should wear condoms ALL THE TIME, and go for twice yearly std full check up, et voila!

trying to be your own doctor, going by BS symptoms (that could be anything) and making you paranoid about nothing, is certainly NOT the way to go about this issue.

Who said anything about advising people not to wear condoms tho?

MrBrownJay1:
some people out there have really lost the plot....shouldnt WEARING A CONDOM be the only thing to be aware of?!

Dick-in-hole isn't the only way to catch an infection.
There are 1001 other ways to Bleep a woman

Evaberry:
...

Online dating is a waste of time.

1 of the parties are usually not faithful.

Online dating is a meat market. You are essentially e-commerce shopping for a human.
You both didn't meet organically.
Or do you remember every piece of meat you held in your hand when you last went to the meat market?

One person will just look at the other and think "Hmm, this meat is okay but there is probably a better one" lemme put this one down, and pick another one from the same table. And they can, without consequences, because they don't know you from Adam before.

I suggest you use it only for konji purposes.

hotwax:
I can't imagine myself doing that especially most of our girls nowadays have bad odor down there.

As she is checking for ED before marriage, you better believe he is checking for smell too.

Shouldn't be a problem if he loves eating her kitty and booty.

She's guaranteed to bust a nut each time, as opposed to just s3x.

701ecilana:
Men don't hunt after needy women. You made him see you as very needy. Can you get a job? Get busy. possible get a very busy job. Let him see that you are not home as you were before. Even if he doesn't notice it, just do it.

Pls you are crying and breaking my heart. You are a person first before a wife. What if this man dies in an accident? Won't you live afterwards? He doesn't even know you are hurting yet you are dying. Do not allow any one single human being have this kind of power over you.

Enough of the kids gloves. You are a complete human being independent of him. That man can kill you you know? I have seen two ladies their men brought them HIV, one is dead, one i met here in the Nairaland platform, we are still praying expecting a miracle as she's also taking her drugs.

Don't die becos of a man biko. Live for your kids.

She has a job. She's not a full house-wife.
She seems to have the setup of everything in place to give the man what he needs to succeed, but he is falling hand.

But that's naija for you sha.
Out in yankee/jand, guys are looking for good wifey-type women, so it pains me when I read a solid nigerian woman going through ish like this.
I think Naija spoils guys for real.

I say wetin una go do?
Not "wetin be the philosophy of the situation"

FortuneTeller:
Let me turn investigator.







Please read the following to see the perversion and gayness.

I don't get. Am I supposed to feel ashamed?
Ofcourse I'm a freak. You didn't know before?
Keep "investigating" my posts and you might have to cum before the night is up.
The black female body is a beautiful thing.

And you are a novice if you think a man that loves his ass getting ate is gay.
Your husband is to blame for not having already turned you into the pervert you crave to be.
I believe we are both freaks, but you're just too chic to admit it.
When you're done with the baby thing, hit me up, and I'll make you crave pleasuring me.
I'll use and abuse you so well baby.

Brokenangel2:
do you have any idea that the post the person you quoted was referring to was not mine? Try and go through previous comments before quoting people. As for talking about myself in "several paragraphs"... I was only trying to make clear that I have the qualities most men desire in a woman. Do I damage my husband with my tongue? The answer is in one of my previous comments... my parents prepared me for marriage. I'm among the few who knows what a Godly marriage entails. Thanks for your contribution.

My bad, that was rude/silly of me

FortuneTeller:
I already did. See my previous thread.

What kind of investigative homework is that?
Am I to start stalking all your posts in all various threads? Hope you don't think I am one of these jobless Nairaland boys.

If you don't want to repeat it, post a link to the actual post you are referring to.
Don't be disrespectful.

FortuneTeller:
My dear I do not care if you believe or disbelieve what I write on this website. This is where I vent. If you don't like it, you can read elsewhere.

As for the op, most of these people have never been married and many of them are still kids. They have no idea what it's like to be in a real marriage. However I understand your pain, because I'm going through something similar. People will say at least your husband wants to have sex with you and he's able to. However what's the use of sex if it's no good? As I said, please don't kill anyone. There are other options. As for me, I'm definitely going to find someone that I can enjoy quality sex with.

What makes sex "not good" for you?
Itemize what you'd like.

debbycreamy:
ok its not cool at all

U mean as a lady that transformed to a man she will start shaving, she will start putting on big trousers, start bouncing etc....

Isn't it stressful??

I can't imagine it

I think women require a whole lot more maintenance than guys.
Heck we don't even need to shave. We just call it beard gang and keep it going.

Woman has to get her face beat everyday before going out.
She has to count days between when she piss blood put for her kpata.
She has to deal with highly-emotional-alway-stressing-over-everything mind. (scientifically proven)
She has to go and do hair with minimum 4 hours of her life each sitting.
Weaves, Wigs, etc....and we never even talk everything finish

I can see why a woman would want to become a man.
Vice versa though, is a mistery.

EDIT: case in point, see image of nairaland ad just under my post

YabaLeftist:
Lmfao!

One of your threads comes to mind: "My Sister Married An Impotent Man"

I think I know who it was that married an impotent man.

Hmm...it is possible he is suffering from ED, yet instead of working it out with him, the OP probably said something stupid with her mouth that cut him deeply to the point that his very soul just refuses to have anything to do with her.

Women can damage men like that with their mouths when they run it foolishly, and very few subjects make a man switch off than insulting his manhood. Women should just NEVER EVER do this. It is akin to verbal RAPE.

Chances are she won't even know when she did it. I sense she is the proud type herself given how she spent several paragraphs talking about herself in the opening post.

All these people who talk about marriage not being a sexual help thing are talking BS.

In fact if anything, that is the main thing!
Look, let's be real...if you are a bachelor or bachelorette, IN THIS CENTURY, you are automatically living in sin. Automatically.
Because as a guy what do you do when your balls are full of seed? Bursting at the seams building up extreme, uncomfortable, distracting pressure. That thing needs to be expelled!
And there is apparently no way to do that that is not some sort of sin....so there. Same applies to the pucci.

So marriage for the most part, is a sin-free way of expelling that load.

So you're dating a girl that looks like this,
[img]https://thefemmeapr.files./2009/12/16769_190786201941_500221941_3825221_3999623_n2.jpg[/img]

Only to one day find out that she was born a man and her deek has been removed and replaced with a fresh vagina.

What do you do? Do you continue dating and have sex?

(BTW - girl in photo was indeed born a man)

sinaj:
Their deek nko

They have no deek

Why would anyone in their right mind want to own a vagina? (after winning the gender lottery by NOT being born with one)

That thing requires WAAAY too much maintenance, and carries FAR too much repercussions in case of bad decisions.