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DonBenny77:
any babe that can visit for a week n u haven't paid her dowry aint got morals.......... that's whoring.


Either she has a family dat dosent care r she's outta control

rubbish!

as per the poverty talk you are either a mugu r a gold-digger

Im a guy like you.
Only difference is you're a caveman who sprouts self-righteous/judgemental drivel, but I actually have some sense

So you are judging ALL women who spend a week visiting their fiance as gold diggers.
You are a small boy...

Drabrah:
Sorry, I'm a critic & I find some stuffs in ur story appalling. This maths no add up @all.
1. U mean 3 of una (all single), including a single lady "gang up" 2 build 1 house! Yet it seems u guys ain't stable yet. Did u guys think of d future? D'u guys intended bringing ur wives (& ur sis, her hubby) into d same house?
2. U mean u dat joined forces 2geda to build a house, u can't afford 2 change d touch pad of ur phone ursef?
3. Guy, forget it. If u think u'll get equal attention frm ur bro as his gal, u're jonsing. Her place (even if it doesn't terminate in a permanent relationship) is diff frm urs & u cannot get equal attention no matter how hard u try. She doesn't need 2 charm him b4 she achieves dat, esp if he's thinking of a permanent relationship wt her. Have u ever heard of d meme Power of a Woman? She may not have d final say, buh she controls d final word. The earlier u recognise this d berra.
That notwithstanding, I think ur story is grossly lopsided though.

Obviously the OP is a typical nigerian female with an over-inflated self-importance.
What she meant was that it is a family house. Obviously she had no input in actually building the house, that said, she has the right to live there as it is HER family house.

The part where she is stretching her right, is her (and her silly sister's) assumption that their brother's assets belong to them as well. That they should be the chief dictators of how HE spends his money. What they are failing to see is that they are trying to act like his Wife....Now that he has a potential wife, they are trying to fight her because they don't want her to take their place in his life.

They are just being illogically selfish biches, is all.

DonBenny77:
theres nothin to discuss any girlfriend that can spend a week in your house is a loose gold digger

if your elder bro cant fix your phone screen but can spend 90k on a loose girl without morals u can go d fast way by using a fanta or goya bottle on his head it will reset his thinking faculty

or you jus chill n watch 2017 is your year he'll get broke and start asking you for favours. I speak from experience Karma comes back around


And dont mind these gold diggers here tellin you to handle your responsibilities. 90 percent of the ladies here are gold diggers they only defending thier colleague

Wow....
That's some real pathetic logic there.

So you can't host your babe if she comes to visit you for a week?

I think the universal issue here is poverty.
The poor-in-mind take offense over anything to do with things like this.

May God, and your hussle (emboldened because Nigerians seem to think it's only God's problem), deliver you and your ilk from poverty.

FreeSpirited:
You sound like the mumu guy in the story...bros u get sense so?.......You mean he should send packing his sibblings that have suffered with him after the demise of their parent?...I think they say blood is thicker. than water, and in this case the guy is not even married yet....The gal could even dumb him anytime...Guy don't play with your family like that, its bad..just too bad for a helpless sibling.

This is how things get added to stories.
Who said the OP's brother "sent anyone packing"?

From all I see, I really think there is nothing wrong with "their guest".
The sisters are just being low-minded and jealous.

I guess we can't all be great. Great women would have gotten to know the potential sister-in-law, and would have probably gone out shopping with their brother and point out something nice and thoughtful for him to get the girl and make her happy.

But instead they are proving themselves to be lowly biches...

Freak101:
Where did you see me say my sister doesn't work here?!she works man,at 17 am I supposed to be working or doing prostitution like your siblings at home?dude,I'm a student and I pay most of my ACCA exam fees myself,I said "most" the fixing of phone screen was because he said he'll fix it and he didn't and he bought someone a 90k phone can you see how you played yourself nowmove to another thread quick before I enter you,ugly orangutan like you

I wish I knew your brother. I for buy the guy malt for slapping your sister
Obviously, both you and her lack respect.

TheMan001:
@Freaky 101.. did u ever beg your brother to help you with money to repair ur touchpad? Do you have the wisdom to talk to your brother about ur plight with this girl using the right choice of words? wen u complain about ur phone and things are you with all due respect that your family is so broke that ur bro shldnt just path with 90k+ on someone he just met? Was ur sister very disrespectful wen she confronted him abt d matter? Has ur brother ever done this with another girl and do u think if u were in his shoes u might hve done at least 20k on d lady?.. Wat do u think u can do between u, ur bro and ur family to at least make d relationship work? Wen u can answer these questions brilliantly, then u wl b makin a headstart.

Selfishness and other parasitic female behaviours will not make her see any of this your logic right now

Freak101:
before you say so!!

If you treat your siblings as shit,sorry our family is different

You lack hone training so therefore don't push your anger and feelings on my thread

You're probably the only son,slowpoke!

Not the only son, and not an slowpoke.
I have a sister, who is not as stupid as both you and your sister to be sitting down, painting nails, waiting for someone else to be buying her things.
She hussles like a true queen.
A true sister will follow her brother shopping and point out something nice to get the woman he is breaking head for, you agbayas are there fighting for his time and resources like vultures.

Carry go with your selfish, prostitute mindset.

Freak101:
Now I see that you've no home training and you're very stupid. You said your woman not your girlfriend, did you skip the part where I said he beat my sister because of his girlfriend? When he has started beating her now what will happen in two years time?? Isn't it to move out??if you've nothing to say stop quoting me abeg,you're an old fool that has no sense at all,gtfoh

If I'm an old fool, then you must be young and wise. Carry on

Freak101:
Is this one in his right senses at all??why's he my brother if he cannot take care if me?and before he marry the girl,trust me,i would have found my way in life,they aren't married, I'm still his sibling, apply sense when quoting me,you talk like someone that lost all his siblings

I am truly sorry for you.
You obviously don't want to get sense. No worries, Life will teach you.

Check with us later when you get put in the girl's position some years from now.

cococandy:
Your brother doesn't owe you anything. Better rearrange your mindset to avoid future disappointments.
It's good if he helps you. Very good and commendable. But he's not your father who brought you into the world. So it's not his responsibility. better face your studies and hustle to provide for yourself as soon as you can.
It's a cold world out there.
Just giving you this cold hard reality check Before you pin your hopes of survival on someone and end up disappointed.

You're still 17. I hope you learn in time. Starting from now.

Good that a woman is telling her this, so it doesn't seem like I'm just talking out of my ears.

Freak101:
Op is a girl uncle and why shouldnt be buy me a phone before he gets his girl a phone??am I not his sibling?or was it not I and my sister our mother left for him before going??why's he my elder brother rif he cannot cater for my needs?

I don't give a damn what the fawk you are.
Your phone is not a need, it is a want.

What you are failing to see, is that you and your sister are both COMPETING with his woman. And no sensible man will allow you do that.

You BOTH are very silly and need to go find YOUR OWN JOBS or at the very least YOUR OWN MEN. This will help you be less petty, because all what I'm hearing from your post is IDLENESS and MISPLACED ENTITLEMENT. Abi Why do you think you DESERVE a new phone, when you don't even have the job to maintain it?

If I can only buy one person a phone, it will be the woman I plan to marry....not a sibling. His money is not your money.

But come, are most females selfish or do most females just lack the ability to empathize on a matter ?
How will you take it if you had a fiance and his sisters were trying to compete with you too? Will you not come here to complain about how your fiance's sisters are lonely hags who are jealous because they don't have their own job/man?

Get your mind right.

The only time when your brother would be "wrong" is if he attempts to pushes y'all out of the family house. Then and only then do you really have a valid reason to be beefing anyone. But he isn't and I doubt he will.
I am sure when the time comes, he will move out and find a place for his new family.
He seems like a sensible man in love who is only defending his woman from petty in-laws.

cococandy:
Your brother should not have punched your sister no matter what.
That's unacceptable and she should report him to maybe your uncle or elders in your family so that they will sanction him.

As the rest of the matter, you guys mind your business and let him love his girlfriend the way he likes. I can't even see what she did wrong in your post. She cooked with a seasoning you didn't like? She woke up at 7:00am? Your brother ate something he doesn't normally eat because she made it? He gave her a phone? Where's the offense in any of that?

People please. Stop complicating simple matters because of your bias. That girl has done nothing to you guys. You just don't like her because you feel your brother won't be spending as much on you as he used to.
So maybe you people are the gold diggers here. Not her.

Abi O. And the funny OP is thinking his brother should first buy him a new phone before he buys for his babe....Instead of him to be thinking of how to make his own money.

I'm a guy, but OP sounds like the kind of in-law I wouldn't want around the house if I were a woman.

Freak101:
This is the genesis of the whole issue and I would appreciate your sincere answer if you were in my shoes.

I have two siblings,including me we are 3 altogether and our mom is late, so the three of us stay together in one house we built together.

My brother has a girlfriend that spent a week with us this month and the first day, she was kinda sluggish which I hate like waking up around 7am and staying in bed till 11am, as expected, when you go to people's house, you do what they do, if they use only maggi to cook, you don't add your own seasoning, even if its not your boyfriend you're expected to do what they do and assist in every chores they do.

First night she cooked, she used something like onga to cook although it's not onga which purged me during that week but i endured. And she cooked "ewedu" that we don't eat at home, my brother never eats ewedu, but he ate it because of her, I was really shocked because even if he's hungry, he'll never eat your ewedu soup, but he ate it, I just assumed that it's love and I cleared it from my mind.

Until last week, he fought with my sister and punched her because she wasn't happy with the girl and she was giving her attitude, even me, I'm not happy with her, but I don't show it, but she showed it because she can't take it, so he punched her and she started bleeding profusely on her nose, and that was the first time I would see them fight though, they don't fight at all

That's not the end, he got her an infinix zero 4 in that same week, meanwhile my phone's touchpad is bad and he hasn't even said anything about it, he got her a 90k+ device, seriously guys, I'm angry and sad, I think this is getting out of hand already.

And he'll be asking me every time that "do I like her" but I really don't have an answer because I don't want to break his heart, I really don't have an answer for him, but I'm not happy with her vibe at all. She's a badluck.

Please what do you think?

I don't understand, why aren't you out there making your own money?
Why are you bothered with what a man is buying for his woman?
The fact that he is your brother does not mean his money is yours to spend.

Masikay:
She get time o...

See my point?
Typical naija girl.

Not a naija girl.
Naija girl na so so take take dem know.
Give and it shall be given onto you, pressed down shaken....