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Nothing lasts forever. Life is a lone journey, choose your path carefully.

Do not shrink yourself to fit into a place you've outgrown. Always aim for the heights and don't despair or relent in your quest for greatness.

Greatness comes with a price and to attain it, one needs to imbibe a high level of self control and discipline over the hedonistic nature.

Government should rise to the occasion and take over all disputed lands.

People ought to learn to give life; not destroy it. Taking care of nature is a great service to mankind and the universe as a whole. In fact, for every one tree we cut down, we should plant two.

The audacity with which the Fulanis commit atrocities all over the country is disturbing. Two weeks ago, an old farmer harvested his soya beans and gathered it into a big pile. He decided to go hire a pick up or truck that will convey it to the threshing ground. On his return to the farm several hours later, a Fulani boy was grazing his herd on the soya beans. He confronted the boy and threatened to deal with him. The boy stood his ground and dared the old man to touch him, he also let him know they have AK47 at home before disembarking with his cattle.


The Fulanis are radical barbarians. The saddest part is that they have the backing of the government of the day.

You went into betting with the mindset to get rich from it and now it has almost ruined you. Gambling is not for the poor, it is for the working class, the middle class and the rich. Britain's backbone today is gambling. Why do you think they are the only people that control pool betting. Bookmakers and betting companies invest a lot of money. How do you think they make profit. Betting companies even have their adverts on many team jerseys. The biggest mistake you can make is to bet everyday. That is why when you walk into any bet shop, you'd see that there are those to whom it has become a full-time office. I only place bets on weekend matches. Let me not forget to add that betting is one of the major employers of labour and it's legal. Above all, do not bet with sentiment but with logic.

Verdict: big teams will always lose to small teams, there will always be match fixing whether with VAR or not else football is dead.

Listen to Kenny Rogers "the gambler" and learn. Play with what you can part with. Wise bettors can stake on just one match. Bet companies and promoters feed on your greed. The greedier you are, the more your chances of losing. The best options to pick at the moment are;

(A) half time over 0.5 or under 1.5
(B) the weaker team to score


NB: with the coroner virus pandemic, there is no more money from ticket sales but I can assure you that they are making more money than ever before. That is why the big teams will continue to fumble and the wise will keep cashing out.

nnaemeka817:
While academic intelligence might fetch us good grades in school, makes us speak polished English, social and moral intelligence keeps us in line with the societal ethos, norms and the values. It also incorporates social etiquettes; knowing what to say, when to say, and how to say them. This eventually harmonises peaceful coexistences BTW people.

Having enormous of one intelligence at the expense of the other becomes a deficiency.

You simply doesn't know how to talk.

Thank you for your observation. You see, what the OP posted is her own account of the problem. As learned as you are, why have you not asked for her husband's side of the story?
If you were a judge, you would have probably passed judgement based on her one sided account.

She brought her problem to a public forum. It is not my duty to please you or her with my choice of words.

First of all, congratulations on the birth of your baby and may the forces be in her favor.

In order to understand the problem and proffer a tenable solution, let me break down your post as follows;

(i ) You've been married for six years and you live abroad,

(ii) You struggled all those years for the fruit of the womb up till 2019 when your baby girl was born,

(iii) the both of you discussed the prospect of bringing either of your moms to come and assist with the child care. When he asked to know which of the moms you preferred, you opted for yours and also backed it up.

(iv) now your marriage is threatened, he acts coldly towards you and all you now do is nag and complain,

(v) and finally, you mentioned that he visits witch doctors and takes their counsel.


I'd like to pose a few questions where in lies my advice.

1. Where did you meet him; here in Africa or abroad? This is because many ladies here in Africa quickly rush to marry someone they hardly know for the prospect of living abroad. Most of the time it's a thing of ego.

2. Did you court before marriage and for how long? I ask this question because courtship would have given the privilege to know things about him and make a stand. Or, you knew how he behaves and visits native doctors but got carried away by something else.

3. How close is he to his mother? Most men are attached to their mothers. When he asked you which of the moms you preferred, you should have weighed this in your heart before replying him. Choosing your mom over his will give him the impression that you are selfish and want only your family members to benefit.

4. Could you please stop the nagging and complaining? No man wants a nagging woman for a wife. Though his attitude towards you is highly annoying, do not play to the gallery. Since he is not complaining about paying for day care, let him continue to pay in peace. On your own part, be positive, have confidence in yourself, worry less, face your work and in your leisure find something to keep you positively engaged. Most men like to be in control, when he sees you no longer worry and regaining control over yourself, he'll try to re-establish control. Your charms will draw him close to you again.

Let me conclude in order not to bore you, if he has people that he listens to; talk to them. Also, a lot of people need assurances, prayers and fortifications to keep them going. Some find theirs in the church, others in the mosque and your husband the shrine. Do not joke with a man's religion. If you don't like it and can't compel him to change then divorce should be your last resort. After all, you stay abroad and the law favors women in issues like this. Except your abroad is an African country. Goodluck and may the cosmic guide you.

There is no limit to the evil machinations of a man's heart.

If you are reading this, close your eyes, still your mind and visualize this country's future.

You'd see that;

1. Insurgency will never end as a result of radical Islamism and illiteracy in the north.

2. Religious crisis will continue to happen from time to time owing to the desire for dominance among the the two major religions.

3. Bigotry and hatred among the major tribes.

4. Criminality will surge due to parental failure and the "get -rich -quick" syndrome.

4. Unemployment rate will surge as tertiary institutions continue to churn out thousands of graduates every year and so on.

The question is, how have you positioned yourself and what future do you intend to give your children in a chaotic Nigeria.

Solution: we need to evaluate our mindset and vote leaders who have the ability to visualize the future. Else we're doomed.

friyina1:
It's the white dove sir.

The white dove and the white pigeon serve the same purpose.

The white pigeon is of high spiritual significance. Let's not make light of the situation.

The God that you seek resides inside of you. All you need to do is look within.

Success entails succeeding in your field of endeavour. Congratulations to her!

Kukah has defied the odds. To speak truth to power is no mean feat.

In years to come, the north will face a lot of problems. No one perpetuates himself in power via blood shed and threats.

jawalis:
Good one. Been a Governor’s son is dope.

Being a governor's son is dope.