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RESPECT is the word.


But hold it if she takes it for granted,

4 Him:
what is even more puzzling is the unspoken idea that all the woman needs is just find a fellow who is ready to marry her NOW.
Is anyone asking what Keenee herself has to offer any potential suitor?

was goin to ask but I fot lines of advise wld be more appreciated. You'r spot on.

Dumpin a dude cz u fink u'v hit the jackpot.

Be warned, grass not alwz greener.

@ Cadet, did this question come to ur mind? I bet it didnt,

woman palava.


@poster, You'v cm a long way, Grass is not alwz greener @ ova end. Do not despise the days of little beginning. It cms dwn to luck, keep prayin cz you neva knw and remember, wht goes round cms around. If u dump the dude cz u think you'v hit a jackpot, , I hope the green grass at the ova end doesnt go brown.

al the best sha,

Grass not alwz greener. Be warned

[quote author=frank 3.16 link=topic=129846.msg2211556#msg2211556 date=1209643403]love is bullshit

females are the bomb[/quote]pussled

there's no hiding frm the truth,

tngtech:
Sometimes, it could be distance. Distance relationship is very very, i mean very bad.

Appears you dont believe in long distance relationship

not again!

Just take a break and see what happens

Hope this works, Right, this is how it works.

Say smfin you'v neva ever done (cld be for fun) and if the next poster has done it, he/she gvs a brief summary of the experience, if not, the next poster says what he/she's never done.

I hope we find it fun, if not, apologies for starting a boring thread.

Ok, I start,

Never ever jump down from a moving molue in lagos.

I tire O

NaJa HaJe:
errr. , . . . . . because they are made of glass?

lol.

Comes down to impatience most times especially when the girl's preserving her v like a trophy and the dude is in no mood to wait. It may also result from one of the duo not pulling his/her weight enough.

Dnt knw the reason for your own breakup but ask yourself why, first person break up, second person break up, third person break up, then fourth person come breakup. Haba, you carry shit for head? I think you gat search yourself. Not to be rude o. Tryin to be funny. Perhaps not good enof but emmm, the truth is that after the first and second, you got to settle down and think, think, think, then pray as well, smfin's definitely not rte

Cayon:
Seeing your topic, I am reminded of this song, check out the lyrics and then listen to it Can't Be With You Tonight


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jfrF-BWgXj4

If my love wasn’t here with me tonight
I would leave with you for just a little while
But I love him the same way as I love you now
And I’m sorry I can’t be with you tonight

Though I want to hold you in my arms tonight
I wouldn’t take the chance ‘cause it won’t be right
Maybe when we meet again some other time
‘Cause tonight I’ll only share my love with him

So please understand my situation
I love you, but I cannot be with you
If I could be in two places at the same time
Believe me, I would share my love with you

So please understand my situation
I love you, but I cannot be with you
If I could be in two places at the same time
Believe me, I would share my love with you

Believe me, I would share my love with you
Believe me, I would share my love with you
Believe me, I would share my love with you

Blud, tht was touching. It basically says it all. Dnt just read the lyrics, click on the link as well,
It has to be my most favorite song for now.

Smtyms it gets really complicated cz you find out that though you love the one who you'r not wv so much to want to be wv her, you can't bear to leave the one who you'r with-cz you don't want to break a heart (cz he/she doesnt deserve to be heartbroken, especially when you'v made him/her fall in love). It hurts especially when the one who you are not with appears to love you the more, show more committment and submission, buy you more gifts, show you more respect, pays you more attention. The key word is "more" and all you can hope for most tyms is that the one you are wv, grows to be just like her. The hurt can only be pacified if that happens but if it doesnt, it gets really bad especially when u can't bear to break his/her heart even when you are not happy wv d way you'r bein treated.

Its a commo experience that cld stem from experiencing ones parents' settlin for less, I mean experiencing your mum/dad being taken for granted by the ova party yet accptin the situation as it is. Gs I'd hv to come to this thread again

Nice topic for discusion

Praise thy Lord

O sing O sing O,

Praise thy Lord,

O sing O Sing O,

Praise thy Lord

@ poster

Its a pity you not being real, pretty!

Find out for ursef.

Both are respected and renowned men of God so wot you on about?

@post

DEAD. NO query at al. Mi bible tell me its Isaac so wot u on about?

A man who did not want to be identified for security reasons said: “I was offered R10 000 to rehearse and pretend to be in a wheelchair three weeks before the all-night prayer called Night of Bliss at the Johannesburg Stadium.”

Absolute bullshit. Absolute bullshit. Absolute bullshit.

Blessed2k:
if what that southafrican said about the man of God is true then let him reveal himself and prove it or forever remain silent because he has no proof whatsoever. pastor chris is a man who has a passion for sick people and for lost souls. stop douting the power of God it will not take u anywhere u will only limit yourself

Well said fam. The allegation beggars belief. The church would only grow while the doubters limit themselves.

Bullshit!

Love is patient, love is kind. It is not jealous, it is not pompous, it is not inflated, it is not rude, it does not seek own interests, it is not quick-tempered, it does not brood over injury, it does not rejoice over wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things

Ummmmmmmmmmmmm, love dont come across like this too often does it?

Love portion indeed

Whats the big deal about cooking for your boyfriend. You aint even married to him yet. Chill man. Its one step at a time, cooking for your boyfriend and your boyfriend eating the meal is a natural progression. Regardlx of the duration of your relationship, its no big deal. When the time's right, he would eat your food. Dont mk him suspect or insinuate sth,

@ Deeo2

Grow up. I'm not sure I'd cm back here agn so dont bova replyin but hving read your post in response to Siena, its easy to see you need help. None of my bznx but at least, act more like a civilised being. No disrespect.

Siena:
Just another black guy, that feels it's "cool" to use Americanized insults.

I doubt your attitude was the same in Nigeria, or was it?

Happy swearing. I've said all I wanted to.

Well said

Speak on behalf of the boy. For most of the guys in the house, how many of you will get married without being able to look after your wifey. Lets be more practical here. If at 27 there's no head way for the dude, its only being honest. If the girl is not ready to tk the risk and wait, then she leaves the dude and start a relationship wv someone else which is even a bigger risk as its been found that the grass is not always greener. There's a risk both ways and in my opinion as far as the girl plays her card right, it will alwz work out unless the dude is an absolute nightmare. Thts where prayer hs to come in cz indeed, if he's not the one for you, he's not the one for you. The guy has honestly told u his piece. You either accept it and be patient wv him or check out of the relationship if your instinct tells you he would jilt you in years to cm.

Guys lets not deceive ourselves. If at 27 you'r still strugglin to mk a headway in life, you'd probably say the same tin. At the end of the day, the choice is the poster's to make. I hope you don't regret anyfin

ima1:
@ OMO IBO

6 months too long to know if u want to be with someone for life? r u serious?

for some reason u women think marriage is where everything ends. una go tell me if na marriage go put food for table and put cloth for una body.

Don't get me wrong, marriage is not where everything ends, but i still stand by what i said. when a guy sees a woman he immediately decides if he just wants a one night stand or more than that (which sometimes depends on where you meet the woman, her personality, how she is dressed, what kind of family she comes from and sometimes after speaking to her for less than a hour). you can spend 10 year getting to know a man but you still would not know 1/2 of his character, for some reason their bad character comes out when you get married to them. (not for all guys but 80%). so yes 6 months is too long to decide if i am the one for you, because after one month, if you guys are truthful with each other you should be able to learn alot about that person, and you can never know a man or a woman's character unless you live with them, so marriage is like a game, you win or lose or you work really hard not to lose.

Well said

welli:
love means giving it all up for my sake.(what it means to me)

I think it shd be both ways, Giving it up for yoursake cld be seen as inconsiderate and selfish but then, we all see love differently.

AEjiro:
love to me ,means compromise/sacrifice

perfect

God save our soul,
@Poster, one man's meat is another man's pancake. You'd alwz hv conflictin opinions. Regardlx, I fink apart frm the fact it cld be addictv and bcms a moral offence as noted by steroid101, I fink it limits your chance of givin birth to a male child. I fink, I mean I fink, so its no fact, thts wht I fink of it, the no of tymz u mastuwotever cld be equivalent to the no of months you may hv to wait to gv birth to a male child when u'r ready for kids. thts just how I see it but then, the issue of pos, cancer, so what about the pope and reverend fathers who dont get married? How many hv died of P-cancer? does this suggest they self polinate as well? Science and religion at it agn, anyhw, I dont fink it's healthy. Wld return to this thread wv more info

fnx

infact, do something new with your life. You can see everyone finks you'r blind.

I beg, talk beta fin

This post is absolutely disgraceful.

You didnt't hv to bring this to nairaland to take a decision. If you dont know wht to do on the basics of what you'v seen then, I think you need deliverance. I mean deliverance.

Absolute gibberish. Sorry!

for no just reason How's tht possible?

She's just bein insecure and immature (sorry). Gs you hv to act mature and reassure her of your love or u sure to loose her even though she might end up regrettin her actions.

not again!

Compete for a girl's love?

If the girl doesnt love me, what it there to compete for in the first place? if she loves me, there's no competition. But if she claims to love me, though have a bfd but afriad to breaks his heart then, I wld let destiny prevail.

ernal:
The following are some “gap examples”



Appreciation/Affection Gap

A husband no longer gives his wife attention nor makes her feel special.
She has gained some weight over the years.
She is the maid, the cook, the sex object, mother, and feels taken for granted
Her husband rarely pays her a compliment or makes an effort infuse romance into their relationship by showing her his appreciation with a night out on the town, flowers, cards, or even giving her a hug or kiss out of the blue.

One day she is at work, church, or at the grocery store and a man sincerely compliments her. Overtime a friendship develops and this man begins to fill in the gaps by being attentive to her needs, listening to her, and eventually “one thing leads to another”.

Sexual Gap

A woman is an excellent mother, a wonderful companion, and is loved by everyone who knows her.
However she has a low sex drive, rarely initiates sex, and does not perform MouthAction nor is she open to experimenting with fantasies be it unique locations to make love or wearing sexy underwear.
Her husband meanwhile secretly wishes for a passionate relationship with his wife but past conversations have produced little to no results.
He knows he has good wife and doesn’t want to trade her in for anything however he is dreadfully bored.
One day he is patrolling some internet sites where women are openly stating they are looking for casual sexual encounters, or he is going to happy hours after work, attending a company Christmas party, traveling out of town with a female business associate…etc
Eventually he meets a woman who is nothing like his wife.
In short she is a sexual freak who does it all and wants it all with no strings attached.
The husband now feels he has the best of both worlds.

I personally knew of one man who secretly paid prostitutes for MouthAction on a weekly basis because his wife would not perform it on him.

There are other times when “sexual gaps” have nothing to do with frequency of sex or even the willingness of a partner to participate in various activities.

A woman marries a man who is financially secure; he is intelligent, responsible, handsome, and very generous and sincerely dedicated to making her happy.
However she is rarely able to reach orgasm with him regardless of his efforts.
It may be his privates size, lack of raw passion in his approach, or simply there is no chemistry or sparks.
She often fantasizes about a hot & torrid relationship she had with a man from her past that rocked her world but he lacked every other component to make a lasting loving relationship.

One day she bumps into him at a grocery store or while visiting a mutual friend.
Their eyes connect and it’s apparent for both of them that the sparks are still there.
He walks her to her car and “one thing leads to another”

Another version of this same story is she meets a stranger who turns her on or he is a co-worker that has appeared in her fantasies and an opportunity presents itself.

Lastly there is the “Something New” sexual gap.

Femi and Rolake have been married for five years.
Rolake does everything Femi wants in bed and rarely turns him down.
Outside of the bedroom she has a solid career and is loved and respected by everyone.
Just as in the earlier example she is an excellent homemaker, fantastic cook, in addition she very intelligent, adventurous, and works out to keep her body toned.
And yet Femi has secretly been cheating on Rolake for all five years!
He knows he has a great thing but his urge for “new adventures” motivates his cheating.
In his mind there is no substitute for “something new” or more importantly
“Someone new”.
Femi is not interested in having “an affair” he wants to have his anchor at home while he seduces and sleeps with as many women of various races, ages, sizes, shapes, as often as possible. Femi is essentially a married playboy.
Men like Femi are usually considered handsome, have a magnetic personality, great sense of humor, and flirt constantly.
Both men and women consider him fun to be around.
In fact in most instances Femi doesn’t bother with hiding the fact that he is married.
Women gravitate to him despite knowing he isn’t suitable mate.
As the song goes.

ernal:
What is cheating?

The best answer I have ever heard to define cheating came from an Older Lady sometimes ago
She said, “If you are saying or doing something with someone that you would not say or do if your spouse or partner were sitting next to you then you are cheating.” People, who have nothing to hide, hide nothing.

In essence cheating is having a secret relationship or participating in secret activities with someone that your partner would not approve of.The key word is “secret”.The cheater doesn’t want his/her mate to know what they are doing.

Filling In The Gaps

One of the most common questions asked of cheaters is why didn’t they just leave their mate before pursuing another relationship?

As you will see the reasons vary from person to person.
One common theme seems to be that cheaters often appreciate many aspects of their present relationship and they are simply looking to “fill in the missing gap”

You'v said it all. I gs there's no more to say. Hv never cheated on my girlfriend sexually but I gs she may hv a problem wv my relationships wv my female friends even dou there's nofin no hide