Kobojunkie:
Read closely what OP wrote, and what you wrote. The problems you describe stem from your upbringing... ideas that you were raised to adhere to... ideas that don't seem effective in managing your relations out in the real world. OP can't confront his brother who wronged him, and his family members think the only way they can be on good terms with the rich one is to walk around on shells around him. The father and mother equally also do the same to avoid falling out of favor with their rich son suggesting that their relationship was never a solid one to begin with.

Thanks a lot. But mine and OP ain't same. I was well brought up with a good family. OP's own is his immediate family, mine is with my wife's family.

I am not timid, I don't take nonsense. I av already deleted all their contact immediately I noticed their true intentions.

Sirjamo:
So, You can survive today on your income of 20 years ago?

Obasanjo minimum wage 5500 Buhari 18000


Obj population 120m Buhari 200m



Beside, Why didn't you compare life under obj with your beloved Jonathan? Jonathan had the highest revenue in Nigeria's history, plus the $60b reserves Yar adua left for him, he destroyed everything and his finance minister sounded the first alarm. Maybe she was the first Zombie.

That ain't d issue, inflation is not d issue because it is inevitable, it's estimated to be 3.1% annually. The issue is d rate at which it's climbing. Same with developed countries, wat u can get with 1 dollar 10yrs ago, can u get it at same amount today

We judge money base on its present value. For instance 18k minimum wage can get u a bag o rice, bag of garri, 1 month transportation to n fro.

But can same 30k minimum wage do dat for u as it were during buhari tenure.

Sorry I'm replying after 4 yrs, I really love dis topic.

One love bro

Kobojunkie:
Please train your children do better than you and those before you. Teach them social and emotional intelligence so they can grow to become better adults and realize that age is nothing but a number and respect should apply to all and not based on age.

Tradition/culture only makes sense when it benefits those who abide by it. Like any standard or system, the moment it ceases to be of value, it should be thrown out completely; blindly adhering to practices and laws that instead clearly damage families and communal relationships makes no sense!

Don't get u bro, don't know if u can make it clearer.

Thanks

Which kind wahala u put ursef now @OP. If u are in Lagos, hot me up. Or mention me here, I have a mechanic dat will fix it for u here, it will reduce the fuel consumption, but won't be 100% Sha.

I'm at Oyingbo, spare parts market.


Since u just bought d car, there should b a return policy na, so u change it to d one u want, den u n d dealer can do it plus and minus.

Kobojunkie:
These are all signs of a severely dysfunctional family relationship for Pete's sake!

That's to tell u how petty those we consider to be elders can be. You can see dat age no longer come with wisdom. Imagine a father apologizing to a son cos he has money, even wen we all know d boy was wrong. Cos he gives him millions. Me I won't sell my right or prestige, it's d last thing I will ever do. I believe if I keep working hard and smart, God will answer my call too.

All these shit I keep to myself, cos I don't want my family to know. I know my family, dey don't play with respect n traditions, it will lead to total breakdown of d relationship, even my marriage. Cos dey will force d father to provide his son, so he can apologize to me.

And I don't also wanna put my wife in a position of chosing between her marriage and her family.

The most painful part is dat, my wife brought dem up wen d father couldn't even afford admission fees and rent. I knew how much of my money she was diverting to dem to make sure things are good. She sacrificed her all, carried 3 siblings to d city, fed and accommodated dem, sacrificing her own life for dem, paid for d training dat made d eldest son who he is today. Den d father was respecting us, now dat d son is made, he now his son.

Now dey want us or only my wife to beg b4 she is given peanuts. And dey even used d word ENTITLE MENTALITY. How I wish we used doz resources and money to improve our own lives.

I'm already in tears right now. My advise to anyone reading dis, help ursef b4 any1, even b4 ur family and wife. Cos u will b called someone with ENTITLEMENT MENTALITY wen u need their help. People change, but never believed it would b family.

Hmmmmm, so a lot of families are facing this issue as well. Bro, u are not alone, it's like a general problem here in naija. Be glad dat it's ur immediate family, not from ur inlaw's family. And be happy u were not even asked to apologize to ur brother in-law u r 10yrs older dan, when everyone knows u dat u were d one offended.

My advise is for u to maintain ur distance, and cut of all those dat support him because of his cash. Anyone dat love's u because of money can betray u for same money.

If there is a family celebration that u are expected by tradition to attend, pls do. But don't let d fine face and gossip others will tell u too abt other family members get to u. Don't ever take anything they say to heart or hate another cos of wat u were told. They will do dis , if they are not already doing it now, just to get favor from u too.

Hold tight to ur principles, so everyone knows who u are and wat u stand for. And never attend any celebration/get 2geda unless invited.

Nor involve ursef if dem nor involve u too

190:



eww she's thiccer than a bowl of oatmeal!

see belle

Una nor get joy at all for dis place ooo

Can't u just lie 😂

lazkizz:
pls elaborate more on this 🙏

It will help me alot

Ur sex life, nor Bleep for now.. Be clean spiritually

EndBuhariNow:
They no teach u for school say nah pillars dey carry deck .. blocks are there to cover spaces... Most of the high-rise here abroad the walls are fibers not even this Ur 9inch or what... As far the foundation are solid and the deck are well structured if U like use paper bags or ddite cement bags the building go stand

Thank u my brother. I'm a civil engineer as well, I see it as a marketing stunt. Even Onyenka said we can build bungalow without columns. They don't even know d basics, they think all walls are load bearing, they don't know we av framed structures as well and a lot of factors contribute to structural failure, and block size is negligible. So far u no ur total load, then u can adjust ur fdn to accommodate it and give tolerance, same with ur columns and beams, and slab. If these mentioned elements are ok, I don't know wat I need 9" block for. So far it's not even a public structure like school or church dat I will consider varying life load ratio to dead load.

Why are duplex built with timber still standing?? Structures for this pattern. Roof load to beams, slab, column, fdn

flexyrule:
This issue is becoming too frequent.

What exactly is happening?

Noticed same as well, I'm suspecting it's d current inflation and hardship, though it's not an excuse. Everyone seems desperate at the moment, people are ready to make money at any cost right now..

We just have to be careful out there. These are some of the effects of bad governance

ENGINEER, EDUCATOR, ENTRETRENEUR COMPTIA, COMPUTER SERVICES, AGRO


Good day Nairalanders, this is my second (2nd) post since I joined nairaland forum I have been regular here as a visitor though I had my account. I was coming here to get first hand raw information as it is happening in our neighbor. This forum gives information about what is happening around our locality.Right here I have seen the “good, bad and the ugly”. Hardship in Nigeria has driven a lot of people into crime life, thinking it’s the easiest route from poverty. I have seen a lot of people demeaning themselves, selling their birth right, compromising their beliefs/morals, betraying both close friends and family all because of money, according to them “SURVIVAL”.Though some are justifying their actions, it’s paramount we tell ourselves the bitter truth. The state of our economy right now is really bad, and it has changed a lot of law-abiding citizens to monsters. So many people are indulged in different crimes just to make ends meet. A lot of us are dying inside silently, but the only thing that keeps us going is the fact that “BETTER DAYS ARE COMING”. Something I really want those perpetuating such act to know is that they are not the only ones experiencing this hardship, there are others doing worse than their situation, but didn’t go into crime. Nobody has the monopoly to violence. What even pains me most is the fact that such people tend to steal from others who are also facing the hardship as them. Why not go to the politicians that made our lives and country miserable. For example, will such people be happy if another person like them that is facing the current hardship robbed them of their valuables and even take their life in the process? THE ACTUAL PURPOSE OF THIS POST.What I am getting at is that I want us to know that there are ways to get out of this current tinubulation legitimately without taking lives or inflicting pain and losses on same people suffering same fate as you. Don’t let anyone discourage you that you didn’t go to school (higher institution), you have no handwork, not fluent in English language, you are poor and or broke, nor a computer literate and thus you can’t make it legitimately.There is good news for you today and I will share you the simple secret, just be honest, disciplined, dependable and sincere, then you will make money. You may be thinking if I know such, why not do it myself. Something you don’t understand yet is that I can’t be everywhere, every time. So, is it not better I still make part profit even when I am not there and you represent me? It is faster for we humans to be more successful working together than to work independently. That is where honesty, discipline, trustworthiness comes into play. I have vast knowledge in various fields as this economy has turned me into a jack of all trade, from being an engineer to computer engineering, hard and software repair, procurement, logistics, dredging, building, piling, highway, content writing, human hair, hair care products, make up and make up products, wig installation, frontal, nails, manicure and pedicure, running a computer business center (Assignments, projects, thesis, term paper etc.) for students. Finally, if you live around Unilag and its environs, Lasu and its environs, Ikorodu Poly and its environs and Yaba tech, kindly hit me up on how we both can make money. And if you also have any capital, no matter how small, you can also hit me up. But if you are a shy person and not vocal, pls don’t chat me up, I am a busy man. I only need those who can help me while I pay them in return. I am in Lagos Ebute Metta, if you are having doubts, you can meet me at Oyingbo market for confirmation or via video call. We will survive this tinubulation, by being sincere and honest to ne another and by working together. But once I find out that you are dishonest, we are done. I hate dishonest people.I will also share with those interested on how to make money from your neighborhood. The money its in abundance out there “even if I update u everything, u go still make money and I go still dey make my own”, so why this greedy lifestyle of typical Nigerians.Lets win together, thanks.

Makunnahatata:
which one be kallon....1k per kallon gallon na steal o...send me address make i con buy 100kallon fr 100k🥹

It means the manager dey collect 1k for every gallon u buy fuel inside @1,200 per litre. So if u buy 20litres for gallon, u will first pay d normal amount den still pay 1k extra for him to sell into dat gallon for u.. if u carry ten gallons, u go pay 10k extra ontop d normal money as Jara.

Tinubu is doing magic, dey play. THEM GO FEEL IT, we dey feel am oo

Available, it's just ur money dat will do d talking.. You know how much for a litre of fuel right now...

If he is ready to pay, hit me up.

donstan18:
I don’t think seven days is enough for a concrete to curate and obtain a certain degree of strength, that is, if it was commissioned immediately after casting.

From my observations looking at the structural status, I think the Contractor should be held responsible for this disaster.

I just don’t want to believe it’s Y12 rods I’m seeing there. Even the broken concretes are looking uncured. They should hold the Engineer responsible and not the Governor.

Bro dats it oo,, I'm even shock to my bone marrow...

It's clear dat dey didn't even do soil investigation to know d bearing capacity n determine d type of foundation to use..

D client's consultant should b held responsible as well, cos he was supoz to check d quality of job done if it fits d design....

Or I'm thinking dey used quacks or paddy paddy contractors dat pay homage directly to d state govt..

WhiteJeans:
A friend of mine based outside Nigeria is looking for a single, gentle, humble, honest, loyal, responsible, compassionate Christian man 32 to 38 for a serious relationship. He should have no anger issues, no previous marriage, no children.

Will only take a decision wen I c her too, we ain't all savages here looking to run away..

NwaNimo1:
South East.....May 2021

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The army should be deployed to protect police stations.....

and 'Ebube Agu' deployed to protect the soldiers!

Black Hawk Down

That's y we need a bestman, or some1 like ur PA on such occasions, wen it wanted to happen during my cousin's marriage, baba just tell me as d best man to go warn d bastard not to overdo, or else no balance for am...

The most annoying part is dat u will tell some, n dey will still do oversabi or maybe get caught in d moment or high on drugs

No dulling oo. Senior man dey hustle weda he fit still cash out oo..

nairavsdollars:
Ogun kee all northern muslims

Even dia views are extreme,, e never reach like dis Na... Hanty b calming down.. U don dey boil already..

Enudapan:
Nah eh! No qualms
No cause for alarm
He was Caught in active service
It's still part of the hustle

He is still an upcoming Hustler shaa
Buh nah small small
And we rise by lifting others

nna ehn,, dis is so unsophisticated...

Got u dis time.. Na me talk am

Same predicament,, mine is V. I. Don't no if anyone can help with same room spec at obalende.

Draslo:
Look at it this way ; She's a Yahoo girl and you're the client. She's nursing the hell out of you.

Dats just it n he is almost falling for it.. Dats exactly Wat G-boys do

Mystiquefia:


You so unintelligent, cooking up BS like you lack basic education.
The woman in this same scenario isn't catering for the financial needs of the man's child, is she?
Since you want to be a surrogate to different men, be ready to handover the the financial needs of your bastard children to their original father or quit the marriage to be with him, is that too much to ask?
How can you even underrate financial provisions to the extent that you're trying to equate it with ordinary domestic chores?
You're evil

Don't mind dat one,, without finance dere is no domestic work or task. Money provides d rice u wake up to cook, d gas, d clothes u wear, d water, light, ironing, mattress, even d house u live in n so on

Simplyleo:
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Get the heck outta my mention with this bullshit.

So Buhari rules only as a democratic president?

What is this one doing in my mention for God's sake?

Yes, I didn't attend primary school and I'm from the remotest hamlet from the North, and so what?

A human being with working brain will effortlessly know which of OBJ administration is being referred to.

But I know there is no difference between a bag of stone and drum of akpu in terms of intelligence.

Y are u angry now...


I no its a tedious job for those of u defending buhari.. U must sell ur sanity b4 doing it...

Hope u ain't doing all dez for 30k??

Joke apart,, my brother, deep within u, u no buhari is d worst amongst d 3.. Don't lie to ursef or lie with oil prices....

Simplyleo:

Shouting "zombie" in all comments doesn't make you intelligent. It only shows the lack of substance.

Are OBJ and Jonathan administration military or pre military?

Now, you that is not a zombie, can't you see the shallowness in the rubbish you typed?

Besides, since it is about comparison of strength of the naira, isn't it appropriate to flashback to all administration to see which is better?

Mr non zombie, next time, get the proper organs in position before displaying ignorance on a public forum.

Who is ur first democratic president??

U sure say u attend secondary school so??
So u don't no OBJ ruled as both military n democratic president..

Chai,, u must b from d north

Sirjamo:
Buhari average oil price is 40 while that of Jonathan was 100

Dats y dat of Obasanjo was added.. Read to understand.. His own was way lower dan dat of buhari

Simplyleo:
Heap of dogshit.

If that is the case, can you also provide same comparison between Jonathan and Obj or between Abacha and OBJ?

Eg, what is exchange rate and cost of a bag of rice during Abacha regime?

Pretty sure same statistics will be hugely in favour of Abacha and as such we assume Abacha is better than all the president that succeeded him.

Can't u decipher with ur brain dat d post is about post military regime (democracy).??

Na wa for zombie oo

Shehu9ja:


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Phone: 08064976238

OK,, lemme seek permission first

If I were to b d one, I will buy d 4 bikes n keke, den increase d money for monthly upkeep, lemme just no I'm d only one to cater for d family. But I will also get her d machines oo,, but I won't spend more dan 450k.. With dat she can be busy with something as well...

chariisGRACE:


Which Boko Haram again na?



Somebody should advice Conella Services Ltd. to express their readiness towards something meaningful.

They expect the Buhari led federal government to invite them to come and fight against the north?

It added that it would only offer its own capabilities, while the Nigerian armed forces would “lead from the front.”

I no u wouldn't c dis part. So u think dey r fools??

Now dey just wanna cash out Dia share, train dem n let dem set themselves or sell themselves out to death,, it's non of dia business, Dia personnel won't die, dey only train ur military...

Brain work...

Cemitojay5:


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WhatsApp: 09068821266. Thank you!

U like d write-up or d pix

Sharp paddy..

One love

BIGKemsey:
Wahala for who don already play barca to win in their running tickets

And I just play am straight win now,, why I nor read news first na