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nigerians are so funny with our nonchalant and valueless way of live, and we think others are like that,nooo these people value pets just like humans,cos they are also very important in their own ways,and they love these animals a lot....

times have gone baad, very baad, this generation of women came from the devil himself,cos they are the 65% cause of these marital woes we see today, these women are too wordly that they drive men to do all soughts of things to satisfy their insatiable needs, Greed and wickedness is their motto, they bring untimely death to their men..from a young age these carnal ladies boast of dating their fathers and married men,just for the cash and fun,remorse and morals is dead in their very wicked hearts..playing with men's feelings and later dumping them is just normal for them, multiple dating and sex partners is no big deal again.my fellow men we are so unfortunate to exist with these calamity women, we are suffering in their hands and we continue to suffer, we wont enjoy them cos they have nothing good in the them to offer,sorry men..

adexsimply:
LOL..Keep deceiving yourself. Most of those marriages lack love. The wives are mostly in bondage, they just avoid divorces because of societal ridicules and shame...

monkey..

pocohantas:
Humans are changing, evolving...call it anything.

You can't compare their ideologies to life then and now. Women way back were more tolerant and 'timid'. They were trained to take everything that comes their way. Divorce was never an option.

I wouldn't be far from the truth if I say the women were in a kind of bondage then.

With the advent of feminist and misogynist, there has been a clash of ideologies. The problem is the present day men and women. I think I love it this way, marriage isn't a do or die affair.

You either in it or out of it.

well i have heard ur words,u made a good point and later deviated, let me then correct you, women those days where no timid,they were trained to understand their role as a woman in the life of a man, morals where highly valued and they were so intelligent that they understood life so well more that u terrible breed of nowadays girls that only sees life from fantasy view,dreams of riches,riches,a caring man, with endless wealth, without flaws,life without hardship, only easy easy way..

vfactor:
Cos modern day people too get sense! And too much sense....hmmmm....well the end justifies whether too much sense is a good thing or not!

yeess bro, i feel ur comment..

Taylor86:
y e no go crash

wen ur husband go dey untop of u dey do everything humanly possible to satisfy u


u dey ping dey reply message

i dy tell u brother, so many reasons are responsible for this marriage death..

brownlord:
Kai so many reasons.

Parents was the one making choices for their kids.

It was an era when the most important thing was family background, unlike today, it is pocket background,

Even when family background is considered, it's about how wealthy the family is, honesty, good morals etc no longer count, just have money, the would-be inlaw's don't care about the illicit activities in the family.

I noticed then, A woman never get to know her partner until the day of marriage, which in most times she will refuse, they had little or no choice, even though there was no courtship like we having today, they still get to love themselves... the love was not there from the beginning.

Their priority was raising a good family.

They were not looking for 6 packs in men and men not all about light skin, yellow-label skin etc, it was about decency, honesty, modesty, integrity...etc

It was a time, the man was the head of the family.

It was a time, women were shy of losing their virginity before getting married....Unlike today girls boast of how many yahoo boys they have slept with.

What went wrong?

i dont know my brother, something badly went wrong and things are going from baad to worse...

umarc19:
See also 12 things that can surely cause Marriage Failure (Both Modern and Olden Day)

1. You work more on your wedding than on your marriage.

You spend hundreds of hours planning and preparing for your wedding—the venue, the dress, the guest list, the bridesmaids, the groomsmen, the ceremony, the vows—but choose not to spend time planning and preparing on growing your marriage.

2. You believe that marriage is a contract.

Even though you don't say it, you really believe that marriage is a transaction between two people, a contract and not a covenant. You have the mindset that most things in your relationship are negotiated—"If you do this, then and only then I will do that." You think that marriage is a 50/50 partnership rather than a 100/100 give-it-all-you've-got relationship.

3. You think that your spouse's job is to make you happy.

4. You are not trustworthy.

You cannot be trusted by your spouse when you don't speak the truth at all times, you keep secrets or you don't do what you say you'll do.

5. You always put your kids first.

You pour all of your time, energy, attention and affection into your children. You give them your freshest and best and always serve your spouse leftovers.

6. You give in to temptation.

You talk about your personal pressures and problems with another person besides your spouse. You feel like the other person empathizes and understands you better. Instead of running from this temptation, you run toward it and end up in an intimate emotional or physical relationship.

7. You always expect your spouse to change.

You see your spouse's faults and failures every day. It's really irritating and frustrating you. They're messy, they're lazy, they nag you, they don't help with the kids, they're always at work. You think you've done all the changing, and they haven't done a thing.

8. You treat your spouse like the enemy.

You think they are on the opposing team so you keep a marital scorecard. You keep track of who spends more, disciplines more, does the dishes more, cleans more, mows more and works more. And you become bitter and resent your spouse for not helping enough or for having more fun.

9. Your words constantly tear your spouse down.

You're sarcastic, not supportive, disrespectful, comparing words are toxins of the tongue that poison your marriage.

10. You don't respect your spouse.

You don't respect your spouse's judgment. You constantly question their decisions and abilities.

11. You fail to ask for forgiveness and forgive.

Your spouse says you hurt them. You don't see that you did anything wrong, so you're not going to apologize. They get bitter. You get bitter.

12. You listen to foolish marriage advice.

You listen to well-intended but foolish advice about your relationship from a "friend" who wants you to join their man-hater or woman-hater club rather than listening to wise advice from a trusted source.

excellent work brother, u did ur research well..

eleojo23:
Because people are looking for easy comfort. If there is a little problem, they just quit, no effort to resolve the issue.

Marriage is work. Many marital problems can be avoided when couples take time to understand each other and try to resolve issues that may come between them. But people would rather prefer to live in the dream world and ride high on feelings. That is the modern day philosophy - it has to feel good all the time.
Anyone who has a good understanding of how life works knows that it won't always be easy and that hard times are the test of your seriousness with the relationship/marriage.
If someone only holds on in good times and gives up when things aren't smooth, one cannot but question his/her commitment to the relationship/marriage.

(I understand that this subject of marriage is one in which many people claim to have 'Phd's' and thus opinions may vary The above is mine )

well said brother, u just hit the major points..

tobtap:
MORALS.....OUR ladies clearly lack it now

and men also.

RickRichards:
Because Romancelanders have complicated everything with: 10 Reasons Why Married Men Fart; 0.5 Ways of Telling if Your Wife is Your Wife; 20 Types of Conversations Married Couples Should Avoid While Watching a Plasma but not LCD TV in 3D and not 4K.
You get my point now? Phew!!!

u re a very intelligent man, well said brother, u see all sorts of advice and useless tips posted on how a man should do that,a woman should do this, and people is badly mislead by such..

igbo mess is smelling everywhere, see there life..a clueless life,in igbo land everybody wants to be rich, the blind,the lame,the dumb,even the slowpoke..

omenka:
Yes, an Igbo, but most importantly, she's a NIGERIAN. The foreigners don't see us as Hausas, Yorubas or Igbos, but as Nigerians.

You guys really need to chill with all these ethnic tinged utterances. They're gonna do us no good.

it is an igbo mess out there brother, that tribe get serious craze for being rich over night, everybody wants to rich including the lane,blind and the dumb and deaf...

Spaxon:
its my 1000th post on nl

an illiterate is always an illiterate.... . .. .
meanwhile....



A man needed a brain transplant
The surgeon brought him 3 diff brains ..
The first he said cost just $500 -it belonged to albeit Einstein (90% used)
The second cost $2000 - it belonged to Henry Ford (75% used)
The third cost a whooping $1,000,000.00 - it belonged to a Nigerian army General (it has never been used)



Last Bullet:
There's a diff b/w a ph.D holder and an FSL holder.....

hbd chiam55

u re a monkey and nothing else..

kilokeys:
i tot buhari had it all planned out..
they have agendas na..
let him enter office.. share free food, reduce fuel price, build refineries, give us jobs..

no b werin im talk?

so what tips does he need?

so sure his senses slips through his open teeth while he sleeps

the clueless jonathan should at least as former head of state present some tips...

kodded:
why would you collect "tips" from the "most corrupt leader on earth" according to your foot soldiers here in nairaland

well said brother..

raumdeuter:
Jonathan surely doesnt know what he was doing in Aso Rock.

of course the clueless one is just clueless as we see it..

KingMEXX:
After Labelling him as clueless, Does he expect a 50page textbook on how to run the govt??

This Baba should quit all this his side talks and focus on getting things done. There is no law that states so, and therefore I see no big deal in this. Jona is at liberty to do so, if he so desires

Besides Baba, I didn't vote you to complaint about receiving tips..I voted you based on your promises..so quit the complaints!

the clueless fool dont even know what he is doing, corruption is the only thing he is good at..

black monkey africans with so much greed, wickedness and dark heart,no brotherly love in our land,thats why we are cursed and dammned to suffering and endless poverty in our land due to our wicked and ever selfish heart.africa is really in trouble.

yeess let the trekkers continue, is a sign of patriotism, courage and determination of the new nigeria, and we should be applauding over fellow nigerians for this couragious acts of patriotism and not stay here criticize, what kind of people are we, enemies of progress,we cant do anything positive and when we see someone doing so we just kajour and condenm. Kai are we really black monkeys as they call us?

SHARIAREPORTERS:
Make dem better get union now ooo
To regulate d madness going on

slowpoke,look at a woman making history with courage and determination, u lazy and ambitionless man is here talking rubbish...

the father of new nigeria, OBJ i hail and respect you, if nigeria had not have an icon like you, it would have been a disaster, ur elderly advice,influence and patriotism is always needed and welcomed as far this country is concerned and u re alive, long live ebora of owu...

richidinho:
Obasanjo again?
What does this man really want?

shuut up slowpoke, the living icon wants to make a better future for you and ur family,at least be greatful and show appreciation and stop being silly..

charlie009:
Obj we know you played a good role during d election, pls its time 4 u 2 step aside n allow Buhari 2 run his show.

shuut up ur mouth, without obj, buhari would not be there, and as far as OBJ is alive his influence and assistance will always be welcomed in this nation..

Sirniyeh:
This is sincerely a welcomed idea. General Buhari needs you and I to really achieve the change we all desire.

It's a patriotic commitment as past leader. We should all understand that Nigerians generally become wiser after the fall. Past Governors could testify to this fact. By this time next year, Jonathan himself would also be at regretting moment, then he would be bitting fingers that .... Ah I could have done this or that.

Simply because POWER beclouds Mind atimes.

Welcome Baba OBJ. If the grid could reach 10,000mw by december as you proposed, I shall but a goat for you. Quote me

well said brother..u get good heart and reasoning..

oluwatomisin93:
obj don't turn saint over night. baba u better be careful with that crafty man

shuut up if u dont have anything good to say,black monkey.

Rowlandjude:
Two Evil Men

and u re the Good devil, fooool..

shammah1:
OBJ is the most corrupt elected president that Nigeria has ever had. That shows exactly what APC are all about. #BabaOneChance one chance keeps embracing corrupt culprits. I wonder how this old bias man intends to tackle kwaraptian. Smh

We are watching

&

God is watching

if i get ur dirty mouth calling God again thunder will roast u alive, slowpoke..

Taylor86:
report on how to loot national treasure


u did it with Yaradua it worked 100%


u did it with GEJ it worked and stopped


let's see what happens with #babaonechance

but blv me u guys can't cheat God

u re one good example black man is called a monkey and a retarded human, truthfully u dont have human brain,u just exist in human form, people like you make me wonder if some human beings are really humans or animals in human body..

God bless all those that helped to deliver this woman, the women that pulled the baby out,the nearby shop owners that came to her aid, ur reward by God starts from this life to the next...this life is too deep to understand..

i cant see any genevieve nnaji there,this looks like a hoax..

kai women really have fish brain, a man u have had a child for, no matter the wahala, so the only and best way this senseless and dumb woman thought out to solve it, is to go and sleep with the man's best friend, his best friend,kai women can really kill somebodies soul, the woman just killed that man's soul, the man is now a walking zombie..fear women...