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Is sex before marriage right or wrong?

We were raised to believe that sex should remain sacred to only married people. However, we cannot deny the amount of sex many young unmarried people are having. If anything, babymamas are the evidence of this.

Due to one reason or the other, many people have strongly insisted that they must have sex with their partner before committing to them.

This can largely be due to many cases of impotence and sexual incompatibility among others.

Others think it is still very wrong, to have sex before marriage.

What do you think? See what the ladies in the video are saying.


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Nigerian women are not usually straightforward about their feelings. Especially when they like a man but do not want to say it directly, they show a mix of signals which might be lost on the guy who isn't observant.

Ranging from calling you "Big Head! Fish!!" to asking you "have you eaten?" ten times a day, the Nigerian woman is quite complex with expressing herself.

Biko, tell us how they really express themselves when they like a man.

See what these other guys think.


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hehehehe no see bro. How ur side?

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bro long time

From Knowledge shaming people with embarrassing street interviews to bitter album and movie reviews, many people have come to hate the press. And for good reason.

For a long time, thenetng has maintained a reputation of being a thorough, critical media house who do not pander to the whims and dictates of celebrities but speak the truth, keeping many in check. They did a good job.

Their interview with Nina however, calls for a reality check for them

A pattern of releasing damning news which leverages negative publicity for celebrities has however been established by many news outlets.

Little wonder many celebrities hate the press and select who to grant interviews. No one wants anyone to disrespect them.

Nina's interview which was published on thenet platform can be described as spiteful and disrespectful to her person. It was filled with information we did not need to know especially considering how Nina is just a young girl who is still finding her footing as a celebrity.

It is more important to be kind than to be right.

In a bid to get the most traffic and stand out from other blogs, many news outlets do not care about the feelings of celebrities and like cheap bitter trolls, chomp down on any opportunity to trend.

Instead of helping her make the best of her interview, doing without unnecessary info about her not having a car, her make up and obviously green team, thenetng felt the need to further troll the young girl by releasing the ugly details of their encounter.

Yes, she didnt have a car when she did the interview. Yes, you paid for her Taxify. Yes she is insecure about her looks.

So what? Was that why you invited her over? To shame her?

This is not the first time they have done this. For the sake of brevity, no need to highlight their other unkind interviews with other celebs.

No interview comes out perfect. A lot of flaws and goofs are hidden by good video editors and writers.

It will have been better to report Nina's answers to their questions rather than the other stuff which went down off camera.

Their report was not done to portray the best possible interview but to attract traffic, riding off the wave of controversy and negative reactions. It was wrong.

This is why many celebrities avoid certain media houses because like the ugly trolls they take advantage of their openness and spread demeaning news about them.

If we seek to live in a better world, such needs to stop. Knowledge shaming, bitter interviews and reviews need to stop. Trolling needs to stop.

It is all fun and games because no one is paying attention to the people getting hurt. Think before you report rubbish about people.

Research has shown that unlike before, women are cheating better than men lately.

Whether due to evolution or as an adaptation to the years and years of dealing with cheating men, cases where women cheat are no longer a new thing.

Social is believed to have contributed to this with many girls receiving visits in their dm on a daily.

Many say it is because the material needs of the modern woman can no longer be met by one man.

Others believe women have decided to try learning from their male counterparts and sample the variety that sex with multiple partners offers.

So tell us why in your opinion, women are cheating more than men.

See what some people have to say on it below.


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Some say traffic, others say the government, while a number of people say the Nigerian passport itself is a problem.


A lot of people have different opinions on the hardest part of being a Nigerian.

The current situation in the country has caused a lot of people to want to leave Nigeria and like it or not, only a few Nigerians think the world is worth saving.

Being a Nigerian is also hard for some people because of the international restrictions. The sexual harassment that is almost always suffered by women in the marketplace is another concern/.


See what many people say is the hardest part of being Nigerian.


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Her stubbornness. and anger issues.

The distance fam. Sometimes e dey wan do me like say make i cheat but mehn abeg its not worth it.

Shey seriousness brings money into your account abi?

Oyindidi:
Senseless post like this one should be hidden. Mynd44 please hide this post

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It is no news that many Nigerian celebrities enjoy the pleasure of being the crush and sexual fantasy of their fans.
Even though many fans will never get the chance, they, however, can't stop thinking about their favorite celebrities.

So which Nigerian celebrity are you secretly wishing you could see without clothes? See who these people chose and share yours below.

Responses here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q_K1V_7yxZI&feature=youtu.be

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Who do people think is the funniest online/Instagram comedian in Nigeria?


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With answers ranging from Lasisi Elenu, Broda Shaggi, to Twyse, Emmanuella, Ay Comedian, Williams Uchemba, Funke Akindele, Josh 2 Funny, Craze Clown and others, it is a tough one determining is the best online/social media comedian in Nigeria.

Many say Lasisi is the funniest online/social media comedian in Nigerian because of his hilarious rants and ways of addressing issues.

Others think Emmanuella is the funniest online comedian in Nigerian because of her age and achievements.

Even more, think either craze clown or Williams Uchemba is the best online comedian in Nigeria.

The question is usually answered by the viewer's taste and sense of humor.

Who do you think is Nigeria's funniest online/social media comedian?

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Many celebrities and other people can have a difficult time in managing the pressures of fame and success. The pressures of being famous can lead to stress, anxiety, depression, or addiction for many high profile celebrities.
Here is some advice that celebrities and other famous people have used to manage fame and success, ensuring doesn’t become an issue in their lives.

1. KNOW WHERE YOU STAND
It is important to know your boundaries and where you stand on certain issues. Every person who is famous should be aware of what they want out of their fame. A celebrity should determine what they want to accomplish in terms of their career goals and personal life.

2. TELL OTHERS
Once you know what you want to accomplish with your fame and success, you need to communicate your intentions to your friends and others. Be willing to answer questions so that others understand where you are coming from. It is vital that your fans know where you stand on certain issues.

3. STAY CONSISTENT
Always remain consistent on your values and beliefs. If people see that you are constantly changing your mind then they will not take you seriously. Regardless what you believe in, be consistent in what you preach.

4. ALWAYS CONNECT WITH YOUR FANS & SUPPORTIVE FRIENDS
It is important for famous people to have a support system that includes their family and friends. It can be difficult to please all of your fans and it is wise to have friends who will stand by you when things don’t go your own way. Do not neglect your FANS, FRIENDS and FAMILY for the price of fame.

5. ASK FOR HELP
There will be times that the pressures of fame will get to you. It is important to talk to a mental health counselor or somebody else who can give you additional advice on how to cope. There is nothing wrong in asking for help when it comes to dealing with the pressures of fame and success.

6. LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES
Celebrities and others who are in the spotlight have the make mistakes like regular people. It is important to learn from your mistakes when dealing with your popularity. Dealing with fame is a learning experience and it takes a lot of work to manage your career and personal life.


NB: Enjoy your success and don’t let others dictate how you should live your own life.

QUOTE OF THE DAY:
Talent is God given. Be humble
Fame is man-given. Be grateful
Conceit is self-given. Be careful JOHN WOODEN


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Especially in this part of the world, and with women, the number of people she has had sex with before marriage is used to judge how much of a loose or good girl she.

Even though many men are far more promiscuous than women, many people tend to take record of how many people their lover have had in the past and use it to judge how good they are as a person.

This show "Just Asking" puts the question "Does your lover's body count matter in a relationship?" and the responses were savage, brutally honest and revealing.

Many believe one's body count does not matter while others think it is very important as it shows the kind of person they are in a relationship with.

If you find out your lover had sex with 300 people before you, what will you do?


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9NCipQMhl2E

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Please how much to repair the screen of samsung Galaxy s6?

carry your overseriousness and be gooing abeg.

Bidobado:
Poverty questions... Ask Bill gates or Dangote that question and let's see what their answers will be.

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Many people believe in real love and how it is not something you can buy with money. Says who though? This show reveals that many people do not believe love or the relationship with their current partners is worth passing up a million dollars.

Do not be deceived by the love and passion in your relationship. Your partner might just be one of those who has not found the money to make them bold enough to leave you.

Watch how a good number of people including married ones reveal why they will break up their current marriage/relationship for one million dollars.

But do you think any relationship is worth rejecting one million dollars? Share after watching the video.


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It is rare to find a woman who stays completely silent during sex. in many cases, women express their enjoyment with vocal outbursts of approval, stoking the fires of intimacy to sensational levels.

Many believe a man who can't make his woman scream his name is not doing the job well. Others feel sex with a woman who is completely silent is as boring as drinking Garri with ordinary water.

Even more, say it is selfish of women to remain silent while the man pile drives away. What do you say?

See the various responses to the reasons women moan during sex in the video below.


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Wondering what a fuckboy is?

A fuckboy is described as the worst kind of man who takes advantage of his friends and family and lives only for himself.

At the end of this episode of Guytalk podcast you will have seen and known the traits of a fuckboy and why you should avoid having them around.

See below for some of the traits of a fuckboy:

1. He is a pathological liar:

Yes, we all lie. A fuckboy, however, is so much of a liar that 3 out of his every 5 statements contains a falsehood of sorts. He lies to get his way with everyone and uses it to look cool among his friends. His every move and achievement is not as beautiful as the lies he paints and because of this he leads others to believe things about him that do not exist.

2. He never has anything good to say about others unless it makes him look good:

A fuckboy is one of those people who always criticize the achievement of others and only says good things about them when he will look good as well. He constantly has one bad thing to say about his friends and loved ones and is a snitch, revealing the dirty linens of his closest companions.


3. He makes a move on his friend's girl:

If a man has no issues making a move on the woman dating or married to his friend, he is a big Bleep boy and should be discarded from one's life. We have seen many cases of friends sleeping with their best friend's wives or girlfriend and this is an unmistakable sign of a fuckboy.


4. He borrows money and has issues paying back:

This is one of the most common signs of a fuckboy. A man who cannot repay his debts is a fuckboy and should be cast out of one's life as soon as possible. These do not include those not financially able, but those who take loans and favors they have issues paying back even when they are able. In Nigeria, this is very common and when one lends a friend money, they end up losing the money along with the friend.


5. He does not support his friends' hustle:

Why have friends who do not support your dreams and goals. Fuckboys are extremely selfish so much they will not contribute to the growth of their friends even if this wont cost them anything. Take for example a person who has a hundred thousand followers on twitter and a friend who needs publicity. If this twitter mogul is a fuckboy, he won't want to post his friend's material on his page even though this wont cost them anything.

See podcast for detailed and properly depicted examples of a fuckboy.


Words aren't needed to let u know that a fuckboy is not someone you want to have around you because they will betray and ensure your downfall sooner than an open enemy.

Download podcast and share with friends.

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This episode of Guytalk Podcast talks about the ways many African parents might have damaged their children without knowing.

The African culture as we know it is very strict and tough on the growing child.

You literally are raised spartan style with the full measure of discipline and sometimes brutality only soldiers in training get.

Many African parents in the name of raising their children to be upright, did some things which were too hard, or out of negligence, did not do other things.

One of the things many African parents put their children through is emotional trauma.

Because of the hardship in many African and Nigerian countries, many parents tend to transfer the aggression of their hard lives on innocent children.

Ranging from using abusive words, to allowing the children see them fight in the most brutal ways, many African parents subjected their children to emotional trauma which leaves the children to grow up as dysfunctional adults.

Another thing many African parents did not do right is teaching sex education to children at a young age.

Many children are being abused because someone is taking advantage of their ignorance of sex education and exploiting them.

A very good example is this mummy and daddy game many children played as kids.

A mistake many African parents also made is not teaching children the value of saving from a young age.

Many tend to take the money given to children instead of creating a saving and investment culture which will follow the children to their adult years.

Something else many parents did that might have damaged their children at a tender age is physical trauma.

The act of brutally beating and physically punishing children mercilessly because of their crimes is something many children born in the nineties went through.

Unlike what many parents think, this only makes the children more rebellious and hardens their heart.

Play full podcast below:


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This episode of Guytalk Podcast discusses 5 scenarios that can ultimately lead to rape.

Rape is one of the biggest issues plaguing the world today.

Considering how the world is experiencing the Weinstein effect where more women and men are exposing cases of sexual harassment and rape among top personalities and celebrities, we have to be more aware.

A lot of women out there have gotten raped because they were unaware of the warning signals.

The 5 scenarios are:

1. Sleeping over at a guy's house when you both are not sexual partners:

Most of the rape cases recorded have come from trusted friends and family.

Sleeping over at a guy's house because of familiarity of because of a seeming trust for his better judgment can ultimately lead to being raped.

This is because many men use the opportunity and proximity try vent out their fantasies.
When the ladies resist, some of them try rape her.

As much as possible, avoid sleeping over at a male's house if you are not sex partners or family because many men cannot control the surge of testosterone when it hits.

2. Meeting for the first time in a private or secluded place:

In this age of social media when everyone is meeting everyone, meeting a person especially a man in a private place like his room, hotel, guest room, is not advisable except there is an understanding to involve sex.

A lot of women have fallen to rape because they did not have protection or anyone to call considering how they went to visit a guy for the first time, in a private place.


The secluded nature of the place gives confidence to rapists and perverts, making it harder for them to back off when you say no because no one else is there to save you.


3. "Leading him on and heavy flirting without intending to follow up :

A lot of men out there will find it hard to interpret a woman's 'No' and a definite refusal to have sex simply because they share a history of sex conversations and promise of carnal bliss.

While this is not a reason to force oneself on a woman, for the sake of protection and removal of any misleading ideal, "Do Nont Lead A Man On If You Won't Have Sex With Him".
Keeping your conversations clean and decent will ensure there is no room to question your intentions if you are in a position where you share a room.

4. Consuming drinks and drugs you do not have prior knowledge of at parties and events:

5. Hanging out with loose company that get you set up.

See podcast


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Its fine. Its never too late to start on a new path, see the t most important life decisions you need to make to have a successful relationship in the future and other aspects of life.
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OEPHIUS:
Dear Nice Guy,

I don’t know you yet but I’m so ready to date you. Seriously, I am. For a long time, I dated bad boys. Yes, I was that girl you blame for always coming in last. I guess I dated bad boys because, somehow, I liked their unavailability, sexy sideways glances, and late-night calls. I fed off the chase and mystery they provided me. I saw them as a challenge that I always happily accepted. Let me tell you, I’ve dated so many jerks throughout the years. A lot of times, I ended up being disappointed with how it ended with them, and wondered why I always had such blind optimism about these guys I clearly knew were jerks to begin with. But to be honest, I don’t regret any of it now.

I learned a lot from each and every one of those bad boys. I learned something from every un-answered text, from every “I’m just not looking for a relationship” talk, and from every lame excuse as to why he just couldn’t make to my house party until after 1 am. I guess I never let the jerks get to me. I realized it was never me; it was always them. I was born with an abundance of self-confidence. Maybe that’s why I was never too bothered by each guy who was a jerk to me. Maybe it was because I was smart enough to realize I never actually wanted to end up with a jerk. It was always you I wanted, Nice Guy.

With all that being said, I’m ready to date a Nice Guy. I’ve learned all the lessons I need to learn from bad boys. I now have the ability to distinguish between when to give up on a relationship and when to fight harder. I know all the excuses and lies and can see when it’s right to say a big ‘f*ck you’ or an ‘okay, I’ll let you make it up to me.’ I know what it’s like get all dressed up for a night out only to sit in your room watching Netflix, crying and staring at your phone because the person you had plans with never showed. And that a “got too drunk sorry” text is not a sufficient excuse or apology. I know all these things. My mom always said that the problem with people who end up unhappy is that they don’t know how to walk away from something that has already served it purpose. Well, I can see now that bad boys have served all the purpose they possibly could in my life and that it’s time for me to learn a new lesson. I want to learn from you, Nice Guy.

It’s time for me to learn what its like to have someone to fall back on when I feel weak. It’s time for me to understand what its like to open up to someone without the fear that I’ll be emotionally shamed or that it will scare them away. It’s time for me to understand why people write love songs or tear up at the end of the notebook. I want to know what it’s like to be desired for more than my body, for someone to look at me with passionate eyes, slowly but surely falling in love with my mind, body and soul.

I want to know what it’s like to have someone who will always show up, who will always make time for me and who will always respect me. I want to know what it’s like to be able to count on someone, and know that even though love is never safe, I will be safely hurt by them. Mostly, I know I can learn all these things from you, Nice Guy.

I don’t want anyone thinking I hate bad boys. I don’t hate them; I’m just done with them. I have to thank bad boys for a lot actually. Bad boys have taught me how to depend on myself. How to pick up my broken pieces. They’ve allowed me to secure the perfect break-up remedy. Booze, friends, rebounds, cry, workout, acceptance, find new bad boy, repeat.

I understand myself so much better because of these bad boys. I know what I’m like at my worst. But I’m ready to know what I’m like at my best.

I promise you this, Nice Guy: I don’t know you yet, but I will be a nice girl to you in return. I will show you what you’re like at you’re best. I will treat you with the respect you deserve and will always answer your call when you need me. I will show you what all those bitchy girls couldn’t.

So, I guess all there is left to say is…

I’m ready whenever you are. TC Mark

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This episode of Guytalk Podcast discusses the most important life decisions a person can take in their lifetime to ensure success.

Many young people end up with regrets because of some important decisions they neglected to take in their youth.

These decisions sometime determine the difference between a good life and a bad one.
Sacrifices and others have to be made and many people of this generation are constantly distracted from what is important.

1. You have to become selectively available to certain people/sometimes cut them off:

Many will call this pride but in truth, this is focus on the most important people. A lot of people bring in negative vibes into our lives which limit us. Many others only slow us down and remind us of things we cannot do without telling us of our strengths.

Making oneself selectively available will open one to more positive energy as well as help with focusing on the right people in our lives.

If a person is not adding value to your life and is not willing to try, it is best to limit contact and familiarity with them.

2. Decide not to allow society pressure you with its timelines of success and trends:

Not everyone is destined to succeed at the same time.

If you do not do what it takes to be great now, in the future you will regret having not tried.

People have different timelines of success and should not compare with one another or call someone unsuccessful because they took a longer time to reach their goal.

One of the most important life decisions anyone can make is to stay focused and not allow society pressure them into making decisions.
The pressure to drive a car, the pressure to get married. The pressure to slay. The pressure to live a flashy life. All comes with a price of the future.

It is better to wear drab clothes now and live a simple life and later enjoy than to spend and squander everything now and start scrounging in the future.

See podcast for full details of the most important life decisions anyone can make in their youth.


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Young and stupid!!

This phrase has been used by some old and foolish people to describe many youngsters of this generation.

This is because this age is so full of distractions these millennials are caught up trying to catch up with trends that they forget to live and take everything for granted.

Many times they only realize this too late and usually cannot correct these regrets in life.

This episode of Guytalk podcast talks about the regrets many people in this generation are going to experience later in life.

Below are some of the regrets.

1. Regret spending so much time on the phones:

A large part of time our lives these days is spent on the phone. This leaves only about an average of 12 hours to for us to stay awake.

Now, this 12 hours is split into activities like work, movement, and chatting.

Sadly, many people give more priority to time they spend on their phones than that which they should spend talking to real people and getting to know those around them.

This time is wasted chasing empty conversations and relationships which lead nowhere, making them trivialize real relationships that might be more beneficial.

Many young people will end up regretting spending so much time on their phone because they will look back later in life and wish they hadn’t gotten carried away with their phones and spent more time investing in themselves and people around them.


2. Regret not keeping in touch with loved ones:

Because there is so much pressure to be successful and slay on social media, many young people forget to keep in touch with friends and family who are not immediately present with them.

Considering the tales of many people who lost a loved one and wished they had more time, this is one regret many will have.

Life is short and very fickle and someone we saw a minute ago might be unavailable the next.

Sadly many young people get caught up in their own life that they forget to check on those they claim to love and end up regretting when they hear those people are dead.

Regret Allowing ego rule their actions:

Ego is the bane of many relationships. Many people allow their sense of how they feel they should be addressed, cloud their reasoning and get them to take regrettable actions.

Relationships between lovers get broken up, friends become strangers, and family become mere acquaintances. All because one person feels wronged and thinks they are proving a point by holding a grudge.

Ego also manifests in how people treat their friends, giving rise to classism simply cause one person thinks they make more money than the other. Or one person feels more societally elevated than the other.
Only later in life is the reality of the damage done by ego realized and many times, regrets follow.

See podcast to get remaining three regrets people of this generation can’t escape.


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The Nigerian labor sector is such that most Nigerian employers can take advantage of people who work for them.

Many Nigerian employers can either sack, promote, fire or retire their staff on a whim.

This is because the labor laws in the country do not allow for any strict policies governing their behavior.

Most young graduates do not know a lot about these employers and get a rude awakening when they get treated anyhow.

Before you work for any Nigerian employer you should know these 5 things.


1. Do not work for free if you are an expert:

Many of these Nigerian employers use this statement "we are giving you a platform" to take advantage of job seekers, and either underpay or not pay them at all.

Before working for any Nigerian employer know that if your value is relevant, you deserve pay and do not allow desperation make you slave to a person or system because you are seeking a job.

2. Most of them will owe you salary:

This is nearly a norm in most one-man businesses in the country. Especially in organizations without a board of directors or a system in place, the salary of many employees lies at the mercy of their employers. Since many of them can get away with ill treating their staff, the salary of the staff can fluctuate either based on the economy or on their own personal desire to pay.
Before you work for any one man business owner, know that being owed salary will definitely come to play at some point.

3. They can fire you at any time:

Because there are no labor laws in the country to instill the fear of misbehaving in the Nigerian employers, the moment you fall from their good graces, you can be fired.
Many people have been known to lose their jobs because they has an affair with a girl their boss liked, or because their boss felt they are a threat.

Getting fired in the Nigerian job space is something of a norm and can happen any time. So prepare yourself even if you have a good working place now, and find multiple sources of income.
Anything can happen at any time.

See podcast below for more things to know before working for any Nigerian employer.


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Our social media generation has seen many African women quick to jump on any opportunity to bash their men.

Ranging from cheats to liars, scum and more recently irresponsible, a lot of African women have sought to use social media to highlight the flaws of their men, slamming them for what it is worth.

They forget though, that they play a role in making these men. See the roles women play in turning their men to monsters below


1. Focusing on raising their daughters to be good mothers and wives while neglecting to raise the sons to be good husbands:
In the African home, the girl child is made to do most of the house chores and home management while the male children are mostly left to their own devices.

Especially in homes where there are more daughters than sons, the benefits of being a good wife and mother are taught to the daughters from a tender age.

For the young sons the essence of self restraint from hitting their sisters is rarely hammered until much later in life.

The girls are also taught to have a good behavior because this is what will bring a man. Neglecting to make their sons that kind of man their daughter will be wed to.

This makes many male children grow up not respecting and appreciating women and by the time the parents want to effect discipline, it is already too late.


2. Using money as a means of judging manhood:

Forget the modern age independence many ladies claim, many mothers will advise their daughters against bringing home a struggling man. Even in their prayers they say they pray their daughters marry a rich man.
The primal instinct to lean towards the more financially capable male is strong in many women.
After all, the whole point of having beautiful looks and bomb cooking skills is to get a man capable of meeting your needs. This idea is still discussed among ladies in secret and this governs their choice in a male partner, leading many of them to remain in abusive relationships because the one who can treat them well cant provide as much as the one who beats them. This idea is what gives many men the guts to hit and beat their women.
After all, the women are with them for the money.


3. Emotional blackmail: This happens when women use the emotions of a man as leverage to get what they want. While both sexes do this, women use it more and many men tend to lash out and act out of character when they feel they are being played.

4. Entitlement mentality: Many will agree that once a man mentions love, many women automatically believe he owes them money and care. This mentality has been ingrained such that women now expect me n by virtue of emotional attachment to always serve their needs. This causes many men to use material things to lie, deceive and entice many women. After all, they meet her needs and should be able to keep her irrespective of how they treat her.

See podcast below for full episodes discussed.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1bDDL4SWwcQ

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Only one or two points make sense. The rest is crap. Never date your colleague at work and if you do ensure to keep it secret to the max and not let anyone know.

WhiteKettle:
For the guys.
1. Never fail to touch her in public. How else do you tell people is to act. Blow a kiss from across the hall. Hug when you come across each other, smack her ass in public.

2. Eliminate every element of professionalism. This should be reserved for your coworkers and associates not someone you and whatever pet name you call her in the bedroom. It is ideally forbidden to keep on referring to her as Miss or her last name. Are there reports to be sent, you can send hers later after dinner. Are there meetings and discussions scheduled, you must have heard it already or you get to listen to yours in private.

3. Curtail your chats with people of the other gender. This should top the list. Write off pleasant and overtly friendly fellow workers. Remember still of the feminine gender. All interactions however minimal must be precisely proper and official. No unnecessary smile, no niceties or favour and definitely no compliments. They can get theirs elsewhere.

4. Be liberal with compliments. This cannot be over emphasized. Always drop accolades and praises on her work. Your boss could overhear and put in a promotion even though that was not what you had in mind. Never a criticism boyfriend, remark favorably on her presentations, say nice things about her your colleagues. Gender in mind, male. Bring her up in every conversation with a flattering remark.

5. Wear matching outfits. If a colleague sees you sporting a blue shirt on a Monday morning, a mental picture of your other half donning a blue shirt should pop up spontaneously. These are the goals people. If possible, accessorize together.

6. On no account should things between you be kept private. Do not keep your colleagues out of the loop on your affairs. To make things easier, though they never say it and act otherwise, everyone in the office wants an update on what you did last weekend. In no way should you deny them this luxury. But try to keep things interesting by cutting the keeps them going.

These are tried and tested if followed to the letter. Source: A single banker following this couple for 3 years

Ok, now many women have been raised with a one size fits all of what a man expects of a good woman. This becomes a problem when they meet a man who wants a variation of what they have been taught. Example. A woman is taught that dressing decent will make her man happy. She meets and falls in love with a man who loves his wife wearing bumshort and lingerie in the house. He tells her but because of what she has spent time learning, she finds it hard to cmpromise. Or a woman who has been taught watching porn is bad. She meets a man who loves watching porn and practising different positions with his wife. But because of what she has been taught and how unteachable she is, she cant adapt to her man's needs. This lack of flexibility cam make some men not want the whole package because like it or not, we all have our deal breakers.

Why not play the video, it better explains every point mentioned.

ibkayee:
Can you expatiate on this one please

If love is not enough, then merely being a "good woman" will also not do.

Men tend to leave women because of certain reasons and like it or not, some relationships wont work despite the effort many women tell themselves they put in.

Below are five reasons men keep dumping some "good women" who love them.


1. The women aren't teachable: This comes in the context of not being adaptable to each other. Many women out there have the right job, right skills in bed, right body, but their inability compromise for their man makes him seek comfort elsewhere. In relationships, more than being right about something, it is better to be kind.

More than feeling love, showing love the right way is important.


Many good women out there have been left heartbroken because they did not show the kind of love their man needed at the time, and were too caught up in their own idea of what a man wants that they lost him because they did not bend.

The cure: Better communication and fluidity in decision making.

2. Insecurity: Many men out there cannot handle the idea of their woman being super beautiful, soft spoken and almost perfect. This is because they either become insecure because of the attention she is getting from other men or give in to their own low self esteem. Many men also cannot handle their own jealousy and feel their woman is a suspect of cheating when another male even breathes in their direction.

The cure: For women, always do everything in your power to reassure your man that he is the only one for you and no one else holds your heart or gives you the love he does. For men, learn to deal with your own insecurities and handle your jealousy mature because suspecting her wont stop her from cheating if she really wants to.

3. Family pressure: This is the African society and we cannot ignore the influence many families hold over their sons. Family pressure has been known to make many men leave their women even if they love her. Also, when a woman's family makes it hard for the man to connect with them and treats him less than they should, this makes many men leave.

The cure: Ingrain the idea that no one but you should decide for you who you should love. In the end you are the one who will deal with the consequences not them.

4. Biological/physical/sexual incompatibility: Many times, relationships do not work out because of incompatible genotypes. If a man is As and his lover is AS, this usually leads to the end of the relationship as they likely will have kids with SS.

Physical attraction cannot be ruled out in a relationship. A man who naturally loves slim curvy women, no matter how good to him a chubby lady is he will get tempted by slim curvy women throwing themselves at him.

Sexual incompatibility makes men leave good women when the needs of the man is not met. Men like sex and honestly, they will not find a relationship where they aren't getting enough of the kinda of sexy they want, really exciting.

The cure: Before you fall in love, get the genotype details, find out their sexual preference and work towards becoming the woman he is physically attracted to as well as emotionally.

Full episode of Guytalk Podcast below


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gV7Wtknp4RU&feature=youtu.be

Source: [url]http://guytalkpodcast..com.ng/2017/09/the-5-reasons-good-women-get-dumped-by.html

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Many fired employees are quick to blame employers for getting them fired.

In as much as many people tend to see the termination coming, others receive a rude awakening to reality when they get fired for something seemingly small.

Guytalk Podcast was able to analyze the behaviors that ultimately lead to loss of jobs by many young people and as much as we will like to blame employers for being insensitive and inconsiderate, truth is, many times we are responsible.

Below are some of the innocent habits that can get one fired from their jobs:


1. Flirting: Flirting is basically something which naturally happens in an organization with male and female workers.
Sometimes, however, this comes off the wrong way to certain people (especially women) and can lead to a sexual assault accusation.

Others have been known to use a persistent flirting with them as an instrument of revenge to get them kicked out of the organization.

Heavy flirting also rubs off the wrong way to third parties as a person comes off as unprofessional and unserious. Sometimes the HR takes note and uses it as an excuse to let one go from their job.

Know who you flirt with.

2. Gossiping and snide comments: The allure of juicy gossip is undeniably hard to resist. However, this sometimes can lead to feelings getting hurt and people seeking opportunity to get one kicked out of an organization.

Gossiping about a colleague especially at work, increases the chances of spreading wrong information about them. this can lead to defamation claims and get you kicked out of the company if an investigation is done and you are pinpointed as the source of the rumor.

Snide comments also leads to termination if it repeatedly comes from you nd people have laid complaints about it to the HR.

This will translate to inability to work with a team and can get you kicked out of a company you love working with.

3. Spending time on social media: This is a distraction. Distractions cost time. Time is money. Employers want to believe they have all your time during work hours and if you are one who is noticeably always chatting or Skyping at work, they will attribute any lapse in your duties to this.

The attention span of every person is short and spending time on social media makes it hard to concentrate and focus totally at work.

Except you work in an organization where it makes your work better being on social media, try to spend less time on your phone during working hours.

Listen to podcast for the remaining habits below.

Source: http://guytalkpodcast..com.ng/2017/08/these-5-casual-and-innocent-habits-can.html


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8sbcQkGyepg

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Rocktation and farano what do you think?

eljayson:
Love is never enough!!!

This episode of Guytalk Podcast talks about things men need more than mere professions of affection in a relationship.

Like experience and research has shown, being in a relationship with someone beloved is not a guarantee that it will last forever.

There will be times demands outside the confines of affection are made and only a prepared and mature mind can sustain in this case.

On this episode of Guytalk Podcast, the things men demand beyond love are discussed.
Play podcast:

They include.

1. Respect: No matter how sexy your stubbornness and rudeness was in the beginning, in the long run a man will not be able to settle down with a woman who doesn't respect him. Men are creatures of ego and any woman who does not find a way to make her point without bruising his ego, will push a man away from her, no matter how much she claims to love him.
Ultimately everyone irrespective of sex needs respect as this is the ultimate sign of love in any relationship.

2. A woman who pursues her goals, dreams and aspirations: Men might like to be dominant but they will respect more, a woman who proves herself resourceful and driven.

As much as the typical man loves to be the provider, he will in no way look down on a woman who makes her own path in life. Unless he is a male who is obsessed about dominance and oppression.

3. A woman with a sense of humor: Humor is one of the things which can prolong a relationship.

If a couple have the same sense of humor, they tend to work better together and overcome hard times more than those with a different sense of humor.

A woman's ability to use humor with her man appropriately will warm her to her man's heart more and make him love her even harder.

4. Great sex: More than affections, every man at some point loves to have sex. This is the most primal and basic way he recharges his emotional side and expresses himself.

We have seen many cases when men cheat on women they claim to love all because they did not get the kind of sex they desire from her.

Great sex will make a man more pliable to his woman's influence and make her closer to him than any profession of love will.

5. A beautiful woman (who dresses and carries herself well): Every man will be proud and happier if his woman knows how to dress and put together herself outstandingly.

In every relationship, men and women need to show how much they value their partner by presenting themselves in the most appealing way possible. This heightens the senses of the partner and makes them more attracted to them. Love women who dress well and carry themselves in a classy manner.

6. A woman with people skills: In a world where men have been accused of being inappropriate many times, what better woman than she she who is emotionally intelligent and able to handle people.

Play podcast to get a more entertaining detailed break down of the points.

Podcast: http://guytalkpodcast..com.ng/2017/08/the-5-things-men-need-more-than-love-in.html