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helpforever:
I also have this issue and its really bothering me for over 5 years. Mine is complicated and I think its spiritual.

It all started in 2011 when I was 20 and was ready to have sex. I went to a popular brothel in Lagos with a friend to try it out.
Though I was very nervous because I was a virgin and my heart was beating very fast.

We actually went in and two women approached us. A young woman of about 28 and one of about 40.

I am my other virgin friend had eye on the one of about 28 cause she was very beautiful. My friend immediately held on to her. The other one of 40 now held on to me that I should carry her lets go do it. I angrily said "You be my mama mate na", she got angry and left.

Then the younger one said, if I and my friend wants, we can take turns with her.

We left for her room. I entered first and was very nervous and sluggish even in removing my cloth.

She said, "e be like say u be virgin...so na me go disvrigin" you. She started touching my di*k, but it didn't get hard.

Time started to waste and I got tired and asked her to refund my money. She started shouting that its not possible, that the fact that my dick did not rise is none of her business. I asked that my friend should use the money and attempt, she said no. that he must bring his own money.

We left the building and started the arguments outside. Other prostitutes came to her aid and started asking what was wrong. She explained to them that I tried to have sex with her and my thing did not rise and now I want my money back, they started shouting and said its not possible that we should better get out of her.

At one corner, the older woman of about 40 that I earlier rejected started giving me the "ntoor" look and was saying "You see your life"

I got very scared and left for home immediately.

I tried to watch porn to see if it will get up, I can't really remember if it did.

Long and short, I have not been able to have sex since then. I have not even had sex in my life. I have never tried to have sex with a real girl before, so I won't embarrass myself. I have never had a girlfriend. Though girls keep flocking around me, since I am doing well both academically and business wise, but I never attempt to have sex with them and they keep wondering whats wrong with me. One of the unilag girls that seduced me and I did nothing concluded that I was impotent because she feels no man in the world would have resisted her seduction since she was very hot.

I have tried to have sex 3 more times, with prostitutes, but still same thing happens. No erection

In 2012, I spent the whole year going to church everyday. Nothing happened. I have stopped now and accepted my fate.

Only my best friend knows about this, he keeps saying its not a spiritual condition but medical condition due to the fact that I started
masturbating right since I was 17.

He says I might have had the issue right before the prostitute encounter. Sometimes he says that it is a psychological condition.

But the thing is, how can a young boy of 20 then have Erectile dysfunction due to masturbation.
Many young boys masturbate and nothing happened to them.

I was sad for a while, but now it seems I have accepted my fate. This issue have made me focus on my studies and business and now, at 26. I have finished my BSC, and my MSC

Whenever I am Hot, I masturbate and I think that has worsened my issue. I have been masturbating since 2011 when this happened

Lots of order thing happens in between that confuses me. Like 2 years after the prostitute encounter, when I was in my 3rd year, one beautiful edo girl who really loved me was making out with me and flirting around me and I got a rock solid erection 100%. Very hard. Also, in 2014. A girl who liked me came to my house and she was fliting with me, though she didn't plan on having sex with me. Only the flirting alone made me hard. The erection was 70% hard. But then, those are the only occurencies.

Whenever I watch porn, I get semi erection - say about 60% hard.

Whenever I jerk my joystick, it gets hard - about 80% and within minutes, it deflates again.

Lot of different things have happened along the line which is too much to type. Long and short, I don't get erections when I wakeup again. I used to before all this issues.

Or is it the excess sugar I take, or the belly fat I have gotten due to the way I eat carelessly and spend on myself. (Since I don't have any woman to cater for) that is the cause.

Is it spiritual, medical or psychological?

Is it due to masturbation? Is it an infection?

Because I can remember in late 2012 or early 2013. When I tried to urinate, I had and felt a sharp pain.

I happened for about 2 days and stopped by itself.

I am getting older and my mother is already reminding me about marriage. I don't think I will marry until this issue is resolved. I can't
subject any woman to emotional pain.

At some point, I thought I was gay, but I am in no way attracted to men. But I am attracted to women. I tried watch transgender porn to confirm if I was gay (since I couldn't stand real gay porn). I actually got aroused and had a mild erection. But come one, transgenders are women who just have a joystick.

I have put up my issues on a foreign site (because other people who have put up their problems on nairaland gets abused, mocked, insulted and bullied) and I was advised by the whites to see a doctor and counselor. They didn't even understand what I meant by spiritual issue. But they have been very concerned and helpful

I don't need to see any counselor because my case would confuse who ever I tell.

I have been living in frustration. No sex life and no real social life. I keep falling out with female friend because I don't make any move towards them.

I keep falling out with male friends, because they keep wondering "why this their guy no dey nack woman like them". They feel I am weird because they 100% know I am not gay and wonder why a normal guy will be avoiding women like this.

I hope my issue is resolved.

But if its not, I would live the rest of my life like this. Probabaly keep on masturbating and never get married.

It might actually be my excessive masturbation that might be the cause of this. I don't really know. Only God knows.

I am depressed. But suicide is not an option for me. God forbid.

read my earlier post. probably porn and masturbation

FortuneTeller:
I am coming today with tears in my eyes for my little sis. She is kind, sweet, and a very nice young lady. She met a 35 year old man last year who courted her and convinced our family of his sincerity. He is a nice guy and very handsome. They went for medical tests before the marriage and were told everything was fine. They have now been married for 3 months without sex. My sis has cried to me for the past 2 weeks. She says he has tried some herbal supplements and even saw a pastor, but nothing has changed. They did not have sex before marriage, but she says she has seen him with an erection before and after the marriage. However when he is about to insert himself, he loses the stiffness. I don't know what to do. Someone from our area says he is known to visit many prostitutes. I don't believe he is seeing them now because he has been with our family for some time now and even working in the family business. As they have not consummated the marriage, we are thinking of returning the things he bought so she can be free. How can a 35 year old man be impotent?? My sister shall not suffer.

Modified

Hello

sorry I am seeing this late. First your sister didn't marry an impotent man. What your husband has is called "Sexual Exhaustion" which is the cause of his ED.

It has to do with his brain on porn. It happens to most men who used porn to masturbate at a very early age so their brain is twisted to porn and not reality.

To know nothing is wrong with your husband, when you visit a urologist, he will definitely tell you nothing is wrong after series of test.

It is not a permanent problem but a temporary problem and it takes the two of them to work this out.

How old is your sister? because maturity in solving this is very essential.

1. If your husband is still masturbating, he should stop that and porn. sit him don and tell him what you discovered. I believe both of you are very close so you can open up to each other, you are husband and wife

2. He should go 30 days pure without any sexual activity and then introduce sex unto it little by little. After 30 days, you will see immense improvement if you true to the 30 days but you wont be totally cured as it takes 90 days to recover from sexual exhaustion. after the first 30 days, introduce sex maybe twice a week which is necessary to re-wire the brain back to reality. He could also take supplements, eat a lot of fruits and drink a lot of water and also with a lot of exercise. This hasten the whole process. Some men have been said to recover within two weeks of sexual exhaustion.

3. you have to have that connection to be helpful, cuddle him, make him connect with you. You are even lucky he has an erection at all, some don't do so can't know if it is psychological or physiological. I married my husband with PIED and that is when I started making research on this health issue. I couldn't even make him have an erection but when he watches porn of masturbates, it is soooo hard and erect so we went through this process and now I even beg him to stop that I am tired . Once any man has an erection at all during sexual intimacy with a woman, he is not impotent so many factors can contribute to his sexual dysfunction which is very reversible.

4. google on "sexual exhaustion" and both of you should go through this together she will feel better when you discover its not the end of the world or your marriage.

This process takes a while so please be patient with him. He will also experience flat lines along this period so don't freak out during this periods

Her husband might not even know he had such until he decided to have a penetration with her so don't tag him a devil.

PIED (Porn Induced Erectile Dysfunction) is common among many men. Its psychological and very reversible so your sister should not freak out.

When having sex, both of them should relax and also see a doctor.

Lastly, please keep issues to you both, seek help together if you require but dont start telling friends and relatives. This is not maturity in marriage and be very careful so you dont spoil your marriage because that man will definitely recover if you both work together.

cheers

It has started happening.

soberdrunk:
The major problem will be "maintenance"

you just said it all

Fadamant:
Liquifying the brain? Hmmmm. I have thought of leaving the city, but how about our jobs? Move to where? Trans Amadi, Woji and all the neighbourhoods around them are saturated with these soots. God help us.

Dont mind my words, I have no clue what black soot does am an economist. But one thing I know is that you should leave that area as soon as possible. Too much intake of that might not be too good for your health in the future.

adadike281:
please am willing to learn too. Nigeria scientists please come on board o, let's know what we are dealing with here.

carbon IV trioxymercury oxalate aka black soot. It intoxicate humans slowly and affects the brain fluid by liquifying the brain in few years to come. Advice, get your stuffs and get out of there asap.

I create it for almost free. But its not too expensive. Clean and modern ones you just create for a very affordable price

hmmmm! Iranu! This guy is going down.

He is a vampire and he is tasting how sweet our blood will be when he finally suck the hell out of you. ;Dm kidding but love makes one do crazy things though

Curioussme:
he's not my father, but is it not men like him that are single handedly paying rents for their babes? Moreover it's not everytime I ask him for money , it's once in a while

my dear lady, its a pity I have to comment on this, just wanted to pass. first of all, are you maried to him that you expect him to pay your rent, is he your father or atm machine?

Its a pity how some of we ladies think. In this days, you cant earn your own money and is waiting your bf to pay your rent and give u money.

Is it not your mates making world records?

Girl wake up, go and work and you will see how he will appreciate you.

The day I started being responsible for my self was the day 1, I had peace if mind. 2. He started respecting me, 3. He even did what I didnt expect because he said he is impressed by my responsible nature.

You didnt come to this world to depend on men but to go out and succeed.

keep waiting for him to pay your rent biko.

Recession is wicked. Please check the state for fake civil servants dem plenty for there

People dont sleep? ah ah. upon how super fast I ttried to make FTC this early morning na second page I land.

You need an awesome, functioning website and I can build it at very affordable price

Professor my foot

Soft10:
..can you share me your ideal?

PM me. i'll share

I can swear that that guy has been screwing that lady down there.

emmycool44:
its used to tape two magazines 2gether. if one get empty u turn it nd fix d other

Are you military?

WilliamKhan:
I haved worked hard for months.
FTC at last!!!

Okay now to serious matter...
I want to sell my FTC rights.

It will cost only but $100

Pls how can I purchase it asap. will give you $90. plssssss

Benz4pimp:
uncivilized human!!!u always find it difficult to make corrections without insults....

I only insult those am having a crush on. Do you ride a Benz?

TherWasACountry:
Abeg, wetin u dey do in the IT?

Web design/development and Newsletter Design

Linkwire:
Smh ... see your solution right infront of you . Start small and grow big . What could fetch you money is what you do three times a day . It's not exactly a good way but it's a way , and at least you will have something to step on for a proper investment . My brother , here's my advice , don't smoke the weed three times a day , sell it threee times a day .

Guy your brain dey there. What an idea.

illuminated93:
Yea,an idea is the foundation. Bro pls educate me on this domain thing u mentioned.

Idea is the key. I studied chemistry and came up with an idea to go into IT. in 6 months I made over a million naira unbelievably. A lot of youths waste away their talent waiting for white collar jobs. Think and start something today.

Benz4pimp:
bro,the problem here is not 1st class but 5.0!!!that equally means the students scored 100/100 in all courses!!!Have you ever seen anyone that scored 10/10 in practicals or fine art?

Big head. It may not be 100/100, a 70/100 is a 5.0 GPA so the scores may range between 70-100. I scored slightly above 70/100 in most of my courses in the university and came out with a very good grade.

Harrysong pay emoney all he has spent on ur head. #matterSettled

Hmmm

Am not even thinking about tablet right now. I just want to collect the 30K from MMM I invested recently from Npower. Edakun. epp me sombori.

Afonjatribeguy:
My Babe travel to one of the south west state today for her youth service corp and before
she travel she swear with her life and promise never to cheat on me but i am still scared to trust her.
should i trust her am confused

No lady goes for youth service nd comes back the same. I went a born again virgin but I broke it in service. What you should pray for is that your lady even comes back to you.

yes you are @Brymo we all are.

carmag:
in as much as your father is inclusive

Your father!!!

I hate men but love their money. but criosly was she stupid?