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Igbo creativity since 1500

You might be shocked to learn that more than 80 percent of lies go undetected. However, when you think back to being a young child, it shouldn't surprise you that lyingis such a prevalent behavior. When quizzed about eating a piece of candy before dinner, most kids are guaranteed a chiding if they admit to the transgression, while lying provides a much lower probability of a punishment—that is, if they don’t get caught.
This opportunity-cost process that children go through to avoid getting in trouble sets the foundation for a pattern of lying in the future.
While people will always get away with lying, most lies are pretty easy to spot if you know how to read the signs. Here are a few techniques to determine if someone is telling the truth or not.
1. Start by asking neutral questions.
By asking someone basic, nonthreatening questions, you are able to observe a response baseline. Ask them about the weather, their plans for the weekend, or anything that would elicit a normal, comfortable response. When they respond, observe their body languageand eye movement—you want to know how they act when they are telling the truth. Do they shift stance? Glance in one direction or the other? Or look you dead in the eye? Make sure you ask enough questions to observe a pattern.
2. Find the hot spot.
Once you move from neutral territory to the “lie zone,” you should be able to observe a change in body language, facial expressions, eye movement, and sentence structure. Everyone will give different subconsciousclues when telling a lie, which is why it’s important to observe a normal baseline prior to entering the lie zone.
3. Watch body language.
Liars often pull their body inward when lying to make themselves feel smaller and less noticeable. Many people will become squirmy and sometimes conceal their hands to subconsciously hide fidgety fingers. You might also observe shoulder shrugging.
4. Observe micro-facial expressions.
People will often give away a lie in their facial expression, but some of these facial expressions are subtle and difficult to spot. Some people will change their facial coloration to a slighter shade of pink, others will flare their nostrils slightly, bite their lip, perspire slightly, or blink rapidly. Each of these changes in facial expression signifies an increase in brainactivity as lying begins.
5. Listen to tone, cadence, and sentence structures.
Often when a person is lying they will slightly change the tone and cadence of their speech. They might start speaking more quickly or slowly, and with either a higher or lower tone. Often, the sentences they use become more complex as their brain works on overdrive to keep up with their tale.
6. Watch for when they stop talking about themselves.
People who are lying will also sometimes start removing themselves from their story, and start directing the focus on other people. You will hear fewerme’s andI’s as liars try to psychologically distance themselves from the lie that they’re weaving.
Remember:Everyone has different “lying behavior” so there is no one guaranteed lie-detection method. It’s most important to be able to compare a liar's baseline behavior to the body movement, facial expressions, eye movement, and verbal cues that they use when they are telling a lie.

Even if social life is far more ambiguous than it used to be, "you don't have to be ambiguous in your head about what you're doing and what you want," Stanley advises. He urges the recently separated to ask themselves: "What are my bottom lines? What are the things I absolutely need in a partner, and what are the things I couldn't or shouldn't accept?"
Answering the questions can make it easier to let go of those who aren't for us—so we can get to know the ones who are.

Dating is a lot like science. At the very least, trial and error are an essential part of the process. And the outcome is not always the hoped-for one.
Breakups are in fact inevitable—you imagine a final, decisive moment when two strained sweethearts go their separate ways. They throw out the snapshots and souvenirs, mourn and mope for a while, dig into the ice cream, and sooner or later, resume the search for a suitable mate. The exes might never see each other again. Out of sight, eventually out of mind.
But it's 2014, and it's not so easy to erase an ex from your life. The newly decoupled might not call each other or meet up—that could be too direct—but there are other ways they stay connected. When you have 100 numbers in your cellphone and 700 friends on Facebook, links linger.
Deleting an ex's number or clicking "Unfriend" takes work. Worse, it can feel like salt in a wound. An ex's words and smiles may continue to float across Facebook feeds or pop up in chat windows. It's easy to keep tabs on a former partner. In ways that weren't even imagined before the advent of instant messages and status updates, broken-up partners remain, for better or worse, a part of each other's lives.
By impeding a definitive ending, technology has created what relationship researcher Scott Stanley dubs the "soft breakup." "There are so many easy, cheap ways to stay in contact now," says Stanley, a professor of psychology at the University of Denver. "Social media have completely transformed" the chances of persistent connection.
Compared with a wall of silence, a friendly text message here and an email there can take the edge off a breakup. "The soft breakup gives us a new way of saying 'I don't want to date you, but let's try to be friends,'" says Galena Rhoades, a clinical psychologist who frequently collaborates with Stanley on research. "Having the option to do a soft breakup might motivate people to get out of a relationship they know is a dead end."
But lingering ties come with big emotional risks. They facilitate on-again, off-again relationships even when the coupling was not ideal and needed to end.
Breakups are painful, and continuing connections can reinforce an impulse to turn to the ex for comfort, says Sarah Halpern-Meekin of the University of Wisconsin. Every flicker of reconnection can obscure the very sensible reasons a relationship ended.
At a minimum, electronic ties tempt exes to look backward. By offering a perpetual gaze into the lives of former partners, social media platforms enable exes to hang on to hope. Yet every hour spent monitoring an ex is an hour not spent searching for a better match.
The blurriness of breakups can undermine new relationships as well. The next partner may have a hard time tolerating any vestiges of a prior romance. "Exes may no longer be so ex," says Stanley, but jealousyis still jealousy.
Lingering links can also fuel anxietyin a new partner. Rhoades hears clients voice fears of being left for the ex who hovers electronically. Not every concern is so dire, but it's worrisome enough to feel that "your partner may be sharing things that are not shared with you."
"We really don't like giving up options," Rhoades says, "but not giving up options makes it harder to commit to any particular option." In other words: It's harder to step into a new relationship when one foot is stuck in the past.
Given the drawbacks of soft breakups, wouldn't it be easier for exes to sever all ties, analog and digital? Often, prior partners are people who merit respect and whose opinions we value. We prefer to think that they view us favorably despite the unhappy ending. "If we're deleting somebody from our life, chances are the other person is doing the same, and that's uncomfortable," Rhoades says.
However much soft breakups blur the boundaries of romantic attachments, the new acceptance of post-breakup connection reflects a more generalized change in relationships: an increase in ambiguity at all stages of mating. Stanley points out that early in a relationship it's not uncommon for one or both individuals to wonder whether they are just hanging out or actually on a date.
Ambiguity can be frustrating, but it's anchored in modern fears that lovewill not last. It offers the illusion of emotional safety. Lack of clarity about when a relationship begins or how serious it is fosters the perception that there will be less pain when it ends, Stanley explains.
Ardor is harder. As a relationship unfolds, laying feelings on the line or pushing for clarity—Are we serious? Is this a long-term thing?—can seem to threaten whatever relationship exists. Romantic ambiguity is downright dangerous as relationships proceed, Stanley says. It allows one partner to make a heavy emotional investment in another who may be unwilling or unable to commit.

Big Agbalumo things on his mind

This made me laff.

Some goes as prostitutes under chador.
Why not allow the girl go as a mini-saint without hijab??

Muslims hypocrites!!!

This girl's mouth needs twisting.
Has God ever plan fornication plan for any one before?
Boluwatife ko botife fun ara e ni.
Elenu iro

Forget love?? No, because i won't find someone like her again. Not letting go. LOL!!ng write up sha

The parrots like Asari Dokubo(east),Fayose(west) et cetera are now humming finely.
Lolling.....till they are jailed sha.

At the other hand,the birds in Otuoke are happy. Why? Jonah is going to be back home soon.
Maybe in the local jail atlast sha.
Lolling....

Never knew those scallywags can be humble. Eeeh Buhari i bow in respect. People fear this guy oooh

warripekin:
People are aggrieved in the Niger Delta already and meetings are holding as I speak. What Orubebe and co did at the collation is just glimpse of what will happen should Jonathan not continue. Those who make peaceful change impossible will make violent change inevitable. They threatened to make Jonathan's government ungorvenable and they succeeded with boko haram. But the truth must be told, the Niger delta will not accept anything other than Jonathan till 2019 win or loose. Pls this is not threat.

poor english! #whenBabaGetsThere you will be taken back to start from p1

sukkot:
YOUR MUM IS CRAZY AND YOUR WIFE IS CRAZY. THATS ALL THERE IS TO IT. ASK GOD WHAT OFFENSE YOU COMMITTED THAT HE SADDLED YOU WITH TWO CRAZY WOMEN IN YOUR LIFE

As Dale's mum would say "one mad man is enough for a family" i think you followed the path. You deserve an award

Wow! 90 year old man suffers cardiac arrest, dies on the queue but wakes up to vote before dying permanently . # Nigeriadecides.

He came to vote but after drinking 'alomo', he was so high he fell asleep on the road at CITEC Estate # NigeriaDecides pic.twitter.com/tCUlArMhlH

babygirlfl:
To those saying the wife lacks home training for slapping back, What do you call someone who gives you a slap for refusing to give them what is rightfully yours?

You get brain swag... I like that. It's a systematic way of telling one he or she lacks home training..

Thunder04:
His mum is a liar just as ur mum,and ur his wife beatn her mum just like ur family culture fool.

such an uncultured idiot.. One thing is enough to bastardize you,your English is horrid!
Keep your head between your tails and go back to where you learn and not spit out twaddle...

Renegade mongrel and a nonsensical idiot nonsense inexplicable

One person was murdered in Ikirun, Ifelodun Local Government Area of Osun state in the early hours of Saturday by an unknown gunmen.
It was gathered that some hoodlums invaded the area killing a member of the Peoples Democratic Party, Yomi Ademola.
It was further learnt that residents of the area were woken up with the sounds of gunshots at around 4:45am by the hoodlums before carrying out the dastardly act.
The victim, it was learnt had recently defected to the PDP from the ruling All Progressives Congress (APC).

A lot of bullshit formulated craps....!
Nigeria,i weep for your religious hypocrisy..

Some slaps are important!
This will never happen in US where i live...
Wife and husband not wife,husband and family members.....

I support that your wife. Your mum must have lied. The onlookers are good liars...

It could be solved! Tell ur mum your wife is you and you are your wife...tell ur mum to treat both of u rightly

tell ur wife ur mum is you and you are your mum....tell her to treat both of you respectfully

You need to stop.... Are you guys of this present generation mad,silly,crazy or about to enter market?? So rhetorical!!!
I pity those who pledged support for this..."it's not bad", "don't do it frequently"..... Shit!!
Where is your morality?? Where are your moral systems??
Live your life and die your death but on morality...

Where do you put your Bible and your spiritual weapon of Christ Jesus?? Ooh i pity you!!

See the consequences below
-it would turn to a genetic something as your children would do it in future.
-it would make you gain your life and lose it
-hell is the reward
-probability of developing STDs is high
-emotional depression
-what cannot be done in public must not be done in secret. You'll start to feel somehow when going to bathroom...cause u will think people know u are a mastubator and think you're going for it again.
-you tend to lose personal respect
-systematically,you're commiting murder for wasting d sperms as u will pay for it..

SOLUTION:
-avoid solitude
-create a list of ur trigger e.g love novels,romantic movies
-avoid the triggers
-stop admiring girls;it's a partial trigger
-make Jesus ur saviour
-pray ceaselessly
-fast always to subjugate your flesh.

CONCLUSION: it's (self-service) bad and should never be embraced or nurtured.....

Beware... A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE
DESTRUCTION AND DAMNATION FOR THE FOOLISH

Freest:
i didn't get him angry as he was angry before i even got there. I only went to appeal to him. by the way am more angrier and wanna move out today. But need to teach him a moral lesson before leaving hence d need for this advice

follow this smooth path of 'lessoning' your dad....-you know this devil's beans (werepe) put it in all his clothes....!

* Corruption is the teaspoon of politics -Adekunle Emmanuel

* Power flows from the barrel of guns -Mao Tse Tunj

* Politics is a war without bloodshed -Mao Tse Tunj

* It is a cause;a cause of causes;it causes catastrophe and catastophe causes political hang up -Adekunle Emmanuel

* It is enough that the people know there was an election. The people who cast the votes decide nothing. The people who count the votes decide everything. -
Joseph Stalin

* Politics is the art of looking for trouble, finding it everywhere, diagnosing it incorrectly and applying the wrong remedies. -
Groucho Marx

* Always vote for principle, though you may vote alone, and you may cherish the sweetest reflection that your vote is never lost. -
John Quincy Adams

* The actions of politics especially with the blacks never excluded changing from car to jet owners. Inexplicable actions! -Adekunle Emmanuel

* If you put the federal government in charge of the Sahara Desert, in 5 years there'd be a shortage of sand. -
Milton Friedman

* Suppose you were an idiot, and suppose you were a member of Congress; but I repeat myself. -
Mark Twain

* The ballot is stronger than the bullet. -
Abraham Lincoln

* Politics is not a game. It is an earnest business. -
Winston Churchill

* When I was a boy I was told that anybody could become President; I'm beginning to believe it. -
Clarence Darrow

* Instead of giving a politician the keys to the city, it might be better to change the locks. -
Doug Larson

koolet:
*i remembered talking to a fan to hear my robot voice
*bedwet and roll my younger brother over the place
*used little toy's to act hollywood action packed
*created torchlights, moving carton car thinking ill become a great engineer..., grew up ignoring it
*once hid #200 in the ground, went the next week it has decayed
*stoning eba at eachother whenever we get filled
*was then among the anti-lizard squad
*hitting nail on the ground whenever dogs meet
*acted like spiderman for weeks when i first watched the movie
*after liting the stove, hopps matches smoke in my mouth and watchs it puffs tru my nose ......lykka Boss
*love acting like a teacher >>>> grew up and erased the instinct
*after stealing the stew meat i wont rember wia to place the spoon weda inside or ontop the cover
*then..., i had this strong mentality thinking notting could kill me...


*life was boring then,, thank God for technology..., in disguise sha

We had the same past!! Imagine i even acted as anti-lizard by buying and making catapult.

elantraceey:
This set of people always existed just that they increase by the year.


See that guy holding two girls feeling like a boss.

ah atleast now for that day he is a big boss.lmao

1. The biggies: This set of people are in fact the set of people who rock with new models of handset. They even use almost,if not all new things. They bounce always. The squeeze their nose to pronounce words like the Whites do.

2.The poseurs: They always do things with the aim of impressing people. They're bunch of exhibitionists...! They ask irrelevant questions.....just to be popular. Shit**!

3.customer care: This is common in all schools. They always go to class with the intention of reading,but immediately they enter the class just forget it. At night,early morning...in fact always calling. Chaiii!!

4.The all rounders: ubiquitous like seriously. You will always find them where ever you go. I mean anywhere not related to academic arena. Football centre they are there,,table tennis centre,common room..just mention them.....

5.The "f" seekers: f signifies fame... Fame seekers as the name suggest,you know now. They are a kind of poseurs. But their aim differs. "f" seekers want fame while poseurs want to impress.

6. The disturbed lecturer: yeah! they're student lecturers. Even if you don't call them to tell you something or teach you rather attimes you'll just discover that they've started lecturing you. It's not that they are even that good oooh...boooshit*!?

7. Great readers: They are to be imitated. Seriously they read always and know answers to all questions but will never answer questions. Not maybe they are shy or have no courage. They just don't talk unnecessarily. You know them now,they are not known until the semester ends and result is out perhaps!


Feel free to add yours as relevant to your faculty or dept......!

ArchEnemy:
No Sir

ok but your deduction technique looks okay! I like that

ArchEnemy:
Deductions from your post:
1. Red is definately not you favourite color.
Maybe you even dislike red
2. You just ve your preferences like any other person. It doesnt neccesarily make you a saddist
Addendum: why should we set aside a day to demonstrate love when we ought to demonstrate love everyday.

are you a lawyering syllogist

StealthyMe:

Depends on how well you know her.. Is she the flashy type?

I don't think there's anything bad in trying your luck tho

what do you mean by flashy??

ggrin:
Kido

No go read ur book

how can i wen read witawt a divided hrt wen my mind is filled wit luv??

Exponental:
forget her n face d future.....
girls will run after u if u make it.

i tried but i just cant let go

Cutehector4u:
Stop whining jor. Wat r u? A baby? Be a man grow up and walk up to dat lady u like and say hi. Frm dr conversation starts.

How do i do that.? I always see her with frendz and cuz am a guy dat always read 24/7. If i try dat and she lambast me chaiii how will i feel.?? Won't she tel her frendz

Den dat will make me a fake public figure dat i dnt want....

Pls advise me the more

Sparksfly:
[color=deeppink] You are a coward... Oopss [/color]

please explain...lemme say,correct me with advise to stop bein a coward

iceberylin:
People still dh suffer ooo

Chai! ;( how do u mean it??