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miclef86:
I met this lady, a colleague of mine for over a year now, we work in the same unit. Don't get it twisted, our Organization permits marriages but one of us will make a transfer to another branch within the same location.

I liked her, everybody in our unit noticed there's a connection between us. However, we're like cat and dog we fight over everything, always disagreeing, yet.

I have been getting a lot of advice from my fellow colleagues about how she's the perfect match for me and how compatible we're if we decide to be together.

However, truth be told, I have not been really serious with her, I flirt with other single girls in the unit. The other day, they were having relationship discussion, a senior colleague of mine said that I use to jump from one girl to another.

The last Valentine's day, I called her that we really need to talk she told me if it's really that serious I should come over to her house which I did. I went there to profess my love for her, I asked her to give me a chance that I'm gonna be a better man.

She calls me a confused human being, that I don't really know what I want, that it's too late. That she already has someone and planning to get married to him next year.

Now, I've decided to accept my faith and move on with one particular lady that cares about me, I no longer call her like I used to anymore, just greetings that use to join us now.

I have noticed a hostile attitude from her towards me, she gets angry whenever she sees me with the other girl.

Yesterday, during lunch hour, I met her with few of my colleagues and little conversation ensued between us she said I should bet with her that I'm going to leave that girl and come back to her, that made me a little upset within. So we had a bet.

Pls I need your advice, I truly love her, I think about her almost all the time. Should I swallow my ego and try to make things work between us again or I should let the sleeping dog lie?

You're a very confused human being and don't know what you want. You're easily controlled by what others say. Build yourself up first.

PatrickOkunima:
Source: https://patrickokunima.com/7-tips-to-beat-the-ats-and-get-your-cv-in-front-of-employers/

Please, can you suggest a book or PDF file to read on this? Thank you in anticipation.

fallout87:
The recession was started by the manipulation of the naira which opened the door for forex corruption.

Stop these ignorant notions that stealing money can cause a country's GDP and economy to recess. It is nonsense and propaganda from a party (APC) which has only produced nonsense, lies and propaganda.

For the purpose of buttressing my arguments, I sincerely need more explanation on how the manipulation of forex and not stealing of money affects the GDP. Thanks.

MarieSucre:
Type in "sweet sweet codeine" on youtube, it should be at the top of results that will come out. It's about 52 mins long so make sure you have adequate mb to stream. Enjoy.

Thank you ma'am

MarieSucre:
Lol you know the truth. Did you watch the recent documentary on codeine addiction by BBC? Did you see all those prostitutes wearing hijab?

I'll appreciate greatly if you can help me with the link to watch it.

FitnessDoctor:
Hello, guys, it's your favorite health blogger, Paul Samuel FitnessDoctor

Barrier methods like condoms are very good at preventing sexually transmitted diseases by blocking the exchange of genital fluids. They are effective in preventing hepatitis B, Hepatitis C, HIV, syphilis, chlamydia, and gonorrhea.

The problem is condoms don’t entirely prevent transmission of all STDs because some STDs can be transmitted from skin to skin contact.

It’s very important to get regularly tested if you have multiple sex partners.

Here are 5 STDs You Can Get While Wearing A Condom

1. Genital Herpes

Genital herpes is a common viral STD marked by genital sores and pain.

It usually results in sores or lesions on the upper thighs, genitals or anus. Since some sores or lesions are found in areas that are exposed during condom use, transmission of infection is possible.

Genital Herpes is a very common STD and spreads very easily, it affects more than 1.5 million people per year. Genital Herpes has no cure presently, but certain treatment exists that could help those with the condition.

2. Molluscum Contagiosum

Molluscum contagiosum is a skin infection caused by the Molluscum contagiosum virus. The condition spreads through contact with an infected person or a contaminated object. The virus causes tiny little bumps on the skin. The small bumps usually appear about two months from the time of infection.

Just like HPV this infection is known to spread easily and affects more than 100 thousand people per year in Nigeria alone. Fortunately, Molluscum Contagiosum can be easily treated and resolved within months

3. HPV (human papillomavirus)

Copyright: Paul Samuel FitnessDoctor (realfitbody.com)

HPV is the most common sexually transmitted infection globally. It is so common that most will get infected at one time or the other in their lives. It is caused by the human papillomavirus and may manifests as genital warts in some cases. These warts can be found on the genitals; its presence in areas not covered by a condom makes infection easy. Even without genital warts, HPV infection can occur skin to skin.

There's no cure for the virus and warts may go away on their own. Treatment focuses on removing warts.

Over time, warts or precancerous lesions increase the risk of cancer of the cervix, vulva, vagina, penis, anus, mouth, or throat which makes the virus a big health risk compared to the others.

4. Syphilis

Syphilis is a highly contagious disease spread by sexual activity, including vaginal, anal and MouthAction. Fortunately, syphilis is treatable and has fewer cases in Nigeria than the others (fewer than 100 thousand cases per year).

Syphilis manifests as a round, firm sore. While wearing a condom decreases the odds of getting infected, if the sores are located in areas not covered by the condom, it can be transmitted.

5. Pubic Lice (crab lice)

Pubic lice or crab lice are very small insects that infest your genital area, it feeds exclusively on blood. It is common among teenagers and adults who keep a full pubic hair. The pubic lice are spread sexually by skin to skin contact.

You can also be infected after sharing bedding, clothing and through toilet seats.

Improving your body hygiene by bathing regularly and shaving a lot more can help alleviate the condition, but you should also visit your healthcare provider. Also, use an over-the-counter lotion or anti-lice shampoo to remove the lice and its eggs.

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Source: http://www.realfitbody.com/2017/11/5-stds-you-can-get-while-wearing-condom.html

How can the Molluscum Contagiosum be treated? Thanks.

blackbeau1:
Then u make her understand who she is . It's your job to raise a decent daughter . Do your best and plant the seeds in her.

I can't say you haven't been bleeped many times. Just look at your profile girl. It's telling me a lot. You're opening your to talk of how to raise a decent girl by inputting stuffs into her head. Your life is in your profile...

Inanna:
I'd like to Bleep your mother and make you watch.

It's not funny. I really wanna Bleep you well.
Don't talk rubbish again

Inanna:
Very true! Nigerians are just very hypocritical creatures. The legal/justice system plus the jokers who made the 14 year law need to change their priorities. There are more pressing issues in this country that urgently need to be tackled, whom anyone decides to fûck should be none of their business and shouldn't be an issue of concern to them.

Seriously,I'll like to Bleep you

SSBN:
Of late there has been a spate of me waking up and discovering very thin but razor Sharp marks on parts of my body. So smooth is the line, it tnrows away any possibility of an accidental scratch by my fingers, especially in places bar to reach. Has anyone experienced anything like this before?

Sincerely speaking it's a terrible ordeal. It's a person(esp women) disguised an evil spirit called "atite" in yoruba. They come have sexual intercourse with one and leave one's glory suppressed.
Move closer to God and be fiery in prayers.

Kdamilola:
To someone who doesn't support your view, there would of course be a fault!

I never disputed the fact that some slow learners are much better than their fast learning peers. But do we have a system that gives them the required period they need before they can understand what is being taught?

You have the gene to become good, but you grew up in a bad environment, don't you think you'd be phenotypically bad?!

And for the issue of criticism, a society needs it to grow! A child can not improve if he always receives pats on the back regardless of what he does. We should laud the good deeds and constructively criticize the bad ones.

#shalom

Okay.It's really nice sharing opinions with you.. Your points are very nice..
I remain conservative.

Kdamilola:
And don't you now think something should be done to aid those who assimilate slowly in order to be consistent like their fast learning counterparts?

I can see fault in your write up. Are all fast learners consistent? It's not how far but how well. There are many slow learners out there who the fast learners can't contend with.. why? consistency!!!
I know people who assimilate quickly and also forget quickly..

The point I think we should be raising is that whatever system one follows he should develop himself to be pragmatic and not esoteric to be able to face challenges in his line. We should stop mouthing criticism

Kdamilola:
Your perspective, I think! Many people think anyone who criticizes the system are either with a low CGPA and thus finding an excuse or deemed unserious!! From your comment, I can say that you were a first class graduate or ended with a strong 2:1, but just because you are successful because you were able to cope with the system doesn't infer that the system is fine.

We have different levels of assimilation, and thus shouldn't rebuke or castigate those who can't assimilate at this rate!

Shalom

without much words I just want you to know that consistency is key in anything in life whether you assimilate quickly or slowly.... With the system many Nigerians are there in abroad beating others who grew up with a better system....

Criticism of a system doesn't mean the critics are/were poor students. I always want the lying dog to be let alone.

AmbodOfLASU:
THE EUPHORIA OF CGPA AND THE ILLUSION OF SUCCESS

By Pelumi Olugbenga(Ambode of LASU).

An hour ago, I read through some comments posted on a social media platform. The comments revealed how some students were saddened by the potential mass failure in a departmental course and how their 'CGPAs' are on the verge of a possible decline. The feelings that came with this was very much nostalgic. It inspired me to review my four semesters in LASU; with a view to dissect the values that have been added to my life, and if a University Degree is really even worth the strive. The reflections of my sober moment are not far fetched. I will try to make this not too lengthy.



THE EUPHORIA OF CGPA AND THE ILLUSION OF SUCCESS

The Nigerian educational system has passed through some facets. With the Tertiary level, being the zenith of this Britannic model of education. Over the past decades, what has proved to be a subject of passion, zeal, desperation and extremism in Nigerian Universities is the CGPA. Upon admission into the University, the goal of every student is to graduate with a FIRST CLASS. Majority of such dreams, more often than not, dies in the second year into the University.

Obviously, the CGPA(Cumulative Gradient Point Average) massages ego, it inspires smile and induces tears. Why does a decimal point carries so much weight to an extent; people commit suicide for not making a targeted Gradient Point? The society has made us to believe albeit erroneously; that, not making a good CGPA means not making it in life. More worrisome is the fact that; there is this delusion among many undergraduates that a '5.0' CGPA will automatically earn you a wealthy life in the outside world. This is false and quite delusional! Although, it gives you a cushion, but there is far much more needed to navigate through the storm of the outside world.



Fundamentally, the Nigerian Educational System can be likened to a Zoo, where the Zookeeper in a quest to test which animal is the strongest, gathers the Antelope, Giraffe, Monkey,Lion and Tiger and declares thus : "whoever climbs the tree first is the strongest animal in the Zoo". Surely, the monkey will win under such circumstances but the monkey is no match for the Lion or even the Tiger. Given this analogy, it therefore appears that in every society; where there is no equal level playing ground, any result produced from any contest is bound to be distorted as it lacks the fundamentals of a true competition. In this light, not everybody is made for the Nigerian University System. Some are better off as fashion models, musicians, technicians, photographers, craftsmen et all. These people and their ilk are meant to be in special skill acquisition and development centers and not in a place their talents doesn't belong to and thus, may never be maximized in such an environment. Admittedly, the basic knowledge and usage of English is a prerequisite to make headway in a British colonized country like ours. This can however be achieved outside the four walls of the University. English studies, etiquette and soft skills(which are not even taught in the University) should be incorporated into the syllabus of such centers. This is how it is done in the Western world.


Instinctively, there are three categories of students in Nigerian Universities. The first being the so called "book worms or scholars". The second being the "average or normal students" and the third category being a conglomeration of misled elements, who surely have no business in a sane University Environment. After taking a deeper observation, I pointed out other group within these categories. Time won't permit me to digress that much but these observations will be integrated into the analysis of the larger groups.

Using the overemphasized CGPA as a yardstick, the first category, to be frank, are predominantly students whose cgpa falls between 4.4 to 5.0(on a scale of 5.0). These are the revered 'geniuses' on our campuses. They are the 'living and moving books', as the society has taught us to believe. However, there is something paradoxical about this category of people. Many of them are aided by the way the system is structured and their academic success is not necessarily a product of invincibility. The system has made little room for innovations but it has rather strongly maintained a high level of conservatism. The system also encourages cramming. Hence, a student who crams a lecture note and gives it back to the Lecturer; verbatim in the exam is more likely to have a distinction than a student who made an indepth research or even have a better in depth knowledge of the course. There are empirical facts to back this up. The reason being that, most lecture notes images the sentiments of a Professor about a concept or topic. Once a student toes the same path in answering his examination question, he will be on the same wavelength with the lecturer who would then key into his answers. Most times, when students go 'too deep' into a course by unraveling so many things that were not taught in class and flaunts such 'new knowledge' in his answer booklet, such students are most likely to get a C. The 'verbatim givers' are much more likely to have an A. Little wonder why some students can read a singular course material 10times before exam - the system rewards such approach, the verbatim givers, I choose to call them. I do not hold any grudge against the 'genuises', what I find quite bewildering about most of them is the tradition of studying the same set of materials from the beginning of the semester till the end all under the auspices of getting As. Why should I study a course material(which was probably used by the ancestors of my department) all through the semester? This is very crazy. A high CGPA without the initiative to solve societal problems is a WASTE. I once met a First Class student from the University of Ibadan who can recite all the theories of Karl Marx, John Locke, Aristotle, Plato, Voltaire and others. I was stunned and mesmerized by such enormous knowledge. However, when I challenged this great friend of mine to apply all his knowledge towards proffering a solution to a national crisis I posed before him, he stuttered. His initial eloquence that poured out the theories suddenly went into oblivion. Apparently on paper, he is a genius. But in practice(the most important aspect), he evidently appears to be impotent. If the materials you study doesn't propel you to 'think out of the box', my brother, shelve them and go on a journey of self discovery. I've seen so many 'scholars' who starts a sentence with "Am", who doesn't even know when to use "Have and I've". Some can't even properly spell the basic things related to their course and you begin to wonder how they attained such Cumulative Gradient Point. Truly, no man is an island and everyday, to me, is a new day to learn new things. However, when you dedicate all your time on pursuing a singular goal, you are very much unlikely to learn anything new in life, other than the materials, you've confined your brain to. The University is not a place to pursue a singular goal. It shouldn't be a one-way traffic where all you pursue is "GP, GP, GP, GP! ". The outside world will demand far much more than that 'decimal point' you hold high like an oxygen. Self development they say is the key to greatness. The greatest and richest men in the world barely graduated with a high CGPA. In fact, they even dropped out of the University. I'm talking about the likes of Bill Gates and Mark Zuckerberg. What makes them great was their ability to identify a societal problem, think about a possible solution, expand great possibilities and here they are today. Problem solvers mostly ends up being the greatest acheivers. Are you investing in yourself? How well do you spend your time? Do you spend all your day clinging to your books? My brother, you are not an undergraduate if all you do is to romance those books - 24/7. Being an undergraduate is an opportunity to explore other possibilities apart from your academics, it is a time to learn new things, discover your ever changing world, meet new people, network and if possible, learn new skills. How often do you learn new things? By new things, I do not mean the next topic on your course outline. No. I'm very much far from that. Rather by new things, I mean : the needed soft skills, continuous improvement of your communication and public speaking skills, understanding your ever changing world and how you intend to navigate through the stormy way to your career.


The world is changing. The society now demands much more than CGPAs and similarly, academic brilliance is not just enough. We are in a century, Professor Lanre Fagbohun described as a "century that abhors excusiologists but instead promotes the deep thinkers - problem solvers. According to him, it is a century of CLASH OF IDEAS".
The thing is, in the labour market, there are thousands of four-point(4point) graduates. In fact, majority of Covenant University graduates made either a First Class or a 2'1. What will distinguish you from the crowd won't be your result but rather your ability to understand, anayse and proffer intelligent solutions to problems. A good result surely gives you an edge, but it's not just enough. Personally, my best moments as an undergraduate have proven to be a product of self development and deep thinking, with little or no attachment to the decimal point on my DPU profile. The only attachment it appears to have is the fact that I've never allowed it to be on warning/withdrawn. Thus, maintaining my studentship in LASU. Surely, I do not celebrate mediocrity. In fact, as an undergraduate, who knows the reasons for being in the University, your CGPA - no matter how political, religious or busy you are, should NEVER fall below 3.4 or at worst, 3.0! Anything short of that is most likely a lack of seriousness and misplaced priorities. Although, I also do not particularly blame the people that are even below 2.0. The reason being that : many of the students in the University have no business in the University in the first place. Many would have been better productive as photographers, event planners, musicians, technicians etc after leaving various skill acquisition or training centers (as I mentioned earlier). Some are even born business men and women. Meanwhile, even majority of the ones that have the traits of a typical undergraduate are studying courses they never dreamt of studying. Hence, the whole system is distorted. There is no equal level playing ground. Apparently, there is a need for a rejig and review of the nation's curriculum.

Notably, high CGPAs boosts chances of gaining scholarships and Postgraduate admission into the likes of Harvard and Oxford University. It must however be also pointed out that self development, extra curricular activities, politics(student leadership) also plays pivotal roles in gaining admission into the ivory league Universities as well. Oxford University for instance, doesn't admit based on high CGPA alone. A check on their website shows. Likewise testimonies from their graduates. In fact, they highly rate potential post-graduate students who involved actively in extracurricular activities, student leadership and those who also participated in various competitions while they were undergraduates. It is never a one way traffic.


Consequent on the foregoing, I hold no intention to hurt the feelings of anybody. Rather, I intend to awaken the consciousness of my readers to their ever changing world. The world keeps transcending and it's really disturbing when I see many people pursue a singular goal as undergraduates. More stinging; is the reality that your stay in the University is also very short. Shockingly, some live it as if life ends in the University. The 4 - 5 years is nothing. Before you know it, you are already out of the system - facing the shock of the outside world. Most Importantly, I do not intend to portray myself as an invincible or immortal human. I make mistakes and fail virtually everyday. But, I learn from every moment of my life. The primary goal of this article is to bring to the fore : the little experience I've had and what I've also learnt from other people. Having a massive CGPA is good, it gives you an edge to some extent. However, it is never a free meal ticket in the outside world. Finally, graduating with a First Class is great, but going through the rigors of self development,deep thinking and networking makes you a quintessential graduate.

Best wishes.

Pelumi Olugbenga(popularly known as Ambode of LASU) is an undergraduate at the Lagos State University where he studies History and International Studies. He is a writer and a sapiosexual.
Contact : 08160156636.

Damnation for failure in almost all aspect in life is certain if you follow what op has written. To me it is not a well thought idea.. Everyone can't follow the same path to success.. If you're interested in what I learnt from USA which has kept me on the success path just click on this http://t.dripemail2.com/c/eyJhY2NvdW50X2lkIjoiMjY2ODI3NSIsImRlbGl2ZXJ5X2lkIjoiMTE3ODgxMDUzIiwidXJsIjoiaHR0cDovL2phbWVzY2xlYXIuY29tL3N0YXktb24tdGhlLWJ1cz9fX3M9d3F1bW81bWN6c29kZmM2cXd2c3kifQ thanks

HardMirror:
Imagine if blood money was real, we could have used it to get out of economy recession. All we would have done is pay kidnappers to kidnap Ghanians or people from Benin, Niger or cameroon
With like 1000 people we shld be able to generate enough Dollars to finance 2016 budget.
Lol
But blood money aint real.

Only poor ignorant people waste their time with such fables. The rich are busy networking and investing in businesses. Some fools are busy looking for human private parts

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In modern times this would be wrong on many levels but about 200 years ago, nations and kingdoms disregarded each others rights and this would have been a perfect way of generating wealth. So the big question is has any nation ever attempted this to becom richer than other countries? Afterall they invade each others lands in selfish wars.

Some people are not getting it. Why do kingdoms wage war on resources when they can instead use those killed in war to do blood money?

It means OYO kingdom or any other kingdom could become immensely rich through this means.


What I am pointing out is, these things are not real. They have no place in solving real life problems.


Why are countries armies not using african bullet proof (odechi and ayeta)



why are we wasting Billions on aviation when we could sell "OFE" the teleporting charm that people claim makes drivers disappear from their vehicle to their houses?

If Blood money was real no need for oil money again. Lol.

Come to Ijebu Ode and you will never go back home again. You'll spend the rest of your life carrying calabash. I swear to assure you that

what is this one blabbing?? Have you ever traveled out of that your village?? Nigeria is generally undeveloped.

recievesense:
Since APC has performed extraordinarily well in Edo in Oshiomole's tenure and transformed the state to a new Dubai then PDP should not complain.

[quote author=DanceVille post=46981311][/quote]Danceville I really need to ask you some questions. Your answers might be of great help. Thanks

Even Dino Melaye is not HAPPY with the subsidy. He took it to his facebook page to give the masses this HUGE PROMISE.

My sincere advise is for the National Chairman of party to our party to suggest that the federal government immediately reverse the announced increase in the pump price of PMS. If after 7days from Monday there is no reversal, I will mobilize Nigerians from all walks of life for the mother of all protest. This is not what we promised Nigerians. The time is not right and the negative effects will be unbearable. A word is enough for the wise.

How do you cope when the praise and worship leaders decide to sing songs you don't know how to sing throughout the service?
I just keep quiet especially whenever I'm sitting close to ladies.

I feel like the older I get, the more I cry at EVERYTHING. I cry at the happy, the sad, the joyous, the bad--tears, tears, tears. My husband told me he thinks it's hilarious that I cry in every movie we see together, without fail, and he often looks over at me at the end of each movie to see if I'm crying, and usually--why yes, yes I am.

1. Sad movies. Happy movies. MoviesI'll just get this one out of the way. There's nothing like a heart-wrenching plot or an amazing storyof love or endurance that makes the tears start to flow.2. Rumentating on something that was said or fought about--a week agoHave you ever hurt someone's feelings unintentionally and now you just can't forget about it? Me too.3. Sweet gesturesUnexpected flowers, your husband cleaning the kitchen because he knew you had a hard day with the kids, your neighbor leaving cookiesat your door with a kind note. It's just all too sweet to handle.4. Wedding and funeralsWithout fail.5. Saying goodbye at airportsThere's something about airports that make women (and probably even some men) all emotional. Goodbyes are tough for women who often make family and friends top priority.6. AngerHave you ever been so angry that you cry? A lot of women report that instead of yelling or retaliating, tears tend to be the first response.

7. FrustrationTrying, trying, and failing, whether at work or at home, tend to bring onthe tears. Although women tend to be fighters and won't settle until a job is well done, the process can be frustrating and emotional.8. Taking a walk down memory laneLooking at old pictures, watching home videos, or talking about past memories, especially with those who have moved away or who havesince passed, can be quite emotional.9. SurprisesHappy surprises, no matter how small, can trigger the waterworks. But rest assured, men out there, chances are she is super happy about her surprise and this is just the natural reaction.10. CommercialsEven if it's not the commercial's intent to be sad, women can often find something sweet, sad or symbolic that brings on the emotions. For example, a dad sharing his cheerios with his adorable little girl, or a puppy tryingto find his horse friend. The options are endless.11. SongsA lot of women connect songs withcertain moments or stages in their lives.12. Being sickWomen don't like to be down and out because there's too much to do. This can include the kids, the job, the house, the endless list of to-dos. So when you are not feelinggood on top of everything else makes us all emotional.13. Your kids being all cuteSometimes you watch your kids play and BAM. You're crying that they won't be little forever and that they are just so cute and perfect.14. Favorite shirt shrinks in the dryerIt happens, and it's terrible.15. Gaining weightThis is a biggie for us women, who try hard to keep up our shape and eat well, even when all the odds areagainst us. And sometimes it just makes us cry.16. Death of a favorite characterWhether it's in a book or on TV, we tend to get attached to our favorite characters. When they die, there's bound to be tears.17. Being overly tiredLife throws a whole lot our way, and sometimes the exhaustion catches up.18. Being worried about not being a good enough momYou worry about your kids all the time and you want to be the best mom to those little rug rats. And sometimes, you probably break down just thinking about it.

19. A mindless thing a spousesaysSometimes guys can say"insensitive" things that are completely warped and misunderstood when a woman hears it. And when our feelings are really hurt, we'll get emotional and let you know.20. Watching people help one another My husband and I love the show"What would you do?" on ABC. Without fail, I find myself crying at the selflessness and generosity of humanity.21. Missing home whether you live far away or have loved ones who live far, the sadness of being away from those you love can be difficult, even moreso for women.

makzeze:
Please refer to my topic below.

https://www.nairaland.com/3071262/car-been-stolen-maitama-abuja

THANK GOD THE THIEF HAS BEEN CAUGHT.

IT WAS ACTUALLY THE MAN WHO SOLD IT TO ME.

He is currently in police net.

Thank you all for the prayers and good wishes


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how did you go about it to the extent of getting the seller-thief??

SEQUEL to the furore generated by a letter written by the governor of Ekiti State, Ayodele Fayose tothe people and government of China cautioning them of the danger behind granting a$2billion loan to the Buhari administration, the leader of the House of Representatives, Femi Gbajabiamila has written Mr. Xi Jingping urging him to disregard the said letter, saying that it was a handiwork of a “meddlesomeinterloper” who is over-reaching his constitutional bound.The Leader also intimated the position and the functions of a state governoras spelt out in the nation’s constitution against which backdrop Fayose derives the power to lead one of the federating units as governor.The letter in full view reads inpart: ”My attention has been drawnto a letter written to you by a Governor of one of the statesof the Nigerian nation, wherein the said Governor purported to speak on behalf of the Nigerian people, describing himself as a stakeholder in the Nigerian “project”.“Ordinarily I would not join issues with the Governor but as the Leader of the House of Representatives, I am saddled with the responsibility of driving all government business and policies in the House. It is therefore incumbent upon me to set the records straight, though I am sure theletter written to you by the Governor will probably receive little (if any) attentionfrom your high office, assuming it even gets to you.“Mr President, Nigeria as youwell know is not a project as erroneously described by theGovernor but a nation like all others in the comity of nations. It is also a federal republic operating under the principles of administrative and fiscal federalism.As such like most democracies with a federal structure, Nigeria operates a three tier government and adheres to the principle of separation of powers which is both vertical and horizontal. Horizontal between the Executive, Legislative and Judicial branches and vertical between the Federal, State and Local governments.To this extent, it is a clear affront on our constitution and ultra vires his mandate for a governor of a federatingstate to delve into any matteroutside his state, particularly as it concerns international agreements between two sovereign nations. The duties and responsibilities ofa governor are clearly spelt out in the Nigerian Constitution and they do not include negotiating loans on behalf of the country nor do they extend to foreign affairs or economic diplomacy.“Indeed the Seventh Schedule to the Constitution of our Republic contains the oath of office sworn to by thegovernor of a state in assumption of office and it states:“……..that I will exercise the authority vested in me as Governor so as not to impede or prejudice the authority lawfully vested in the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria”“Therefore a governor who overreaches himself and acts outside his constitutional mandate can at best be described legally as a meddlesome interloper.“Mr. President, perhaps our governor is not fully seized of the way budgeting works at the federal level. The Federal Government of Nigeria has a 3 year budget rolling plan captured under a Medium Term Expenditure Framework.The MTEF 2016- 2018 has a borrowing component in which the legislature approved for the President toincur both domestic and foreign loans for the purposes of infrastructural development and deficit financing.This MTEF was passed unanimously, by the NationalAssembly including the 6 House Members and 3 Senators from Ekiti, the governor’s state. I am therefore dismayed as are many members of the National Assembly that the governor would claim that the loan sought from your government did not have parliamentary imprimatur.It is also a fallacy that the country’s debt is being financed with 25 percent of the Federal Governments annual budget as there is something in economic and legislative borrowing parlance called nominal debt service where a portion of borrowed monies in this case about 1.3trillion stays within the country’s financial system.Such are the intricacies of national debts, aids and loans. Surprisingly, the governor refers to a 2billion dollar loan as opposed to a 6 billion dollar investment package. This betrays the fact that he is not fully seizedof the facts of the transaction between our two countries.“Mr President I am unaware of the western nations that turned Nigeria’s requests down for a loan as claimed by the governor. As you are probably aware transacting business with China was a strategic and economic decision on the part of the Nigerian Government, which will be of mutual benefit to our two countries. Such symbiotic relationships are the kind of relationships for responsible governments embrace. The people of Nigeria overwhelmingly elected President Muhammed Buhari to make such strategic decisions for them and on their behalf not any state governor.“Finally Mr President, yes we are a democratic nation and yes citizens do have a right to freedom of expression (though not absolute), however this letter to you by an opposition governor is a new low in opposition politics.I am not aware of any instance in modern day contemporary politics when an opposition governor went outside the shores of his country to oppose the effortsof a Head of the State and gleefully attempt to denigratehis President and country in the name of opposition. On the contrary what nations do in times of crisis (in this caseeconomic crisis) and history is replete with this, is to pull together as a nation in the “national interest”.As a former Leader of the opposition in the House of Representatives, for 8 years, my politics though passionate was girded with decency and I conducted myself within the ambits of our constitution. What the state governor has done amounts to attempted economic sabotage and subversion. I ask therefore that you excuse the vituperations and exuberance of the governor as just that.

SEQUEL to the furore generated by a letter written by the governor of Ekiti State, Ayodele Fayose tothe people and government of China cautioning them of the danger behind granting a$2billion loan to the Buhari administration, the leader of the House of Representatives, Femi Gbajabiamila has written Mr. Xi Jingping urging him to disregard the said letter, saying that it was a handiwork of a “meddlesomeinterloper” who is over-reaching his constitutional bound.The Leader also intimated the position and the functions of a state governoras spelt out in the nation’s constitution against which backdrop Fayose derives the power to lead one of the federating units as governor.The letter in full view reads inpart: ”My attention has been drawnto a letter written to you by a Governor of one of the statesof the Nigerian nation, wherein the said Governor purported to speak on behalf of the Nigerian people, describing himself as a stakeholder in the Nigerian “project”.“Ordinarily I would not join issues with the Governor but as the Leader of the House of Representatives, I am saddled with the responsibility of driving all government business and policies in the House. It is therefore incumbent upon me to set the records straight, though I am sure theletter written to you by the Governor will probably receive little (if any) attentionfrom your high office, assuming it even gets to you.“Mr President, Nigeria as youwell know is not a project as erroneously described by theGovernor but a nation like all others in the comity of nations. It is also a federal republic operating under the principles of administrative and fiscal federalism.As such like most democracies with a federal structure, Nigeria operates a three tier government and adheres to the principle of separation of powers which is both vertical and horizontal. Horizontal between the Executive, Legislative and Judicial branches and vertical between the Federal, State and Local governments.To this extent, it is a clear affront on our constitution and ultra vires his mandate for a governor of a federatingstate to delve into any matteroutside his state, particularly as it concerns international agreements between two sovereign nations. The duties and responsibilities ofa governor are clearly spelt out in the Nigerian Constitution and they do not include negotiating loans on behalf of the country nor do they extend to foreign affairs or economic diplomacy.“Indeed the Seventh Schedule to the Constitution of our Republic contains the oath of office sworn to by thegovernor of a state in assumption of office and it states:“……..that I will exercise the authority vested in me as Governor so as not to impede or prejudice the authority lawfully vested in the President of the Federal Republic of Nigeria”“Therefore a governor who overreaches himself and acts outside his constitutional mandate can at best be described legally as a meddlesome interloper.“Mr. President, perhaps our governor is not fully seized of the way budgeting works at the federal level. The Federal Government of Nigeria has a 3 year budget rolling plan captured under a Medium Term Expenditure Framework.The MTEF 2016- 2018 has a borrowing component in which the legislature approved for the President toincur both domestic and foreign loans for the purposes of infrastructural development and deficit financing.This MTEF was passed unanimously, by the NationalAssembly including the 6 House Members and 3 Senators from Ekiti, the governor’s state. I am therefore dismayed as are many members of the National Assembly that the governor would claim that the loan sought from your government did not have parliamentary imprimatur.It is also a fallacy that the country’s debt is being financed with 25 percent of the Federal Governments annual budget as there is something in economic and legislative borrowing parlance called nominal debt service where a portion of borrowed monies in this case about 1.3trillion stays within the country’s financial system.Such are the intricacies of national debts, aids and loans. Surprisingly, the governor refers to a 2billion dollar loan as opposed to a 6 billion dollar investment package. This betrays the fact that he is not fully seizedof the facts of the transaction between our two countries.“Mr President I am unaware of the western nations that turned Nigeria’s requests down for a loan as claimed by the governor. As you are probably aware transacting business with China was a strategic and economic decision on the part of the Nigerian Government, which will be of mutual benefit to our two countries. Such symbiotic relationships are the kind of relationships for responsible governments embrace. The people of Nigeria overwhelmingly elected President Muhammed Buhari to make such strategic decisions for them and on their behalf not any state governor.“Finally Mr President, yes we are a democratic nation and yes citizens do have a right to freedom of expression (though not absolute), however this letter to you by an opposition governor is a new low in opposition politics.I am not aware of any instance in modern day contemporary politics when an opposition governor went outside the shores of his country to oppose the effortsof a Head of the State and gleefully attempt to denigratehis President and country in the name of opposition. On the contrary what nations do in times of crisis (in this caseeconomic crisis) and history is replete with this, is to pull together as a nation in the “national interest”.As a former Leader of the opposition in the House of Representatives, for 8 years, my politics though passionate was girded with decency and I conducted myself within the ambits of our constitution. What the state governor has done amounts to attempted economic sabotage and subversion. I ask therefore that you excuse the vituperations and exuberance of the governor as just that.

Amending or not s. 36 sub 8 of 1999 constitution still curtails their intentions.
wailers, even British parliament does not contemplate using such kinds of fraudulent power. With their power "there was end to all "-Baron Montesquieu

By Bunmi SofolaAfter the widely published experience of Cynthia in the hands of her facebook predators about two years ago which eventually led to her gruesome death in an hotel room thousands of miles from her residence., a lot of shocking facts have emerged about the atrocities people commit online. In a devastating book released about a year ago, Choe Combi highlighted cases of teenagers who she interviewed for her book , who are caught in the webs of internet usage gone wild.Rachel, she reported, “is a bright, pretty 17 -year -old who wants to study medicine.She has lots of friends and when they can slip or charm their way past the watchfulbouncers of bars, they like to drink cocktails and enjoy being nearly grown up. She gets on with her parents and younger brother and her teachers praise her. Once a week, usually Sunday night, she performs solo sex acts on camera for a man she hasnever met called David. After talking to her online for aboutthree months, David persuaded Rachel to start what she calls ‘the sex stuff’. He now has enough ‘sex stuff’ of Rachel on tape that she feels she can neither break contact with him nor stop doing what he asked of her.“Michael has just turned 16. He has been watching hard-core pornography since he was 12 on either the laptop or iPhone that his parents bought for him. He has, by his own admission, seen ‘every sex act known to man’ in his pornography- viewing career, though he is yet to have sex. He doesn’t see much wrong with watching porn but he does admit to being unable to stop, despite ‘sometimes trying to’.”A few months back, I was appalled when the graphic picture of an adult who should know better popped up on my WhatsApp. The foolish woman, naked and spread-eagled was supposedto have posed for a lover whoforgot to delete the evidence.His snoopy wife got hold of his phone and off-loaded the picture on facebook for all to see. Heavens know what could have happened to her as a few months later, the same picture was posted, with a different caption alleging she’d since committed suicide. That sounded like an embellished truth to me.However, these examples arejust a few of the shocking experiences a lot of teenagers encounter whilst ‘surfing the net.’ It is perhapsdifficult for adult to understand what the internet means to today’s teenagers and, therefore, they find it hard to comprehend how anyof the examples are really happening. “For most of us,” wrote Combi, “the internet is a convenient form of communication, a mode of entertainment, which generally makes our lives easier. For teenagers, it is a window into the world, an identity, a friend, a parent, a guide, a bounty of information, an endless supply of entertainment, a friendship maker or breaker, a source of heartache and a million other things. It is something they obey andseriously believe they cannotdo without.This is the first generation that grew up from birth underthe internet’s watchful eye. It informs and shapes their identity and is the most influential aspect of modem teenage life. Certainly teenagers are more introspective than ever. Being plugged in online 24/7 means that they don’t even have to leave their bedroomsto communicate, socialise or meet new people.“Friendships and relationships are no longer forged in playgrounds on each other’s houses but on socii\l media; on facebook pages and other sites where being ‘liked’ in the virtual world counts for more than someone saying ‘I like you’ inperson. Bullying is no longer a shove in the corridor or a freezing out of a friendship group but expressed in multiple texts or online messages where the victim might have no clue of the sender’s identity. Teenage girls and boys no longer seeksexeducation from textbooks with anatomical diagrams, giggling friends or flustered parents, they can get it from films with titles like Teen Ass2, which they can access on the smartphones that they carry with them at all times.New figures have also revealed that sexualised images of women on social media have led to an increase in emotional problems among young girls.Teenagers rarely measure self-esteem or self-worth against personal and scholastic achievements, however brilliant they are, butincreasingly by how many people tell them they are ‘hot’on the photo-sharing websiteInstagram or other forms ofsocial media. “Everyone wants to be an Instagram queen,” said Combi ~and adults don’t get it. You can be ‘Instagram famous’ without being fampous at all in the real world. To be Instagram famous, you have to be amazing-looking and have the clothes and the body and do amazing things.“In a way, the most worrying fact in all this is that neither the internet nor social media is going away. As the 21st century develops, all of us, but particularly the young, are going to become more entrenched in our carefully constructed online worlds and identities. It is increasingly important that parents and guardians insist on their teenagers living, communicating, forming opinions and experiencing things in the real world. It is crucial for all young people to know that nearlyeverything online is constructed or fake. Sex in the real world is different. Violence in the real world is different. People in the real world are different. And as alluring, fun and glamorous as the internet can be, reality,with all its imperfections, is so much better.

Winner Takes All?While Abe Rosen waited at the Pearly gates, St. Peter thumped through is lengthy personal file with an ever darkening frown. Finally he said, “I am afraid you can’t come in Mr. Rosen. Look at this file,” said St. Peter, “it’s nothing but good deeds, practically every day. The problem is Abe, we’ve got popes, archbishops and rabbis up here and if we let you in with this impeccable record, it would cause great embarrassment to the social order, not to mention putting a few pontifical noses out of joint. We can’t have a mere tailor coming up here with a clean state.” Old Abe didn’t protest. He was that type of bloke.“Tell you what?,” said St. Peter, leaning forward on the counter in a confiding manner. “I’ll zap you back to earth for the afternoon. You’ve got six hours to plot you a copy book with a little sin. Do you think you could commit just one minor infringement? Then we couldlet you in without disturbing the hierarchy up here.” Abe said he would do his best, and in a flash he found himself sitting in his lounge chair by the fireplace in his flat. The mantle-piece clock chimed 12 noon and he began thinking “what sin could I commit?” He didn’t smoke. He didn’t like strong drink and no way would he risk a dime on a horse. He spent the first three hours racking his brain before he remembered the middle-aged spinster in the flat above, Miss Leon. Yes, it wasdefinitely a sin to make love to a woman to whom you were not married. And hadn’t Miss Leon gone out of her way at the last Body Corporate social function by deliberately sitting beside him, offering him tea and biscuits? “That’s what I’ll do,”he thought, and putting on his coat, he made his way up to her flat and knocked on the door. “Oh Mr. Rosen,” shesaid, “this is a surprise. Last thing I am hearing of you is that you are very sick, maybedying. Will you come in for a glass of tea?”Rosen sat there sipping tea, checking his watch and mentally noting that his life was fast ticking away while he was wasting time with small talk. By five 0′ clock, hewas beginning to panic as herealised there was no tactful way to dive into sin; so suddenly he jumped up, grabbed Miss Leon, pushed her into the bedroom, ripped off her clothes and threw her on the bed. Then he sinned. And while he was at it, he thought that if this was to be the only sin in his life, he might as well give it all he had.About five-to-six, he began tofeel life slipping away and he got out of bed to reach for his clothes. He turned to smile down at Miss Leon andsaid: “Miss Leon, I want to thank you. This afternoon you have shown me the way to heaven.” Miss Leon lookedup with a tired little smile. “ Mr. Rosen,” she said: “You shouldn’t mention it. Only meand the good Lord will know what a good deed you have done for me today!”

Before visiting another country, it is always useful to find out what rules and regulations they have just to be safe. You never know what ridiculous rules they have, like shooting a rabbit from a motorboat in Alaska is prohibited, or wearing boots to be in Oklahoma is illegal – this is probably why Puss in Boots never went to Oklahoma.
Australia is not only the home for some of the deadliest animals in the world, but also some of the weirdest rules you will ever come across.

1. It is illegal for children to purchase alcohol, cigarettes or condoms, but they are not prohibited from using them

2. In Gold Coast, it is illegal for women to wear a bikini whose material exceeds six square inches

3. It is illegal to leave your car keys inside a vehicle that is unattended

4. Roaming the streets of Australia while wearing felt shoes, black clothes and black shoe polish can be a sure way to get arrested

5. Walking on the right hand side of the road in Australia is illegal, even if you are walking on a footpath

6. Life sentences do not exceed 25 years

7.The legal age for having straight sex is sixteen and when in the care or custody of an older person, it is 18

8. Changing a light bulb can get you into trouble with the law as only licensed electricians are allowed to change a light bulb even in private residence

9.You cannot dress up as Robin or Batman

10. According to Summary Offenses Act of 1966, being heard by someone singing an obscene song can land you into trouble with the law

11.Joking in Australian airports about bombs and terrorist is a sure way to find yourself before a judge.
In 2005, a student found himself in a court of law, when he found a security officer inspecting his luggage and joked that there was no bomb as he had left it in Iraq. At least he now has the go-to story for ‘dumbest move you’ve ever made’.

Source:chambers blog

A: Just go out with me one time. If you are miserable, I will never hint at the subject again.

B: I don't think it's smart.

A: I know that I am an asshole. It worked for me in high school, and it's been a reflex ever since.

Of this conversation, I don't get the meaning of this phrase.
It worked for me in high school, and it's been a reflex ever since.
What does it mean by "worked for me" and "reflex" here?

And the questions go,,,,,

who pays the price when men don't marry early?

Does it bounce back on men or the ladies?

If it doesn't boomerang on the ladies,then why are many ladies left with no husband?

Good morning Nairaland(ers)

I reserve this space for the prostitutes or use to be prostitutes or those planning or intending to be one

Outrageous
but i will stone anybody that pushes this to FP

Self-control is the ability to control impulses and reactions, and is another name for self-discipline.
It is not some kind of negative and limiting behavior, as some people might think. When self-control is used wisely and with common sense, it becomes one of the most important tools for self improvement and for achieving success.
Self control is vital for overcoming obsessions, fears, addictions, and any kind of unsuitable behavior. It puts you in control of your life, your behavior, and your reactions. It improves your relationships, develops patience and tolerance, and is an important tool for attaining success and happiness.
In what way self-control helps you?

*.It keeps in check self-destructive, addictive, obsessive and compulsive behavior.

*.Gives you a sense of mastery over your life, and brings balance into your life.

*.Self-control helps to keep over-emotional responses in check or moderation.

*.Self-control eliminates the feeling helplessness and being too dependent on others.

*.It helps to manifest mental and emotional detachment, which contributes to peace of mind.

*.It enables to control moods and reject negative feelings and thoughts.

*.Self-control strengthens self-esteem, confidence, inner strength, self-mastery and willpower.

*.It enables you to take charge of your life.

*.It makes you a responsible and trustworthy human being.
Obstacles to self-control:

*.Lack of knowledge and understanding what self-control really is.

*.Strong and uncontrolled emotional responses.

*.Reacting to outside stimuli, without thinking first.

*.Lack of discipline and willpower.

*.Lack of the desire to change and improve.

*.Considering self-control as a limiting and unpleasant activity.

*.The belief that self control eliminates fun.

*.Lack of faith in oneself and in one's abilities.

**Developing self control**

1)First you need to identify in what areas of your life you need to gain more self-control. Where do you find yourself lacking in self-control?
Possible areas could be:
Eating
Shopping
Drinking
Work
Gambling
Smoking
Obsessive behavior

2)Try identifying the emotions that lack control, such as anger, dissatisfaction, unhappiness, resentment, pleasure or fear.

3)Identify the thoughts and beliefs that push you to behave in uncontrolled manner.

4)Several times a day, especially when you need to display self control, repeat for a minute or two one of the following affirmations:

1.I am fully in control of myself.

2.I have the power to choose my emotions and thoughts.

3.Self-control brings me inner strength and leads me to success.

4.I am in control of my reactions.

5.I am in charge of my behavior.

6.I am gaining control of my emotions.>

7.I am the maser of my life.

8.Day by day my ability to control my feelings and thoughts is increasing.

9.Self-control is fun and pleasure.

5) Visualizeyourself acting with self-control and self-restraint. Take one of the instances where you usually act with lack of control, and visualize that you are acting calmly and with self-mastery.

6)Your self control will improve considerably, if you work on developing and strengthening your willpower and self-discipline through appropriate exercises. This is actually the most important step for developing self control.

Source:Succe ssConsciousness.com