₦airaland Forum

KillerPriest:
You made mention of the environmental factor involved, and asked what could be use to deter poor kids from bad habits. You're missing the point—it's not about using punishments as leverage to elicit good conduct or behaviour. It's about conveying in no uncertain terms the benefits of good behaviour to the child and inculcating in him/her the importance of being

KillerPriest:
Don't you think it's tad ambitious to use the word 'many'?

No situation(s) warrants inflicting of pain upon a child. Our thoughts have been streamlined into believing that corporal punishment is indispensable in child-raising to the point that it appears to be a normalcy, especially in a typical African setting such as ours. In truth, it's an aberration, and I think it's very sadistic of any parent to indulge in such practice.

There are various, and more loving ways to persuade a child into doing away with bad habits without creating unnecessary animus betwixt the parent and the child. Or don't you know that some adults abhor their parents based on the physical punishment inflicted on them in their childhood?

All it takes is wisdom, patience and having an out-and-out understanding of the child in order to know how to go about in upending his flaws.

This is also why domestic violence seems to have shot into the stratosphere in these recent years. When kids are spoonfed with the warped notion that violence and physical altercations are the way to go about in enforcing change(es) or in handling life issues, then such a child is likely to batter his/her wife/husband and children in a skewed belief of attemting to correct them—thus fostering the intergenerational cycle of violence.

You made mention of the environmental factor involved, and asked what could be use to deter poor kids from bad habits. You're missing the point—it's not about using punishments as leverage to elicit good conduct or behaviour. It's about conveying in no uncertain terms the benefits of good behaviour to the child and inculcating in him/her the importance of being morally upright even when punishment or sanction is not included in the clause.
Morality and punishment are two words that should not respond to the principle of reciprocity—that is, punishments or threats of sanction should not be why people are moral, and that, sadly is all corporal punishment is all about.

Goke7:
Guys like ffk and reno are the reasons the north will continue to dominate the south in our political space for a very long time. The reaction of ffk after reno responded to him shows how ffk's plan to incite the entire south against the north will continue to fail, ffk is just a shameless person who thinks most Nigerians are so unwise and can see beyond his hypocritical articles and views, he calls el-rufai a friend here and still tells the whole world how folks like el-rufai and other northerners want to enslave the entire Nigeria. ffk has only shows that all his rants with his articles are nothing but political mud-slinging to corner votes so that him and his party can get back to power to continue their usual looting. Barawo!

Reno on the other hand has just shown how unstable he is, he knows the truth about issues but still because of his lack of access to aso rock which ended last year continues to incite Nigerians against the present Govt. God will surely repay him after all he is even a pastor.

The Reno/ffk quarell here is just an extension of the confusion in PDP, may that useless party die forever more, awon oloshi.

OLAADEGBU:
Yes it is. Give us more tips that will make abstinence easy to practise.

KillerPriest:
That a mother or father had to resort to corporal punishment as a means to right a wrong only proves how much that parent has failed in his/her parental duties towards his/her child. Children are humans, and not beasts of burden. Even dogs don't get beaten!

It's easy to beat your child at the slighest offence, but it's energy-draining and much more time-consuming to correct an errant child lovingly by making him/her see the wrong in his/her actions - through words of wisdom and of love. Many African parents lack the patience to follow through that correctional route, and in their defence they'll almost invariably quote the trite bible passage that says: 'spare the rod, and spoil the child'.

Corporal punishment does nothing but instill fear, and fear only makes the child more careful.

HungerBAD:
Still confused.

How does one convert a phone to soap?how does this work?they switch the phones to soap?what if I hold the phone in my hands?

OLAADEGBU:
Such as not putting ourselves in compromising situations.

OLAADEGBU:
Like practical tips that will help willing folks to abstain from sex until marriage.

OLAADEGBU:
Your mind is going too far. I only asked for the 'know how' of abstaining from sex before marriage.

Mylove55:
and if ineffectual buffoon did not mismanage more 30tr naira within 5yrs, pmb wouldnt have be thinking of borrowing now, or it would have be better if ineffectual buffoon leave the economy the way he met it, there would have be enough foreign reserve for pmb to work with

OLAADEGBU:
Teaching them the 'know how', not just wringing the finger of abstinence at folks.

Pavore9:
Millions are waiting to replace them! Most of them are corrupt and know how financially comfortable they were, this accruing from their sharp practices.

Joel3:
this is how it works..

if you help someone. that amount let say N50k. this 50k will enters your mavro account. and it grows at 30% a month. at the end of 30days it will be N70k. so if you request for help. someone will help you with the N70 cash out. the person that help you with 70k another person will help that one at 30days. then u too can help another again and again just like that.

OLAADEGBU:
Does that mean that they think it is not a realistic message?

Osyabj:
It is sad to see a normal igbo girl, obviously, forcefully converted, her name changed and most likely her family does not know of her existence, hence they always make sure she is wearing a full face vail to hide her identity from her family.

just like Ese Oruru's name was changed to Aisha and told "she will never see her family again" This "Aisha" was must have been brainwashed and told she will never see her family again but unlike Ese, no one rescued her from her captors at Maidugri University in 1989. Sad Sad Indeed.

it is said that probably tens and may be hundreds of thousands of igbo and Southern Christians have been kidnapped, forcefully converted to islam and had their names changed by the babaric muslim paedophiles. Many like this "Aisha" has been brainwashed over the years to believe that if she ever goes back to her family they will kill her. Sad indeed.

searchiing4love:
Fayose was wrong to enact such laws in the first place. The fulanis have the right to live and work in ekiti just like every other Nigerian. Why ban their business of cattle rearing when they have no other means? Why criminalize the fulanis as if all fulanis are killers? There are bad eggs amongst every tribe, why do we make it look like violence is exclusive to northerners only. The people we should frown at are cattle rustlers who steals cattle from fulanis and use them as disguise for their evil deeds. The fulanis are peaceful people who go about their business in peace and we all know they control their herds of cattle with mere sticks. Even though we call them primitive, how many southerner can rear cattle for national consumption like the fulanis? Without them how do we see beef to consume? The rustlers are armed terrorist escaping from the north east to the south. What fayose should have done is to forbid any herdsmen from moving around with weapons, not banning cattle rearing completely. If all states cooperated with the FG on creation of grazing reserves throughout the country, there will not be a single cattle left on the streets looking for grass. Instead we chastised president Buhari's brilliant policy in the name of islamization. The ripple effects are the incessant attacks by the rustlers. The grazing bill remains the best and safest option. Not unnecessary bans

flokii:
I have a feeling he won't escape d eventual disgrace that awaits him..

I'm sure it must be d yorubas greatest regret in terms of political miscalculation.. Northerners are better off afterall
I only fear for d igbos or other minorities with presidential ambition.. It's now like d definition of IMPOSSIBLE thnks to GEJ

Sheggy13:
Unlike the other mumu one that commented below him with the name "Fearless Biafra" who was asking if Hausa people use Facebook app, saying monkey dey work, baboon dey chop. Such persons think the best way to preach greatness of their tribe is by putting down other tribes by insulting words and trying to force their supposed superiority over others. His likes abound here.

galadima77:
lolz, haba bros na. u just join everybody for NL come finish us like that?

maron5:

We don't stake games, we post games in anticipation of rewards or something.some of those who won sent us msg via mail,some called whilst some snt us msg via whatsapp promising n promising but didn't fulfill it.