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Do some hard exercise before sleeping. Go running, hiking or go to the gym in the evening

I hope they are using condom. How come one girl is sleeping with many people and another doesn’t have a boyfriend.

richie240:
Good, and I will tell u what that conductor told me that day: let d 200k provide all d responsibilities dt d man would've provided as a husband. Let the 200k provide d father figure, mentorship and protection for her and her kidz!
Shikena!

You seriously believe a man who can financially cheat his wife will be interested in protecting his wife and kids...

emorse:
No vex o. Who does God want you to be? Is that person different from who you want yourself to be?

Haven't you seen people die in marriages? Is that God's plan for them?

You people are just taking marriage out of proportion. It is not an achievement. Yes, it is good to be married if you are married to the right person. Being married or single does not define who you are, it doesn't make you less or more. Marriage does not make you more important than a single person.

Faposky95:
marriage is an achievement..........you learn that you could change and forgive.
how many single moms know how to do that .............
single mums aint wives too.........

look around you and try not to join the bulldozer to bring down its achievements.
lastly, its voluntary.....
....keep its wins and losses to one's self.

Marriage is not an achievement. Whether you are married or single you can still be who God wants you to be.

Saintinoo:
That is why i keep warning guys not to marry a woman below age 25, at 22, a lady know nothing about marriage, a 30 years old lady will not pack out of her husband house because he played her of 200k, would she have killed an agent if it was an agent that scammed her?

The agent is a stranger but her husband is someone that lives with her. Someone who is supposed to protect her against scammers.

tonquendo4u:
I don't know if u all read the story well. The land was 600k. She sent 600k. The man no do mago mago. She confirmed the land was bought in her name o. Inside market, e get wetin dem de call nzama. Or apiliko. The man gbaa apiliko 200k to help his life. Na normal thing nah. Women do it everyday. They give u list of foodstuffs and give u 2 times the bill. From the story, I guess the woman has money more than the man. But he is also trying on his own because she said they moved into their own house and she has been supporting with 20k, 50k, 100k, when need be. No be the money build house. So it was the husband that built the house. So if 200k can scatter ur marriage, nzama o, u are so self centered. This na normal thing nah. Husband de job wife if need be. Wife de job husband too and they'll just laugh over it. The money wey im job u, na for still ur house and on ur kids im spend am on. U no talk say im give am babe outside. So my friend, stop being selfish and stupid and go home. Ur husband is a good man. And he's begging u. For making 200k gain from a business u did. U no de make from im own?

Why didn't he just tell her from the start that he needed 200k? instead of lying

That's why I always advise young girls to marry when they are mature enough and not just because a man is available. If you had waited for a while, you would have seen his true colour and you probably wouldn't have married him.

That's not the issue now. You are an ambitious and hardworking woman and he knows it. Unfortunately, he is one of those men who take advantage of hardworking women, don't be surprised if he married you because of that. Otherwise, he wouldn't have taken the 200k. Imagine liaising with an outsider to scam your wife. What else can he not do? Stealing from your own wife whom you are supposed to protect...

In this situation, I would advise you to only go back if he willingly returns that 200k. If he doesn't please don't go back to him. With all the begging, he can't even return the money. He feels it is right to take your money and that is the problem.

If he returns the money without you asking him, then it means he might be genuinely sorry. You can give him a second chance and make sure you watch his attitude closely to make sure he doesn't scam you again or another option would be for both of you to go for counselling.

CryptoClub2018:
I need a woman like you. Can we date?

So that you can be collecting loan?

It is because of men like you that the world is still the way it is. This is the 21st century and a man is still bragging, " I can't marry a woman who is more ambitious".

It is men like you that will end up getting married to women with no ambition and when irritated, you get a divorce and start looking for an ambitious woman to marry.

What's wrong in getting married to a woman who is more ambitious, as long as you she respects you and fulfills her responsibilities as your wife.

Your mindset is weak... sorry

Mikester:
I agree with him. It isn't low self esteem or whatever a pained mind chooses to term it. It is doing what you feel is right. He has his reason for leaving you. There was no love between you both in the first place. It was just casual dating which I personally deem to have no value.

I personally cannot marry a more ambitious lady because I know what marriage entails and that different minds cannot run a home successfully. Either she unites with me exclusively and follow my lead as a real woman should or she moves on. Else, why do we term ourselves as one body?

We all make decisions based on what we know and what we feel. He knows why he left you and no one here has the right to criticize him on that, besides I'm certain a lot who are criticising him here are the actual failures in the real world, hence the bitterness.

I read the last post before reading this post.

From what I understand, you are a financially successful man. Your wife was attracted to you because of your financial capability.

People like you should be careful when making marital decisions. You should have married someone with the same mental capacity as you, someone who thinks like you and someone who is on the same level as you. It takes someone of high calibre and fear of God to genuinely love you because your financial status exposes you to all sorts of women with different intentions. Women like this are scarce but they exist. However, sometimes, we become impatient to wait for the right person. You never know people's true colours until they are given access to financial freedom and that was what happened in your case.

Clearly, this woman only wants your money. Well, the deed has been done. Sit her down and evaluate what she really wants from the marriage. By the way, what has she done with 30 million Naira? Have a heart to heart discussion with her and based on that, you will be able to determine what next.

As someone advised, don't eat her food for now until you are sure of what's going to happen next, you can never tell what she has in mind. If you have properties, I would advise you to put up a Will if you don't have one yet, one that states she will have no access to your properties, should anything happen to you. In fact, let the properties go to your own family member that you trust and give them directives on how to raise your child.

If I were you, I won't even bother asking what she was hiding in the phone. Act like you don't care. Distance yourself from her until she shows signs of genuine remorse.

It is guys like this OP that eventually end up marrying trash, divorce later and want to marry a good woman.

What has age got to do with getting married, even if she's one year older, she's still within your age range. If she's decent as you say why contemplate whether to go for a younger woman. A younger woman doesn't necessarily mean good woman.

This is a piece of advice from a woman.

Thank me later.

Don Jazzy papa fine pass am

Aunty Tiwa, you sure say no be your new lover film this NATURAL something?

Jokes apart, women of high standing should be aware that there are different types of men out there, some with good motives, some with bad motives, narcissists, psychopath, sociopath, name them.

Don't allow any man into your life, especially celebrities, women from rich homes, women with high paying jobs, highly educated women, you have to be strict. How is it possible that someone recorded you having sex without either you or your lover knowing? If you actually knew about it then you should have known that it could be used against you.

From your write up, it shows you don't deserve this girl.

You are a manipulator. You think say she be mumu because she love you. She's more intelligent than you think. You are one of those who think they are smart but end up finding someone to outsmart you. If you want to be in a relationship with this kind of woman you better stop your tricks.

What does she need to apologise for?
Why does she have to be the one to beg so that she accepts your child.

You are the one with baggage yet you are demanding to be begged.

Drop your old tricks, this lady is wiser than you.

The man himself, is he working and ok? Before setting standards, please state your current standards as well

Dear OP

Before I address the issue of your girl's brothers asking for money, try to answer the following questions

1. Do you have a job?
2. If you get married, are you sure you won't have to depend on your parents to raise your family?
3. Do you have a career plan?

I don't have a problem with you getting married, I just have a problem with the timing. You are 24 and you have a bright future ahead of you. You need to build your career and improve yourself first. Also, advise your girl to build her career first.

Tell the brothers to start doing something with their lives. Let them get a job, pursue education and start building themselves because you can't carry the responsibility of 5 more people when you are just starting life.

I can see manipulation on your girl's part. I feel threatening to commit suicide and going into prostitution is a way to make you feel guilty. Don't marry someone out of pity. You come first.

Everything is so wrong about this guy

"Everything seemed perfect, he has been good to me and I never had any reason to doubt him."

He made himself look like the perfect guy when he has skeleton (s) in his cupboard.

..."confronted him and he accepted that the son is his but he has no relationship with the mother anymore and he planned to tell me before the wedding".

Lies upon lies, the fact that he has a son with her means they will still interact and communicate with each other. When exactly did he plan to tell you? A day before the wedding or on the wedding day? I doubt this man had any intention of telling you.

"I'm heartbroken because before I agreed to date him, I asked him if he has been married in the past or has children, he said no."

You gave him an opportunity to tell you the truth but he refused because he felt he could make you fall in love with him first, hence making it harder to leave him. He is a manipulative person!

"I don't trust him anymore. I feel like I have been deceived because not even his family members told me, I am close to his sister but she never opened up to me."

Two things are involved. Either he warned the sister not to tell you or that he would sort it out himself.

"We have everything planned, in fact, we have our wedding card sent out to everybody. The wedding is in July."

I would suggest you call off the wedding. This is not a man to be trusted. He is a wicked man. He wants you to work for his son!

"He has sent his friends and family to beg but I don't trust him anymore."

Why marry someone you don't trust?

"How do I call off this wedding without going through the embarrassment?"

Many people will attend your wedding but it is only you that will deal with this lying bastard! You will be the only one to experience the trouble that will result from this marriage based on lies.

"I'm so confused."

You are dealing with a manipulator. He wants to make it harder for you to dump him when you fall in love with him. He messed with your emotions. I'm sure if he had said the truth when you asked him if he was married and had a child, and you have not been emotionally invested in him you would have been in a better position to make this decision,

famzynet:
Please is there any helpful update or info about someone who has paid for tier 2 visa but yet to attend biometrics before TLS centres got closed. The 60days period given him to attend biometrics from time of application will soon end. He is scared of what the faith of the money paid for IHS and visa will be after expiration of time given to attend biometrics.

No, I don't think this will be a problem. When the visa application centre reopens, he will be rescheduled for a new appointment. It's not his fault that they closed the visa application centre as a result of the coronavirus pandemic. In fact, the majority of visa application centres around the world have been closed as a result of the coronavirus pandemic.

It's very easy to dump her. Call her family members and your family members to an urgent meeting without telling them the details. Make sure she is present in that meeting. Take her unaware. Explain your situation and show them proof that she is a cheat. Such people are meant to be disgraced openly.

Don't even think about resolving anything with her. Move on with your life.

God loves you so much that he revealed her true colours so you don't make a mistake.

You will find someone better.

It's very easy to dump her. Call her family members and your family members to an urgent meeting without telling them the details. Make sure she is present in that meeting. Take her unaware. Explain your situation and show them proof that she is a cheat. Such people are meant to be disgraced openly.

Don't even think about resolving anything with her. Move on with your life.

God loves you so much that he revealed her true colours so you don't make a mistake.

You will find someone better.

royalzee:
Pls do we have anyone in the house that graduated from UNISA ( University of South-Africa ) and has evaluated his / her credentials through WES ?? If yes, pls how did you go about applying for your Academic transcript from UNISA...

It depends on the type of degree you got from Unisa. Do you have a honours, masters or PhD from Unisa? If it's a postgraduate degree, then you need to contact someone from Masters and Doctorate. I recently got my PhD evaluation from WES, although it took three months for Unisa to respond to my request. I'm not sure if it's appropriate for me to include the contact of of the guy that eventually helped me on this platform, but I have sent you a DM request, I can send the contact of the guy. I didnt pay a dime for him to get the transcript across to WES, and I got confirmation from WES the same day he replied.

tzetzefly: Nope, it has no link whatsoever....

Thanks tzetzefly.

Hi everyone,

I applied for dv lottery 2014 and I was not selected. I intend to apply for a us visit visa. I want to find out if my application for the dv lottery will affect my chances of getting a visa. Thanks

ernestleon
Like oliver twist more questions on my mind lol....I have been living in Italy for almost 2years according to the travel website instructions I have to take a police report from the Italian authorities but someone told me I also have to take a Nigerian police report.How true is that?

Yes. you need a Nigerian police report, if you lived in Nigeria for at least six months after you turned 16

I was not selected, glory be to God all the same. Congrats to those who were selected.

@I_hate_nja

nahhh.....adesoji said the same....it happened to most dv 2013 winners

Does that mean there could be more selections later on as eazzy wayne said

justi4jesu My fellow dv 2014 winners! DOUBLE PORTION TO NEXT LEVELS is ours during the selection In Jesus Name. When you run out of rope! It is time to grab unto FAITH...

Amen!

Miss_Goldie007: Hi everyone, its my first post here, I applied for the DV-2014 lottery, its my first time and I know that it will surely be my last by the grace of God... And each and everyone of us here will surely testify to the goodness of God cuz we will be selected...Amen..

Amen!

We shall all testify of God's goodness on the 1st of May in Jesus Name!!!!