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10. Broadstairs, Kent

We live in a huge and spectacular world, but one cannot deny the beauty of our very own Britain. Ross Anderson, Director of Fine & Country Canterbury said, “I have lived in Broadstairs, Kent, all of my life; it is where I live, work and have raised my family. An idyllic seaside town with seven sandy bays to choose from, ideal in the summer for days on the beach or a brisk walk with the dog along the cliff top on a cool winter’s morning. Fast links to London from the local train station and outstanding infant, junior and secondary schools make Broadstairs the perfect location for a starting or growing family.”

9. Budapest, Hungary

This stunning city has a wealth of culture, iconic architecture and delicious food. Budapest is the perfect place to walk or cycle into work, passing by the famous Danube River and Parliament buildings; a sight which no one can get tired of. Known for its high educational standards and as a commercial hub for central and eastern European commerce, Budapest is increasingly significant for British investment.

8. Pembrokeshire

Our agents are certainly proud of where they live and work, as Claire Badham, Property Consultant in Fine & Country Narbeth proves. Claire said, “With 186 miles of unspoilt coastal paths and over 50 golden sandy beaches, it’s easy to understand why Pembrokeshire, Britain’s only coastal national park, gets the work-life balance right. An abundance of award-winning restaurants and quaint market towns makes it easy to see why families want live and work here.”

7. Dubai

For those who adore the heat, Dubai will suit you perfectly. It has year-round sunshine, intriguing deserts, beautiful beaches, luxurious hotels and shopping malls, fascinating heritage attractions and a thriving business community. Dubai holds multiple titles, including host to the tallest building in the world, the Burj Khalifa, the world’s only seven-star hotel, the Burj Al-Arab, and most importantly, Dubai is considered to be the safest city in the world.

6. Auckland, New Zealand

Known for its incredible scenery, reflective lakes and adventure opportunities, New Zealand has an idyllic climate to suit every taste. Hopping from New Zealand’s cities to its sublime landscapes is the perfect escape for those with high intensity jobs.

5. Croatia

If cobbled streets and mesmerising sunsets are what you look for in a place to live and work, then Croatia is the country for you. The second-largest city, Split, contains a harbour with a number of impressive yachts and fishing boats in the bright blue waters. Alternatively, there are a number of islands to settle on nearby the capital city of Dubrovnik. Croatia has 15 businesses in Deloitte’s top 500 companies in Europe, including The Agrokor Group, emphasising its growing importance in the business market.

4. Victoria, Canada

Canada is stereotypically known for having good-natured and polite residents, making this a delightful place to live and work. Victoria has stunning views, quaint shops and tea rooms and a number of attractions to keep you entertained. The winters in Victoria will always put you in the winter spirit with a white blanket of snow that creates a surreal city.

3. Stockholm, Sweden

This marvellous city’s Old Town, photography galleries and museums will take you into another world. As you walk down the cobbled streets and into coffee shops, traditional restaurants and towards the lively downtown area, there are plenty of things to do to keep you entertained and fulfilled. Sweden is world-renowned for its business proficiencies, as companies including Astra Zeneca and IKEA demonstrate, making it a highly suitable location for your business to progress internationally.

2. Lisbon, Portugal

Lisbon is highly regarded for its quality of life, high employment levels and investment opportunities. As well as an attractive city for businesses, Lisbon has unique scenery and, historic neighbourhoods which creates an ambience of tranquillity unique to most business hubs.

Across the world there are a variety of beautiful and unique places to live and work which offer individuals their perfect lifestyle. From hot climates to snow-filled winters, and busy cities to vast forests, our list explores them all. Here is our list of the 10 best places to live and work in the world.
http://www.fineandcountry.com/uk/blog/post/1507902322/best-places-to-live-and-work-in-the-world?utm_content=buffer2813e&utm_medium=social&utm_source=linkedin.com&utm_campaign=buffer

1. Frankfurt, Germany

What’s not to love about this city? The culture, food and sites are only half the story. The German work ethic enables you to reach your full potential, while giving yourself to travel and absorb yourself neighbouring countries. Churches, museums and opera houses are just a taste of the entertainment available in this sought-after city.

Greene66:
You said you will make it short and quick but that is as long as hell. Let me save others the stress.

Summary
The points of the op are as follows:

- Never date a girl you do not intend to marry in 3 years(this I disagree with)

- Don't carry her family problems. Don't pay her school fees unless u paid her bride price.

- Know a girl worth your time.

- Don't date a girl who doesn't respect your judgement (alpha male)

- Don't date a girl who doesn't have a life goal unless you don't have one yourself.

- Make sure your financial level is almost same. She must be a boss lady. (and u expect her to respect ur judgement).


My Comment

no comment.

you can disagree all you want but ask the young girls around how long they wish to date their guys for before getting married, you will most def have a diff view. @ last bolded, I never said she must be a boss lady, it's good she is. Read well, I didn't say you should survive on your lady... No No. Be the man but make sure she is there to complement - tho majority of women will misbehave when they have some financial sense, a smart one will call herself to order almost immediately. I have seen thread of a lady coming humbly to ask if she should invest what she has saved from her pay/ continue her career or get married and I have seen another that created on here to belittle men that approach her... obviously, you can tell who will be respectful and which would not. Majority of the feminist on NL that see themselves as being subject to the judgment/instincts of men have nothing to their names. With my experience, most times, a girl from a stable background or a girl doing well herself has the likelihood to be more respectful than an otherwise. This is because her background will/ status will afford her the opportunity to visit places, see things differently and have some exposure. The problem with many men is they don't like to be objected in anyway. I have such friends, infact my dad is a typical example. This is not my point! Read that part clearly, I said clearly there should be room for disagreements, negotiations and idea meritocracy but she should respect your instincts in some situations.

So, I will make this short and quick as I can. I am not the regular thread creator on the romance section but I have been reading many posts on relationships, marriages, love, sex and of course heartbreaks on this forum lately…. The latest that made me come up with my post as I planned to do is the guy that “cried for help” last Night.
Now, The Nigerian society is a very crazy one. We live in a society where money and material things comes first. People get into relationships/marry to escape poverty and hardship. Many say it is due to the economic situation but I disagree. It’s just some form of “mental illness” which has got ripple effect on the society. We see it the government i.e. corruption, we see it in our youth i.e. prostitution, fraud and many other vices. We say it play out even in some religious organisations. One very bad effect of this problem is it causes some other mental illusions, a reason why many are delusional, living in fantasies and cannot face reality. We tend to learn our lessons the hard way. Almost every lady thinks the man for her will be that tall, handsome, dark and rich guy. Almost every guy thinks he will land a job/hustle that will pay in seven digits after graduation.
I read a post where a young man said that a man exists to solve problem whilst a woman existence is to find a man, get attached and procreate. Well that may not be far from the truth. However, I think we all have our special reasons for existence and it is very important many of our youth understand this. The society we live in has placed so much emphasis on the woman’s existence to be procreation and are looking just to get married and not to really fulfil destiny per say, it becomes difficult for a man to find the right woman. Based on my own personal experience and a few around me. I have come with a few points to help in choosing a partner and a few things to do to avoid heartbreaks and even if it happens, reduce the pain.
1. Never Date a girl when you do not have marriage plans in the short term – max 3years.
Guys if you are not ready to settle down in 2 to 3 years, never date a girl or commit. This is because the longer you stay single with a Nigerian woman, the more her doubts about you. Many of our Nigerian ladies are not in relationships to complement. I was in love with my university crush and I had the “fantasy’ of settling with her. Reality dawned on me when she left for another degree whilst I was still job hunting. Long story short, I got a job not too long after she left but the trust was gone. We couldn’t get back.

2. Don’t ever “carry” the parental/family responsibility of a girl- Except if you have paid her bride price or married her, don’t ever take responsibilities such as school fees, house rents, pocket money that ought to be from parents. Please don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that you should not spend on your girl. Spoil your girl bro! but there are some things one would expect her to be responsible for. If she does not have that family support and you feel you should help her, pls, go pay her bride price. If not count such investments as one you are ready to part with i.e MMM. I have seen many guys that found it difficult to move on because of what they have put in financially.

3. Be smart to know which girl is worth your time and energy- This is similar to point number 2. Many Nigerian girls are not just worth the time and energy. They are not patient, they lack the ability to endure certain situations, and this does not just happen in relationships. It happens in marriages, we hear of stories about how some women go about sleeping with men because things aren’t going on fine with their spouses. When dating a girl, check how contended she is, is she easily pleased. Does she appreciate the little things you do or give her? If No, don’t be fooled by any love. Move on quick.


4. Don’t ever date a lady who does not respect your instinct or judgments- I salute our smart ladies out there that are controlling what some men cannot but naturally, there is a high success chance for a man’s instinct. There is that popular artiste that sang and I Think there was a movie “Think like a man”. If your woman cannot respect your instinct, she cannot appreciate whatever it is you are doing. I am not saying you shouldn’t give room for disagreements, opinions or negotiations, all I am saying is there are some instances your instincts should be followed.

5. Never date a girl that has no life goals or that does not see things the way do- except if you do not have one yourself- some ladies don’t have life goals. If you ask them where they wish to be in 5 years, some will say I wish to be in my husband house- doing what? How does being in your husband’s contribute to the society? Date a girl who thinks BIG, even if she is a BIG talker, engage her to know she knows what she is doing, guide her through her goals and you will be a happy man. Except maybe when you are asked where you see yourself in 5 years, your answer will be "I want to see my wife in my house"

6. In 2017, Never date a girl you are not financially on the same level, difference not too much-50%, or better still be sure she is a boss lady- YES guys, one of my silliest mistakes in relationships is thinking I can help a girl achieve financial independence without she changing …. Hello, only 1 out of 10 ladies won’t show their silly self when they gain some financial strength. I remember one of my friends that was dating a jobless young chic, she had little or no support from her family and depended on this guy for almost everything. Sometime later, the young guy lost his job- some people’s spirit is so strong that they can pull you up or take you down to the level they are- be cautious!. It was a tough time for both of them. Not too long the lady became financially stronger and bing, the other side started to show. It took the grace of God for that relationship to work. Point is, date a girl who is on some level you think you are, if you are going down, she can support herself without it meaning a thing. Most times, those kind of ladies are not distracted by money. A second option is to get a lady some way higher, the ones cocky guys fear, this kind are usually hard to get but get her and keep your hustle up. When you do, F*ck her good, treat her like a queen and she will be loyal to you!


In conclusion, this is for a good guy. If you are a play boy, you know your way around our ladies. Have you not wondered why many ladies in Nigeria are victims of playboys/men? This is because they barely appreciate the good guy that takes his time to show true love. I read through this thread- https://www.nairaland.com/4138352/girlfriend-hit-me-sudden-news/6#61774805 and I couldn’t count the number of guys that kept saying I have been through the same thing. It’s really sad the society we live in!

everybody bragging about standards on this thread.... obviously a major percentage of Nigerian youths are under the pressure of inferirity complex. Standards speak for themselves, person wey get am no dey talk!

Oh, how I love Rivers state.

nwakibie3:
And will it be an abomination if Muslims and other religions come together and construct the roads? U ppl should leave church alone and face the people u voted into the government for ur social welfare.

do we have to wait and copy from other religions. Are Christians not supposed to be examples?? What a thought you have upthere!

honey001:
Nothing bad in that, infact, some churches are doing that already...

More should do... That's my point.

OBAGADAFFI:
Oga, if you are working 8am - 5pm including traffic hours will have time for any Church miracle service?

Most fresh graduate from NYSC will are willing and Zealous to work, but where is the opportunity.

It is very difficult to be creative in an environment like Nigerias, except you have something else working for you.

@ bolded, change that thinking. @ fresh graduate, don't be too sure. Working 8am to 5pm should not change one's commitment to church. Your point is people are in church because they have nothing doing and if they can have something doing, they will not be in church..... That's wrong and silly. You don't need to have a job to be creative. Instead of going to seek one miracle or prayer for job, why can't one be creative and engage in critical thinking in those hours. My point that many Nigerians can't think for and by themselves still remain.

OBAGADAFFI:
There are also big and super rich Churches in US, Korea e.t.c .

But the difference here is that their unemployment rate is low compared to Nigeria.

Most people see rushing to Church everyday are Jobless.

Most of Churches also got lots of employees who are been taxed by the government.

yes, there are mega churches in those countries. God is a major factor in any nation but the young man's point is Many ha refused to think for and by themselves. They are waiting for miracles. some believe they will make money by being pastors thus the reason for founding churches.

honey001:
What's this one saying? So na church and mosque tax go build Nation? What about the tax collected so far, anything to show for it?

what's bad if churches come together and start building an constructing roads.

Fourwinds:
yes.!! it related to d history....


if those girls had rejected dat offer none of us would have seen this nonsense on social media....dat y I'm hammering it on them...if d Greece had not rejected d Persians., Greece would have been counted as one of d conquered land by d Persians like d Babylonians...dat is what d history would been...


use ur third EYE to see how it align with d matter in discuss

did you see alone in my earlier post now? All parties involved are to be blamed... period!

Fourwinds:
excuse me.!!! keep up dat mentality....d ladies are not to be blamed ok....Tell me who suffers most.?? dude reason well...

USA is what it is today because of d action dey took against their colonial masters....Britain..

remain there and seek for who to blame

obviously, you lack reading, comprehension and listening skills. Did you see alone in my post, if you did not, go back and check it. Both the guy and ladies are silly individuals..... That's my point! Stop telling me about history. It does not relate to this topic. If you are an history student, keep that to urself!

Fourwinds:
likewise d girls acted like animals...reason why I refer u to 300 Spartans...they refuse an invading monstrous empire called Persian dat was established by King Cyrus who vanquished d Babylonians...d account is well documented in d Bible...So those girls have a choice like d 300 Spartans to resist tyrany

There is no where in my posts where I supported the girls!

Fourwinds:
tell me u don't know d history...dat 300 Spartans happened between d year 470- 480 BC young man...So it is not a movie...go and read d history ur mentality about who conceived and who accepted will change.... wisdom is not much in d world after all

Oga, the issue up here is not about who conceived. My point is the ladies up there are not to be blamed alone. Ideas, thoughts make or Mar the world. For the Christians, the bible says guard your heart with all diligence. There is a reason for that. The world is what it is today becomes of both evil and good thought. Understand my point clearly that the ladies are not to blame alone!

DrAdonis:
You really have no right to curse them. They have the right to do whatever they want with themselves.

pls, stop this right to do whatever they want talk. If everyone starts prooving their "right", there won't be law and order anymore.

Fourwinds:
u have a very wrong logical reasoning

how illogical, tell me?? If one has got a thought to commit murder then commits murder and sentenced to death. will you say his thoughts didn't kill him. For the Christians, the bible says as a man thinketh in heart, so is he. He thought like an Animal, acted like an Animal, He is an Animal!

Fourwinds:
have u watched 300 Spartans.? who conceived d idea of subjugating Greece.? what was d responds of Greece.?

this is not a movie bro. For the man to have that thought in the first instance shows he is an animal himself. The African society has programmed our mind to always blame the female gender when it comes to issues as this. For me, the two parties involved are silly. I owe no one apologies for my judgements. Thank you.

lilmax:
yah...we should stop people from having bad thoughts because we can control their thoughts

didn't know I was wasting my time

re- read my mention and gain understanding. you said you will not blame the dude for ''producing his thoughts to actions''. for instance, I forgot to lock the doors to my cars, a thief steals some stuff from the car. will it be fair to say I am to be blamed for leaving my car open and that the thief is Ok for conceiving an ill thought and perhaps producing his thought to actions through that opportunity. young man, that man is as stupid as the girls.

lilmax:
crap


everyone is entitled to conceive any thought,good or bad.....thoughts don't kill, action does..... he produced those thoughts to action through money

I will always blame the party that allowed it to happen, chikena

Why are you quick to think it is money? so if thoughts begets action and action can kill.... isn't it illogical to say thoughts cannot kill. A man produced his ill thought to actions through money according to you, yet you see nothing wrong in his thoughts and actions. stop being sentimental dude.

Burgerlomo:
I just believed that they did it because of what they're getting, or what they're going to get from the dude because ordinary pauper can't try such a thing with them.

it may have some occult reason- both parties involved in some occult activities now.

Burgerlomo:
Did he force them?

this is perhaps our major problem in Nigeria. we are quick to blame one party and leaving other/s when there is an issue somewhere involving more than one person. Yes, the girls may have done it at will because of what they may benefit but the fact still remains only a crazy individual will harbor this kind of thought. Now imagine if this thought was not conceived, are we going to be seeing this. I cant tell who conceived the idea-kit may be the man or the girls. My point is, do not blame just one party.

Burgerlomo:
He can't achieve such a thing if the ladies didn't make themselves available for such a disparaging manner all because of money

don't be too quick to say it is because of money. It takes an animal mentality to conceive this kind of idea or thought.

Burgerlomo:
It's really pathetic, just because of money some ladies are a totally disgrace to womanhood

The man is more disgrace!