₦airaland Forum

ibkayee:
‘Best’ wife is very subjective, different people look for different things in their partners, your personal criteria/checklist may not apply to others. On the topic of your checklist, bear in mind that the fact that your partner is intelligent doesn’t necessarily guarantee that the intelligence itself will be put to use on any of the things you listed, (funnily enough, you mentioned that it's easier to 'get the intelligent ladies to reason along with you', I would've thought they'd be more likely to challenge things? But who knows...). I think you’re assuming being intelligent will automatically come with certain things, and it may end up leaving you disappointed because things aren't always that straightforward.

Also, if you’re looking for an intelligent wife make sure you’re on the same level as her at the very least, lest you start feeling threatened, and we all know a lot of men aren't fans of that part of being with an 'intelligent' woman.

crackkhaus:
If your boyfriend can't do it, it's not my fault.

If you had a life, you would have realized the world is much bigger than Nairaland and who is/is not dropping account numbers on it.

Mariangeles:
Don't they all...?

Mariangeles:
Most men are intimidated by very intelligent women.

You see most nairaland males write about how dumb most females are with words poorly put together, you can barely make out anything, and you begin to think to yourself "the nerve...the audacity...by what standard does this simpleton measure intelligence? His?"
The truth is men are more comfortable with a woman less intelligent than them to make them feel important .

crackkhaus:
First of all, I don't know what you're going on about. You seem to have flown off the handle.

Arrogance, humility... these words are nowhere to be found in my comment. Where did you manufacture them from?

Then you go on to say that intelligent women are usually selfless.
Is selflessness an attribute of intelligence?

A person can be intelligent and still be very selfish, but for someone to be selfless means they have a certain level of intelligence.

LordKO:
Reasonable vs intelligence - a reasonable woman (or man) is an intelligent woman, but not all intelligent women (or men) are reasonable. So, I don't agree with you. Seek ye a reasonable woman who has altruistic interest in you/who voluntarily has interest to pursue oneness with you, provided that you're a reasonable man and equally has altruistic interest in her, and treat her queenly.

It's better to have an intelligent woman who isn't reasonable as a formal (business/political) partner rather than as a wife or intimate partner. If you have an intelligent woman who has crass and expedient personality as a wife, she will drain/ruin you, while if you have a reasonable (selfless, meek, unassuming and intellectually sound) woman as a wife, she will renew you, give you peace of mind and help you to grow exceptionally.

crackkhaus:
This is selflessness, not intelligence.

I was going to quote your OP to make the correction but decided to use hers as my way in.

What she listed and the things you talked about...those are attributes of selflessness, not intelligence.

An intelligent woman who is vainly conceited (usually covertly because she's intelligent) will NEVER be like the woman you people are describing.

crackkhaus:
Can they also make their own money enough to take themselves on vacation or spoil themselves with luxury?

alphajerus:
From what i see here... u aint married.
i would have said something sha but you limited the comments with your big grammer.
married people over to una

ezenwajosh:
I was born...got to the stage of seeing people around me, the only one am seeing was my grandmother


She's the only mother I knew...the took care of me and by my age of 5 she got sick(stroke) within few months she go paralyzed but before it got worse she told me...that my mom gave birth to me out of wedluck and just after few weeks she left me with her in the village and as I already know my grandfather had a second wife who took everything away because her(my grand mother) never had a son and my grandfather insisted I won't be raised in her house but she has managed to put up with them till now am 5 that one day she will die and life will be very difficult for me but I should know....she will be with me in every step of the way...my grandma(my mother) later died 6years after am now 11...my aunty(elder sister to my mum) came back to village and asked me to leave their house and go find my mum so she can tell me who my father was....

I was pushed out AND THAT WAS THE MOST PAINFUL WORDS EVER SAID TO ME....and that day my journey began.....

Honeydenz:
We both cheated on each other.

Most Guys are fund of one bad thing, and that is sharing their partners bedroom matters with their fellow guys. I had this guy in school, lives in same hostel. He had a fancy room, I was watching "Merlin" on his plasma TV not knowing its already 12 midnight. He came touching, romance followed then d real thing. It continued for a months until his friend came around to visit him.
He narrated all our sex escapades to his friend, describing me as a LovePeddler and worst, his friend seek his permission to have his share and he granted it, unknown to him I was drying my washed clothes closed to his window so I heard all their discussion loud and clear. I was really hurt. But I decided to make him feel the pains I felt.
Before days the foolish friend came to my room, acting friendly, I played along. First, I stopped my boyfriend from having access to my body totally, when he noticed I now more closer to his friend he even became jealous. I allowed the friend sex me, and make sure he inform his friend as well, this shattered his ego and before long nigga became so thin. One day he came asking me what he did wrong that I no longer pay attention to him, then I narrated all that he said to his friend about our sex life, nigga was shocked! And defenseless, he was just stammering. He started to beg me but already I have started to love his friend more than him, until the said friend traveled to California, USA.

Note: all these while I was still cooking his meals, I could have decided to poison him if I wanted to, most guys think they are smart, but they aren't.

Zluky:
Na naija students mess the system up. How can you apply for dates when you know that you don't have the requirements. No AL BA or SL. The system got so messed up that even people that would not ordinarily do these things had to join the train else they would be left out if they had to wait . Where did we think it would end?


May God help us o.

Fabcol:
NECO is 100% accepted

olaBC007:
I guess you'll say that again when grace finally find you

olaBC007:
Your post makes sense bro, but... I hope you know if ur mom was like her, you won't be here typing this sensible motivational quote