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It's high time the men are told the hard and bitter truth about their repulsive characters.

Some men are the architect of their downfall especially in the area of marriage. A man, out of the blues starts having extra marital affairs bringing misfortune and death in the family and no one has a sixth sense to decipher this?

Imagine, you have a beautiful and loyal wife and the next thing is how to bring pain and sorrow to her for being faithful and loyal to you all these years by going after harlots ( no apologies to the harlots here sleeping with peoples husbands) and strange women?
The only way you can pay her for giving you beautiful children is to bring a harlot to the blooming family tree you have both nutured for years with hardwork and you expect the fruits not to die? Common.. receive sense.

I don't understand the kind of brain men have that before they do anything, they don't think back and forth of the outcome. They just go nuaaaaa.. with it and before they know it, boom! Things have fallen apart . They will never think a thing through before doing it. It's later you see them running around like headless chickens trying to patch up the broken pieces of their lives.

What have the women done to deserve this cruelty from you men? Oh.. because we married you MEN?

You men should talk to yourselves o. You men should warn yourselves because a time will come when no woman will agree to marry because what's the point? After suffering to build a home with you for years, you men will just use your lack of selfcontrol to destroy it in one swoop. Una nyama nyama don dey too much o.

The other day I was talking about a dying colleague who prolly got infected by the husband, many came attacking me for assuming it's the man. Who's fault is it?

david102:
Love this..... Everything here can also be used for the male child..... We are so focused on the female child but the challenge is really from the male child

Yes, same goes for the male child. If you noticed, I mentioned that boys were more decent those days which was why my mom emphasized on the bigger uncles then. As little children we were free and safer with boys our age then because it was the same exposure and upbringing we had. Boys would rather watch Karate movies or wrestling and then they rode their tires on the streets so they were not really exposed to the kinda things children of nowadays are exposed to.

Ok, How many children ride tires today? How many do outdoor activities? They all want to sit at corner or secluded places and press mummy and daddy's phones. Some even have their own phones courtesy their careless parents who think it's a big deal my child is using a phone. So it goes both ways.

Someone suggested to remove the internet and I strongly agree because it's the internet that pops us so may uncensored contents where this children learn all the bad things you see them practicing.

It's starts from the home.

This guy don mess up before God and man. He will surely pay for hurting May. A beautiful and loyal woman whom God blessed him with and he decided to pay her back with evil.

When I say, I don't want to marry, people will think I'm not normal. Marriage normal? Or how many have remained normal after marriage.

You people should be deceiving yourselves.

For Ikeja, you can get it at those motor parks and undebridge bustop. There are women hawking it around there. Just ask the guys in any of the shops, they'll let you know where to wait for the women.

ZIMDRILL:
There is also thriving from people's eye (those who see from out) eg a woman married to a rich person and she every material thing u can thing of but in the home the hubby has no love he is abuser and womaniser, then the thriving within one's heart where everything is perfect to your own personal point of view

Yeah. That too.

lavylilly:
ko si da nu

Same to you.

lavylilly:
Then you do not have the moral obligation to make any comment about the subject matter

Sorry o madam ajuwaya.

lavylilly:
Share you won story

I have none. Not yet married.

saintopus:
You want a Latino or oyinbo spérm?

Albino plenty for Benue

Hehehehe.. you no well o. I don't want albino, Biko.😂

[quote author=lavylilly post=122176988][/quote]By the bolded I mean doing well in other areas apart from the financial aspect. I don't know if that makes sense.

lavylilly:
We do not want negativity na, share if you have got an experience

I'm not being negative but realistic. Don't get me wrong.

Marriage can only be sweet when there's enough money to meet your needs. I don't know if that's what your definition of " thriving" is. A situation where it's "thriving" in lack of funds or not enough, just know that it's endurance. Many are smiling in the face of adversity hardship and hope against hope.

Again, I'm not being negative.

Even thriving marriages have their ups and downs which only the fittest can survive. At the end of the day, na bills and responsibilities you go still meet inside the marriage, thriving or no thriving. So, nothing special. Just enduring suffering and smiling.

Owo ni Koko.

Nothing is ever good about indecent people. Always in one criminal record or the other.

Fake life that will lead you to your doom.

Any one with info?

How can one go about it here in Nigeria?

How much is it and what are the chances of a successful implant?

Please I need detailed info to guide my next move.

For those who may want to know why I'm opting for this. It's because I don't trust men enough to marry one.
Secondly, after years of being celibate, I no longer feel the urge to be intimate with a man and can't bear a man touching me let alone climbing me.

Right now, I want a mini me but don't want to get pregnant through the natural process hence my decision to go for an IVF.

I would also like to know if I can get a white man's seed here in Nigeria cos I want that Latino kinda baby.

Thanks.

This one na wife wey look like this? @second pics.

Let him not come and cry about infidelity tomorrow.

The way ladies of nowadays dress like hookup girls. No decency. Men will go with their koro koro eyes and wife them. Like are they blind? Tufial!

Anyways, happy married life to them.

I hope this was how they fought to beautify the woman's life when she was alive.

Awkward people.

Ginkgite000:
Thanks very much for your insight. I really appreciate your comment. By God's grace tomorrow we will discuss another topic. Please stay tuned.

You're welcome.

Sad.

God! I said it!
Yul has soiled his hands ooo . Yul has brought evil upon his household. I said it!

You abandoned your heir apparent and embraced a strange woman's son!!!! Arlu!

The psychological trauma alone is enough to kill this boy. The spiritual implication of abandoning your diokpara for another illegitimate son can be catastrophic.

Yul better retraces his steps before more damage is done.

Oyira:
pls are you married? If you are you will understand the pressure of a woman. He did the right thing by getting someelse take good care of his mother.

He should also at most get someone to take care of his Mother in law that's the best he can do.

His mother in law can be coming from time to time

I still feel he shouldn't retaliate. If anything happens to her now, they'll say it's because he denied her access to care even when it's not the case. So somethings are not worth dragging. He should just overlook.

Musso16:
Who would be responsible for the bills?

She na! Unless she want wahala

Good this is coming from a man.
First, let the men stop disturbing them for sex. Men are the number one major cause of this premarital sex issue. I know how many men left because I told them no sex before marriage. The pressure from men in a relationship can make the weak ones give up their decency and give in to sex against their wish. For me, I was able to stand my grounds and not give in to pressure because I had a good home training, which takes me to number two.

Secondly, parents should start educating their girl child about sex at an early age and the consequences of indulging in it. They should also take pragmatic steps to monitor the child for any behavioral changes, moods and habits. A good parent should try to know the kind of friends their ward keeps.

My Mom taught me about the sensitive parts of my body at an early age of 5 . She told me not to allow anyone touch me in those areas and that I should run away from uncles. Then the emphasis was on big uncles ( as little boys were not much of a threat then. They were still innocent compared to what we have now) who were fund of sending little girls on errands just to get them into their rooms and finger or rape them. At that tender age, my mom told me about men fingering girls. So that sort of helped me tread with caution where other girls fell and we're either fingered and injured badly or raped. Even up to my adulthood, I still tread with caution around men. Till now I dey fear. Na only mouth I get.

It wasn't until I finished secondary school that I started allowing a guy to walk up to me. even then, we would be miles apart because the words of my mom was always ringing in my ears and my keeping my distance was so if the boy tries to hold my hand, I'll take off. Like serious take off o.

My dad on the other hand followed it up with serious discipline in the form of corporal punishment . If you're caught standing and chatting with a guy, he will flog the hell out of you and that boy will be dealt with. In fact, he made sure we all went to an all girls primary and secondary school so we don't get to mingle with the opposite sex. That was how pragmatic he was in making sure we were raised decently and I think it worked.

We were not allowed to attend or go for any non religious activities. It's only church activities like catchesm, baptizmal classes and children bazaars. As a result we were not really exposed to some bad things or lifestyle that will corrupt our minds and that was why it was easy for me to withstand and overcome the pressures from men asking to sleep with me before they can marry me. I didn't care if it was Otedolas son, Ill tell him to his face to go!

Another major cause is exposing them to indecent video contents , romantic movies and the likes. You'll see a whole family watching zeeworld. Before you know it, this children begin to fantasize about what they see. They begin to create a mental picture of those romantic movies and any slight opportunity they have they want to experiment with the opposite sex. Very easy for such to be layed by boys .
During our time, we were only allowed to watch TV programs that were age appropriate for children. The only adult movies we saw together as a family were frank Spencer, Tom Sawyer, Oliver twist, Jake and the fat man, Robin hood and films that didn't have erotic scenes like we have today.

Till now, I still live by those precepts and I don't regret it one bit cos it has helped me in so many ways to stay out of trouble and challenges. I also hope to train my children the same way.

God bless my parents.

clockwisereport:
No be when e affect my parents. I no dey carry those people play

M!

MichaelSokoto:
peace is never an option comrade!

Abeg I'm not a comrade to the violent.

CSTRR:
You are only saying this because the husband's mother is dead.

If she were alive to see this injustice, na serious wahala go sup.

True sha. That was why I said, I would have told him to go ahead and do what he has in mind ( revenge) but wetin him go gain? Wickedness..

CSTRR:
Who do you think taught the wife how to behave like that?

How can you be so sure about that? Lets not conclude ooo mama don old. The op should just allow her for the short time she still has to live to avoid a lifetime of regrets and guilt if anything happens to mama as a result of his refusal.