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Darksider131:
fool,mj is the greatest
White knows that

Tellemall:
That certainly did not make you feel better.

Allow us to say what we know about Nigerians. You are afraid/upset/mock excited that you've been uncovered.

If you have nothing other than claiming 'it is a generalization' to say, then save your codswallop for yourselves. We're sick of hearing how uniquely you guys operate as textbook case studies. It's a "hypocritical" generalization that everybody happens to know. Do tell why we all have individual experiences of it.

Uninterested in your mentions henceforth.

keepingmum:
Angela you really need to stop painting Nigerian women as evil...Nobody has painted Americans and British men as vile and evil when they misbehave.....JUST STOP IT.
If Nigerians are so bad, pray tell what are you still doing associating with nigerians or even commenting a forum predominantly tailored towards Nigerians and Nigeria?
When you had issues with your ex and was initially seeking answers years back, i was one of those who advised you that he is probably married and everyone rallied round you.
How many nigerians have you seen on this particular post praising the Op's spouse? We all condemn his actions....that you had a bad experience with 2 nigerians doesnt mean an entire nation of almost 200million are bad eggs..

We can all sit her and comment on how trailer trash, vile, loose and uncouth American women are after watching a bit of 90 days fiance, or Real housewives or Jerry Springer but we dont!!

IF you cant pass your message (which you already have btw) without making negative conclusions with no statistical figures to back up your claims please GET OUTTTTTTTTTT of this forum..... Mtshewwwwww

Tellemall:
Nigerians are cheats, both their men and women. They only want to be with foreigners for their money. If you don't spend on them they will not like you. And they always run back to Nigeria to have relationships with other people because the only people who can satisfy them are their selves, so that they can cheat each other and nobody is offended.

peacefull:
Your ex husband is heartless man

peacefull:
Maybe my problem is now I can't think he is bad person or bad husband and if he is married in Nigeria because of culture or his family, I can't think his fault. I think maybe that is my problem. Very confusing
How can I find out if he is already married or not. Only check his phone? Can I get some paper from Nigeria?

sparkle7:
Hell no! That is not our culture. Our culture forbids having 2 wives. And especially if the wives dont know that they are married to the same man.
If you want to know if he has a wife then do any of the following. >> Tell him you want to check his contacts and messages. If he has nothing to hide, he should give it to you willingly. But if he got some bad things he is hiding, he will refuse. Then maybe delete those chat or messages before giving it to you. Now if he agrees, Hurray! You are ready to know the truth. Messages is more revealing than contacts. Just make it romantic, sit with him and scroll through his messages together. Ask him questions like who is this guy? Point to a chat he had and say ' who is that lady? ' then watch his reaction. He might start stammering or take a long silence before answering. That means he is trying to cook up a lie to tell you.
>> Next go through his Gallery. Say you wanna see his handsome pictures. Then go through every picture. If you see any lady picture ask him funny and witty ' Who is that beautiful lady? ' >> Use some Psychology tricks on him. Its all over the internet. Or maybe reverse-psychology but i doubt that would work. >> Next thing you can try is pretending you know that truth about his nigerian wife by saying after a cool evening.
You: I know you married Amaka. Now tell me, how many kids did you guys have? >> He will of course deny that. >> Just say with a smile: ' I already know the truth ' stand immediately and leave, go do some chores pretending you never just had a conversation. Dont raise up the issue again for the mean time. Make sure you do this with Seriousness and a little touch of cheerfulness. >> Now what you are doing is trying to build up Suspense. In His mind if guilty, he will ask himself ' What truth does she know? Have she found out? Did my friend spill the beans to her? Who told her? ' >> He might go to you in the kitchen and ask ' What do you know? ' or ' What truth are you talking about? ' or ' What exactly are you talking about? ' If he ask you this, just know that he is feeling guilty but want to hear how you knew he had a wife. >> If he is not guilty. He might try to reveal that he never had a wife by saying ' I swear I didnt marry in Nigeria ' or ' You are the only woman am married to ' thats it. You have your answers. Note: amaka is a general and widely used igbo Female name. He will be shocked that you know this. And if he is guilty, he will be more shocked that you already know a lot about his background. And that can destabilize him.
>> Next thing you do is make friends with his Nigerian friends. Now when i Mean make Friends, I mean very tight/close friends. Females preferably if any. Nigerian females are quite good talkatives and cant keep a secret. Chances are that they say the truth unknowingly when conversing with you. If its a male be sure he is cormfortable chatting with you. Then when you have built enough rapport with him, ask him the question. >> Ask him like you know already, something like ' Sure <INSERT HIS NAME> married a fine lady in Nigeria. Is she so beautiful? ' Now this is much better than asking questions that don't gets mono answers like ' did David marry in Nigeria?' His response would be Yes or No. Which is not that helpful and of course they would always deny to protect their friend. Be careful dont ever Nag him

Angela777:
I don't, I still love him but I will never be back to him, he doesn't love me and maybe he does as he is saying he loves me, I can't live with a negative person who is destroying himself and also is destroying my life. It is what it is.

Angela777:
He has no ballz as he is a stupid cheat, he brought all kind of problems upon himself and he run back to Africa losing his green card and closing his way back to America.

Angela777:
It is funny, my ex also said he is a Christian and he has 1 child only, his woman abandoned them, he is a single father yet in real life he had 3 women with a child in each one in Africa and when he came to marry me, he was planning 2 traditional weddings with 2 of them and sending money to them from my credit card, paying a tourist visa to one of them using my credit card. US embassy saw it all and denied the woman's visa twice, they even see from each account was paid her visa fees. Once she was denied, she opened her big mouth, then the other woman too and both said he should go back or they send the police on him and tell to US embassy, he run fast back to Africa as he even brought 1 woman's chilupd pretending it is his, faking the DNA and in US could be jail for him for many years. He traveled back in 1 day after his women started to claim him back, I was saved by the bell and I was so much supportive and in love as the OP is and I didn't know about anything then, but I don't stand cheaters and I yelled, so he even accused me to disrespect him and hit me badly, got violent. Women when we are in love we forgive many things and we are blind, also we believe any lies because we want it work

Angela777:
Dear, it can't work for a long time just one person giving and another one receiving. Love grows up if it is mutual and Love dies, fades if one way only. As you describe, your husband has another family in Nigeria and probably kids because even his family demands his blood kids and push him to marry to a Nigerian lady. If you are ok with polygamy and accept his wife and his kids, if you accept the fact you are the 1st or maybe the 2nd wife and he can have 1,2,3 wives more, try to talk to your husband and get an agreement but you can't live between lies, your own doubts are eating you from inside, you are sad, it can cause the depression, even cancer, you need to fix this situation the best way you can and live happy with him or without him, your child needs a happy mother and even the cheating husband want to see you happy, not sad every day.

Can you accept to be the 2nd or 3rd wife? Can you accept your husband making more money than you but dividing it between 2-3 families and it's never enough for your family? Muslim women live this way but they don't work and are fully supported by their husband. Is he a Muslim?

peacefull:
If husband can't buy gift for wife, is that problem? Wife will leave him because of can't buy gift?

peacefull:
If sometimes husband can't pay money, is that big problem? Wife should leave him?

peacefull:
If answer is Yes, What will happen if husband lose work or get sick and can't make money?

peacefull:
Wife will not try to support him? not assist him? not try to make money and not try to protect life with him? Is that wife? [/b]

No a wife is expected to assist her husband but this your husband is the type that don't seem to care or appreciate your help, instead he is playing the Victim here

[quote author=peacefull post=76352920]I think if have problem, try to solve problem together. Not always have good time. Sometimes have bad time. Trying to solve problem with partner is not wasting time. Very important. Think about what is best for solve it together. We can't always have what we want, We can't always hear what we wanna hear. Always thankful for what we have. Don't demand too much what we can't get. I'm always think like that.

peacefull:
I maybe don't know how to love partner.
Maybe I wrote it same thing before.
If this my marriage is fail, maybe I have problem. Because love is always hurt to me

Angela777:
I can write it in my blog when I have time and no lazy, and invite people to post.

Angela777:
You know it all very well. I also hope this nice lady will wake up soon and take better care of herself and her child future.

Angela777:
You are so right and friends like you helped me to get out of my unconditional love to a cruel inhuman man. The lady is very nice, soft and she is an only 1 man woman, not easy for her to get out of this abusive marriage, she see it all but still she wishes to have more money to pay for all by herself. If she does, her husband will live on her and even get more of her money to buy gifts to his Nigerian family and go for more time to be there. She is a very nice woman, she deserves better life and better husband but she needs to wake up, some women we are very naive and very slow to understand this kind of abuse, we think he will change for better, maybe more money paying bills will change him. Once my cousin said me the real truth, " Never expect people over 30 to change, they don't become better, they are adults and they only become worse with age." If her husband is a user, he will always use her just because he can.

error4040 you are a good friend, you just gave to this lady the best advice

peacefull:

Very sad again
I know every where have kind of men and women who can marry without love.
Even in Japan now, many women think about husband is just for money. They think husband is their ATM. I read it on internet. That is very very bad.
If I just want money, I didn't marry with him. He was not rich and one rich man who was customer in my work place at that time wanted me to be his woman. But I never accepted it. Because I was already in love with my husband. If I just wanted get money, I had chance with that rich man. But I never had interest about that guy. I don't like someone think like if have money, they can get any woman. I chose love. Not money. I married with him because of love.
I maybe very poor woman. But my heart never be poor.
I know money is very important for life. But money also can make lonely and miserable. Money can make poor heart.
My husband and my child always making me happy. If my husband couldn't make good relationship with my child, I couldn't marry with him. If my child couldn't make good relationship with my husband, I couldn't marry with him. Both of them making good relationship. That's why We are still together. I'm always really appreciate about that. They making me happy.

What I can't understand about money is he always say he don't have money and our life is always hard. He can't pay some his bills on time.Yet he can buy many things and air ticket, then go to Nigeria and stay there more than 1month.
How can someone who don't have money can do that?
But when I said about that, he think I just don't like him to go to Nigeria and I just want him to buy gift for me. He can't get my point. I'm not demanding him to buy gift for me or demanding him to spend all his money for me. Not I don't want him to go to Nigeria. He is hard working person. He has good health. He is making money more than me. Yet he can't pay his bills on time and he has arrears some bills. But he can spend a lot of money to go to Nigeria. If he can buy many things and can buy air ticket and stay in Nigeria more than 1month without working, he supposed to pay his bills first. He supposed to not add more arrears. If I had enough money to pay, I will pay everything. So I will not shame and feel so sorry. Go to office, explain to them and beg them. I'm always miserable at that time. Long time ago one officer told me to divorce with him and try to protect my life and my child's life
He said if I will decide it, he will assist for introduce me to lawyer and guide me to support system to protect our life. I was crying and explain to him about my husband is not bad husband like what he think
Very sad experience.
My husband tried and trying to protect our life. But sometimes something is doing like irresponsible person. How I wish I could have enough money. So I can solve myself kind of problem.

Anyway, I really appreciate you. Really really appreciate you. You telling me many many things. I'm learning many many things!! I'm appreciate you!!

peacefull:
Yes! Konda Bobby. Japanese wife's name.

Oh! Really
If change nationality, You are not Nigerian again. In Japan, can't be multiple citizenship.
Someone who is under 20years old, choose Japan or other country before 22years old.
Someone already over 20years old, choose it when they got another nationality to until before 2years.

TheManOfTheYear:
Thanks alot bro for this invaluable tips. I'll follow your way. And I'm also using SoloLearn app, the app has been really helpful plus it has a great online community of fellow users who can help you out when you're lost.

Thanks once again

Angela777:
Ah, maybe in the eyes of Nigerians, we, foreigners are fool but if they see it well, we are building more comfort, we live better, we have more education, skills, we work well and we make the decent living when Nigerians live day by day, spending on brands and the next day hungry again, wasting their life and trying to copy western style of life, trying to come to our countries to make a better living. So we are not fool like it seems to be, we just have more love, heart and compassion to family, friends and human beings, we obey the law and respect other people which is developed in developed countries.

My answer usually is, you call me stupid maga then why am I living much better than you?

TheManOfTheYear:
Bro I hail o.
I'm still in the basics. I'm on HTML and CSS tutorials.
These are the basics for web development.

From there I'll proceed to javascript and the likes.

TheManOfTheYear:
Hi Guys, I just started learning Web Development and Programming, but one thing that strikes my mind is certifications in the field.

I know Programming is a skill-based job and it's one's skill that matters the most, but I've seen some programmers getting certifications and all that. While others don't have any.

So does it really matter?

Mizwisdom:
Many people gave you advise but you thank only 4 so it means the rest of us wasted our time, another thing I've noticed is you seem to be too ready to pls monikers with 'm' so much so that you even insulted me because of one kid. Good luc to you on that. If this is how low Japanese women are, I thank God I'm not from there

peacefull:
Wow!! You know Bobby? He was very famous in Japan. But he is not on TV like before. His name is Konda Bobby now. Because he changed nationality to Japan. He is very rich in Japan now. Because he made money from stock. His Dad has 7 wives
His Junior brother is marital artist(fighter?).His children and Junior brother also on TV with him before. I watched all it on TV

Fake marriage is crime in Japan.
In Japan, some peoples do fake divorce. Because they want money assistance from country. That is also crime.

I thought We married because of true love

Martinez39:
There is no mathematical problem on the board. He simply wrote a function f(x) = (x + 4)^½ and evaluated it at various x-values (-3, -4 & -5). Apparently, -5 is not in the domain of the function.

Edit : the teacher wants to evaluate the function at x = 0, -1, -2, -3, -4 & -5. He has done that for -3, -4 & -5 and it remains 0, -1 & -2.

Angela777:
psychological control too but they use potions, objects and take your photo and some personal clothes to the shaman, some things in your food and some solution to his pe..s, making love with that solution so the woman feels attached more and more and even if you are intelligent and you feel it's something wrong, you don't like this guy too much but you get depressed, desperate to do all for his well being including all your money, just thinking what to do for him. And it's not because he is a King in bed, he was not good in bed, nothing to be desperate but the depression and desperation is killing you, crying all the time, very depressed then if you realize what's going on, you look for God, prayers, shaman cure and protection, there is I almost died when I started to apply the cure. It is strong, then I did read more about it , I am lucky I survived. He gave me the engagement ring, when I started to wear it, it got me stronger, when I took it off for a couple of days, he showed up in video claiming I should wear it. How did he know I wasn't wearing it? But wearing that ring made me so desperate and so in crying all the time, very bad experience. Evil person.

Angela777:
I know it by personal experience and it feels horrible, it almost killed me.

Tellemall:


I said charm. C. H. A. R. M. What is voodoo about charm? Please don't change the meaning of a word to suit your understanding of it. Charm is not voodoo. It is a quality of a person.

And you Nigerians are the ones who say that you use juju to hypnotize foreigners into marrying you. I would not know that.

I will continue to say Nigerians are scammers until I meet a born and bred Nigerian who is not a scammer/business cheat/love cheat/love scammer/business scammer. Swear to us that you have never done any of the above. Even little children in Nigeria have a devilish gleam of cheating in their eyes when you ask them for the price of something on the street.

And until Nigerians stop treating Kenyans and South Africans like AIDS peddlers and looking down on them, they will always be treated as cheats.

Tellemall:
Nigerians are cheats. Especially in business. They share the pedestal with Indians, then the Arabs.

Any Nigerian with a foreigner always has something to gain, even in a friendship. Nigerians are always looking for how you will spend on them. I cannot tell you how many "friends", even the ones with their own money want you to spend on them.

Tellemall:
The South African ladies you mention are being used. They use charm and acting kind to get what they want from them. Once they have what they want they will not need to keep it up, unless they have something to gain from the person for a very long time. It is never love.

Tellemall:
I should know. I have experienced Nigerians. Not once. Not twice. So many scammers looking for your money. They cannot do business and if they work for you they expect you to just throw money at them. Never do business with a Nigerian. They will cheat you and act like it is nothing. If you take them to the police they will join them to cheat you.

From the airport in Lagos to the woman selling vegetables you are all Nigerian cheats.

Dannyxy:
Hello pcms
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News is that registration starts match 4th, though most schools are yet to release their senate list.

So please let's share our Names/Moniker
School
Course studied
States you which to choose..

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