Acidosis:


Haha... The dictionary meaning of a bachelor is typically a man who has never been married.

But I used the word in that context to mean a single man perfectly and financially suited to live independently in his own apartment or home.

I now understand your context.
I think some guys feel suited for marriage based on age which I believe the OP falls into.

Acidosis:


What were you trying to build? The basic thing for a marriage is an apartment and you never had one in your name.

Two available options here:

1. You guys need to separate for a while. You're clearly not ready for marriage. You're not even qualified to be a "bachelor" yet. You're still in your early phase, so if I were you, I will return to my parents home and build my savings. I'm not posting this to hurt your feelings. But that's the truth; a truth I would personally embrace.

2. Hang on and continue hoping for a breakthrough. This is the version you'll most likely hear across different religious setting, but have it in mind that 90% of the people who relied on hope ended up with generational poverty. Like the US lottery, nothing is guaranteed.

Please explain the bolded egbon.

Dear OP, you married her to make your parents happy. You saw she has no income and you're a firstborn, in what way was she going to fulfill her mandate as your help meet if you were to go by the Proverbs 31 woman?
Getting married on a low income is your greatest undoing. She needs to get a job and I'm wondering if she truly loves you and not knowing that you need her support in this trying times.
Who marries a woman without a source of income when he's not well to do?

Tonididdyx:
All this una decent R&P self con is it ;

-pop ceilings?
-water heaters?
-stamped concrete compounds?
-fenced and gated?
-personal balcony/varander?
-big 2x2 tiles?
-Toilets with overhead showers and wash hand basins?

I ask, because in Edo state (new houses mostly) you'll get all of them above and for less than 400 for 2BD sef.

So why cramp yourself in an otherwise settlement and pay even more Tenants come life come suffer for that Lagos?

I live in a 3BD in GRA in Airport road Benin and it's 300k but my sister just paid for mini flat in Ijesha, Lagos 2.15m for 2 years.
Agents will collect 5k for inspection and take you to houses that makes no sense.
I'm wondering why I don't see "to let" for vacant houses in Lagos

Dear OP, you don't communicate your concerns to her. Marriage is all about communication. You have to ensure that the commitment to the success of the marriage is from both parties.
Stop giving her transport fare, but give her a sum to support as she works.
Ensure that a proportion of her income is committed to either day to day running of the home or capital projects.
You'll be burdened when children comes o.

Dear OP, resume training school and give it your best.
This is not the best time to be jobless. You can always change unit in the nearest future.
Retail OP isn't as hard as it seems. Ask experienced folks how to be successful as a marketer.

I sun dry the beans for days after buying then select them before putting in the fridge.

Thugnificent:
Better for you. As a matter of fact, your money is not safe with Nigerian banks.

Please print a statement of your account or request for it to be sent to your email registered on your account. Count your transactions from 2021 till date and multiply by N4 if it wouldn't amount to the SMS charge.
You claim not to have been using the account, your statement of account will show if you were or not.

machote:

If you have tiles, abandon the bed, lay a wrapper on the ground and also a pillow if you have one and lie down, and it will be much better.

The ground is colder and doesn't really conduct heat like your bed.

Found this hack on Facebook. Works well so far.

I don't know how to sleep on tiles even if my body is emitting smoke on the bed.
My son doesn't sleep on the bed even in cold season. If he sleeps off on the bed, he finds his way to the floor before the dawn.

Af0nja:


I can't even dare to sleep for bed oo. My bed just dey as e dey since three days now. No rumpling

Acidosis:


😂😂

Imagine what pregnant women are going through this period. Omo, we are going through a whole lot.

My landlord wants to finish me here with generator noise. He powers his gen all through the night. I can't blame him because his kids can't stand the weather. It's unbearable.

I feel for them.
I wake up in the middle of the night with my bed soaked with sweat. Even when power is restored, the fan dey blow hot breeze sometimes.

My neighbor with his I better pass my neighbor generator no allow me manage the heat with less noise.

Acidosis:
Toor, I thought I was the only one experiencing the intense weather. I wan faint.

As you're sweating profusely, just make sure that you're also raining curses on the government.

We have been reduced to a generator republic. To power the generator is also a problem. How many Nigerians can afford N630 per hour, running that noisy and irritating pollutant (generator)?

With which energy when I'm struggling to fan myself

Lovethy55:
Hi guys. I'm about to go for Access Bank training school and they asked me to bring two sureties with a minimum of 2million in their closing statement. I don't really know people so how do they expect us to just go and look for people that will be willing to stand as surety just like that? How are they expecting us to do this. Where can I go in order to fulfil this their demand...

Start looking inwards.
You have nuclear or extended family that can assist.
Let your parents assist to look in their circle.
No stranger will stand as surety.

Acidosis:
No, I won't. My style is to check IG vendors that deal on natural hair growth/care products.

You see that your natural black/African hair ehn? We will grow and nourish it together. You will do Ghana weaving ehn, you go tire.

You see this Peruvian stuff, I will NEVER buy or pay for it under any circumstance.

Na wa.

Annahh:
I just like it, unlike public university where the environment is not conducive.

Okay. Have you resumed TS?

Annahh:
My children must attend a private university.

Why?

lovediehatelive:


Wow...

A whole 3 months..

It's long o.

The 6 weeks can be endured sha

Something wey be your own, na so you wan rush resume knacking

lovediehatelive:


Thanks for your swift response.

Please don't be offended o.

For you personally, after giving birth, how long did it take to start performing bedroom activities with your husband.

And how long do you feel is ideal generally for women after giving birth to start performing bedroom activities.

I went to be with my mom for 3 months.
We started after I hit 3 months.
The thing is we bleed Lochia for as much as 6 weeks.
Beyond bleeding, you need to be sure that she's ready to resume copulation. Above all, she needs to be sure she has healed especially vaginal birth.

Rejouir:
sorry About the pain, you women are trying o! Especially when it comes to child delivery.

Thank you so much for acknowledging.

lovediehatelive:





Please how long did it take you to Overcome those pains after giving birth

In my first, it took about 2 months because I was stitched.
I still experience discomfort currently but I read it'll linger since it's not my first.

Rejouir:
if the mama can't stand to care for the baby, then she isn't ready yet to have a child. Parenting involves serious alot of sacrifice. Most people can't even afford an orthopedic bed, you want the baby to feel neck and body pain baa.

Please don't say so. I'm a second time mum. I don't stand all the time to care for my newborn. I do experience severe pain in my uterus to below when I want to turn to my sides on the bed let alone trying to sit up and then stand.
The sacrifice of not sleeping when baby cries to nurse whether standing, sitting.... is worthy of recommendation.
As regards comfort in the bed, I use orthopedic bed. But parents can use blanket.....to make baby comfortable on their bed if the mattress is no longer in good shape.

LegitDeals247:





Link to d pregnancy thread pls

https://www.nairaland.com/889053/pregnancy-pregnant-going-through-high/6933
This is the page where someone reposted newborn essentials

Acidosis:


No mind me 🤭

I know right. He needs to open up to his wife about the state of his finance.

Apt.

Acidosis:

Maybe she spent the money on this baby rocker👇👇😄😄

Advise her to cut her coat according to her size. That money is enough for the essentials.

You ehn. Investigator extraordinaire. You dey dere?
The thing is when women go baby shopping and they're not the ones responsible for the funds, it becomes a shopping spree.

larryUG:


You are right, It is my first. The baby is yet to arrive so I may not know all the things needed like the bed. Yes people advised against getting the court that he may not likely sleep in it but then, lets just get it. My wife went to the market to buy all these with her friend and she is a very prudent person. Like she bargains more than me. As for the pump, she ordered it so it was a fixed price, could have been the brand

Well done. I can understand the excitement and anticipation of a baby. It always gets better with subsequent children. See it as an investment for others to come as I didn't spend up to 100k for my 2nd but knowing that diapers and formula will be my cost driver.

larryUG:
Baba, I spent close to a million for my baby stuff.
What you need to understand is that baby things are generally very costly. Secondly, escalation has taken a toll on the prices of things generally.
I gave my wife 350K initially but she bought wasnt substantial.
She added her money and i gave her additional.
BEd alone is 170k-200k depending on the quality. Breast pump (for when your baby my not have the mum around) is 50k in the market. just these 2 items have taken 220-250K out of your 400K. now talk about feeding bottles, diapers, clothes (there are several types your baby will need), Powder/soaps, baby oils, shoes, other stuff, wardrobe alone for kids na 120K. Haba

I think it's your first hence the spending.
Why invest in a baby bed that the baby may not sleep in?
I'm comfortable stretching to reach my baby whom I share the bed with while husband puts up in another room.
Standing up can be so painful as it seems that my uterus and below wants to fall off let alone engorgement of my boobs due to excess bwest milk production. When baby wakes up, I reach out to her without leaving the bed to attend to her and I delivered with no tear but the recovery pain no be here.
The breast pump of 50k, was it the best bargain for electric pump? I got for 35k or is it the brand?
Dear OP, please go to pregnancy thread and look up for a comprehensive list and go to the market yourself.
My husband assisted me to shop this time although mine is no 2.