Good evening, my younger sister just got assistantship for her MSC in the US. Please what does she need to know at this point as she said she's been hearing I-20 and doesn't understand it.

kokaiye:
tnk God i hvnt slip into dt tin called postpartum depression... Dt tin aint gud news.

Thank God for you Ma.

FlowerGirl040:
To put baby down sef na wahala. For days just know that is complete sleepless night for you. Day time nko,to cook before you eat is another case on it's own. Circumcision is Definitely really a difficult time.

You're right Ma

FlowerGirl040:
You are right.. It's really not easy. Especially when eating and baby suddenly poop and stain or it the circumcision period? With no one around to help

Asin ehn...I was so scared and cautious after his circumcision as I was due to leave for Lagos to be with my mum

miracletoday:

Tx for ur response. I m a FTM.Pls enlighten me,I use to wonder why 2 3 4 pple will come and say they want to help in taking care of one baby. What is taking care of baby apart from bathing(they don't baff hourly nah) diaper changing, feeding( u are the one with breast),they can't help unless u are bottlefeeding, household chores and cooking(these are normal normal).i m rly curious

Taking care of a baby plus yourself is serious work if you're not a domesticated person like me. I couldn't walk well due to the stitches, doing house chores was not easy at all. You're eating and the baby needs your attention of which my mum warns me to always finish my meal before giving baby attention or I'll not be healthy.
Cooking and going to the market isn't easy o as you're struggling to heal.
The thing is the baby will deprive you of sleep at night and if you're alone, it'll be difficult to make up for the sleep loss during the day as you have list of activities waiting for you.
My aunt always advise to have someone around as it can cause postpartum depression

Omakraid:

Hmmn, this is serious, thanks a lot for this response ma... Isn't there alternatives for that hot water massage? That thing shrinks abi makes the Tommy fold or am I wrong?
And why is it not possible to sleep while baby sleeps (another mum mentioned it too that its easy to say and not easy to do)... Abi it's because one doesn't want to leave the chores undone?

The alternative is not to do it at all as advised by your doctor but my Mama no gree. I had to do it as my fav Aunt would have beaten me if I didn't but my MIL thanked her for a good job done well as I was looking good for his dedication ceremony.
My tummy isn't folded as my colleagues and customers ask my secret for looking like someone who hasn't birthed before.
If you're not alone, it's doable as my mum ensured that I always sleep and stayed awake with him since I wasn't doing exclusive and if it persists, she'll wake me up to breastfeed. I also have a distant cousin that was with me to assist us with taking care of him which gave me time to sleep. If you're alone, you'll want to do chores as visitors will always troop in to greet baby.

Omakraid:
Happy Easter to everyone here, may God see us all through the rest of our respective journeys and also bless the GTC mums with their good news..

@pic below, just going through the pregnancy stage so can't tell how the rest is like... Mamas that have been there, which do you think ... Help FTMS Brace up for what's ahead in the different stages

As a FTM with a boy clocking 4 months on Thursday, pregnancy was stress free, labor was cool but postpartum was hell for me especially healing from the stitches, inability to pass stool with ease, painful breastfeeding for a first timer, hot water bath and massage.
Breastfeeding was painful initially but it got better over time and I only nurse with one breast as the other refuses to pump well till date.
As regards waking up at night, it was always 3 to 4 times till about 7 weeks it dropped to 2, 3 or no waking at all if there's no heat. It's easy to say sleep when baby sleeps but not doable most times. It's frustrating if after feeding the baby refuses to sleep but if the room is cool, baby will definitely cooperate this is after they've overcome colic.

My aunt's landlord used to beat his wife when they have misunderstandings. His death seemed like a relief as her confidence grew and she was able to set up a business as he was always taking the capital from her to squander causing some of their fights.
He left 4 boys behind, if I know a girl that will want to end up with any of them, I'll be worried for her that the person didn't take after him.
How does the OP expect that the man will be a great father after what has happened. He may have tendencies of violence towards the children each time he remembers her.
The emphasis on the father's role makes me scared that the OP can condone Dv for his daughter because her children need their father. If the man was playing his role effectively, he would have been concerned on showing a good example to his boys.

pocohantas:


Very important!!!
That was the first thing I did the second I decided to start a business. You don’t have any concern with me or my name. The business is a separate entity, totally different from me. If the business defrauds you, the relevant agency knows how to crack down on me, the proprietor. In fact, I am the UBO of my business.

Also, business owners should carry themselves with pride. Except your business is one that involves taking measurements with tape, don’t be jumping bus upandan to meet anybody anywhere. Somebody would na be weighing you and checking if your shoe looks like the attached pic.

Don’t be in a hurry to sell. Confirm and reconfirm your client’s needs before dispatch.

I got attracted to FF because of those tools he sells, as I am heavily attracted to tools and handymen. Any day I want to get a toolbox, I would contact him. If e like make e insult me, I dey here for am.

Now you know why I missed you as I just learned something from you.
You and vawulence in your last paragraph.

limpopo:
People should stop quoting that guy's post and mentioning his moniker nah...
People quoting him are the ones elongating the issue sef..
He already sees everyone as His enemy, so let HIM be!!

Let him do whatever he wants to do... Just IGNORE HIM AND HIS POSTS... is that too much to do?

We'll try.

Esthered:

She's engaging him as we can see.

I don't know how someone who claims to value his name above all things did not open a business account to separate the business from himself.
If he was to be called out, it would have been the business name madam A would have called out as she could have been Transacting with his business account.
As the wisest man that FutureF... is, one of your lessons learned should be that you need to separate the business from you going forward.
Someone suggested the need to learn customer management skill et el but baba dey para. I hope he would just calm down and embrace peace.

Layormiii:
chaii must you add insult the person u quote didn't add one insult to his comment. u and insult and then throwing tantrums nah 5 and 6

May God help you in this case ijn with the way you're going about with the insults

Aunty wa, don't let him come for you o. He even called me foolish while giving my opinion.

pocohantas:


Yes sis. I am getting better. Thanks for checking on me. I feel loved.

Good to hear. You're welcome. You are loved on this space.

pocohantas:


Client.

You were absent online today, I hope you're recuperating.

IamGreen1:


It's ok sis, just help the poor man. His initial stubbornness has already cause him lot

Thank goodness that someone is seeing that he's been stubborn ab initio and now dared them when he was told to give a resolution.
They went ahead based on his daring them, he's now coming to shalaye.
The thing is I wished he allowed 3rd parties settle the issue as someone offered to help bear the loss but he was forming action. The problem with anger trying to always being right instead of playing the fool and let Karma take it's full course.
Now he remembers his name is worth billions.

IamGreen1:



She hasn't, her las comment is on previous page acting unbothered.

She's engaging him as we can see.

nonny400:


But what would it take them to unquote the post calling him a scammer? I checked and realised his number is still tagged scammer on Truecaller. Do you know how it affects his business?

He might not have a great manner of approach, but the scammer tag is damning. I've not been involved in all of these from the beginning, but these guys almost destroyed his business with such action.

The poopypants guy, one day you may get more than you bargained for if you continue like this.

It's unfortunate but he can do better than that. I agree that they went overboard with the scammer tag.
I hope the issue will be resolved and laid to rest.

Moorenic mail me on hadediong@gmail.com as I can't access my mail.

Regards

FutureFocus:


Get out of my mention, stick your opinion in your butt, May be you should post your details here and let them label you as a scammer and them apologize to you, foolish girl.

Agbaya oshi...you must always resort to insult, evidence of low self esteem.
If it happens, it's part of life and I'll accept the apologies and move on which is hard for you.
People even testified of their good dealing with you but you no wan gree.
The bible days if you listen to everything said, you'll hear your servant curse you. It's normal to be defamed but how you handle it matters. Always blocking shoppers from seeing road.
Wise man but you're the epitome and capital of foolishness on this thread as regards the tab and subsequent events. Ediot.

FutureFocus:


You are very foolish, you sat down to type this long epistle instead of just asking them to delete the post that wrongly called me a scammer, you don’t have any sense at all.
Pray to God to grant you wisdom
Don’t drag yourself into this.
Don’t bring curse upon yourself .
I’m sure you will cry if you were wrongly labeled a scammer on nairaland

I didn't insult you but here you are calling me foolish but acting foolish. If you weren't one, how would you know I'm one.
Inasmuch as you were labelled a scammer, I still see people patronizing you regardless which invalidates whatever you're called to an extent.
You need to pray for wisdom more.
You can't curse me oga, you'll do yourself more harm than good if you try me.
If I'm labelled a scammer, I'll do everything to prove people wrong by holding the highest form of integrity in my dealings and handling issues effectively before they escalate and damage my brand.
You just open your buccal cavity to be insulting people anyhow. I'm not on your payroll neither have I solicited anything from you. I only gave my honest opinion and if you insult me, I would do same as no be only you get craze here.

Wait O, this FutureFocus, I hope you're not hiding under the cloak of christianity to practice evil.
The Lord's prayer talks about forgiveness, but you seem so bitter that you are on a cursing spree.
How do you go before the throne of grace to make supplications while still cursing people. Your type brings a discredit to the religion.
I thought someone mentioned that you're mature in age but I don't see it in your handling of issues here.
You seem like someone who will be assassinating opponents if he had an opportunity.
I've been following the brouhaha but honestly you've lost my respect, who the tin epp sef.
I wonder the kind of example you show your children.
I know that it's poor people that always wake up to curse sha from experience and their level of attainment in life is always limited.
The mods should take action as it has lingered for too long. I'm sure he broke the rules this time.

Rubyjade:
Indian companies are even the worst

So I heard.

The OP is just being defensive. Even though you're trying to be religious about it, just as stated above you didn't engage in a heart to heart conversation to enable the student know the consequences of their actions if they continue.
They say when you beat a child, you use your other hand to extend love to the child.
I recently learned that when I'm beating my cousin in the name of discipline, I may just be beating her out of anger and not discipline. I'd rather talk to her as she always remember what anyone tells her as consequences of bad behavior.
The student may still commit the same offense with the thought that the consequence is the beating only.
You can do better.

alcuin:
And they didn't add banks?

Do have any experience, share it as I know that they have a strong culture that puts it in check to an extent.

It's about the organization and their culture. Where I work, toxicity isn't allowed. I've heard of a senior staff (mgt grade) that was forced to resign as her junior colleague reported her for her shitty attitude as she was said to always talk down on people. She was supposed to be dismissed but they rather advised her to resign.
I've worked in a Lebanese company where the MD would call Team members derogatory names during meetings and give them the insult of their lives and it's a group of companies.
The thing is people need the job to pay bills and will rather bear than leaving.
We don't have strong institutions here to enforce the laws that prevent workplace toxicity from happening or keeps it at the barest minimum.

Beltz:
Then the so called pastor does not know the scripture and also does not know in whom he believes.

Okay

UyaiIncomparabl:


It is very true, my sister. Truth be told, we have one of the most primitive and unnecessary traditions ever heard of. Just deciding not to hold your marriage in your ancestral home can make them invoke spirits. Even burial rites too aren't to be joked with just like marriage rites.

A particular family was wiped out, I mean an entire generation was eliminated because they refused to bury their grandfather in a way that suited the village people. I can't imagine.

It's best we give to Caesar what belongs to Caesar. My former pastor preaches that in one of The Apostolic Church dominated by AkwaCross assembly.

UyaiIncomparabl:


Not in Akwa-Ibom. All it takes for those jobless uncles and grandfathers is to use "Schnapps" to invoke spirits and your life will never remain the same.

I still struggle to believe it happens but my parents always sight instances.
I didn't want my trad in the village but the thought of wicked people and invoking.....I respected my parents wish.
I know of a relation with back to back death of their children till the man was advised by my mum to pay her dowry and they'll raise children in good health.
They heeded to her advise and they recorded no death of their offspring till date.

kokaiye:
Time 4 my BS!!!!!! YES!!!

As my prince charming dey sleep, mk i use dt time write my BS (its like my baby go like sleep gan ooo, mk i no complain cs e good , i c y guy man no dey move much 4 belle )

To my story.

So i ve being having contraction since 34weeks but d contractn only happen in d midnight, me no dey worry cs e too early... But at d same time guy man no dey move much except i rob my belly n e will move to where i touch, dtz one of d signs i knw dt all is well by 35weeks 5days i was worried about his movement so i went to d hospital..


End of BS.

Congrats Ma.....may God strengthen you to nurture your LO and he's blessed.
Congrats lengendsmother and others that just birthed their LOs

Ephetar:


MIL is around... most times wifey and baby are in her room but once I wake up that's the end of sleeping that night...I don't really blame your hubby o...the headache I feel during the day now is crazy...

I think you should sleep in the settee in the parlour. You would be far from the cries to an extent but you must ensure that that you check up on them when you wake up to use the restroom or find it difficult to fall asleep after waking up and lending a helping hand where necessary.
My son still wakes up at night to feed but it used to be like 3 times before daybreak till 7 weeks but it has reduced to once or twice. Just be patient.

Just as advised above, you can also try and send them to your MIL or your mum whoever is nearer.
I left Benin to be with my mum in Lagos on the 12th day after delivery so that I wouldn't be alone as my husband was already falling sick due to the stress.

thatthickgurl:



There were no signs. He doted over me. Calling every day, most times, we speak for 5 hours at a stretch. He knew my every movement. Always concerned. He will pray for me.

I didn't see this coming, never thought he was that kind of person

It happens but you have to get over it.
It's ideal to grieve but your recovery is in your hands. If you harm yourself, baba will definitely move on and be living his best life without you and nobody will lynch him for your how you chose to deal with the pain.