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deeza4mum:
I will advise you just start afresh by using different email. Hope you have not submitted that one?

thanks

Please I have some issue and I need assistant from anyone, I pick the wrong position but now I need to change before i will submit my application, but am unable to do the changes because the position category is not showing, just blank. Thanks.

Boboye4slim:
You're right that's true. My parent were so thick on me and my sibs. But e no matter to me o cuz instead of bcoming insecure I turn to one big sarcastic and annoying happy guy. Our parent gives us the the tough love thingy. And hello!! your so beautiful and that smile is a wow wow killer smile

thanks ,

Boboye4slim:
Just kuku tell me not to say a word to my child from childhood till he/she grow old. You complicate lives with articles like this. They aren't practical.

we see the article difficult to do because of our upbringing, many children suffer from it without sharing their pain with their parents because of fear, most children fear their parents than respect and love, it is not a difficult thing to do but to practice some of it in our daily life, you don't need to have a child first before outing on it, but start with children around you.

25 Things NOT To Say To Your Kids

OCTOBER 13, 2016 BY ROBYN REISCH


“Perhaps it takes courage to raise children,” wrote John Steinbeck in East of Eden. Boy, does it ever! We need courage to love, to lead, and to nurture. Sometimes we need courage just to make it through the day.
“Intelligence is sexy” t-shirt?!



MOST DIFFICULT OF ALL IS FINDING THE COURAGE TO ADMIT WHEN WE ARE WRONG. OFTEN, WE SAY THINGS OUT OF HABIT, FRUSTRATION, OR EVEN GOOD INTENTIONS THAT JUST AREN’T HELPFUL. WE CAN’T TAKE OUR WORDS BACK – BUT WE CAN STOP SAYING THEM NOW.

Here are 25 things that your child does not need to hear from you:

“DON’T BE SAD/MAD/UPSET.”

We can’t help the way we feel. Teach your child do work through their emotions rather than denying them.

“YOU’RE A MUCH BETTER READER THAN KEVIN!”

Don’t encourage your child to compare themselves to their friends. Help them focus on their own growth. They don’t need to validate themselves at the expense of others.

“YOU’RE MY PERFECT ANGEL!”

This makes your child believe that you expect perfection from them. According to an Ohio State University study, this can lower your child’s self-esteem and promote a fear of failure. Instead, love them in their imperfection.



“WHY CAN’T YOU BE MORE LIKE CLAIRE?”

Your child is unique, wonderful, and special. Encourage them to be the best version of themselves – not a second-rate copy of somebody else.

“I CAN’T SAY NO TO YOU, SWEETHEART!”

Children need boundaries to feel safe and develop good behavioral skills. Don’t be afraid to discipline your child.
Research Shows that Problem Children make Better Adults

“I KNOW YOU DIDN’T MEAN TO KICK YOUR BROTHER.”

Um, yes they did. Find out why.

“I TOLD YOU SO.”

How do you like to hear this as an adult? If you have the opportunity to say this phrase, there’s a good chance your child has already learned from their mistake.

“YOU OUGHT TO BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF!”

According to a University of Michigan study, children who are shamed become defiant and aggressive.

“THIS IS HOW WE’VE DISCIPLINED CHILDREN IN THIS FAMILY FOR GENERATIONS. I TURNED OUT JUST FINE.”

The idea that something has always been done a certain way is NOT a good reason to keep doing it.

“AS LONG AS YOU LIVE HERE, YOU WILL LIVE BY MY RULES.”

Your child might take you up on this threat and run away. If they stay, they will feel trapped and unwelcome in their own home.
Unplug Your Kids: Why Tech-Free Time Is So Important For Adolescents

“DON’T MAKE ME CANCEL CHRISTMAS/TURN THIS CAR AROUND/SEND YOU TO MILITARY SCHOOL!”

When you make threats you cannot or will not enforce, you undermine your own credibility.

“BECAUSE I SAID SO!”

If your child asks about a rule, take the time to explain it to them. Would you follow a rule you didn’t agree with or understand?

“YOU’RE MAKING ME ANGRY/SAD/FRUSTRATED.”

Your child is not responsible for your emotions. This phrase teaches them to shift responsibility for their emotional state on to others, rather than working through negative feelings on their own.



“UGH, WHAT DO YOU NEED NOW?”

Teach your children that their needs are important. This will help them become adults who take care of themselves.

“YOU’RE ACTING LIKE A BABY.”

Is your child anxious? Nervous? Overwhelmed? Scared? Frustrated? Don’t shame them. Help them to work through their feelings.

“BIG KIDS AREN’T AFRAID TO DO THAT.”

Don’t invalidate your child’s fears. Instead, be an ally in conquering them.

“HURRY UP!”

This phrase is very common, but ineffective. It doesn’t make children move faster. It only stresses them out.

“YOU’RE FINE.”

It’s up to your child to decide if they feel okay or not.

“CALM DOWN. IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL.”

It might not be a big deal to you – but it is to your child. If you want them to share the big stuff with you when they’re older, you need to listen to the little stuff now. To them, it’s all important.

“STOP CRYING.”

Children need to express their feelings. Don’t teach them to bottle up their emotions.



“EAT YOUR VEGETABLES . IT’S HEALTHY!”

According to researchers at the University of Chicago, this reinforces the idea that healthy foods don’t taste good. Don’t make a chore of eating nutritious meals. Make vegetables tasty and fun instead.

“I CAN’T EAT THAT. I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT.”

We all have issues with our body image – but we don’t need to share them with our children. Set an example of self-acceptance instead.

“TOO MUCH ICE CREAM WILL MAKE YOU FAT.”

Keep the emphasis on health and happiness, rather than looks. Your children are beautiful exactly as they are.
New Research Confirms You Shouldn’t Spank Your Kids

“IT WAS GREAT THAT YOU SCORED A GOAL TODAY. MAYBE NEXT TIME YOU’LL SCORE TWO!”

Celebrate success. Don’t minimize it by expecting more.

“YOU WERE SO NICE TODAY. WHY CAN’T YOU BE LIKE THIS ALL THE TIME?”

Don’t take the victory away from them. Praise good behavior without turning it into a backhanded compliment.

“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands,” wrote Anne Frank. We do the best we can. We work hard to send our children along the correct roads in life, and eventually to forge their own. We cannot control the destination. We can only hope to fill them with wisdom, love, and respect to take along the way.

veekid:
What should we do with this plz?

lol, just advice and op tried to show guys example of childishness.

Hmmmm

Funny enough everything in nigeria is a news to Nairaland Fp.

GMbuharii:
k and oh,i forgot. Happy independence day,i heard there was some kinda fanfare in my home state,Edo..you know we just had da guber electns. How was it in your state?

wow, welcome my brother from another mother.

GMbuharii:
yea yea,eve,pretty cool..so what went down oct 1,was indoor all thru watchn 007 classics...and eva,am just wondering,where u from?

indoor also but with my system, checking information.

GMbuharii:
..and again,u dont post much on here,something tells me u busy on some other blogs...ikeji,ig,fb,..or maybe just no time or da daily 925? So which is it?

a little busy, but I prefer viewing and reading than comments or quote.

gbogboti:
Awolowo and Azikiwe were greedy. They thought they had what it takes cos of some small BSCs or BAs they had then. Ahmadu Bello kicked against the independence in 1958 that his people were not ready. He got to Lagos and got stoned that he was a setback to Nigeria. If only we got it in 1980 even. Mtscheeeew

And Nigerians are still suffering for it because we still have no plans,great ideas,goals and vision, we are still surrounded by greed,pride,hatred, religious issues,failure and many more, even till now we are not mature for it, and some greedy people still want the country to be divided.

junpyo:
I still think we asked for independence too quickly

truly, Nigerians were very immature then and have no ideas, no goal or vision, the only thing nigerian have then was pride, selfishness and greed

I love the second picture more, I like the way Andre hold his lip, make him look lovely and cute, happy independent leaders of tomorrow and all the children in the world, love you all.

deltateam:
Let your brother follow his passion. Parents please stop forcing courses on your children. Its bad.

You can advice but never force a course.

thanks so much for your advice.

GMbuharii:
yea,of cos..really been awhile i attended church,cos of the kind of work i do,tho...i certainly would and i know alotta folks would wanna see a full pic of u,eve....they call you eva as well?

funny you, Evelyn, Eve, Eva, I will answer you

sathel:
hello Good morning, my candid advise for your brother is that he should study the course his heart follows(Economics). Most people know that an economist can work anywhere And besides accounting is already becoming too common with the Ican and Acca stuff.... Let him do ican(from ATS level to final)then he would be having ttwo different degree...he then becomes a hotter cake than having two degree of the same ethics.....


Sathel(seyi)
Economics(Bsc)
Unilag

thanks so much, I appreciate your advice, all the very best to you too.

brooklynluv:
your brother should be left alone to make his choice,the time has passed when parents decides for children..our parents are there to guide us not to decide for us

good morning, thanks so much.

GMbuharii:
yea,would luv 2b around,gotta feel cool 1st time to see a nairalander....but dont tell me you are in abuja now!

Lagos, Apostle Bangbola Alexander is the founder of zion the city of the Lord ministries,I can send you the church address if you want to honour the invitation

Rozaystunna:
lol imagine For that shiit my niece got more ass than yo ugly ass gtfoh

loooooool

GMbuharii:
yea yea,just that some guys luv ladies with thick natural hair,you know,natural hair one can stroke along as well..like urs hehe..do have a great day,church 2mao,rccg,4square,cele,Dlife...?

lol, nice one, zion the city of the Lord ministry, inviting you

GMbuharii:
says who? Just curious o,well sha,ah kno some babes luv scanty hair....hehe
nø go put attashi cos gmbuhar o,2day is saturday,savvy?

really don't understand short word, complete word can be better to express yourself. Thanks dear

Rozaystunna:
oya shut up
BTW I go buy you meat pie for that asss tho damn

selling your life can't afford it don't worry I will buy you meat pie and even more meat pie

GMbuharii:
ya own hair sef

Buh sha baby,nice those soccer balls are.....hehe

what happen to my hair? Does it make me a poor person to you

Malayy:
morning. you got a bright future behind you.

funny you and thanks

Malayy:
you look like a poor girl.. why is your hair not done? na poverty cause am.. you are waiting for a guy to give u some cash..

guy take it easy, she did her hair and that doesn't make her poor or a liability to any man, good morning.

sben2308:
Because it can make him an independent worker,loke a friend of my he works with 5 different firms including his employer own .Aldo it's an individual thing.Just feel it's better

thanks so much

sben2308:
My humble opinion let him go for ACCA

please why do you think accounting is better, because I need to explain to him, and I don't want to hurt or disappoint him.

Cutehector:
because almost every new start up company needs an accountant!! Schools, SMEs, companies, etc.



And he should start reading for ican from an early time say 200 or 300 level

okay thanks, do he need to do the both same time.

evelynluv:
thanks so much

please why do you think accounting is better, because I need to explain to him, and I don't want to hurt or disappoint him.

Cutehector:
He should study Accounting and go for ican!

please explain why you think accounting is okay than the economics, I need a strong reason please

4reala:
He should go for his heart desire, and wen he is thru, he wld write ICAN, both goes tru dsame process

thanks so much