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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: NSCDC Recruitment 2019: How To Apply For Nigeria Civil Defence Corps by evelynluv(f): 4:09pm On Sep 04, 2019 |
deeza4mum:thanks |
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: NSCDC Recruitment 2019: How To Apply For Nigeria Civil Defence Corps by evelynluv(f): 11:09am On Sep 04, 2019 |
Please I have some issue and I need assistant from anyone, I pick the wrong position but now I need to change before i will submit my application, but am unable to do the changes because the position category is not showing, just blank. Thanks. |
Family / Re: 25 Things NOT To Say To Your Kids by evelynluv(f): 2:35pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
Boboye4slim:thanks , |
Family / Re: 25 Things NOT To Say To Your Kids by evelynluv(f): 1:51pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
Boboye4slim:we see the article difficult to do because of our upbringing, many children suffer from it without sharing their pain with their parents because of fear, most children fear their parents than respect and love, it is not a difficult thing to do but to practice some of it in our daily life, you don't need to have a child first before outing on it, but start with children around you. 1 Like |
Family / 25 Things NOT To Say To Your Kids by evelynluv(f): 1:08pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
25 Things NOT To Say To Your Kids OCTOBER 13, 2016 BY ROBYN REISCH “Perhaps it takes courage to raise children,” wrote John Steinbeck in East of Eden. Boy, does it ever! We need courage to love, to lead, and to nurture. Sometimes we need courage just to make it through the day. “Intelligence is sexy” t-shirt?! MOST DIFFICULT OF ALL IS FINDING THE COURAGE TO ADMIT WHEN WE ARE WRONG. OFTEN, WE SAY THINGS OUT OF HABIT, FRUSTRATION, OR EVEN GOOD INTENTIONS THAT JUST AREN’T HELPFUL. WE CAN’T TAKE OUR WORDS BACK – BUT WE CAN STOP SAYING THEM NOW. Here are 25 things that your child does not need to hear from you: “DON’T BE SAD/MAD/UPSET.” We can’t help the way we feel. Teach your child do work through their emotions rather than denying them. “YOU’RE A MUCH BETTER READER THAN KEVIN!” Don’t encourage your child to compare themselves to their friends. Help them focus on their own growth. They don’t need to validate themselves at the expense of others. “YOU’RE MY PERFECT ANGEL!” This makes your child believe that you expect perfection from them. According to an Ohio State University study, this can lower your child’s self-esteem and promote a fear of failure. Instead, love them in their imperfection. “WHY CAN’T YOU BE MORE LIKE CLAIRE?” Your child is unique, wonderful, and special. Encourage them to be the best version of themselves – not a second-rate copy of somebody else. “I CAN’T SAY NO TO YOU, SWEETHEART!” Children need boundaries to feel safe and develop good behavioral skills. Don’t be afraid to discipline your child. Research Shows that Problem Children make Better Adults “I KNOW YOU DIDN’T MEAN TO KICK YOUR BROTHER.” Um, yes they did. Find out why. “I TOLD YOU SO.” How do you like to hear this as an adult? If you have the opportunity to say this phrase, there’s a good chance your child has already learned from their mistake. “YOU OUGHT TO BE ASHAMED OF YOURSELF!” According to a University of Michigan study, children who are shamed become defiant and aggressive. “THIS IS HOW WE’VE DISCIPLINED CHILDREN IN THIS FAMILY FOR GENERATIONS. I TURNED OUT JUST FINE.” The idea that something has always been done a certain way is NOT a good reason to keep doing it. “AS LONG AS YOU LIVE HERE, YOU WILL LIVE BY MY RULES.” Your child might take you up on this threat and run away. If they stay, they will feel trapped and unwelcome in their own home. Unplug Your Kids: Why Tech-Free Time Is So Important For Adolescents “DON’T MAKE ME CANCEL CHRISTMAS/TURN THIS CAR AROUND/SEND YOU TO MILITARY SCHOOL!” When you make threats you cannot or will not enforce, you undermine your own credibility. “BECAUSE I SAID SO!” If your child asks about a rule, take the time to explain it to them. Would you follow a rule you didn’t agree with or understand? “YOU’RE MAKING ME ANGRY/SAD/FRUSTRATED.” Your child is not responsible for your emotions. This phrase teaches them to shift responsibility for their emotional state on to others, rather than working through negative feelings on their own. “UGH, WHAT DO YOU NEED NOW?” Teach your children that their needs are important. This will help them become adults who take care of themselves. “YOU’RE ACTING LIKE A BABY.” Is your child anxious? Nervous? Overwhelmed? Scared? Frustrated? Don’t shame them. Help them to work through their feelings. “BIG KIDS AREN’T AFRAID TO DO THAT.” Don’t invalidate your child’s fears. Instead, be an ally in conquering them. “HURRY UP!” This phrase is very common, but ineffective. It doesn’t make children move faster. It only stresses them out. “YOU’RE FINE.” It’s up to your child to decide if they feel okay or not. “CALM DOWN. IT’S NOT A BIG DEAL.” It might not be a big deal to you – but it is to your child. If you want them to share the big stuff with you when they’re older, you need to listen to the little stuff now. To them, it’s all important. “STOP CRYING.” Children need to express their feelings. Don’t teach them to bottle up their emotions. “EAT YOUR VEGETABLES . IT’S HEALTHY!” According to researchers at the University of Chicago, this reinforces the idea that healthy foods don’t taste good. Don’t make a chore of eating nutritious meals. Make vegetables tasty and fun instead. “I CAN’T EAT THAT. I NEED TO LOSE WEIGHT.” We all have issues with our body image – but we don’t need to share them with our children. Set an example of self-acceptance instead. “TOO MUCH ICE CREAM WILL MAKE YOU FAT.” Keep the emphasis on health and happiness, rather than looks. Your children are beautiful exactly as they are. New Research Confirms You Shouldn’t Spank Your Kids “IT WAS GREAT THAT YOU SCORED A GOAL TODAY. MAYBE NEXT TIME YOU’LL SCORE TWO!” Celebrate success. Don’t minimize it by expecting more. “YOU WERE SO NICE TODAY. WHY CAN’T YOU BE LIKE THIS ALL THE TIME?” Don’t take the victory away from them. Praise good behavior without turning it into a backhanded compliment. “Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person’s character lies in their own hands,” wrote Anne Frank. We do the best we can. We work hard to send our children along the correct roads in life, and eventually to forge their own. We cannot control the destination. We can only hope to fill them with wisdom, love, and respect to take along the way. |
Romance / Re: Angry Guy Blasts Lady For Snubbing His Chats (screenshot) by evelynluv(f): 12:14pm On Oct 13, 2016 |
veekid:lol, just advice and op tried to show guys example of childishness. |
Phones / Re: Etisalat Reviews Data Bundle- Increases Price Of Data by evelynluv(f): 5:30pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Hmmmm |
Celebrities / Re: AY Gives A Cheque Of N1m To Yomi Casual, His Brother (Photos) by evelynluv(f): 5:26pm On Oct 10, 2016 |
Funny enough everything in nigeria is a news to Nairaland Fp. |
Romance / Re: Girl Says Jesus Fed 5000 People And Didn't Ask Anyone To Off Pant, Guy Replies by evelynluv(f): 12:08am On Oct 03, 2016 |
GMbuharii:wow, welcome my brother from another mother. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Girl Says Jesus Fed 5000 People And Didn't Ask Anyone To Off Pant, Guy Replies by evelynluv(f): 9:41pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
GMbuharii:indoor also but with my system, checking information. |
Romance / Re: Girl Says Jesus Fed 5000 People And Didn't Ask Anyone To Off Pant, Guy Replies by evelynluv(f): 9:39pm On Oct 02, 2016 |
GMbuharii:a little busy, but I prefer viewing and reading than comments or quote. |
Politics / Re: #nigeria@56: Amazing Post Independence Pictures From 1960 (photos) by evelynluv(f): 8:19am On Oct 02, 2016 |
gbogboti:And Nigerians are still suffering for it because we still have no plans,great ideas,goals and vision, we are still surrounded by greed,pride,hatred, religious issues,failure and many more, even till now we are not mature for it, and some greedy people still want the country to be divided. |
Politics / Re: #nigeria@56: Amazing Post Independence Pictures From 1960 (photos) by evelynluv(f): 10:28pm On Oct 01, 2016 |
junpyo:truly, Nigerians were very immature then and have no ideas, no goal or vision, the only thing nigerian have then was pride, selfishness and greed |
Celebrities / Re: P-square's Kids In Traditional Outfits For Independence Day Celebration (Photos) by evelynluv(f): 4:14pm On Sep 30, 2016 |
I love the second picture more, I like the way Andre hold his lip, make him look lovely and cute, happy independent leaders of tomorrow and all the children in the world, love you all. 1 Like |
Education / Re: Help! Help!! Help!!! by evelynluv(f): 9:23pm On Sep 28, 2016 |
deltateam:thanks so much for your advice. |
Romance / Re: Girl Says Jesus Fed 5000 People And Didn't Ask Anyone To Off Pant, Guy Replies by evelynluv(f): 5:10pm On Sep 28, 2016 |
GMbuharii:funny you, Evelyn, Eve, Eva, I will answer you |
Education / Re: Help! Help!! Help!!! by evelynluv(f): 4:54pm On Sep 28, 2016 |
sathel:thanks so much, I appreciate your advice, all the very best to you too. |
Education / Re: Help! Help!! Help!!! by evelynluv(f): 8:09am On Sep 27, 2016 |
brooklynluv:good morning, thanks so much. |
Romance / Re: Girl Says Jesus Fed 5000 People And Didn't Ask Anyone To Off Pant, Guy Replies by evelynluv(f): 12:21am On Sep 25, 2016 |
GMbuharii:Lagos, Apostle Bangbola Alexander is the founder of zion the city of the Lord ministries,I can send you the church address if you want to honour the invitation |
Romance / Re: Girl Says Jesus Fed 5000 People And Didn't Ask Anyone To Off Pant, Guy Replies by evelynluv(f): 8:10pm On Sep 24, 2016 |
Rozaystunna:loooooool |
Romance / Re: Girl Says Jesus Fed 5000 People And Didn't Ask Anyone To Off Pant, Guy Replies by evelynluv(f): 5:52pm On Sep 24, 2016 |
GMbuharii:lol, nice one, zion the city of the Lord ministry, inviting you |
Romance / Re: Girl Says Jesus Fed 5000 People And Didn't Ask Anyone To Off Pant, Guy Replies by evelynluv(f): 2:59pm On Sep 24, 2016 |
GMbuharii:really don't understand short word, complete word can be better to express yourself. Thanks dear |
Romance / Re: Girl Says Jesus Fed 5000 People And Didn't Ask Anyone To Off Pant, Guy Replies by evelynluv(f): 2:55pm On Sep 24, 2016 |
Rozaystunna:selling your life can't afford it don't worry I will buy you meat pie and even more meat pie |
Romance / Re: Girl Says Jesus Fed 5000 People And Didn't Ask Anyone To Off Pant, Guy Replies by evelynluv(f): 11:00am On Sep 24, 2016 |
GMbuharii:what happen to my hair? Does it make me a poor person to you |
Romance / Re: Girl Says Jesus Fed 5000 People And Didn't Ask Anyone To Off Pant, Guy Replies by evelynluv(f): 10:59am On Sep 24, 2016 |
Malayy:funny you and thanks 1 Like |
Romance / Re: Girl Says Jesus Fed 5000 People And Didn't Ask Anyone To Off Pant, Guy Replies by evelynluv(f): 10:30am On Sep 24, 2016 |
Malayy:guy take it easy, she did her hair and that doesn't make her poor or a liability to any man, good morning. |
Education / Re: Help! Help!! Help!!! by evelynluv(f): 10:26am On Sep 22, 2016 |
sben2308:thanks so much |
Education / Re: Help! Help!! Help!!! by evelynluv(f): 6:27am On Sep 22, 2016 |
sben2308:please why do you think accounting is better, because I need to explain to him, and I don't want to hurt or disappoint him. |
Education / Re: Help! Help!! Help!!! by evelynluv(f): 6:22am On Sep 22, 2016 |
Cutehector:okay thanks, do he need to do the both same time. |
Education / Re: Help! Help!! Help!!! by evelynluv(f): 6:19am On Sep 22, 2016 |
evelynluv:please why do you think accounting is better, because I need to explain to him, and I don't want to hurt or disappoint him. |
Education / Re: Help! Help!! Help!!! by evelynluv(f): 6:15am On Sep 22, 2016 |
Cutehector:please explain why you think accounting is okay than the economics, I need a strong reason please |
Education / Re: Help! Help!! Help!!! by evelynluv(f): 10:08pm On Sep 21, 2016 |
4reala:thanks so much |
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