Family › Re: Choosing Marital Roles During Courstship And After Marriage by Evina(f): 4:37pm On May 13, 2016 |
Eddygourdo: if I had no success cases I won't say what I don't know dear. Ur simple definition is too small and narrow to capture every part of people which become deciding factors in relationship. Its as mute as do not tell lies. Yet we have situations where a lie to s child is part of proper upbringing.
You can't define that taking up domestic chores is a charateristic of a loving man. Love is a sphere who shape differes deppending on where you are standing to define it. Many have their own definitions on love and family values. My experience has taught me never to use lump arguements in analysing any marital scenario.
If that's what you do, then I doubt you can have any long lasting solution to couples because u simply give them a lumped arguement without considering peculairities.
Read what I wrote very well and understaand the angle am coming from. Its part of a model that has worked over and over again You seem not to understand your own post hence you misrepresentation of my response. You clearly identified domestic shores as a woman's role and indicated that a man taking on such role is unideal. That's why I used that as a reference. But then, if you claim to have success stories with such principles, then... |
Family › Re: Best Way To Show Your Wife You Are Not Happy With Her by Evina(f): 4:00pm On May 13, 2016 |
NLban:
You must be a very lucky woman to have such a husband. Most women take men like your husband for granted. They see men with such virtues as week men. Some secretly mock them with their friends. I don't think I can live this kind of life, because women only respect men who are harsh on them. When you are too soft on women, they never take you serious. They see you as their rag.
Your post is full of assumptions. How did you arrive at the conclusion that MOST women would take such men for granted? Yet you contradict yourself by pointing how lucky I am. Meaning you agree a woman would be lucky to have a man with such virtues. And, it takes a STRONG man to display emotional maturity. Having a mastery of your emotions don't make you weak or "soft". |
Family › Re: Do I Go After My Career Or Have Another Child by Evina(f): 3:52pm On May 13, 2016 |
Beebee24
Do you mind telling is the entire story? Why aren't you guys married or planning to anytime soon? |
Family › Re: Choosing Marital Roles During Courstship And After Marriage by Evina(f): 3:25pm On May 13, 2016 |
Eddygourdo, are you a marriage counselor as your opening sentence conotes?
Do you have any success case(s)? I doubt though, going by your concept of marriage!
The ONLY guiding principles for a successful marriage is contained in a clear instruction to the man and the woman. "Husband love your wife", " wife, submit to your Husband ".
When a man loves his wife, he will take up domestic shores and not feel he is performing the role of a wider and when a wife submits to her OWN husband, she will meet family needs with money she earns without feeling she is bread winner.
All these defining of roles based on the concept you listed will only lead to wahala in the long run. |
Family › Re: Best Way To Show Your Wife You Are Not Happy With Her by Evina(f): 3:10pm On May 13, 2016 |
KAYNINI: actually a huge lesson for me
i need a degree in that department  God will help you. |
Family › Re: Best Way To Show Your Wife You Are Not Happy With Her by Evina(f): 3:07pm On May 13, 2016 |
olayinkaj2: . You husband is a nice man. Treat him well..... He is indeed.  By God's Grace I will treat him good. Thanks.  |
Family › Re: Best Way To Show Your Wife You Are Not Happy With Her by Evina(f): 2:57pm On May 13, 2016 |
repogirl: I totally relate to this.
Thank you.
Two wrongs can never ever make a right.  |
Family › Re: Best Way To Show Your Wife You Are Not Happy With Her by Evina(f): 1:18pm On May 13, 2016 |
When my husband is angry with me, he still eats food I cook, he still assists me with domestic shores. Replies when I speak to him but doesn't necessarily initiate conversation.
When I see his acts of kindness towards me inspite of being angry with me, I feel so sorry and sad and angry at myself for ever offending such a wonderful man. |
Food › Re: The N600 Fresh Tomatoes I Bought Today At The Market.. Pic by Evina(f): 11:42am On May 12, 2016 |
doublewisdom: No wonder everybody for my area dey cook pepper soup these days. Hahahaha.  |
Family › Re: Nairalanders Were You Bullied At School?, How To Deal With Bully Problem by Evina(f): 7:22pm On May 11, 2016 |
Mutaino7: The man nah uhrobo man I can't recall, but my dad is. |
Family › Re: Nairalanders Were You Bullied At School?, How To Deal With Bully Problem by Evina(f): 7:21pm On May 11, 2016 |
iAmCharis: Hahahahahaha Your dad na commando oo    |
Family › Re: Nairalanders Were You Bullied At School?, How To Deal With Bully Problem by Evina(f): 1:11pm On May 11, 2016 |
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Family › Re: Divorce Is Not The Answer. by Evina(f): 12:32pm On May 11, 2016 |
Na wetin Bunbit123 dey yarn sef?  I beg, preach this your message to late Mrs. Shonda.. That woman wey get two pikins, wey her husband kpai las week or so! |
Family › Re: Nairalanders Were You Bullied At School?, How To Deal With Bully Problem by Evina(f): 12:29pm On May 11, 2016 |
To topic, I was bullied. In primary school, this girl constantly bullied me to be her exam partner, then in class five, I just became bold, ignored her and called her bluff, changed seats. She kept begging but no going back!
Also, there was this boy that dared to spank me. He must have forgotten that we live not too far apart. I got home crying. My dad took me to their house, only stopping briefly to cut a branch off a tree. My dad exploded into the compound and flogged the boys dad seriously!
After that incident, I tormented the boy a few times to be sure he got the message.
As for me, I will deal with the parent of whoever dares to bully my child because a child bully is a representation of the home he is raised in! |
Family › Re: Nairalanders Were You Bullied At School?, How To Deal With Bully Problem by Evina(f): 12:14pm On May 11, 2016 |
Femmefetale  gurl you just contributed to making my day. Hahahaha. I didn't even read all of your write up! Hahahaha haha. Very good! |
Family › Re: My Bio Mother’s (pastor Mrs Idowu Lawanson)message To Me This Morning And by Evina(f): 12:00pm On May 11, 2016 |
@ Lawani: this is very abnormal! Can a child hate his OWN mother?  a woman that birth and raised him? I really do suspect some form of Influence.  |
Family › Re: About House Helps: Work Schedules, Limits/Chores;Please Share Your Experiences by Evina(f): 1:36am On May 10, 2016 |
armyofone: Jesus!! Daily work for 30 days ?  If you are working and have a side business that makes it impossible for you to do something at home, then get gadgets to simplify your house work and make it easier for your help now. Imagine! When I see these so called mothers subject another person's child to such treatment I begin to wonder if they are really mothers! Is it in the place of your help to do your child's homework? And what time was slotted for breakfast? Disgusting! |
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Romance › Re: Infidelity {DNA Wahala} by Evina(f): 10:47pm On May 08, 2016 |
Respect55: Why would a faithful wife panic wen her husband demands for the paternity test of their children Is this a rhetoric question? |
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Family › Re: I Seriously Need Advice From You Guys by Evina(f): 10:30pm On May 08, 2016 |
busterr: how I'm I not helping him grow? If he were your son, how would you handle it? |
Romance › Re: When He Says "Its Over" by Evina(f): 1:43pm On May 07, 2016 |
DeeTus: OP, your post is very biased. Oh you haven't met Toks2008 before now?  |
Romance › Re: Handsome Fola Mudasiru Looking For A Girlfriend (photos) by Evina(f): 6:47am On May 07, 2016 |
iAmCharis: Wow!! Great news! congratulations!!! May he grow to become one of the greatest in his days.
No wonder you've been MIA  Amen. Thanks.  |
Romance › Re: Handsome Fola Mudasiru Looking For A Girlfriend (photos) by Evina(f): 1:53pm On May 06, 2016 |
iAmCharis: Lol you're forgiven. Go and sin no more. 
I trust you've been fine. How is oga? I've been great my dear. Oga is blessed and we have an adorable son now. Almost 2months old.  |
Romance › Re: Handsome Fola Mudasiru Looking For A Girlfriend (photos) by Evina(f): 1:18pm On May 06, 2016 |
iAmCharis: Long longer longest time! 
Beg me small before I forgive you.  LOL. I beg I begged I begged I begbeg |
Celebrities › Re: Drug Test: Teebillz Pathology Report From Clina Lancet Laboratories by Evina(f): 11:47am On May 06, 2016 |
I hope this pathology report wasn't prepared by a pathological liar.  |
Romance › Re: Handsome Fola Mudasiru Looking For A Girlfriend (photos) by Evina(f): 11:45am On May 06, 2016 |
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Romance › Re: Handsome Fola Mudasiru Looking For A Girlfriend (photos) by Evina(f): 11:01pm On May 05, 2016 |
Like seriously! See how that girl just fall hand, display her dundyness. "You go to ASU"? Is that how the letter S is written? ASU ko OSU ni.  |
Romance › Re: I Got Her Pregnant 6 Years Ago To Destroy Her Career But I Want My Child Now by Evina(f): 6:49pm On May 05, 2016 |
The thief ONLY comes to steal, kill n destroy!
May God frustrate the plans of the crafty towards that lady and her children! Amen. |
Crime › Re: For Spending 40 Years In Jail Wrongly, US Court Awards African Man $1 Million by Evina(f): 6:26pm On May 05, 2016 |
sinaj: Will the $1m buy back the wasted time
40yrs is way too much nd he was just 13yrs 
It's a pity He saw 20 not 13! They couldn't have sent an adolescent to jail. The witness who gave the false testimony is the 13 year old. |
Crime › Re: For Spending 40 Years In Jail Wrongly, US Court Awards African Man $1 Million by Evina(f): 6:24pm On May 05, 2016 |
They took 40 years of his life and paid him 1mill dolls... Well, how old was Abraham again when he started living? |
Family › Re: Am I Wrong Fighting My Husband's Younger Brother's Side Chick? by Evina(f): 9:07pm On May 03, 2016 |
Yomieluv: she has no right to beat the lady. is she the lady's boss? Hahahaha. Ehen! So a boss has the right to beat his subordinates?  Amri suntini o! |